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Thank You Stranger

Ray’s Daily

January 18, 2021

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“Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person’s life.”

Jackie Chan

It is hard for some of us as we isolate ourselves to avoid infection. I know I miss getting out these days. Fortunately I live in a senior residence community loaded with friendly residents and a caring staff.

My housekeeper visits weekly to change linens, clean and most of all to brighten my day. I have many encounters with food servers and other members of our residence staff members and I am greatful for what they so often do to help me enjoy my day, I just wish I knew rhem all better.

Here is a piece that mentions many of the little things that mean so much, not just as a recipient but also as a reminder that I need to be that stranger as well.

Dear Stranger, I’m Glad We Met.

You make my coffee every morning and draw a smiley face on my cup.

You hold the door open for me and say, “After you.”

I bet your heart is as beautiful as your smile.

You let me cut in front of you at the grocery store.

I drop a bag of candy and you pick it up.

You speak to me through a mask, engaging in muffled conversation.

You wave at me from your window like Queen Elizabeth.

You have dinner with me as we sit alone at a bar.

You grab my hand as the plane lands.

You hug me briefly.

You give me a high five.

You sign for me to help you.

You use an iPad to say hello.

You give me a rock that says Love on it.

I sit across from you on a bus in NYC.

You scoot over so I can sit down.

I sit in your office.

I teach you online.

We wish each other good luck before an exam.

I speak to you on the phone.

You sit on the floor next to me in Barnes and Noble, scanning the psychology section.

I walk next to you with our signs.

Your words resonate with me.

I think I’ve seen you before.

Yes, I made you a sandwich once.

We dance Forrô.

I can hear your heart.

It’s just as beautiful as your smile.

I keep walking.

I think I’m alone.

And then I see you again.

I may never learn your name, but please know I’m glad we met.

Rebecca Donaldson

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“Do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.”

Harold S. Kushner

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Watching her mother as she tried on her new fur coat, young Lora said unhappily, “Mom, do you realize some poor dumb beast suffered so you could have that?”

The woman shot her an angry look, “Lora, how dare you talk about your father like that!”

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I was carpooling with my friend Craig, he noticed that the “Check oil” light was on. He pulled into the gas station, got out of the car, opened the hood, checked the engine oil, closed the hood, then got back into the car. “Can we make a quick stop?” He asked.

“Sure,” I replied, “what did you need to do?”

“I need to stop by the auto parts place to get a longer dipstick?”

“What do you need a longer one for?” I enquired.

“Because the one I got isn’t long enough to reach the oil!”

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“Everybody keeps saying that women are smarter than men, but did you ever see a man wearing a shirt that buttons down the back?”

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A woman meant to call a record store, but dialed the wrong number and got a private home instead. “Do you have ‘Eyes of Blue’ and ‘A Love Supreme?'” she asked. 

“Well, no,” answered the puzzled homeowner. “But I have a wife and eleven children.” 

“Is that a record?” she inquired, puzzled in her turn. 

“I don’t think so,” replied the man, “but it’s as close as I want to get.” 

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A diplomat is a person who can tell you to go to hell in such a way that you actually look forward to the trip.

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A guy is at the pearly gates, waiting to be admitted, while St. Peter is leafing through the big book to see if the guy is worthy of entering. Saint Peter goes through the book several times, furrows his brow, and says to the guy, “You know, I can’t see that you did anything really good in your life, but, you never did anything bad either. Tell you what, if you can tell me of one REALLY good deed that you did in your life, you’re in.”

The guy thinks for a moment and says, “Well, there was the time when I was driving down the highway and I saw a group of biker guys gathered around this poor girl. I slowed down my car to see what was going on, and sure enough, there were about 20 of ’em tormenting this girl.” “Infuriated, I got out my car, grabbed a tire iron out of my trunk, and walked straight up to the leader of the gang, a huge guy with a studded leather jacket and a chain running from his nose to his ear. As I walked up to the leader, the gang formed a circle around me. So, I ripped the leader’s chain off his face and smashed him over the head with the tire iron. Then I turned around and yelled to the rest of them, ‘Leave this poor, innocent girl alone! You’re all a bunch of sick, deranged animals! Go home before I teach you all a lesson in pain!'”

St. Peter, impressed, says, “Really? When did this happen?”

“Oh, about two minutes ago.”

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My childhood was rough. Once for my birthday my old man gave me a bat. The first day I played with it, it flew away.

Rodney Dangerfield

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Cecil and Morris are walking to services and Cecil asks, “I wonder whether it would be all right to smoke while praying?” 

“Why don’t you ask the rabbi?” says Morris. 

Cecil sees Rabbi Golden and asks, “Rabbi, is it permissible for me to smoke while I pray?” 

“No, you may not. That’s utter disrespect to our religion and traditions!” quickly answers the rabbi. 

Cecil goes back to his friend and tells him what the good Rabbi told him. 

“I’m not surprised. You asked the wrong question. Let me try.” 

Morris goes over to the rabbi and asks, “Rabbi, will it be ok if I pray while I smoke?” 

To which Rabbi Golden eagerly replies, “By all means, my good man. By all means.” 

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“Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.”

Barbara De Angelis

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

What do you collect?

Ray’s Daily

January 15, 2021

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“Enjoy life. This is not a dress rehearsal.”

I have a full day today so here is favorite Daily from the past

Ray’s Daily first published on January 15, 2007

It seems to me that all of us are collectors and just like other collectors we get to decide what we will secure, save, and value, we also get to choose what we will reject. Today I had coffee with a friend that shared with me that she just collected the positive attributes of the people she meets and has no interest in remembering their failings. I think as we live our lives we can collect remembrances of good times or bad. A little of both is probably good, but I’ll tell you for me storing fond memories that I can recall every once in awhile is one of my life’s great pleasures. I honestly believe that that our memories lay the foundation each day yet to be lived. Look for and collect the good memories and you will find more. Look for and collect the bad and you will continue to find more of the same.Here are some excerpts from an article I read recently that I thought you might like.

While there’s everything to be said for living a life of integrity and goodness, balance and moderation, service and love — I want to talk about life as CELEBRATION. As we carry out the duties of the day, we can have fun with sight, sound, smell, taste and touch. There’s a whole array of possibilities for living with pleasurable appreciation. Don’t let those opportunities slip by. Regret, I’m here to tell you, is one mangy, ill-tempered dog that’s best kept outdoors.

How many of us are able to live fully, enriching our days with satisfying experiences, accumulating warm memories that will keep through the winter of our lives? We all can pull from our pasts those special events once embraced and wonderfully absorbed, then permanently recorded for future delightful replay. 

