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Know Yourself

The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”

Michel de Montaigne

be-yourself

One of the things that makes each of us so special is our uniqueness. Each of us has our own personal attributes, challenges and style. Within ourselves is our persona that we not only show the world but what we also see when we look inward. It is disturbing to me that so many of us don’t place as much value on what we see as we should. That coupled with our failure to understand that we can improve what we are if we just recognize the power we have to make changes.

I hope you like yourself as much as I like you. Here is what a wise fifteen year old girl wrote about who so is and what she can be.

My Declaration of Self-Esteem

by: Virginia Satir

The following was written in answer to a 15-year-old girl’s question, “How can I prepare myself for a fulfilling life?”

I am me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There are people who have some parts like me but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone choose it.

I own everything about me – my body, including everything it does; my mind, including all my thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they might be — anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement; my mouth and all the words that come out of it — polite, sweet and rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud and soft; all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, and all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By doing so, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.

I know that there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for the solutions to the puzzles and for to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is me. This is authentic and represents where I am at that moment in time.

When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting, and invent something new for that which I discarded.

I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me and therefore I can engineer me. I am me and I am okay.

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“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.”

Jodi Picoult

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The junior executive had been complaining to his wife of aches and pains. Neither one could account for his trouble. Arriving home from work one night, he informed her, “I finally discovered why I’ve been feeling so miserable. We got some ultra-modern office furniture two weeks ago and I just learned today that I’ve been sitting in the wastebasket.”

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Seen on a headstone in a Ribbesford, England, cemetery:

Anna Wallace

The children of Israel wanted bread, and the Lord sent them manna.

Old clerk Wallace wanted a wife, and the Devil sent him Anna.

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A lawyer had successfully handled a difficult law case for a wealthy friend. Following the happy outcome of the case, the friend and client called on the lawyer, expressed his appreciation of his work and handed him a handsome Moroccan leather wallet.

The lawyer looked at the wallet in astonishment and handed it back with a sharp reminder that a wallet could not possible compensate him for his services. “My fee for that work, ” acidly snapped the attorney, “is five hundred dollars.” The client opened the wallet, removed a one-thousand dollar bill, replaced it with a five-hundred dollar bill and handed it back to the lawyer with a smile.

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“Happy laughter and family voices in the home will keep more kids off the streets at night than the strictest curfew.”

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SUCCESS:

    At age 4 success is . . .  not peeing in your pants.

At age 12 success is . . . having friends.

At age 16 success is . . . having a drivers license.

At age 20 success is . . . having sex.

At age 35 success is . . . having money.

At age 50 success is . . . having money.

At age 60 success is . . . having sex.

At age 70 success is . . . having a drivers license.

At age 75 success is . . . having friends.

At age 80 success is . . . not peeing in your pants.

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She said, my mother is a typical Jewish mother. Once she was on Jury duty…

They sent her home. She insisted SHE was guilty.

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What the Store-employees really mean…

  1. “Can I help you get a size?” Don’t touch that, I just spent an hour folding it and I don’t need your hands messing it up again.
  2. “Do you need help with anything?” Quick, my manager is coming around the corner and I need to look busy.
  3. “Welcome to <<Store Name Here>>” Good, another customer to mess up my entire store just to buy a pair of socks.
  4. “Have a nice day!” Now that you ruined mine
  5. “Thank you for shopping at <<Store Name Here>>” Thanks for emptying your wallet with us!
  6. “Do you need a shopping cart to help you carry your items?” The more you can carry, the more you can buy!
  7. “I love your shirt! Where did you get it?” Your shirt is much nicer than the clothes we sell here, why are you even shopping here?
  8. “Can I help you get something down?” I’ll get a ladder and put it up for you since this other nice customer put in the absolute wrong place.
  9. “Don’t worry about folding it, I can do it” You would just mess it up again if you folded it.
  10. “No, we don’t have any more in the back” I just don’t want to check

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“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”

Norman Vincent Peale

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Are you enjoying life?

