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I’m engaged, are you?

“Love life, engage in it, give it all you’ve got. love it with a passion, because life truly does give back, many times over, what you put into it”

Maya Angelou

 

I was at the annual meeting of an organization I co-founded twenty years ago the other night. Before the meeting started I asked the Chairman of the Board if she had a call to action for the members and officers in attendance and she did. Her call to action was to ask them to get engaged with the work of the organization by offering their time and talent.

Since that evening I have met with others who raised different questions and yet I found that getting engaged with what we can do is an opportunity to really live. Today a friend said she was impressed with how I seem to bounce back quickly from illness and adversity as if it was something special, in my mind it isn’t. I just never have seen any value in wallowing in self pity over something that is over and is now history. There is just too much that we can do if we just stay engaged with the world around us. What I told my friend is that I sincerely believe that we are who we choose to be. Sure we may not be able to do some of the things we use to do but fortunately there is always more than enough other things that we can do.

I also visited with the head of our premier senior service organization the other day and sure enough our conversations ended up recognizing the importance of offering folks a wide range of engaging choices as they age. The happiest people I know are people who constantly adjust their lives, but they don’t adjust them by stopping; if they can’t walk they ride, if they can’t see they listen and I am always inspired by these folks who are always part of the parade.

My life has never been better but it is a lot different than it was and to some extent that is due to the vibrant people I meet who are even much older than I am who continue to find joy in each day. So my friends please don’t decide it is time to sit on the sidelines and watch life go by, get engaged, I’ll be waiting for you.

As I said I think to a large extent the quality of our life is a matter of choice so I went into my wisdom files and found this piece written by our old friend Ralph Marston that I’d like to share with you.

Choices in every moment

The same skills you use to create limiting beliefs can be used to create empowering beliefs. All you need is a meaningful enough reason.

The same energy you use to make excuses can instead be used to take action. You simply have to want it enough.

You are a full time, highly effective achievement machine. What you choose to achieve is completely up to you.

You have what it takes to live your dreams and you have what it takes to ignore those dreams. You get to decide which it will be.

Your choices are made in every moment, in every word, in every thought, and in every action. Those choices are driven by what you focus upon.

The life you live is the life you choose to most vividly and consistently imagine. Imagine the best, without ceasing, and that’s exactly what you’ll have.

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“There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don’t expect you to save the world I do think it’s not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your live those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect.”

Nikki Giovanni

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One day, two out-of-work ventriloquists are talking on the phone to each other and lamenting their condition. The older one says, “Just between you and me, I’ve been moonlighting lately as a medium.”

The young ventriloquist is quite impressed. “Really?” he says. “I didn’t know that you were psychic!”

“Well, to tell you the truth, I’m not,” confesses the older man. “But what I did was rent a storefront and bought a small round table, a crystal ball, and a turban. Then, when people come in, I throw my voice and they think that they’re talking to their dead relatives.”

“What a great idea!” says the young ventriloquist.

“You should try it too,” suggests the first man. “You’ll see, it works great.”

The next day, the young man goes out, rents a little storefront, and buys a table, a crystal ball, and a turban. He opens up for business, and an hour later a middle-aged woman walks in. She sits down at the table across from the ventriloquist and asks him, “Can you put me in touch with my long-lost husband?”

“I sure can!” he answers. “Why, for just a hundred dollars, you can hear your husband speak to you from behind that curtain over there. Now I must warn you that his voice might sound a little different, but that’s because he’s talking to you from the spirit world.”

“That’s wonderful,” says the woman eagerly.

“For a hundred and fifty dollars,” the ventriloquist says, “you could have a two -way conversation with your husband, and talk back and forth with him.”

The woman’s voice rises in anticipation as she asks, “You mean, I could communicate directly with my dear departed Hubert?”

“Not only that,” says the ventriloquist, getting just as excited as the woman. “For two hundred dollars, you could actually carry on a two-way conversation with your husband while I’m drinking a glass of water!”

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“In an underdeveloped country don’t drink the water. In a developed country don’t breathe the air.”

Jonathan Raban.

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A stalwart Vermont farmer bought some land that was still just as it had been before the Pilgrims landed. He dug up hundreds of stones and built a fence; cut down trees to create a clearing; built a house and a small barn; cleared land for pasture, dug a well and over several years just generally worked his fingers to the bone in creating a small, neat, productive farm.

Eventually his pastor came out for a visit and marveled rather fulsomely, and at great length, at all that “you and God have done together.”

“Eh,” the farmer said dubiously. “Ya shoulda seen the place when God ran it on his own.”

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I am having an out of money experience.