Anyone can be miserable — there’s no talent in that. Anyone can live a dull and unimaginative life. Whether proactively or by opportunity, our task — should we choose to accept it — is to live with gusto. As we proceed through life, let us do so with playful deliberation, with a twinkle in our eyes and a bounce in our steps. We need to relish the moments we’ve been given. Are we up to the challenge?

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“Who is the happiest of men?

He who values the merits of others, and in their pleasure takes joy, even as though t’were his own.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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A husband, the owner of a new car, was somewhat reluctant to allow his wife to drive his prize possession even to the grocery store which was a few blocks from the house. After she insisted, he finally relented, cautioning her as she departed, “Remember, if you have an accident, the newspaper will print your age.”

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Why must the phrase, “It is none of my business,” always be followed by the word “but”?

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An evangelist had a great revival camp going. One night he was up in front of a large audience, speaking on imperfection. He asked his audience towards the end, “Has anyone ever known anyone who has come CLOSE to the perfection of our lord, Jesus Christ?” Nobody, of course raised their hand. So he issued the question again. “Anybody! Has ANYONE ever known that kind of perfection?”

Finally a guy in the back raised his hand, so of course he was asked to stand up. “Tell us. Tell us who you knew who was so close to perfection.”

The man responded, “My wife’s first husband.”

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People with humility don’t think less of themselves, they just think of themselves less.

Ken Blanchard

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It is forty below zero one winter night in Alaska. A guy is drinking at his local saloon and the bartender says to him, “You owe me quite a bit on your tab.”

“Sorry,” says the guy, “I’m flat broke this week.”

“That’s okay,” says the bartender. “I’ll just write your name and the amount you owe me right here on the wall.”

“But,” says the guy, “I don’t want any of my friends to see that.”

“They won’t,” says the bartender. “I’ll just hang your parka over it until it’s paid.”

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Life is short and it’s up to you to make it sweet.

Sarah Louise Delany

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On my first day of college, I took a front row seat in my literature course.

The professor told us we would be responsible for reading five books, and that he would provide us with a list of authors from which we could choose. He ambled over to the lectern, took out his class book, and began, “Baker, Black, Brooks, Carter, Cook…”

I was working feverishly to get down all the names, when I felt a tap on my shoulder.

The student behind me whispered, “He’s just taking attendance!”

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Do you ever notice that every time you find an answer, the question changes?

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Tech support: “Okay Bob, let’s press the control and escape keys at the same time. That brings up a task list in the middle of the screen. Now type the letter “P” to bring up the Program Manager.”

Customer:  I don’t have a P.

Tech support:  On your keyboard, Bob.

Customer:  What do you mean?

Tech support:  “P”…..on your keyboard, Bob.

Customer:  I’M NOT GOING TO DO THAT!

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Everyone thinks I’m psychotic, except for my friends deep inside the earth.”

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It doesn’t hurt to take a hard look at yourself from time to time, and this should help get you started.

During a visit to the mental asylum, a visitor asked the director what the criterion was which defined whether or not a patient should be institutionalized.

“Well,” said the director, “We fill up a bathtub, then we offer a teaspoon, a teacup and a bucket to the patient and ask him or her to empty the bathtub.”

“Oh, I understand,” said the visitor. “A normal person would use the bucket because it’s bigger than the spoon or the teacup.”

“No” said the director, “A normal person would pull the plug … Do you want a room with or without a view?”

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All men make mistakes, but married men find out about them sooner.

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The pastor was talking to a group of young children about being good and going to heaven. At the end of his talk, he asked, “Where do you want to go?”

“Heaven!” they all piped up.

“And what do you have to be to get there?”

“Dead!”

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“Let a joy keep you.

Reach out your hands and take it when it runs by.”

Carl Sandburg

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Thanks Again for the Memories

Ray’s Daily

January 14, 2021

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Appreciate what you have, where you are and who you are with in this moment

Tony Clark

I am afraid my wifes dementia seems to be worsening. I miss getting to see her as we are still restricting visitors due to the virus. I am having some hearing problems and my eyesight is limited due to my macular degeneration. But through it all I retain the warm memories provided me by so many over the years, I am finding that I need to stay focused to stay happy and productive.

I recently read the following and have found that what it reports works for me.

How to improve your vision

Did you know that the English word ‘thanks’ comes from the same root word as ‘think’?

And they not only share a similar background, they are related in another way. It seems the more we think, the more we thank. One woman illustrated the how thinking and thanking are related in a visit to the eye doctor.

She complained to her ophthalmologist that, as she grew older, her eyesight was getting worse. He examined her eyes and could not be encouraging about the future of her eyesight. But to his surprise, she did not seem to be upset.

She told him all she was grateful for . . . her deceased husband; her children and their families; her friends; the many years she has enjoyed upon this earth; her vast library of memories. She had done a great deal of thinking about these things.

‘My eyesight is getting worse,’ she summarized, ‘but I’m not going to fret over that.’

Her doctor later made this observation: ‘Her eyesight is poor, but her vision is better than most people.’ She clearly saw what many never see – all the good in her life. And she was content.

When we take time to think, and make time to thank, we see more clearly. It sounds like an good way to improve your vision.

Written by Steve Goodier

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Embrace your uniqueness. Be the best original self you can be

Amy Temple

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A man asks his guru, “Do you have anything that stops the aging process?”

The guru responds, “Sure. What kind of disease would you like?”

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A husband and wife were involved in a petty argument, both of them unwilling to admit they might be in error.

“I’ll admit I’m wrong,” the wife told her husband in a conciliatory attempt, “if you’ll admit I’m right.”

He agreed and, like a gentleman, insisted she go first.

“I’m wrong,” she said.

With a twinkle in his eye, he responded, “You’re right!”

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My home church welcomes all denominations, but really prefers tens and twenties.

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While trying to explain to our five-year-old daughter how much technology had changed, my husband pointed to our brand-new personal computer and told her that when he was in college, a computer with the same amount of power would have been the size of a house.

Wide-eyed, our daughter asked, “How big was the mouse?”

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A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.

Herm Albright

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A priest and a rabbi were traveling on a plane. After a while the priest turned to the rabbi and asked, “Is it still a requirement of your faith that you not eat pork?”

The rabbi responded, “Yes, that is still one of our beliefs.”

The priest then asked, “Have you ever eaten pork?”

To which the rabbi replied, “Yes, on one occasion I did succumb and tasted pork.”

The priest nodded in understanding and went back to his reading. After a while the rabbi asked the priest, “Father, is it still a requirement of your faith that you remain celibate?”

The priest replied, “Yes that is still very much a part of our faith.”

The rabbi then asked him, “Father, have you ever fallen to the temptation of the flesh?”

The priest replied, “Yes, rabbi, on one occasion I was weak and broke with my faith.”

The rabbi nodded understandingly for a moment and then said, “A lot better than pork, isn’t it?”