Live today, for tomorrow it will all be history.

enjoy-life

I recently was sent a piece from the Positively Present folks that I really like and want to share with you today. I am not going to do a rambling introduction as it is fairly long and speaks for itself.

How to Make Your Life Uncommonly Good

EXAMINE + ENGAGE IN LIFE

The first rule of living a good life is knowing how important it is to explore the world and be curious about your environment. We instinctively do this as children, but it should be a lifelong practice. You can’t live if a good life if you’re not really living. To me, this means both examining and engaging in life outside yourself (by playing games, making art, trying new foods, etc.), and also examining and engaging in your inner world too.

TRY TO WORRY LESS

Worry is, unfortunately, a part of life, but how much you worry — and what you worry about — can impact how good your life is. It’s important to try your best to worry only about the things you can control. Learning how to quickly identify what you can control vs. what’s out of your hands is one of the best ways to minimize worries. Someone living a good life knows she can’t control everything; she can control her reactions to everything.

CHERISH FRIENDSHIPS

As humans, we crave connection and affection. Whether you’re the type of person that has countless friends or you prefer a few close pals, friendship — and the connections and life lessons that come along with those relationships — are invaluable. No amount of wealth, power, success, fame or any other measure of success can beat the positive benefits of a good friendship. Someone living a good life knows to treasure and care for his friendships.

FOCUS ON TRUE JOY

In life there are plenty of things that make us feel good, but not all of those things should be the focus. Living a good life means avoiding shallow, meaningless, or fleeting pleasures and instead focusing on meaningful, deep joys that have lasting effects. For instance, consider the feeling of eating a giant slice of cake vs. the feeling of having an inspiring conversation. Both feel good in the moment, but the long-term impacts are very different.

KNOW WHO YOU ARE

Personally, I think this should be number 1! To live a good life, it’s essential to know yourself, to be self-reliant, to cultivate self-love. Equally as important is focusing on what’s true, not what’s convenient. Self-deception is all too common for many of us, but it does us no good to convince ourselves of things that are untrue. If you struggle this this rule, here are some good resources to check out: My Life Story So Far, Letters to My Future Self, Finding Your Self, Loving Your Self.

FIND BALANCE + HARMONY

As you might already know, too much of anything (even the good stuff!) can be a bad thing, which is why, to live a good life, it’s important to avoid excess. In all areas of life — home, relationships, love, work, etc. — it’s a good idea to strive for balance. Overindulging in the good stuff can lead to what I think of as a “happiness hangover,” but depriving yourself of fun (and a little bit of bad behavior!) it’s great either. Find what balance means for you and strive for that.

ADHERE TO POSITIVE VALUES

This rule really comes down to one basic concept: be a decent human being. When you’ve done wrong, accept responsibility. Whenever possible, be honest with yourself and with others. It’s vital to be accountable for your choices and actions. What you value is up to you, but figuring out those values and sticking to them throughout your life is one of the best ways to ensure you’re living a good life. (Also: be open-minded and, if need be, change your values as you grow and learn.)

PROSPER WITH CAUTION

With any luck, you’ll have an wonderful opportunity to prosper in this life, to flourish financially and achieve great success. If this happens (and I hope it does!), be cautious and thoughtful in your choices. I imagine it’s difficult not to get carried away, but one of the keys to living a good life is being rational with your resources (whatever those might be!). Many prosperous people become foolish and delusional. Personally, I think this is a great place to focus on gratitude over gains.

DO HARM TO NO ONE

This might sound like an obvious rule for a good life, but it’s an important one. To live well, strive to harm no one — including yourself. Hurting others hurts you too (even if, for whatever reason, you feel as if they deserve to be hurt). Speak with kindness, focus on forgiveness, have compassion, embrace empathy, and, above all, try to cultivate as much love as you can for your fellow humans. (I also recommend extending this rule to animals and nature, too!)