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Several women appeared in court, each accusing the other of the trouble they were having in the apartment building where they lived. The judge, with Solomon-like wisdom decreed, “I’ll hear the oldest woman first.” The case was closed for lack of evidence.

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Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you sit there.

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On their 50th wedding anniversary and during the banquet celebrating it, Tom was asked to give his friends a brief account of the benefits of a marriage of such long duration.  “Tell us Tom, just what is it you have learned from all those wonderful years with your wife?” Tom responds, “Well, I’ve learned that marriage is the best teacher of all. It teaches you loyalty, meekness, forbearance, self-restraint, forgiveness — and a great many other qualities you wouldn’t have needed if you’d stayed single.”

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Happiness must be cultivated. It is like character. It is not a thing to be safely let alone for a moment, or it will run to weeds.

Elizabeth Stuart Phelps

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A census taker in a rural area went up to a farmhouse and knocked.  When a woman came to the door, he asked her how many children she had and their ages.

She said, “Les’ see now, there’s the twins, Sally and Billy, they’re eighteen.  And the twins, Seth & Beth, they’re sixteen. And the twins, Penny and Jenny, they’re fourteen—- “

“Hold on!” said the census taker, “Did you get twins every time?”

The woman answered, “Heck no, there were hundreds of times we didn’t get nothin’.”

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“All of the top achievers I know are life-long learners… Looking for new skills, insights, and ideas. If they’re not learning, they’re not growing… not moving toward excellence.”

Denis Waitley

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

 Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

 

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Reckoning is coming

“It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.”

Josiah Charles Stamp

 

I hope it is OK with you if I rant a little this morning before we get to the lighter side. Those of you who get my public affairs mailings will have already seen this so please jump ahead. Yesterday I wrote a cover for a column and used it as a vehicle to share some of my concerns about how we as citizens are behaving these days. So what I am going to do is take the liberty of using it in the Daily today and I would appreciate your giving what I wrote some thought. Thanks,

Ray

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This morning I attended a seminar that outlined the $5 billion dollars that my city needs to find in order to deal with a crumbling infrastructure. $3 billion in projects are mandatory requirements to assure we have safe water in our streams, safe water to drink and sewers that don’t allow sewage to flood into our basements. The other $2 billion is for critical projects that we must undertake in order for us to deal with unsafe bridges, streets and other significant capital requirements. The irony for me is that politician after politician is promising further tax cuts while promising to solve all of our problems. Far too many of us think that we should do these things as long as somebody else pays for them. Not many stop to realize that we are somebody else’s somebody else and when all the somebody else’s abandon their responsibilities there will be no one else left to be somebody else.

What has happened to us? Right after the second world war our ancestors built a better country for us which we proceeded to let far too much of it age to the point that where much of it is beyond repair. I remember when the needs of our communities were a priority for those of us who lived in them. We knew there was no one else to make the investments needed to assure a functioning community both for ourselves and our children. We really can’t have everything but if we don’t provide a nurturing environment for businesses and citizens we will end up with nothing. Just who is ultimately responsible for the places where we live if not us? Who is going to educate our children, protect our citizens, provide us healthy air to breathe and water to drink if we don’t?

There are those who try to con us into believing that there is money laying around to do it all. we only have to cut waste, eliminate frills, improve efficiency and the like and there will be plenty enough to cover what we need. Unfortunately buying their pitch is not much different than giving them money to buy us the Brooklyn Bridge. What is so sad is that so many seem to think we are too dumb to know better. Unfortunately many behave as if they do believe them, I don’t think that appearance comes from a lack of intelligence but more likely our willingness to find any excuse for our not having to do our share. For me I know I am the other guy they are talking about, I also know that you’re another guy too and that just you and I alone are not going to get the job done. Maybe we should get on our horses and ride around the community like Paul Revere hollering that the day of reckoning is coming.

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It is not only for what we do that we are held responsible, but also for what we do not do.

John Baptiste Moliére

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FROM HERE TO MATERNITY — OH HOW WE CHANGE.

NAMED AFTER:

First baby: grandmother and paternal aunt for political reasons

Second baby: Daddy

Third baby: Daddy’s boss

GODPARENTS:

First baby: Bernard Ryan and Joy Smith

Second baby: Martha Dunn and either uncle Fred or Fred the Barber

Third baby: relatives

FORMULA:

First baby: fortified prepared infant formula w/ 1.25 water

Second baby: heated cow’s milk poured from a carton.

Third baby: cold milk, Cokes, and Kool-Aid

BOTTLES:

First baby: boiled 10 minutes, removed with tongs and rubber gloves.

