The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
Dr. Samuel Johnson
From time to time I get e-mail from author Mary Robinson Reynolds that strikes a chord. Today I wanted to share some thing from her that may be helpful to some of our readers. I often spend time with friends who are in a funk. Too often the funk turns into loneliness and sometimes despair. It breaks my heart to see friends who have so much to offer hide in their own private world reluctant to let others in.
Here is what Reynolds suggests to get over it.
Here are My Top 3 Steps to Popping Out of a Life Funk:
1 – About feeling alone: get out there and give something to somebody else! Call a friend and rather than talk about yourself, ask them about their day, their life, their worries. Listen, listen and listen some more and soon, you’ll feel like you Made A Difference in someone’s life today. Listen first to other people’s problems and get off your own. You will feel so much better so fast, and talk about self esteem, value and self worth …it’s exactly how you learn to feel better about yourself. If you feel depressed, it’s only because you don’t feel like you matter.
Don’t have any friends? Get out and get involved: churches or community services that help those more needy than you! I was a single mom for about 5 years, and to fill my loneliness, I got involved and volunteered at my church. It filled me in amazing, miraculous ways. Make A Difference in someone else’s life, and suddenly your life starts to make sense when you feel your purpose coming through you.
2- Stop putting your life on hold while you wait for other’s to mentor you. Get busy and start studying books that lift you up and show you the way. If money is an issue, then go to the Library. Do your part and people will show up for you – and give you emotional support and encouragement – because you are giving to other people. The Universe WILL take care of the details of what you need, but it is still up to you to go forward and get deliberate about the life you want to create for yourself and your beautiful daughter.
3- Accept that the only one who can abandon you, is you! The only one that can choose disappointment, is you. My suggestion for you is to begin immediately applying Compassion into every single area and event of your life experiences. Be compassionate with yourself, which is entirely different than giving even a second of a thought to deciding to be sad or disappointed.
A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.
The shipwrecked mariner had spent several years on a deserted island. Then one morning he was thrilled to see a ship offshore and a smaller vessel pulling out toward him.
When the boat grounded on the beach, the officer in charge handed the marooned sailor a bundle of newspapers and told him, "The captain said to read through these and let us know if you still want to be rescued."
I had amnesia once or twice. I think.
One night a wife found her husband standing over their newborn baby’s crib. Silently she watched him. As he stood looking down at the sleeping infant, she saw on his face a mixture of emotions; disbelief, doubt, delight, amazement, enchantment, and skepticism. Touched by this unusual display and the deep emotions it aroused, with eyes glistening she slipped her arms around her husband.
"A penny for your thoughts." she whispered in his ear.
"It’s amazing!" he replied. "I just can’t see how anybody can make a crib like that for only $46.50!"
TEAMWORK…means never having to take all the blame yourself.
"Things We Learn From Children"
- There is no such thing as child-proofing your house.
- If you spray hair spray on dust bunnies and run over them with roller blades, they can ignite.
- A 4 year-old’s voice is louder than 200 adults in a crowded restaurant.
- If you hook a dog leash over a ceiling fan the motor is not strong enough to rotate a 42 pound boy wearing pound puppy underwear and a superman cape.
- It is strong enough however to spread paint on all four walls of a 20 by 20 foot room.
- Baseballs make marks on ceilings.
- You should not throw baseballs up when the ceiling fan is on.
- When using the ceiling fan as a bat you have to throw the ball up a few times before you get a hit.
- A ceiling fan can hit a baseball a long way.
- When you hear the toilet flush and the words "Uh-oh," it’s already too late.
- If you use a waterbed as home plate while wearing baseball shoes it does not leak — it explodes.
- A king size waterbed holds enough water to fill a 2000 square foot house 4 inches deep.
- Legos will pass through the digestive tract of a four year old. Duplos will not.
- Play Dough and Microwave should never be used in the same sentence.
- Super glue is forever.
My idea of cleaning the house is sweeping the floor with a glance.
A stalwart Vermont farmer bought some land that was still just as it had been before the Pilgrims landed. He dug up hundreds of stones and built a fence; cut down trees to create a clearing; built a house and a small barn; cleared land for pasture, dug a well and over several years just generally worked his fingers to the bone in creating a small, neat, productive farm.
Eventually his pastor came out for a visit and marvelled rather fulsomely, and at great length, at all that "you and God have done together."
"Eh," the farmer said dubiously. "Ya shoulda seen the place when God ran it on his own."
A snooze button is a poor substitute for no alarm clock at all.
Haircuts–The difference between men and women
Woman 2: Oh! You got a haircut! That’s so cute!
Woman 1: Do you think so? I wasn’t sure when she gave me the mirror. I mean, you don’t think it’s too fluffy looking?
Woman 2: Oh Gosh, no! No, it’s perfect. I’d love to get my hair cut like that, but I think my face is too wide. I’m pretty much stuck with this stuff I think.
Woman 1: Are you serious? I think your face is adorable. And you could easily get one of those layer cuts–that would look so cute I think. I was actually going to do that except that I was afraid it would accent my long neck.
Woman 2: Oh–that’s funny! I would love to have your neck! Anything to take attention away from this two-by-four I have for a shoulder line.
Woman 1: Are you kidding? I know girls that would love to have your shoulders. Everything drapes so well on you. I mean, look at my arms–se how short they are? If I had your shoulders I could get clothes to fit me so much easier.
Man 2: Haircut?
Man 1: Yeah.
The best portion of a good man’s life: his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Indianapolis, Indiana, USA
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