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“A mother becomes a true grandmother the day she stops noticing the terrible things her children do because she is so enchanted with the wonderful things her grandchildren do.”

Lois Wyse

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They tell me that:

Only a true Southerner knows the difference between a hissie fit and a conniption, and that you don’t “HAVE” them but “PITCH” them.

Only a true Southerner knows how many fish, collard greens, turnip greens, peas, beans, etc., make up “a mess.”

Only a true Southerner can show or point out to you the general direction of “yonder.”

Only a true Southerner knows exactly how long “directly” is – as in, “Going to town, be back directly.”

Even Southern babies know that “Gimme some sugar” is not a request for the white, granular sweet substance that sits in a pretty little bowl on the middle of the table.

All true Southerners know exactly when “by and by” is.  They might not use the term, but they know the concept well.

Only a true Southerner knows instinctively that the best gesture of solace for a neighbor who’s got trouble is a plate of hot fried chicken and a big bowl of cold potato salad.  (If the neighbor’s trouble is a real crisis, they also know to add a large banana puddin’!)

Only true Southerners grow up knowing the difference between “right near” and “a right far piece.” They also know that “just down the road” can be 1 mile or 20.

Only a true Southerner both knows and understands the difference between a redneck, a good ol’ boy, and po’ white trash.

No true Southerner would ever assume that the car with the flashing turn signal is actually going to make a turn.

A true Southerner knows that “fixin'” can be used as a noun, a verb, or an adverb.

Only true Southerners make friends while standing in lines.  We don’t do “queues,” we do “lines”; and when we’re “in line,” we talk to everybody!

Put 100 true Southerners in a room and half of them will discover they are related, even if only by marriage.

True Southerners never refer to one person as “y’all.”

True Southerners know grits come from corn and how to eat them.

Every true Southerner knows that eating tomatoes with eggs, bacon, grits, and coffee is perfectly wonderful; that redeye gravy is also a breakfast food and that fried green tomatoes are not.

When you hear someone say, “Well, I caught myself lookin’… ,” you know you are in the presence of a genuine Southerner!

Only true Southerners say “sweet tea” and “sweet milk.” Sweet tea indicates the need for sugar and lots of it – we do not like our tea unsweetened.  “Sweet milk” means you don’t want buttermilk.

Only true Southerners ask for “light bread.” That means you don’t want cornbread or biscuits.

And a true Southerner knows you don’t scream obscenities at little old ladies who drive 30 MPH on the freeway.  You just say, “Bless her heart” and go your own way!

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Basic human contact . the meeting of eyes, the exchanging of words . .is to the psyche what oxygen is to the brain. If you’re feeling abandoned by the world, interact with anyone you can

Martha Beck

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

How to be miserable

January 12, 2021

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The man who doesn’t relax and hoot a few hoots voluntarily, now and then, is in great danger of hooting hoots and standing on his head for the edification of the pathologist and trained nurse, a little later on.

Elbert Hubbard

I am off to an early Covid vaccination appointment

Ray’s Daily first published on January 12, 2006

The other day we talked about those people who seem to enjoy their unhappiness. While I don’t want to spend anytime with them I thought I should share this for those wish to be miserable, if you follow the suggestions you will be sure to increase your stress level. If it works for you let me know, I’ll be the guy asleep on the beach.

You’ll have no trouble staying stressed if you practice the following clinically proven methods:

  • Never Exercise – Exercise wastes a lot of time that could be spent worrying.
  • Eat Anything You Want – Hey, if cigarette smoke can’t cleanse your system, a balanced diet isn’t likely to.
  • Work hard at staying at least 25% over your recommended weight.
  • Take Plenty of Stimulants – The old standards of caffeine, nicotine, sugar, and cola will continue to do the job just fine.
  • Ignore the evidence suggesting that meditation, yoga, deep breathing, and/or mental imaging help to reduce stress. The “perpetual work” ethic is good for staying stressed.
  • Let the few friends who are willing to tolerate you know that you concern yourself with friendships only if you have time, and you never have time. If a few people persist in trying to be your friend, avoid them.
  • Anyone who criticizes any aspect of your work, family, dog, house, or car is mounting a personal attack. Don’t take time to listen; be offended, then return the attack!
  • Be Macho. Never ever ask for help, and if you want it done right, do it yourself!
  • Put work before everything else, and be sure to take work home evenings and weekends. Keep reminding yourself that vacations are for sissies.
  • Schedule in more activities every day than you can possibly get done and then worry about it all whenever you get a chance.
  • Procrastinate – Putting things off to the last second always produces a marvelous amount of stress.
  • Worry About Things You Can’t Control – Worry about the stock market, earthquakes, the approaching Ice Age, you know, all the big issues.
  • Set Impossibly High Standards – and either beat yourself up, or feel guilty, depressed, discouraged, and/or inadequate when you don’t meet them.
  • Throw Out Your Sense of Humor – Staying stressed is no laughing matter, and it shouldn’t be treated as one. So…that means stop emails like this and get to WORK!

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Men for the sake of getting a living forget to live.

Margaret Fuller

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Sarah and Abe are out celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary.

During the evening, Sarah broaches the subject of (their) life insurance, an issue she has been raising with him for at least 10 years, without success.

“Abe,” she says, with tears in her eyes, “I don’t think you love me.”

“Why do you think that?” he asks.

“Because if you really loved me, you would ensure that if anything happened to you, God forbid, I would be properly provided for.”

“Sarah,” he says angrily, “I need life insurance like I need a hole in the head.”

“I know your views,” says Sarah, “but I’ve spoken to two of my friends recently and they tell me that their husbands have life insurance — and they’re not as rich as you. If it’s good enough for them, why isn’t it good enough for you?”

“I’ll tell you why,” replies Abe. “It’s because they’ve been paying high premiums month after month, and what have they got so far in return? Nothing!”

“So what if their husbands have been paying for nothing?” says Sarah. “You’ve always told me I’m luckier than my friends — who knows, maybe this time I’ll strike it rich.”

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My luck is so bad that if I bought a cemetery, people would stop dying.

Ed Furgol

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“I was out of town on business,” he told the doctor,” and I wired my wife that I would be coming home on Tuesday, instead of Wednesday. When I got in I went straight home as fast as I could, and when I got there I found her in bed with my best friend!” 

The man then broke down into uncontrollable tears. 

The doctor considered the problem for a couple of moments then said, “Maybe she never got your telegram.” 

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Why are they called stairs inside but steps outside?