Second baby: boiled five minutes, removed with beer can opener

Third baby: rinsed in cold water and dried on apron

HANDLING:

First baby: right hand behind head, left under knee, clutch baby close to body

Second baby: place hands under armpits and lift

Third baby: one arm around stomach

LENGTH AND WEIGHT AT ONE YEAR:

First baby: 15 pounds, 14 1/2 ounces; 26 1/4 inches

Second baby: 16 or 17 pounds, same height as vertical knob on TV set.

Third baby: Heavier than a bowling ball. Short.

SANITATION:

First baby: rubber gloves, face mask, scrub floors weekly, mosquito net

Second baby: use air freshener weekly, swat all flies

Third baby: keep the dog out of the playpen

BABY RECORDS:

First baby: detailed in gold embossed book

Second baby: written on back of old envelopes

Third baby: ask grandma

~~~

A woman tells her friend, “My husband is an angel.”

Her friend replies, “You’re lucky, mine is still alive.”

~~~

The doctor came out of the operating room to talk with the man’s wife.  “I don’t like the looks of your husband,” he said.  “Neither do I,” said the wife, “but he’s not home much, and he’s great with the kids.”

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“Because we don’t think about future generations, they will never forget us.”

Henrik Tikkanen

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Dilbert’s Words Of Wisdom

1. I can please only one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow, isn’t looking good either.

2. I love deadlines. I especially like the whooshing sound they make as they go flying by.

3. Am I getting smart with you? How would you know?

4. I’d explain it to you, but your brain would explode.

5. Someday we’ll look back on all this and plow into a parked car.

6. There are very few personal problems that cannot be solved through a suitable application of high explosives.

7. Tell me what you need, and I’ll tell you how to get along without it.

8. Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.

9. Needing someone is like needing a parachute. If he isn’t there the first time you need him, chances are you won’t be needing him again.

10. I don’t have an attitude problem. You have a perception problem.

11. Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, “Where the heck is the ceiling?!”

12. My Reality Check bounced.

13. On the keyboard of life, always keep one finger on the escape key.

14. I don’t suffer from stress. I’m a carrier.

15. You’re slower than a herd of turtles stampeding through peanut butter.

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Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.

Johann von Goethe

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

 Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

 This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

You can too!

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.

e.e. cummings

 

As many of you know I spend a lot of time with people who are going through life changes. Often these folks are facing the greatest challenges of their lives. As an example I visited with an acquaintance last night who has been out of work for twenty months and has used up most of his resources just keeping his head above water. And yesterday I had breakfast with a friend and caregiver who has to deal with her medical problems while helping those near and dear to her deal with their major health problems. What continues to amaze me is how so many of these good people maintain a positive attitude while staying as optimistic as possible. I know after so many years of working with people just like these two that they understand what really is important in life and put everything else in perspective.

The other day I heard a discussion based upon the concept of having two possible life paths, one based on having, the other based on being. If I remember correctly it was Eric Fromm who developed the differences between the two. The concern expressed was that we had become so materialistic that far too many of us measure our self worth by what we have rather than who we are. That has also been a concern of mine for some time as I see so many people missing the enjoyment that comes from jumping in and participating in life, appreciating all you get to do and see.

Both my friends seem to be doers and not collectors. I don’t know if circumstances made them that way or if it is the way they always were. I do know however if collecting material goods is ones focus a lot will be missed. The good news is that it does not have to be a permanent choice and we can change. The first step is to put what we have in perspective so that we understand that more, bigger, shinier and the like do not mean better. I probably shared the following with you before but if I did it is worth repeating.

Appreciating What We Have

Author Unknown

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who won’t survive the week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture or the pangs of starvation, you are ahead of 20 million people around the world.

If you attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest, torture, or death, you are more blessed than almost three billion people in the world.

If you have food in your refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace, you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthy.

If your parents are still married and alive, you are very rare, especially in the United States.

If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful, you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.

If you can hold someone’s hand, hug them or even touch them on the shoulder, you are blessed because you can offer God’s healing touch.

If you can read this message, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world that cannot read anything at all.

You are so blessed in ways you may never even know.

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How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.

Gabrielle “Coco” Chanel

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Top 15 Clues That Your Company Has Been Sold

1. People you have never met assure you that nothing will change.

2. They issue new nametags without the company name on them. 

3. The company logo on our paychecks gets changed to something else. When this is questioned, we’re just told not to worry, it will be discussed in a meeting next week.

4. My paycheck did NOT bounce.

5. An announcement that on Monday we should report to the new building… in a different state.

6. English-German dictionaries show up on everyone’s desks.

7. The budget for your project suddenly doubles in size. Uh, how’d we get that much money?   

8. The pointy-haired owners are cleaning out their desks and their offices, of a company that their family has owned for over 40 years, but tell you that they are redecorating their office at home and want all their things there? 

