December 8, 2021
A positive attitude from you tends to produce a positive attitude toward you.
Ray’s Daily first published on December 8, 2004
A few weeks ago I stood in front of a group of men and women who were in the process of a midlife job search. I made some comment along the lines of this being a great opportunity to find something that will give them pleasure in the years ahead. I ended by saying that it was the time to search for the job they like versus the job they can do. After the meeting, one of the attendees asked if we could schedule a time when we could have coffee together to discuss his job search. We met the first time for about three hours at a local Starbucks. As we were leaving he asked me why I was so willing to spend time with him, a perfect stranger. I said something about how it provided me a chance to make new friends.
I later thought about his question and a quote from the past came to mind, it was March 1923, when in an interview with The New York Times, the British mountaineer George Leigh Mallory was asked why he wanted to climb Mount Everest, and he replied, ‘Because it’s there’. That triggered me to realize that I was spending time with my new friend because I can. He and I have spent hours since and fortunately he is pleased with the results. Since then I have thought about the things people do, many for glory and recognition, others for financial or material reward, and others for no more apparent reason than just because they can. The more I think about it the more I realize that it is the unrecognized good that is being done by so many, just because they can, that makes our world a better place. Once we understand that we do not need special recognition from anyone but ourselves and that we have the capacity to do little things that mean something to others, great opportunities open for us to enrich our lives.
I could read, play, or lay around, because I can, or I can spend time working with others, because I can. If working with others makes even just a small difference I will have spent the time doing something of value. We all have choices, we should not limit ourselves to only things that are centered on our self interest, but rather do unselfish things just because we can. And guess what, our self interest will be served because we did what we could.
We don’t know who we are until we see what we can do.
This is a conversation that took place between a person(Y) in the public and a marketing guy(X).
X: Which shaving cream do you use?
X: Which aftershave do you use?
Y: Baba’s X: Which deodorant do you use?
X: Which toothpaste do you use?
X: Which shampoo do you use?
X: Which vests do you use?
X(Frustrated): O.k. tell me, What is this Baba? Is it an international company???
Y: No, He is my room-mate.
My friends tell me that I refuse to grow up, but I know they’re just jealous because they don’t have pajamas with feet.
PRISON VS BEING A HOUSEWIFE
In prison you get three square meals a day. At home, you cook three square meals a day and try to get your kids to eat it.
In prison you get an hour each day in the yard to exercise and mingle. At home you get to clean the yard up so you can mow it so your kids can spread more toys all over it so that you can go out and clean it again because little Jr. can’t sleep without his latest Lego creation.
In prison you get to watch TV, cable even. At home you get to listen your children fight over the remote control and get treated to hours and hours of mindless cartoons thanks to cable.
In prison you can read whatever you want and attend college for free. At home you get to read weekly readers starring Dick, Jane, and Spot and worry about how to send Jr. to college and still be able to eat for the next twenty years.
In prison all your medical care is free. At home you have to pawn your mother’s silver and fill out trillions of papers for insurance and hope the doctor will see you before you die.
In prison, if you have visitors, all you do is go to a room, sit, talk and then say good-bye when you are ready or your time is up. At home you get to clean for days in advance and then cook and clean up after your guests and hope that they will one day leave.
In prison you can spend your free time writing letters or just hang out in your own space all day. At home you get to clean your space and everyone else’s space, too, and what the heck is free time again?
In prison you get your own personal toilet. At home you have to physically hold the bathroom door shut in order to keep from having someone standing over you demanding to know how long till you’re done so you can do something for them.
In prison the prison laundry takes care of all your dirty clothes. At home you get to take care of them yourself, plus everybody else’s, and get yelled at because somebody’s favorite shirt isn’t clean.
In prison they take you everywhere you need to go. At home you take everybody else where they need to go.
In prison the guards transport all your personal effects for you and make sure nothing is missing. At home you have to lug around everybody else’s stuff in your purse and then wonder who went in it and took your last dollar.
In prison there are no screaming or whining children or spouses asking you to do something else for them, or screaming at you because you didn’t. At home….stop me when I get to the downside of jail, will ya?
A mouse trap placed on top of your hubby’s alarm clock will prevent him from rolling over and going back to sleep.
Sitting behind a couple of nuns at a baseball game (whose habits partially blocked the view), three men decided to badger the nuns in an effort to get them to move.
In a very loud voice, the first guy said, ‘I think I’m going to move to Utah, there are only 100 nuns there’.
The second guy spoke up and said, “I want to go to Montana, there are only 50 nuns living there’.
The third guy said, ‘I want to go to Idaho, there are only 25 nuns living there’.
One of the nuns turned around, looked at the men, and in a very sweet, calm voice said, ‘Why don’t you go to hell … there aren’t any nuns there’.
“Women only have two complaints: Nothing to wear, and not enough closet space for it.”
Several American nurses were receiving specialized training at a hospital in Liverpool, England. These nurses had little money for meals, so they ate the awful food provided at the hospital complex. Sometimes kindly visitors would give them some of the treats they had brought for patients who had not wanted to eat them.
One night a woman brought a pie to the kitchen and said to one of the nurses,
“Would you eat this up, love?” So she and another American student nurse devoured every delicious crumb!
Soon the woman returned, however, and asked…..”Is me ‘usband’s pie ‘ot yet, dearie?”
Milton Berle once quipped that “all the world loves a lover — except people who are waiting to use the phone.”
If we attend continually and promptly to the little that we can do,
We shall ere long be surprised to find how little remains that we cannot do.
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