BE ENDLESSLY KIND

The last rule goes hand-in-hand with the previous rule. Kindness is mandatory for living a good life. Not only does kindness make the world a better place, but every time you’re kind, you feel good. Also, regardless of whether or not you believe in karma, if you pay attention to how kindness plays out in your own life, you’ll find that your kind deeds are often rewarded or returned in some way. Whether it’s something small — like sharing your water with your dog on a long walk or sending a friend a bag of cheer — or something huge, being endlessly kind will always lead to a better, happier life.

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If you do what you need, you’re surviving. If you do what you want, you’re living.

Unknown

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Jill and Nadine hadn’t seen each other in awhile, so they decided to meet for lunch.  The talk naturally got around to their respective love lives.  Jill confided that there really wasn’t anyone special in her life. Nadine, on the other hand, was beaming about the new man she had found.

“He’s perfect.  He’s handsome, and last night when we went out to dinner, he said the four little words I’ve been waiting to hear a man say to me!”

“He said ‘will you marry me’?” Jill asked.

Nadine replied, “No, he said ‘put your money away’

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Birthdays are good. The more you have, the longer you live.

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A guy about to tee off was approached by a man who held out a card that read, “I am a deaf mute. May I please play through?”

The first man gave the card back, angrily shaking his head, and saying, “No, you CANNOT play through.” He assumed the guy read lips so he mouthed, “I can’t believe you would try to use your handicap to your own advantage like that! Shame on you!”

The deaf man walked away and the first man whacked the ball onto the green and then walked off to finish the hole. Just as he was about to put the ball into the hole he was hit in the head with a golf ball that knocked him out cold. When he came to a few minutes later, he looked around and saw the deaf mute sternly looking at him, one hand on his hip, the other hand holding up four fingers.

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“The world is round, and the place which may seem like the end may also be only the beginning.”

Ivy Baker

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A terrific explosion occurs in a gunpowder factory, and once all the mess has been cleared up, and inquiry begins. One of the few survivors is pulled up to make a statement. “Okay Simpson,” says the investigator, “you were near the scene – what happened ?”

“Well, it’s like this. Old Charley Higgins was in the mixing room, and I saw him take a cigarette out of his pocket and light up.”

“He was smoking in the mixing room ?” the investigator said in stunned horror, “How long had he been with the company?”

“About 20 years, sir”

“20 years in the company, then he goes and strikes a match in the mixing room, I’d have thought it would have been the last thing he’d have done.”

“It was, sir.”

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Let life be an adventure. Live your life to the fullest, unfettered by fear of the ghosts and goblins of what might occur. Calamity and death happen as well to those who hide from life as to those who squeeze every drop of zest from it.

Jonathan Lockwood Huie

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Sometimes it is better to let go

Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.

Hermann Hesse

let-go

Yesterday I had breakfast with some of my favorite people who staff the Salvation Army operations. We discussed how there are more things we can do then time allows us to do. We recognized how hard it is to give up something or someone so we can do something that has greater potential for success. It is not easy to walk away from something that we have been doing for a long time; something that some people may think is an important part of our culture. Yet more often than not positive outcomes are just awaiting our commitment to pursuing them.

Many of us would find our lives much happier if we learned to give up on things that would allow us to do something else. In that vein I would like to offer the following piece, I don’t know who wrote it but it can help making letting go more comfortable.

To Let Go

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization that I can’t control another.

To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To let go is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to criticize, or regulate anyone, but to try to become what I dream I can do.

To let go is to fear less, and to love more.

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It’s easy to come up with new ideas; the hard part is letting go of what worked for you two years ago, but will soon be out-of-date.

Roger von Oech

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Once upon a time in Colorado, the chief of an Indian tribe, the Navajo’s, had a very beautiful daughter. She was of marrying age and many braves were wanting the daughter’s hand in marriage.

Being a wise chief, he decided that he wanted his daughter to marry the bravest and strongest and wisest brave of the bunch. So he held a contest. All the eligible bachelors were to go hunting. The brave that brought back the biggest and best ‘catch’ would be given the chief’s daughter in marriage.