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I’ve been reading a new book, if any of you would like to borrow it just let me know. It’s called the “Useful Golf Book”.  It contains some really good articles such as:

* How to Line Up Your Fourth Putt

* How to hit a Nike from the rough when you hit a Titleist from the tee

* How to avoid the water when you lie 8 in the bunker

* How to get more distance off the shank

* Proper etiquette when you are playing with a complete jerk

* Crying and how to handle it

* How to rationalize a 7-hour round

* How to find that ball that everyone else saw go in the water

* Why your spouse no longer cares that you birdied the 4th

* How to let a foursome play through your twosome without getting embarrassed

* How to relax when you’re hitting five off the tee

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“Education is a state-controlled manufactory of echoes.”

Norman Douglas

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An engineer, a physicist, and a statistician were moose hunting in northern Canada. After a short walk through the marshes they spotted a HUGE moose 150 meters away. 

The engineer raised his gun and fired at the moose. A puff of dust showed that the bullet landed 3 meters to the right of the moose. 

The physicist, realizing that there was a substantial breeze that the engineer did not account for, aimed to the left of the moose and fired. The bullet landed 3 meters to the left of the moose. 

The statistician jumped up and down screaming, “We got him! We got him!” 

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What’s the opposite of opposite?

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When I was doing telemarketing, one of our associates had a man on the phone and was pitching the product. The man rebuffed him and said his wife wouldn’t let him buy it. The associate boldly asked “Who wears the pants in your family?”

The man replied “My wife said I do?”

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George Washington never told a lie, proving that he neither liked to golf or fish.

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In the admitting office of our hospital, some patients were filling out forms, others were being interviewed and still others were being escorted to their rooms.

An elderly woman hesitantly entered my cubicle.  She had completed her admitting forms and, upon my request, handed me her insurance cards. I typed the necessary information and then asked her the reason for her coming to the hospital.

“Just to visit a friend,” she said, “but this had taken so long, I’m not sure I have time now.”

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Let no one come to you without leaving better and happier.

Mother Teresa

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

I am glad

Ray’s Daily

January 11. 2021

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The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Last week was troubling for me. I don’t know if I will ever fully adjust to my wife and me living apart and I look forward to the time when the antivirus lock down will again allow me to visit her. The violent assault on the capital last week was brutal reminder of how the misled are turned into terrorists and we must do better. In addition to all that the cases of Covid19 in infections and deaths continue to reach new heights. I just do not understand how so many of our citizens flaunt the steps that can minimize the problem.

I will be talking to my wife daily on the phone and be grateful that she is being well taken care of, I will continue to follow the health guidelines, and tomorrow I will be getting vaccinated. I am hopeful that there will be calmer days between now and the inauguration of our new President. I know it will do me no good to fret over what I can’t control.

Here are some thoughts from Angel Chernoff to keep in mind:

5 Daily Reminders that Will Calm Your Mind in 2021

As you begin each day in 2021, be mindful and take a second to think about what a privilege it is to simply be alive and healthy. Breathe onto the bathroom mirror just to see how amazing your breath looks. When you start a day in a mindful state like this, you can focus more effectively, step into the day on the right foot and carry the momentum forward.

Easier said than done on most days, but practice always helps. So, practice reminding yourself…

1.         The problem is rarely the problem—the problem is the incredible amount of over-thinking and over-analyzing you’re doing with the problem.

2.         Many people make themselves unhappy simply by finding it impossible to accept life just as it is presenting itself right now. You don’t have to be one of them.

3.         Never force anything. Do your best, then let it be. If it’s meant to be, it will be. Don’t hold yourself down with things that are out of your control.

4.         Learn to trust the journey, even when you do not understand it. Sometimes what you never wanted or expected turns out to be what you need.

5.         RELAX. You are enough. You have enough. You do enough. Inhale. Exhale… let go, and just live right now in the moment.

Again, making these kinds of perspective shifts—thinking better—takes guidance and practice.

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To me, life is a gift, and it’s a blessing to just be alive. And each person should learn what a gift it is to be alive no matter how tough things get.

Tony Bennett

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The Code of Ethical Behavior for Patients

1. Do not expect your doctor to share your discomfort. Involvement with the patient’s suffering might cause him to lose valuable scientific objectivity.

2. Be cheerful at all times. Your doctor leads a busy and trying life and requires all the gentleness and reassurance he can get.

3. Try to suffer from the disease for which you are being treated. Remember that your doctor has a professional reputation to uphold.

4. Do not complain if the treatment fails to bring relief. You must believe that your doctor has achieved a deep insight into the true nature of your illness, which transcends any mere permanent disability you may have experienced.

5. Never ask your doctor to explain what he is doing or why he is doing it. It is presumptuous to assume that such profound matters could be explained in terms that you would understand.

6. Submit to novel experimental treatment readily. Though the surgery may not benefit you directly, the resulting research paper will surely be of widespread interest.

7. Pay your medical bills promptly and willingly. You should consider it a privilege to contribute, however modestly, to the well-being of physicians and other humanitarians.

8. Do not suffer from ailments that you cannot afford. It is sheer arrogance to contract illnesses that are beyond your means.

9. Never reveal any of the shortcomings that have come to light in the course of treatment by your doctor. The patient-doctor relationship is a privileged one, and you have a sacred duty to protect him from exposure.

10. Never die while in your doctor’s presence or under his direct care. This will only cause him needless inconvenience and embarrassment.

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“Life is something that everyone should try at least once.”

Henry J. Tillman

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A man and woman were having dinner in a fine restaurant.

Their waitress, taking another order at a table a few steps away, suddenly noticed that the man was slowly sliding down his chair and under the table, but the woman acted unconcerned.

The waitress watched as the man slid all the way down his chair and out of sight under the table. Still, the woman appeared calm and unruffled, apparently unaware that her dining companion had disappeared.

The waitress went over to the table and said to the woman, “Pardon me, ma’am, but I think your husband just slid under the table.”

The woman calmly looked up at her and said, “No, he didn’t. He just walked in the door.”

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Marriage means commitment. Of course, so does insanity.

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A four-year-old was showing a little friend the family photos that covered one wall in their basement.

Out of sight, but not out of earshot, her mother overheard her say, “Here’s a picture of my mommy when she was a little girl. I wasn’t there, but people say she used to be nice.”

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I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.

Agatha Christie

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

We must do better

Ray’s Daily

January 8, 2021

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Blessed are those who hunger and thirst, for they are sticking to their diets.

I did not publish the Daily yesterday because I could not find anything positive about what the president triggered in our nations capital. It truly became a black day in our nations history when rioters attacked our democracy. We must stop this lunacy and return our country to being a more civil society. Here is a daily from a better day.

Ray’s Daily first published on January 8, 2010

I mentioned the other day that I was going to start a new lifestyle for the new decade. There are many things I should do or as my Doctors and wife say, I must do. But as I said, rather then trying everything at once I have started with weight loss. I had let myself go over the last six months using the excuse that I was recovering from my hospital stays. Well no more. In the last four days I have lost three pounds and only have XX pounds to go. I am doing it primarily by weighing myself every morning and then adjusting what I eat for the balance of the day. Now I know none of you are overweight so what I have added below won’t have any meaning for you, I just wanted you to see what I am considering.

