The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”
Michel de Montaigne
One of the things that makes each of us so special is our uniqueness. Each of us has our own personal attributes, challenges and style. Within ourselves is our persona that we not only show the world but what we also see when we look inward. It is disturbing to me that so many of us don’t place as much value on what we see as we should. That coupled with our failure to understand that we can improve what we are if we just recognize the power we have to make changes.
I hope you like yourself as much as I like you. Here is what a wise fifteen year old girl wrote about who so is and what she can be.
My Declaration of Self-Esteem
by: Virginia Satir
The following was written in answer to a 15-year-old girl’s question, “How can I prepare myself for a fulfilling life?”
I am me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There are people who have some parts like me but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone choose it.
I own everything about me – my body, including everything it does; my mind, including all my thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they might be — anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement; my mouth and all the words that come out of it — polite, sweet and rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud and soft; all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, and all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By doing so, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.
I know that there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for the solutions to the puzzles and for to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is me. This is authentic and represents where I am at that moment in time.
When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting, and invent something new for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me and therefore I can engineer me. I am me and I am okay.
“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.”
The junior executive had been complaining to his wife of aches and pains. Neither one could account for his trouble. Arriving home from work one night, he informed her, “I finally discovered why I’ve been feeling so miserable. We got some ultra-modern office furniture two weeks ago and I just learned today that I’ve been sitting in the wastebasket.”
Seen on a headstone in a Ribbesford, England, cemetery:
The children of Israel wanted bread, and the Lord sent them manna.
Old clerk Wallace wanted a wife, and the Devil sent him Anna.
A lawyer had successfully handled a difficult law case for a wealthy friend. Following the happy outcome of the case, the friend and client called on the lawyer, expressed his appreciation of his work and handed him a handsome Moroccan leather wallet.
The lawyer looked at the wallet in astonishment and handed it back with a sharp reminder that a wallet could not possible compensate him for his services. “My fee for that work, ” acidly snapped the attorney, “is five hundred dollars.” The client opened the wallet, removed a one-thousand dollar bill, replaced it with a five-hundred dollar bill and handed it back to the lawyer with a smile.
“Happy laughter and family voices in the home will keep more kids off the streets at night than the strictest curfew.”
At age 4 success is . . . not peeing in your pants.
At age 12 success is . . . having friends.
At age 16 success is . . . having a drivers license.
At age 20 success is . . . having sex.
At age 35 success is . . . having money.
At age 50 success is . . . having money.
At age 60 success is . . . having sex.
At age 70 success is . . . having a drivers license.
At age 75 success is . . . having friends.
At age 80 success is . . . not peeing in your pants.
She said, my mother is a typical Jewish mother. Once she was on Jury duty…
They sent her home. She insisted SHE was guilty.
What the Store-employees really mean…
- “Can I help you get a size?” Don’t touch that, I just spent an hour folding it and I don’t need your hands messing it up again.
- “Do you need help with anything?” Quick, my manager is coming around the corner and I need to look busy.
- “Welcome to <<Store Name Here>>” Good, another customer to mess up my entire store just to buy a pair of socks.
- “Have a nice day!” Now that you ruined mine
- “Thank you for shopping at <<Store Name Here>>” Thanks for emptying your wallet with us!
- “Do you need a shopping cart to help you carry your items?” The more you can carry, the more you can buy!
- “I love your shirt! Where did you get it?” Your shirt is much nicer than the clothes we sell here, why are you even shopping here?
- “Can I help you get something down?” I’ll get a ladder and put it up for you since this other nice customer put in the absolute wrong place.
- “Don’t worry about folding it, I can do it” You would just mess it up again if you folded it.
- “No, we don’t have any more in the back” I just don’t want to check
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”
Norman Vincent Peale
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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