A lot of braves turned out for this event. On Monday morning they all set out, bows and arrows in hand. Tuesday afternoon comes and all the braves had returned with their killings–except for three: Running Bear, Sitting Bull, and Falling Rock.

On Wednesday morning, Running Bear finally returns; bringing in a really big black bear, weighing 480 ponds and is 7 feet in length. Obviously, the chief was quite impressed. This was the best killing of all….so far. But, of course, they had to wait for the remaining two before he could award his daughter to Running Bear.

On Wednesday night, under a full moon, Sitting Bull returns to the camp and brings back a really big cougar: it’s even bigger than the black bear Running Bear came home with! The cougar weighed 620 pounds and was

7-1/2 feet long. Clearly, Sitting Bull was about to win the chief’s daughter in marriage.

Excitement rose within the camp. Everyone was pretty sure that Falling Rock would not be able to top Sitting Bull’s catch.

Thursday comes and goes. Friday came and went…..Saturday came and went……The weeks turn into months, and soon, the months into years, and still….Falling Rock did not return.

It was soon getting obvious, the aging chief could not wait forever for Falling Rock to return. So he granted his daughter to Sitting Bull.

There was much celebrating, after which the pair lived happily ever after.

The tribe no longer waited for the wayward brave, but they did keep their eyes open whenever they rode the trails—just in case.

And today? Well, you will still see in Colorado those signs that say…”Watch for Falling Rock”.

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CATS REGARD PEOPLE AS WARM-BLOODED FURNITURE.

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Bob, a 70 year old extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful and very sexy 25 year-old blonde who knocks everyone’s socks off with her youthful sex appeal and charm who hangs over Bob’s arm and listens intently to his every word.

His buddies at the club are all aghast. They corner him and ask, “Bob, how’d you get the trophy girlfriend?”

Bob replies, “Girlfriend? She’s my wife!”

They’re knocked over, but continue to ask. “So, how’d you persuade her to marry you?”

Bob says, “I lied about my age.”

His friends respond, “What do you mean? Did you tell her you were only 50?”

Bob smiles and says, “No, I told her I was 90.”

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In the beginning, there was nothing. God said, “Let there be light!” … And there was light. There was still nothing, but you could see it a whole lot better.

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Unable to attend the funeral after his Uncle, Charlie died. A man who lived far away called his brother and told him, “Do something nice for Uncle Charlie and send me the bill.”

Later, he got a bill for $200.00, which he paid. The next month, he got another bill for $200.00, which he also paid, figuring it was some incidental expense. But when the bills for $200.00 kept arriving every month, he finally called his brother again to find out what was going on.

“Well,” said the other brother, “You said to do something nice for Uncle Charlie… so I rented him a tuxedo!”

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I don’t mind that my grandson is earning more than I did on my first job.  What disturbs me is he’s just seven, and it’s his allowance!

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Setting off the alarm while passing through a metal detector at McCarran Intl. Airport in Las Vegas, a blonde traveler was asked by a security agent if she had any change.

“Gee,” the blonde says, turning towards her husband, I told you we should of gone to Florida instead…..everyone here expects to be tipped.”

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“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.”

JoyBell C.

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Doing what I can

The only pressure I’m under is the pressure I’ve put on myself.

Mark Messier

priorities

If you are like I am you often are trying to fit 29 hours of things you would like to do into a 24 hour day. Even though I am retired and manage my own time I still sometimes put more things on my things-to-do list than I can get done. Of course the answer is to triage the list, set some priorities and do some cutting. Unfortunately I find that it is often easier said than done.

In an effort to do better I have decided to take the advice offered by writer Marc Chernoff. Here are his recommendations.

Daily Mantras for Stealing Precious Time Back

The solution to our time-wasting tendencies is a long-term practice.  It is to ritualistically raise our awareness of how we presently manage – and waste – our time.  And that’s exactly what the seven mantras below (which are excerpts from our book and blog archive) are designed to do – they will compel you to steal your time back from those recurring time-wasting tendencies you’ve grown accustomed to.