First Steps for Getting Healthy This Year

by Dana Angelo White in Healthy Recipes, Healthy Tips

1. FOOD: Out with the old, in with the new

Clean out your pantry, fridge and freezer. Banish fatty junk foods from the house (if they aren’t there, you won’t eat them). Don’t use the excuse that other people in the house want those foods; you are all better off without them.

Restock with healthy and fresh foods: fruits, vegetables, whole grains, legumes, eggs, lean meats and low-fat dairy products. There is still room for snack foods and sweet treats — just go for 100 to 150 calorie portions of tortilla chips, whole grain crackers, pretzels, frozen yogurt and dark chocolate. Compliment these snacks with fresh fruits and veggies.

2. Make a pact with yourself

Using a contract to set goals is empowering! Seeing your promise in writing makes it real. Goals such as “I want to lose 30 pounds” or “I’m giving up all sugar” don’t work as well as small goals that help you reach your ultimate destination. Try one of these short-term goals:

No soda or other high-calorie drinks

Snack on more fruits and vegetables

No more fried foods

Drink eight glasses of water daily

Cook dinner three nights this week, this is no problem I cook dinner every night.

Create your contract and post it on the fridge. I keep a written log of my weight

3. Cook more, eat less

Think about it — when you eat in restaurants or load up on take-out and processed foods, you almost always eat more calories, fat and sodium. Portions are larger; it’s impossible to know exactly what you are eating; plus, you’re paying a premium and want your money’s worth. Start planning your dinners in advance — that way you can create a grocery list you can stick to (it gets easier with practice). Keep it simple. Meal ideas and recipes should be quick and easy to fit in your lifestyle.

4. Secret Weapon = Exercise

You’ve heard it before, and that’s because it’s true. Healthy living and weight loss come from a combination of diet and exercise — what you eat and how much you move.

Multi-task! Do sets of push ups and crunches while watching a favorite TV show, and 30 minutes of exercise will fly by. Always check with your doctor before starting a new exercise program.

5. Stay positive

Keeping up with diet and exercise goals takes work — hard work! Having a positive attitude makes those road bumps a little smoother.

Nobody is perfect, so be forgiving when you slip up. It’s also important to reward yourself once you accomplish a goal. Remember, being in a positive state can help you and those around you stay motivated and on track.

Did you notice I said these are things I am considering, I must admit I did edit her suggestions just so they’d fit the Daily. In truth the only deferred piece is exercise and that is in my 2010 plan but not until after the doctors have their say.

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Don’t dig your grave with your own knife and fork.

English Proverb

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A porter loaded down with suitcases followed the couple to the airline check-in counter.

As they approached the line, the husband glanced at the pile of luggage and said to the wife, “Why didn’t you bring the piano, too?”

“Are you trying to be funny?” she replied.

“No,” he sighed forlornly. “I left the tickets on it.”

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“No man is happy who does not think himself so.”

Publilius Syrus

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Mary:  My last ex mastered the art of having the last word in an argument.

Jill:  You’re kidding!

Mary:  I’m not!  He learned to say, “I’m sorry!”

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I love to go shopping. I love to freak out salespeople. They ask me if they can help me, and I say,’ Have you got anything I’d like?’ Then they ask me what size I need, and I say, ‘ Extra medium.’

Steven Wright

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Mrs. Goldberg was shopping at a produce stand in her neighborhood.  She approached the vendor and asked, “How much are these oranges?”

“Two for a quarter,” answered the vendor.

“How much is just one?” she asked.

“Fifteen cents,” answered the vendor.

“Then I’ll take the other one,” said Mrs. Goldberg.

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He said: As we grow older, do we tend to gesture more or less with our hands while talking?

She said: Ask me one more growing old riddle and I’ll give you a gesture you won’t forget in a hurry.

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You Know You’re Getting Old When

  • you find yourself standing next to your car with your keys in your hand, but you can’t remember whether you’re going somewhere, or you just got back. ..
  • you walk out to the parking lot of the mall, and not only did you forget where you parked, but you forgot what car you were driving.
  • your daughter takes you out to dinner, and the cashier takes one look and gives you both Senior discounts.
  • everything hurts, and what doesn’t hurt, doesn’t work.
  • you reach down to pull up your wrinkled stockings and realize you don’t have any on.
  • when you raise your arm, and you find your “muscle” is now on the bottom side.
  • when you have as students the grandchildren of your former students.
  • when you sit down to the breakfast table, and the snap, crackle, pop you hear isn’t your breakfast cereal.
  • when you bend over to tie your shoes and ask yourself, “Is there anything else I need to do while I’m down here?”

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You know you’re getting old when you order stewed prunes and the waiter say, “excellent choice!”

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I don’t think I’ll ever have a mother’s intuition. My sister left me alone in a restaurant with my 10-month old nephew. I said, “What do I do if he cries?”

She said, “Give him some vegetables.”

It turns out that jalapeno is not his favorite.

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You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.

David Viscott

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Follow Your Dreams

Ray’s Daily

January 6, 2021

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Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts.

Albert Einstein

Ray’s Daily first published on January 6, 2004

Yesterday I talked about the multitude of things I would like to learn, do, and see. I did not mean to sound like I was complaining; I do enjoy the fact that I have so many choices. I doubt that even if I had started when I was a teen that I would ever do everything that interests me. I did allude to the fact that naps were one of my choices. I also recommend day-dreaming and unleashing your imagination, for it is there we often find the beginnings of a new adventure. The problem is the fact that we often just dream and find all the reasons not to turn some our dreams into reality. Next time why not stop and ask yourself why not instead of automatically saying no to yourself. If you dream about how great lying on a warm beach would be, think about when and how you might do it.

I have often thought that the best time to take a vacation was when you had every reason not to do so. Too much work to do, too many things to do, and so on. Sometimes we are so busy that we don’t realize that we need a break. I think the same principle applies in other ways, like an old friend often says, “If you think you can’t, your right.” So enjoy, if you don’t you will miss a lot.

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“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.”

  J. Lubbock 

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MEMO

To: All Hospital Staff

From: Administration/Groundskeeping

Subject: New Cost Cutting Measures

Effective immediately, this hospital will no longer provide security. Each charge nurse will be issued a .38 caliber revolver and 12 rounds of ammunition. An additional 12 rounds will be stored in pharmacy. In addition to routine nursing duties, Charge Nurses will rotate the patrolling of the hospital grounds. A bicycle and helmet will be provided for patrolling the parking areas.