9. What is this “Lot 642” tag stapled to my ear? 

10.  The pointy-haired boss called a meeting to let whole department know we weren’t being bought, everything was O.K. and don’t worry.

11.  I post articles to an online edition of the local newspaper. I learned the newspaper had been sold when I received an article to post about the sale.  

12.  You get voicemail messages from some temp company you’ve never heard of or called, who say they got your number from your boss.

13.  The boss starts doing work.  

14.  The ‘Coming Soon…’ sign on the front lawn…  

15.  A letter on your desk which reads, “Thanks for all your hard work, BUT….”

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I’m not tense, just terribly alert.

~~~

POINTS TO PONDER

How do you get off a non-stop flight?

How many weeks are there in a light year?

If a jogger runs at the speed of sound, can he still hear his Walkman?

If swimming is good for your shape, then why do the whales look the way they do?

If you jog backwards, will you gain weight?

Why do the signs that say “Slow Children” have a picture of a running child?

Why do we sing Take me out to the ball game, when we are already there?

Why is the time of day with the slowest traffic called rush hour?

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“My friends accused me of being a hypochondriac, which made me think: What if I *am* a hypochondriac, in addition to all these other ailments I have?”

Jenny Wong

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An optometrist was instructing a new employee on how to charge a customer:

“As you are fitting his glasses, if he asks how much they cost, you say, ‘$75.’ … if his eyes don’t flutter, say, ‘For the frames. The lenses will be $50.’…”

“If his eyes still don’t flutter, you add, ‘Each.'”

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A prudent man will think more important what fate has conceded to him than what it has denied.

Baltasar Gracian

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A man goes to the doctor with a swollen leg. After a careful examination, the doctor gives the man a pill big enough to choke a horse. “I’ll be right back with some water,” the doctor tells him.

The doctor is gone awhile and the man loses patience. He hobbles out to the drinking fountain, forces the pill down his throat and gobbles down water until the pill clears his throat. He hobbles back into the examining room.

The doctor comes back with a bucket of warm water.

“Okay, after the tablet dissolves, soak that leg for at least 30 minutes.”

~~~

Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.

Doris Mortman

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

 Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Ah, Adventure!

Nothing will ever be attempted, if all possible objections must be first overcome.

Samuel Johnson

 

 I had a great morning yesterday when I met with a friend who is leading an important organization that is breaking out of their traditional role in order to better serve our community. What I really like about my friend is her willingness to rise above the “We have always done it this way,” syndrome. I can’t think of anything as exciting and rewarding then her going where no others have gone before.

The thing I admire about my friend and others like her is that they don’t spend time finding reasons why not to do something, rather they say why not try something new. Almost anyone can stay in the safe harbor, never venturing out, just doing the same thing today as they did yesterday and will do again tomorrow. Fortunately there are those who break the bonds of tradition and create better answers that benefit us all.

In my case I am too old to worry about embarrassing my self by stumbling, going the wrong way or making a mistake, and if the truth be known it is not so much what I accomplish as it is the fun of trying. Life can be unbelievably interesting for those that adventure out into unknown territory.

This poem by Edgar Guest does a good job of describing what I mean.

 The Things That Haven’t Been Done Before

 The things that haven’t been done before,

Those are the things to try;

Columbus dreamed of an unknown shore

At the rim of the far-flung sky,

And his heart was bold and his faith was strong

As he ventured in dangers new,

And he paid no heed to the jeering throng

Or the fears of the doubting crew.

 

The many will follow the beaten track

With guideposts on the way.

They live and have lived for ages back

With a chart for every day.

Someone has told them it’s safe to go

On the road he has traveled o’er,

And all that they ever strive to know

Are the things that were known before.

 

A few strike out without map or chart,

Where never a man has been,

From the beaten path they draw apart

To see what no man has seen.

There are deeds they hunger alone to do;

Though battered and bruised and sore,

They blaze the path for the many, who

Do nothing not done before.

 

The things that haven’t been done before

Are the tasks worthwhile today;

Are you one of the flock that follows, or

Are you one that shall lead the way?

Are you one of the timid souls that quail

At the jeers of a doubting crew,

Or dare you, whether you win or fail,

Strike out for a goal that’s new?

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“The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live.”

Leo F. Buscaglia

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Because an increasing number of people are having heart attacks while gambling, the big, high- class casinos are now equipped with sophisticated defibrillators. They are computer controlled to deliver the exact electric shock needed to revive a heart attack victim. That is, if you’re at a big, high-class casino. At the cheaper casinos downtown, they just drag you across the carpet and touch your finger to the doorknob.

