“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.”
I am expecting to have a good week ahead I hope you will too. I even got a gift from an old friend already, she sent me a new friend that will meet tomorrow.
Last week I mentioned that a friend had said that I was always upbeat. In truth there are times when it is a little more difficult than it usually is. Just in case you like me need a kick start on your day you might find the following helpful. I have had to do some minor editing for space but have kept the good stuff.
Here are ways to stay optimistic during your most difficult hour:
Look at what can go right.
When things go wrong, our minds love to jump to conclusions and think of worst-case scenarios. We want to play out the worst possible outcome. This kind of catastrophic thinking isn’t useful. See what can go right for a change. Focus on what the best-case scenario can be.
Know that everything – good and bad – passes.
No matter how bad things are, they will pass. Has there ever been a life event or situation you’ve been in that hasn’t gone away? Either the situation will change, your perspective will change or your life will change. You’re not going to suffer forever. You will see happiness again.
Imagine the life you want to have.
One way to keep your head and spirits up is to imagine what’s possible. Instead of focusing on things you can’t do anything about (the past), why not envision the life that’s possible? Why not go about setting intentions and desires for the changes you want to see? Don’t let current circumstances dictate the future. No matter how bad it is, it can get better.
Treasure the moment in front of you.
While it’s best to release the past and envision the future, the ultimate place of being is the present. You’re fine right now. You’re fine in each instant you pay attention to. This is what’s called mindfulness. If you can be completely in the moment at hand, you won’t suffer the pain of the past or get anxious about the unknowns of tomorrow.
Remember what is working in your favor.
There may be things you can’t do anything about, but what is helping you? Who is part of your support system? How can something develop more positively? What are the lucky breaks that may resolve the situation? Having a positive and high-frequency attitude towards the way things are going to play out will help move circumstances in a positive direction..
Look for ways to give.
When you get caught up in your problems, you tend to focus on yourself and become preoccupied with what’s happening to you. A simple way to break this pattern of self-sabotage and ruminating on your problems is to do things for others. Help someone. Take a friend out for lunch. Call a family member who might need to hear from you. Buy someone a coffee. Do something nice for someone. Be an agent of generosity and kindness.
Use more empowering words.
The words we use reflect our thinking and our beliefs. The way you talk about a situation can impact how you see and feel about it. Talking too much about a negative life event or circumstance doesn’t help, either. Don’t spend hours sharing your negativity with everyone you know. Be mindful of your language and the words you use to describe the problems you’re facing. The more gentle you can be with your words, the better you will feel about the situation.
By Vishnu Subramaniam
“You’ll never find a rainbow if you’re looking down”
In a stationery store, I quickly picked out a card for my wife for our anniversary. The clerk was surprised by how little time it took me, and she began relating a story about another customer who spent a half-hour searching for the right anniversary greeting.
Noticing the man lingering over one card after another, the clerk went to see if she could help.
“Is there a problem?” she asked.
“Yes, there is,” he replied ruefully. “I can’t find one my wife will believe.”
I don’t suffer from insanity, I enjoy every minute of it.
Jamie asked his dad to explain the difference between irritation, aggravation, and frustration.
His father picked up the phone and dialed a number at random. When the phone was answered, he asked, “Can I speak to Rolf, please?”
“No! There’s no one named Rolf here,” replies the person who answered the phone.
The father hung up. “That, my boy, is irritation.”
He picked up the phone again, dialed the same number, then asked for Rolf a second time. “No, there’s no one here called Rolf. Go away. If you call again I’m calling the cops,” the person said.
The father hung up and said, “That’s aggravation.”
“Then what’s frustration?” asked Jamie. The father picked up the phone and dialed the same number a third time.
“Hello, this is Rolf. Have I received any phone calls?”
If at first you do succeed, try not to look astonished.
“Can people predict the future with cards?” Jessica asked Danny.
“My mother can,” Danny replied.
“Yes,” Danny told her, “she takes one look at my report card and can tell me exactly what will happen when my Daddy gets home.”
Did you know that the biggest sellers in the bookstores are cookbooks.
The second biggest seller is diet books about how not to eat what you’ve just learned how to cook.
This guy was sitting in his attorney’s office. “Do you want the bad news first or the terrible news?” the lawyer said.
“Give me the bad news first.”
“Your wife found a picture worth a half-million dollars.”
“That’s the bad news?” asked the man incredulously. “I can’t wait to hear the terrible news.”
“The terrible news is that it’s of you and your secretary.”
She said: I want to be like Barbie, that bitch has everything.
A new baby, when he was still in hospital, said to the little babe lying next to him, ‘I know I am a boy!’
The other baby said, ‘What! How DO you know that??’
‘Well, it’s under the blanket; I can show you…’
‘Show me! Show me!’
‘SSST! Wait till the nurses are gone…’
A few minutes later: ‘I can show you now. Watch!’
Slowly the baby lifted up his blanket, the other baby peeking under it. ‘Can you see it?’ The first one said,
‘You see it, down there?’
‘But WHAT should I see?’
‘I’m wearing blue socks!!’
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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