In light of the similarity of monitoring equipment, ICU will now take over the security surveillance duties. The ward clerk will be responsible for watching cardiac monitors and security monitors as well as regular duties.

Food service will be discontinued. Patients wishing to be fed will need to let their families know to bring something or may make arrangements with Subway or Pizza Hut to deliver. Coin-operated telephones will be available in patient rooms for this purpose as well as for other calls the patient may wish to make.

Housekeeping and Physical Therapy will be combined. Mops will be issued to those patients who are ambulatory, thus providing range of motion exercises as well as a clean environment.  Families and ambulatory patients may also sign up to clean the rooms of non-ambulatory patients for special discounts on their final bill. Time cards will be provided.

As you can see on the “from” line above, hospital administration is assuming the grounds keeping duties. If an administrator cannot be reached by calling his/her office, it is suggested that you walk outside and listen for the sound of a lawn mower, weed-whacker, etc.

Maintenance is being eliminated. The hospital has subscribed to the Time-Life “How to…” series of maintenance books. These can be checked out from administration, and a toolbox will be standard equipment on all nursing units.

We will be receiving the series at a rate of one volume every other month. We already have the volume on “Basic Wiring,” but if a non-electrical problem occurs, please try to handle it as best you can until the appropriate volume arrives.

Cutbacks in phlebotomy staff will be accommodated by only performing blood-related tests on patients who are already bleeding.

Physicians will be informed that they may order no more than two X-rays per patient stay. This is due to the turnaround time required by Photomat. Two prints will be provided for the price of one, and physicians are being advised to clip coupons from the Sunday paper if they want extra sets. Photomat will also honor competitors coupons for one-hour processing in emergency situations, so if you come across any extra coupons please clip out and send these to ER.

In view of the hot summer temperatures, the Utilities Dept. has been asked to install individual meters in each patient room, office, etc., so that electrical consumption can be monitored and appropriately billed. Fans will be available for sale or lease in the hospital gift shop.

In addition to the current recycling programs, a bin for collection of unused fruit and bread will soon be provided on each floor.

Families, patients, and the few remaining employees are asked to contribute discarded produce. Pharmacy will utilize this for antibiotic production. These will be available for purchase and, coincidentally, will soon be the only antibiotics on our HMO’s formulary.

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If you find in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.

 Maya Angelou

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An elderly woman from Brooklyn decided to prepare her will and make her final requests.

She told her rabbi she had two final requests.

First, she wanted to be cremated, and second, she wanted her ashes scattered over Bloomingdales.

“Bloomingdales!” the rabbi exclaimed. “Why Bloomingdales?”

“Then I’ll be sure my daughters visit me twice a week.”

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Chicago O’Hare Airport Control Tower: “Delta 351, you have traffic at 10 o’clock, 6 miles!”

Delta 351: “Give us another hint! We all have digital watches!”

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Readers of William Safire’s “On Language” column in THE NEW YORK TIMES MAGAZINE were asked to give sports-related definitions for common words:

Superficial:  A really good referee

Beleaguered:  Stuck in the semi pros

Hermit:  Girl’s baseball glove

Saturnine:  Baseball team that plays on weekends

Truncate:  Tailgate party given by a compact-car owner

Wrinkle:  A small hockey arena

Haiku:  Signal to center from a Japanese quarterback 

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One discovers a friend by chance, and cannot but feel regret that 20 or 30 years of life may have been spent without the least knowledge of him.

Charles Dudley Warner

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Jane says that there are seven stages to the married cold

Stage 1: Sugar Dumpling, I’ve really been worried about my baby girl. That’s a bad sniffle, and there’s no telling about these things with all the strep that’s going around. I’m going to put you in the hospital for a general check-up and a good rest. I know the food’s terrible, but I’m going to bring you dinner every night from Rosini’s. I have it all arranged with the floor supervisor.

Stage 2: Listen, Darling, I don’t like the sound of that cough. I’m going to call Doc Miller to rush over here. Now you go to bed like a good girl just for Papa.

Stage 3: Maybe you’d better lie down, Honey. Nothing like a little rest when you feel lousy. I’ll bring you something. Do we have any canned soup?

Stage 4: Now look, Dear, be sensible. After you’ve fed the kids, and gotten the dishes done, and the floor mopped, you’d better lie down for a while.

Stage 5: Why don’t you take a couple of aspirins?

Stage 6: Why don’t you just gargle or something instead of sitting around barking like a seal all evening?

Stage 7: Would you stop coughing on me? Are you trying to give me pneumonia?

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“It is not how much we do, but how much love we put into doing it.

It is not how much we give, but how  much love we put into giving.”

  Mother Teresa  

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

A Good Year So Far

Ray’s Daily

January 5, 2021

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Life is like a roller coaster, live it, be happy, enjoy life.

Avril Lavigne

2021has been OK so far. My wife seems to be in good spirits. All four generations of my family are virus free. I continue to be living in a comfortable apaertment and the facility keeps me well fed. While there is still a long way to go to reach a new stable normal I am optimistic that the days ahead will be far better than what they have been this past year.

I know one thing I am going to stay as happy as I can, the alternative would help no one especial me.

Happiness

There is an ever-growing body of knowledge about the nature and causes of happiness. For one thing, it’s clear that happiness is a feeling, not a circumstance. Happiness is more than just fun or pleasure. It’s a more durable sense of well being.

Our happiness depends not on what happens to us, but what happens in us. In other words, it’s the way we choose to think about our lives. Abe Lincoln said, ‘People are generally about as happy as they’re willing to be.’ A Buddhist proverb tells us that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

So, what are the most common attributes of happy people? Well, it’s not money, fame, or good looks. It’s not even intelligence or talent. No, the two most important factors are gratitude and rewarding personal relationships.

The formula is simple: count your blessings and enjoy your family and friends.

Sadly, simple is not always easy.

People whose natural instincts produce a gloomy outlook and pessimism need to re-train their minds. It’s one thing to say happiness is not getting what you want but wanting what you get; it’s quite another to really be satisfied with what we have.

For many people, it takes discipline and practice to think positively.

Sometimes it’s just a matter of changing one’s perspective, choosing to see and appreciate the silver lining, the half full glass. In other cases, what’s required is refusing to dwell on pain, disappointment, or envy, and instead force one’s mind toward good thoughts, including all the things we should be grateful for.

Interestingly, the ability to maintain a positive attitude is also important in forming and sustaining meaningful relationships  -seeing and bringing out the best.

Written by Michael Josephson

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I’m a really, really optimistic and really, really positive person. My main thing is, ‘Enjoy life. Celebrate life.’