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“From your parents you learn love and laughter and how to put one foot before the other. But when books are opened you discover you have wings.”

 Helen Hayes

~~~

Rabbi Morris has just resigned and Irving, the synagogue president, goes to visit him.

“Rabbi,” Irving says, “I’ve just heard the news. I’m really sorry that you’ve decided to leave us.”

“Don’t worry,” says Rabbi Morris, “you’ll have nothing to worry about. I’m going to recommend a successor whom I believe will be better than me.”

“But that’s exactly what’s worrying me,” says Irving, “your predecessor told me exactly the same thing.”

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There are several good protections against temptation, but the surest is cowardice.

Mark Twain

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YOUR CHURCH IS A REDNECK CHURCH IF…

The finance committee refuses to provide funds for the purchase of a chandelier because none of the members knows how to play one.

People ask, when they learn that Jesus fed the 5000, whether the two fish were bass or catfish, and what bait was used to catch ’em.

A member of the church requests to be buried in his 4-wheel-drive truck because “It ain’t never been in a hole it couldn’t git out of.”

High notes on the organ set the dogs on the floor to howling.

People think “rapture” is what you get when you lift something too heavy.

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Four things come not back–the spoken word, the sped arrow, time past, and the neglected opportunity.

Abbas Ibn al-Ahnaf

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She said: My husband is wonderful with our baby daughter, but often he turns to me for advice.  Recently, I was in the shower when he poked his head in to ask, “What should I feed Lily for lunch?”

“That’s up to you,” I replied.  “There’s all kinds of food. Why don’t you pretend I’m not at home?”

A few minutes later, my cell phone rang.  I answered it to hear my husband asking, “Yeah, hi, Honey.  Uh..what should I feed Lily for lunch?”

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There are worse things than getting a call for a wrong number at 4 AM . – Like this: It could be a right number.

~~~

Little Johnny told his mother that he had been playing postman.

“Postman? How could you do that when you had no letters?”

“Oh, I had some letters,” replied Johnny. “I was looking in your closet up in your room and I found a packet of letters tied up with a ribbon and I posted one under every door on the street!”

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“It’s not because things are difficult that we dare not venture.

It’s because we dare not venture that they are difficult.”

Seneca

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

 Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

 Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

 This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Let’s not just stand around

“The key to change… is to let go of fear.”

Rosanne Cash

 

I will be so glad to get our upcoming elections behind us. It is not that things are anywhere they need to be for far too many people. My problem is that the hour after hour of negative ads just feeds the fear folks have even if the negative ads have little basis in fact. If you are experiencing the same things I am you too must be dismayed by the level of negativity all around us these days. My greatest fear is that many of the people I know seem to be on the verge of giving into a belief that nothing will ever get better. If enough of us give up you can be sure that doing what needs to be done will be much more difficult.

Even though I worry I have faith in our resiliency and our traditional belief in ourselves. My hope is that those who have given up are only temporarily blinded to what each of us might do. It seems that those who angrily holler the loudest want to blame everyone else while wanting somebody else to fix the problems, they are of little help.

You and I can wait for everyone else to do something or we can get out there and do what we can ourselves. You would be surprised how often a lone individual who goes out on the point and starts to work is soon joined by others who see the value of what is being done and then come to lend a hand.

Quite awhile ago I got the following from consultant Jon Gordon. I hope you see in his message that each of us can enlist others in our efforts to rise above the fray and do something besides flailing against the wind. Here in part is what he suggests.

WAYS TO BEAT NEGATIVITY

1. Tell yourself a positive story. Life is a story. The story we tell ourselves and the role we play in that story determines the quality and direction of our life. Successful people are able to overcome adversity by telling themselves a more positive story than the rest. You may not be able to control the economy, but you can influence the outcome of your story.

2. Model yourself after success. Are there people in your industry succeeding today? Of course there are. Seek out those people in your industry and ask to meet with them. Learn from their advice and model their attitudes and actions. If they can succeed, so can you.

3. Focus on the important stuff. Tune out the negative voices and start making positive choices. Don’t focus on the negative things other people and the media are saying. Every morning ask yourself this question: “What are the three most important things I need to do today that will help me create the success I desire?” Then take action on those items.

4. Replace “have to” with “get to.” This simple word swap can change your mind-set and your approach to work and life. It turns a complaining voice to an appreciative voice, and acknowledges that life is a gift not an obligation. In reality, it’s not about what we have to do. It’s about what we get to do.

5. Refuse to participate in the recession. Professionals who’ve thrived during past recessions continued to go about business as usual regardless of market conditions. As others are paralyzed by fear, take the opportunity to charge forward.

6. Create a positive vision. Instead of being disappointed about where you are, make the decision to be optimistic about where you are going. Create a positive vision for your future. Vision helps you see the road ahead and it gives you something meaningful and valuable to strive towards.

8. Invite others on your bus. Invite colleagues to board your bus for a positive ride. Share your vision with team members and ask them to join you in making this vision a reality. Be a positive influence.

9. No more complaining. Abide by the “no complaining” rule. When you realize you’re about to complain, replace your thoughts and words with positive actions. Let your complaints help you identify what you don’t want so that you can focus on what you do want.

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“You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.”

Mary Manin Morrissey

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A lawyer was trying to console a weeping widow. Her husband had passed away without a will. “Did the deceased have any last words?” asked the lawyer.

“You mean *right* before he died?” sobbed the widow.

“Yes,” replied the lawyer. “They might be helpful if it’s not too painful for you to recall.

“”Well,” she began, “he said ‘Don’t try to scare me! You couldn’t hit the broad side of a barn with that gun.'”

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“Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday and avoiding today.”

Wayne Dyer

~~~

He said:

As a traffic safety consultant, I often gave talks on accident prevention.  One night after I spoke to a PTA group, the program chairperson thanked me profusely and gave me a check for fifty dollars.

“Giving these presentations is part of my job,” I said.  “Could I donate the money to one of your causes?”

“That would be wonderful!” she gushed.  “We have just the program that could use it.  We’re trying to raise money so we can afford better speakers.”

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“Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence.”

Robert Frost

~~~

Two Irishmen in a bar and one said to the other.

“Hey! Can you tell me what the date is please?”

“No idea.” says the other.

“But you’ve got a newspaper in your pocket,” he says.

“Sorry mate, its no use, it’s yesterday’s!”

~~~

“If All the World’s a Stage, I Want Better Lighting”

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A man entered a busy florist shop that displayed a large sign that read “Say It With Flowers.”

“Wrap up one rose,” he told the florist.

“Only one?”  the florist asked.

“Just one,” the customer replied.  “I’m a man of few words.”

~~~

“Pray to God but Keep On Rowing Toward Shore”

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Murphy’s Top 10 Laws Of Computing

1. When computing, whatever happens, behave as though you meant it to happen.

2. When you get to the point where you really understand your computer, it’s probably obsolete.

3. The first place to look for information is in the section of the manual where you’d least expect to find it.

4. When the going gets tough, upgrade.

5. For every action, there is an equal and opposite malfunction.

6. To err is human…to blame your computer for your mistakes is even more human, its downright natural.

7. He who laughs last, probably has a back-up.

8. The number one cause of computer problems is computer solutions.

9. A complex system that doesn’t work is invariably found to have evolved from a simpler system that worked just fine.

10. A computer program will always do what you tell it to do, but rarely what you want it to do.

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Do not follow where the path may lead.

Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

 Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

 Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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I can’t stay long, I have places to go.

The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking places.

Author Unknown

 

While having coffee yesterday a friend and I discussed how so many of us seem to get bogged down as we move along our life’s road. As we spoke my friend talked about how we sometimes convince ourselves that is easier to turn back, take a detour or just get off at the next intersection. I suggested that most journeys require perserverance and tenacity which is not always easy if we can’t see far enough ahead to understand we are making progress. Don’t get me wrong I am a big believer in starting out and making that detour or taking that other road if we have discovered along the way that they hold more promise.

I know one thing we never get anywhere if we don’t start and we will end up wasting our time if we don’t start with a plan to get somewhere. Sadly too many of us just start walking, hoping that we will like where we might end up. Asking these life travelers where they are going and they will often say that they don’t know.

My friend is in the process of building a dream, a dream that can be fulfilled by moving on towards it without getting bogged down. The secret is to keep going, if we stumble we just pick ourselves up and keep going. Those who get there seldom stop and go back and start over again, nor do they waste too much time on unnecessary side trips. These savvy life travelers know what they are looking for and while they may not always have a perfect road map they are not afraid to explore the land until they find the path. As life goes on it is worthwhile to ask the question of yourself, “Am I there yet,” and if the answer is no understand that resting too long may prevent you from ever getting there.

When I got home I found I had a message from Ralph Marston that I liked a lot, here is what he wrote:

Keep yourself in motion

Get moving and keep moving. Put momentum on your side. Even if you’ve made some mistakes, learn from them and keep moving. Even if you’ve been disappointed, transform that disappointment into determination and keep moving.

To be more creative, innovative and effective, get yourself in motion and keep yourself in motion. When you’re constantly and willingly stepping forward to meet each challenge, you create a powerful positive momentum.