Luke Bryan

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It was the first day of school; many new teachers and even more new students, filled the building quickly. As the principal made his rounds to check in on each class, he heard a terrible commotion coming from one of the classrooms down the hall. He quickly rushed down the corridor, opened the door where he heard the noise coming from, & walked in. Right away he spotted one boy, taller than the others, who seemed to be making the most noise.  Despite the boy’s reluctance to move, the principal seized the lad, dragged him to the hall, and told him to wait there until he was excused. No and’s, if’s, or but’s about it! Returning to the classroom, the principal restored order and then proceeded to lecture the class for half an hour about the importance of good behavior.

“Now,” he said,” are there any questions before I leave?”

“One girl stood up timidly.  “Please sir,” she asked, “May we have our teacher back?”

“Well, I don’t see why not.”  Looking around the class, he says, “And…just…. where… exactly… is your teacher?”

“He’s the one out in the hall, sir.”

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I find that a great part of the information I have was acquired by looking up something and finding something else on the way.

Franklin P. Adams

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This speaks a lot about the quality of Japanese products and their standards:

They’re still laughing about this at IBM.  Apparently the computer giant decided to have some parts manufactured in Japan as a trial project.  In the specifications, they stated that they will only accept three defective parts per 10,000.

When the delivery came in there was an accompanying letter.  It said, “We Japanese had a hard time understanding North American business practices. But the three defective parts per 10,000 have been separately manufactured and have been included in the consignment.  Hope this pleases you.”

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Live your life so that when you die, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

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Two men sank into adjacent train seats after a long day in the city.

One asked the other, “Your son go back to college yet?”

“Two days ago.”

“Hmm. Mine’s a senior this year, so it’s almost over.

In May, he’ll be an engineer.”

“What’s your boy going to be when he gets out of college?”

“At the rate he’s going, I’d say he’ll be about thirty.”

“No, I mean what’s he taking in college?”

“He’s taking every penny I make.”

“Doesn’t he burn the midnight oil enough?”

“He doesn’t get in early enough to burn the midnight oil.”

“Well, has sending him to college done anything at all?”

“Sure has! It’s totally cured his mother of bragging about him!”

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Don’t borrow trouble.  Be patient and you’ll soon have some of your own.

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A stockbroker was cold calling about a penny stock and found a taker. “I think this one will really move,” said the broker. “It’s only $1 a share.”

“Buy me 1,000 shares,” said the client.

The next day the stock was at $2. The client called the broker and said, “You were right. Give me 5,000 more shares.”

The next day the client looked in the paper and the stock was at $4.

The client ran to the phone and called the broker, “Get me 10,000 more shares.”

“Great!” said the broker.

The next day the client looked in the paper and the stock was at $9.

Seeing what a great profit he had in just a few days, the client ran to the phone and told the broker, “Sell all my shares!”

The broker asked, “To who? You were the only one buying that stock.”

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I enjoy life, and I think that’s important. Life is so fragile and so fleeting, and it’s over in a minute, and you’ve just got to grab it and do everything and not worry about it.

Jerry Hall

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

2021

Ray’s Daily

January 4, 2021

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“Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one.”

Brad Paisley

I have high hopes for 2021. Rather than committing to new resolutions, I prefer to hope that:

  • Our fellow citizens avoid prolonging the pandemic by getting vaccinated and following health guidelines.
  • That we all embrace kindness and not animosity.
  • Our legislators work to bring us together versus tearing us appart.
  • Education initiatives assure our children good lives in their futures.
  • Materialism does not detract from our embracing the arts.
  • We focus on the common good and not on selfish pursuits.

And most of all that each of you find health and happiness in the months ahead.

Here is an article that provides tips on how to make it a good year.

10 Tips To Be Happier And Make 2021 Your Best Year Ever

Bryan Robinson, Ph.D.

  1. Focus on the upside of a downside situation. When there are so many incidences of devastation, fear and heartbreak, it’s natural to focus on the downside of the pandemic. But we can balance that out with how it’s brought people together, volunteering and helping one another and strengthening the whole idea of collective selflessness. What upsides can you name?
  2. Pinpoint the opportunity in the difficulty. Ask, “How can I make this situation work to my advantage? Can I find something positive in it? What can I manage or overcome in this instance?” During the pandemic, for example, we can use times of self-isolation for self-reflection and think about the direction we want to take in the new year. What opportunities do you see?
  3. Frame 2020 as a lesson to learn, not misery to endure. Ask what you can learn from the difficulties of 2020 and use them as stepping-stones, instead of roadblocks. Think of the adversities of 2020 as happening for you instead of to you. If you consider this perspective less taken, what has 2020 taught you that you can take into 2021?
  4. Practice gratitude. Look beyond the fear, loss and disappointment at the big picture. Take an inventory of your life and include all the things the pandemic prevented you from doing that you once took for granted. And consider all the people and things in your life that you’re grateful for, letting gratitude steer you beyond the gloom and doom. What are you grateful for?
  5. Be chancy. Take small risks in new situations instead of predicting negative outcomes before giving them a try. “If I ask for a shot at the promotion, my boss might laugh in my face” becomes “If I ask for a shot at the promotion, my boss might think I have guts and ambition.” How can you stick your neck out at work in the new year?
  6. Avoid blowing a situation out of proportion. Don’t let one negative experience rule your whole outlook: “I was supposed to get a promotion until the pandemic; now that everything’s on hold, I’ll never advance in my career” becomes “Things are on hold for a while, but nothing lasts forever and there will be other pathways to success.” What limiting situations can you minimize and overcome in 2021?
  7. Focus on the solution, not the problem. You’ll feel more empowered to cope with pandemic curve balls when you step back from the problem and brainstorm a wide range of possibilities. Your negativity bias will direct you to zoom in and focus on the problem. But when you broaden your perspective, your wide-angle lens will help you see potential in the big picture. What possibilities do you see for 2021?
  8. Practice positive self-talk. During tough times, be as kind to yourself as you would your best friend. Underscore your triumphs. Replace bludgeoning yourself and using put-downs and criticisms with the practice of self-compassion. Affirm positive feedback instead of letting it roll over your head. Give yourself “atta-boys” or “atta-girls.” Throw modesty out the window, and remind yourself of all your personal resources. What are your strengths?
  9. Practice Solitude. Solitude is good for the soul. It takes you out of the rat race for a while, gives you a bird’s-eye view of your daily life and replaces chaos with serenity. Spend a minimum of five minutes a day alone. Meditate, pray, practice yoga or contemplate nature and connect with something larger than yourself for inspiration and peace of mind. What type of solitude can you practice?
  10. See a fresh start contained in loss. Every loss contains a gain but you have to look for it. Every time you get up just one more time than you fall, you increase the likelihood of scaling hard times. Baseball great Babe Ruth said, “It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up. Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.” What endings in 2020 contain new beginnings in 2021?