Get yourself moving quickly and consistently. Keep yourself moving so those things that normally drag you down won’t be able to keep up with your progress.

Action is a great way to overcome doubt. Put your energy into action and you won’t have the time or the inclination for doubt.

Even making just a little progress is massively better than making no progress at all, and all those small advances will soon combine to form a major achievement. Keep yourself in motion and you’ll get yourself to exactly where you want to go.

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Nobody trips over mountains.  It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble.  Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain. 

Author Unknown

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A Jewish kid informs his father that he’s decided to join the army rather than go into business.

His father, distraught, inquires, “What kind of job could you have in the army?”

The young man replies, “Well, I start out as a private, but I could become corporal or sergeant.”

“Corporal…sergeant….” the father says, “that’s no business.”

“I could become a lieutenant or maybe captain,” the young man responded.

“Lieutenant…captain….that’s no business,” father said in disgust.

“OK dad”, he replied, “how about getting promoted to major, or colonel, or general.”

“Still no business!” the father insisted. “Where could you go after general?”

The son answered, “I could become field marshal.”

The old man says, “field marshal…that’s no business. Marshall Fields, now THAT’S a business.”

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Aim at Heaven and you will get Earth thrown in. Aim at Earth and you get neither.

C.S. Lewis

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Jim had an awful day fishing on the lake, sitting in the blazing sun all day without catching a single one. On his way home, he stopped at the supermarket and ordered four catfish.

He told the fish salesman, “Pick four large ones out and throw them at me, will you?”

“Why do you want me to throw them at you?”

“Because I want to tell my wife that I caught them.”

“Okay, but I suggest that you take the orange roughy.”

“But why?”

“Because your wife came in earlier today and said that if you came by, I should tell you to take orange roughy. She prefers that for supper tonight.”

~~~

I no longer need to punish, deceive or compromise myself.

Unless, of course, I want to stay employed.

~~~

In a small town, farmers of the community get together to discuss some important issues. About midway through the meeting, the wife of one of the farmers stands up and speaks her piece.

After she’s done, one of the old farmers stands up and says, “What does she know about anything? I would like to ask her if she knows how many toes a pig has!”

Quick as a flash, the woman replies, “Take off your boots sir, and count them yourself!”

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“In a word, I am always busy, which is perhaps the chief reason why I am always well.”

Elizabeth Cady Stanton

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An old blacksmith realized he was soon going to quit working so hard.  He picked out a strong young man to become his apprentice. The old fellow was crabby and exacting. “Don’t ask me a lot of questions,” he told the boy. “Just do whatever I tell you to do.”

One day the old blacksmith took an iron out of the forge and laid it on the anvil. “Get the hammer over there,” he said. “When I nod my head, hit it real good and hard.”

Now the town is looking for a new blacksmith….

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One of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears–by listening to them.

Dean Rusk

~~~

He said:

Last week my wife and I purchased a new computer. We ran into some difficulties while setting it up so we called the customer support phone number we found in the manual.

I picked up the phone and called the number. A man answered the phone and I explained the problem to him.

He began rattling off computer jargon. This confused us even more.

“Sir,” I said politely, “Can you explain what I should do as if I were a small child?”

“Okay,” the computer support guy said, “Son, could you please put your mommy on the phone?”

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If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.

Buddhist Saying

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun. 

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

 

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

 This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Ray’s out and about today

“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.”

Andre Gide

 

I have a fully loaded day away today so I will again test your recall with a Daily from another day.

Ray

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Ray’s Daily first published on October 21, 2002

My life is full of adventure, Kiwanis meetings and projects, a little writing, lectures at the senior center, and some volunteer activities. Pity my poor brother he never gets to do any of this, as you can see from the following satellite e-mail I got the other day.

 Dear Ray & Nancy,

Just a quick note to let you know we did leave Madagascar yesterday morning, the 17th, and have gone about 120 miles.  We had light winds yesterday and had to motor 8 hours, but the trades have now come back at 20 knots and we are going wing n wing at 6 knots.  Skies are clear, there’s a nice big moon, and all’s well.  1200 miles to go to Richards Bay, on the NW coast of South Africa. 

We have caught 2 fish since we left, one each morning, a wahoo first and then a yellowfin tuna (the best kind, like albacore).So we’re eating like kings out here.

Love to all, Paul and Susan

 Just he and his wife on a 35 foot sail boat, and this has been going on for more than 20 years. They use to sail exclusively in the South Pacific but now are working there way back to the United States, I would expect they will arrive sometime next year.

My wife and I would not survive even 20 weeks together in closed quarters, much less 20 years. She tried staying on a larger boat for a couple of days years ago, and that was enough for her for a lifetime.

~~~

A large volume of adventures may be grasped within this little span of life, by him who interests his heart in everything.

Laurence Sterne

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A man goes to the doctor and tells him that he hasn’t been feeling well. The doctor examines him, leaves the room and comes back with three different bottles of pills.

The doctor says, “Take the green pill with a big glass of water when you get up. Take the blue pill with a big glass of water after lunch. Then just before going to bed, take the red pill with another big glass of water.”

Startled to be put on so much medicine the man stammers, “Jeez doc, exactly what’s my problem?”

Doctor says, “You’re not drinking enough water.”

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“Never put off till tomorrow, what you can do the day after tomorrow.”

Mark Twain

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At a country-club party a young man was introduced to an attractive girl.  Immediately he began paying her court and flattering her outrageously. The girl liked the young man, but she was taken a bit aback by his fast and ardent pitch. She was amazed when after 30 minutes he seriously proposed marriage.

“Look,” she said. “We only met a half hour ago. How can you be so sure? We know nothing about each other.”

“You’re wrong,” the young man declared. “For the past 5 years I’ve been working in the bank where your father has his account.

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Good leaders guide the willing and persuade the stubborn.

~~~

Soon after our last child left home for college, my husband was resting next to me on the couch with his head in my lap. I carefully removed his glasses. “You know, honey,” I said sweetly, “Without your glasses, you look like the same handsome young man I married.”

“Honey,” he replied with a grin, “Without my glasses, you still look pretty good too!”

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“The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing – and then marry him.”

Cher

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Grandma Goldberg, a woman of 85, was slowly ambling down the street when she met her physician Dr. Cohen. Dr. Cohen, a dapper graying man in his early 60’s asked the elderly lady—“Mrs. Goldberg how are you feeling?”

For a long moment the woman gave the good doctor a terrible stare and then she said–“You ask me how I’m feeling! I’ll tell you how I’m feeling!! My legs hurt, my chest is sore, my heart is beating too fast and I can’t sleep!!! I have horrible headaches and stomach pains too!”

The good doctor looked at the elderly lady with compassion. “If you’re feeling so awful, why don’t you come and see me right away?”

Grandma Goldberg let out a sigh and said, “I was just waiting until I felt a little better.”

~~~

Q. What’s the most common cause of hearing loss amongst men?

A. Wife saying she wants to talk to him.

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A champion jockey is about to enter an important race on a new horse. The horse’s trainer meets him before the race and says, “All you have to remember with this horse is that every time you approach a jump, you have to shout, “ALLLLEEE OOOP!” really loudly in the horse’s ear. Providing you do that, you’ll be fine”.

The jockey thinks the trainer is mad but promises to shout the command. The race begins and they approach the first hurdle. The jockey ignores the trainer’s ridiculous advice and the horse crashes straight through the centre of the jump.

They carry on and approach the second hurdle. The jockey, somewhat embarrassed, whispers “Aleeee ooop” in the horse’s ear. The same thing happens — the horse crashes straight through the centre of the jump.

At the third hurdle, the jockey thinks, “It’s no good, I’ll have to do it” and yells, “ALLLEEE OOOP!” really loudly. Sure enough, the horse sails over the jump with no problems. This continues for the rest of the race, but due to the earlier problems the horse only finishes third.

The trainer is fuming and asks the jockey what went wrong. The jockey replies, “Nothing is wrong with me — it’s this bloody horse. What is he — deaf or something?”

The trainer replies, “Deaf?? DEAF?? He’s not deaf — he’s BLIND!”

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Wear sleeveless shirts!  Support your right to bare arms!

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Cheer Up!!!”

* The parachute company says you’ll get a full refund.

* They say the house didn’t float very far at all.

* Well, at least the operation was a partial success.

* The “National Inquirer” just loved those nude shots of you.

* With the lights dimmed, it looks almost normal.

* The District Attorney says he only has a few more questions.

* The reward for your capture has reached fifty thousand dollars.

* At least we never thought you were guilty like that Jury did.

* The insurance pays the full book value ($312) for your 1956 T Bird.

* Those Grand Juries always overreact. Don’t worry about it.

* The boss said while you’re sick, he’d do all your work personally.

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Gene the lawyer was walking down the street and saw an auto accident. He rushed over, started handing out business cards, and said, “I saw the whole thing. I’ll take either side.”

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Few will have the greatness to bend history itself. But each of us can work to change a small portion of events. And in the total of all those acts will be written the history of this generation.

Robert F. Kennedy

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

 Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

 Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

 This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

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