A Final Word

Choosing a positive attitude is one of the most powerful things we can take into 2021. Don’t forget that grass grows through concrete. Think of yourself as an elastic band that bends and stretches to a certain point before you spring back higher than you fall. And you will have the physical and mental stamina to come back with a vengence in 2021.

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“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you’re not going to stay where you are.”

J.P. Morgan

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Last summer a friend and I were lunching at a sidewalk cafe in Carmel, Indiana. Our waitress looked like a surfer girl:  athletic with a great tan and blond hair. Mulling over the menu, my friend asked her if the roast beef was rare.

The waitress gave us a long blank look, and then replied, “Well, no.  We have it, like, just about every day.”

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May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.

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A little boy took his dog on a “take your pet to school” day. There were prizes for the smallest, the prettiest, the cutest, and the smartest pet. Determined that his dog win a prize, the boy put his pet through a whole series of tricks.

Finally the boy turned to the dog and asked, “Mindy, how much is two plus two minus four?”

The dog sat quietly, making no sound, remaining still and silent.

“Right!” exclaimed the boy.

His dog won first prize.

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Laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face.

Victor Hugo

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A fellow in a bar notices a woman, always alone, come in on a fairly regular basis. After the second week, he made his move. “No thank you.” she said politely. “This may sound rather odd in this day and age, but I’m keeping myself pure until I meet the man I love.”

“That must be rather difficult.” the man replied.

“Oh, I don’t mind too much.” she said. “But, it has my husband pretty upset.”

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“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go. They merely determine where you start.”

Nido Qubein

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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Good Riddence 2020

Ray’s Daily

December 30, 2020

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The Old Year has gone.  Let the dead past bury its own dead.  The New Year has taken possession of the clock of time.  All hail the duties and possibilities of the coming twelve months!

Edward Payson Powell

Happy New Year from ten years ago

Ray’s Daily first published on December 30, 2010

Tomorrow is New Years Eve and the Daily team (Ray and his friendly computer) will be off for a long weekend. It is hard to believe that 2010 will soon be only memory and that we get another chance to do it right with the dawning of 2011. I know it has been a difficult year for many and I hope that 2011 will be a better year for everyone. While I can’t really complain about my year, my medical problems did not linger, my family stayed well and did well and my life was generally active and rewarding it was not all what I would have liked, I lost a few friends who I highly regarded, I occasionally had to cancel out on commitments and I sometimes found myself too distracted to pay enough attention to others who were in need. But generally it was a good year filled with budding friendships and interesting experiences.

I have never been too big on resolutions but I do have a few that I want to fulfill, here they are:

·         Pay more attention to the people I meet and listen to what they have to say.

·         Do not promise more than I can deliver.

·         Be available to respond to opportunities when they arise.

·         Maintain a health weight and continue to exercise.

·         Concentrate on appreciating what is good and correcting if I can what is not.

·         Keep an open mind and take advantage of new learning experiences and travel opportunities.

·         Minimize anger and ill will and emphasize caring kindness.

·         Do what I can to help those that I can help.

Of course there will be other things as the year goes by and when the need or challenges arise the list can be adjusted. On thing I would suggest is that we all follow the advice offered in this poem by Mother Teresa:

Mother Teresa’s Anyway Poem

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered; Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God; It was never between you and them anyway.

I honestly believe if you follow the Mother Teresa’s advice and do what’s right anyway, you’ll have a great year, maybe the best one you have ever had.

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Every man should be born again on the first day of January.  Start with a fresh page.  Take up one hole more in the buckle if necessary, or let down one, according to circumstances; but on the first of January let every man gird himself once more, with his face to the front, and take no interest in the things that were and are past.

Henry Ward Beecher

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If you are concerned about not following through on your New Year’s resolutions you might find one or more of these helpful.

10. Read less.

 9. Gain weight.

 8. Stop exercising.

 7. Watch more TV.

 6. Procrastinate more.

 5. Drink. Drink some more.

 4. Start being superstitious.

 3. Spend more time at work.

 2. Stop bringing lunch from home: eat out more.

 1. Take up a new habit!

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Let this coming year be better than all the others. Vow to do some of the things you’ve always wanted to do but couldn’t find the time. Call up a forgotten friend. Drop an old grudge, and replace it with some pleasant memories. Vow not to make a promise you don’t think you can keep. Walk tall, and smile more. You’ll look ten years younger. Don’t be afraid to say, ‘I love you’. Say it again. They are the sweetest words in the world.

Ann Landers

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EXCERPTS FROM THE DOG’S DAILY DIARY. . .

8:00 am – Oh Boy! Dog food! My favorite!

9:30 am – Oh Boy! A car ride! My favorite!

9:40 am – Oh Boy! A walk! My favorite!

10:30 am – Oh Boy! Back in the car for a ride! My favorite!

11:30 am – Oh Boy! A treat! My favorite!

12:00 noon – Oh Boy! The kids! My favorite!

1:00 pm – Oh Boy! The yard! My favorite!

4:00 pm – Oh Boy! The kids friends! My favorite!

5:00 pm – Oh Boy!  More dog food! My favorite!

5:30 pm – Oh Boy! Mom! My favorite!

6:30 pm – Oh Boy! Playing ball! My favorite!

8:00 pm – Oh Boy! Sleeping in master’s bed! My favorite! Woof!

EXCERPTS FROM THE CAT’S DAILY DIARY. . .

Day 283 Of My Captivity.

My captors continue to taunt me with bizarre little dangling objects. They dine lavishly on fresh meat, while I am forced to eat dry cereal. The only thing that keeps me going is the hope of escape, and the mild satisfaction I get from ruining the occasional piece of furniture.

Tomorrow I may eat another houseplant. Today my attempt to kill my captors by weaving around their feet while they were walking almost succeeded; must try this at the top of the stairs. In an attempt to disgust and repulse these vile oppressors, I once again induced myself to vomit on their favorite chair; must try this on their bed.

Decapitated a mouse and brought them the headless body, in attempt to make them aware of what I am capable of, and to try to strike fear into their hearts. They only cooed and condescended about what a good little cat I was.

Hmmm, not working according to plan.

There was some sort of gathering of their accomplices. I was placed in solitary throughout the event. However, I could hear the noise and smell the food. More importantly I overheard that my confinement was due to MY power of “allergies.” Must learn what this is and how to use it to my advantage. I am convinced the other captives are flunkies and maybe snitches. The dog is routinely released and seems more than happy to return. He is obviously a half-wit. The bird on the other hand has got to be an informant, and speaks with them regularly. I am certain he reports my every move. Due to his current placement in the metal room, his safety is assured.

But I can wait. . .  it is only a matter of time…  heh heh, Meow!

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We will open the book.  Its pages are blank.  We are going to put words on them ourselves.  The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.

Edith Lovejoy Pierce

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

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