Anytime you catch yourself wasting time for the sake of wasting it, remember…

1.The quality of your life in the long run directly depends upon how you set and respect your priorities today.

2.At times, you have to say “no” to good things to be able to say “yes” to important things.  You can’t do it all.  Be mindful and choose wisely.

3.“I don’t have time,” is really just another, perhaps politer, or perhaps naive, way of saying, “It is not that important to me.”

4.Don’t waste your time and energy fighting against where you are.  Invest your time and energy into getting to where you want to go.  And even if you have a good reason to be upset and resentful, let it go.  Channel your energy into thoughts and actions that actually benefit your life right now. 

5.Be present with what matters most.  There are few joys in life that equal a good conversation, a good story, a good laugh, a good hug, or a good friend.

6.Overcommitting is the biggest mistake most people make against living a happier, simpler life.  It’s tempting to fill in every waking minute of the day with to-do list tasks or distractions.  Don’t do this to yourself.  Leave space.

7.You should sit quietly for fifteen minutes today to gather your thoughts and review your priorities, unless you’re too busy, in which case you should sit for an hour.  Remember this.  The world is as you are inside.

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You don’t get ulcers from what you eat. You get them from what’s eating you.

Vicki Baum

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Be Careful, Your Sins May Find You Out. Have you ever told a white lie? Then you are going to love this. For all ladies who bake for church events.

Alice was to bake a cake for the church ladies’ group bake sale, but she forgot to do it until the last minute. She baked an angel food cake and when she took it from the oven, the center had dropped flat.

She said, “Oh dear, there’s no time to bake another cake.” So, she looked around the house for something to build up the center of the cake. Alice found it in the bathroom, a small roll of toilet paper. She plunked it into the middle of the cake and then covered it with icing.

The finished product looked beautiful, so she rushed it to the church. Alice then gave her daughter some money and instructions to be at the sale the minute it opened and to buy that cake and bring it home. When the daughter arrived at the sale, the attractive cake had already been sold.

Alice was beside herself. A couple of days later, Alice was invited to a friend’s home where two tables of bridge were to be played that afternoon. After the game, a fancy lunch was served, and to top it off, the cake in question was presented for dessert.

Alice saw the cake, she started to get out of her chair to rush into the kitchen to tell her hostess all about it, but before she could get to her feet, one of the other ladies said, “What a beautiful cake!”

Alice sat back in her chair when she heard the hostess (a prominent church member) say:

“Why thank you; I baked it myself.”

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You’ve got to continue to grow, or you’re just like last night’s cornbread–stale and dry.

Loretta Lynn

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By the time a Marine pulled into a little town, every hotel room was taken. “You’ve got to have a room somewhere,” he pleaded. “Or just a bed, I don’t care where.” “Well, I do have a double room with one occupant, a Navy guy,” admitted the manager, “and he might be glad to split the cost. But to tell you the truth, he snores so loudly that people in adjoining rooms have complained in the past. I’m not sure it’d be worth it to you.”

“No problem,” the tired Marine assured him. “I’ll take it.”

The next morning the Marine came down to breakfast, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed.

“How’d you sleep?” asked the manager.

“Never better.”

The manager was impressed. “No problem with the other guy snoring, then?”

“Nope, I shut him up in no time,” said the Marine.

“How’d you manage that?” asked the manager.

“He was already in bed, snoring away, when I came in the room,” the Marine explained. “I went over, gave him a kiss on the cheek, said, ‘Goodnight, beautiful,’ and he sat up all night watching me.”

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A perfect summer day is when the sun is shining, the breeze is blowing, the birds are singing, and the lawn mower is broken.

James Dent

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A woman was at home with her children when the telephone rang.  In going to answer it, she tripped on a rug, grabbed for something to hold on to and seized the telephone table. It fell over with a crash, jarring the receiver off the hook.

As it fell, it hit the family dog, which leaped up, howling and barking. The woman’s three-year-old son, startled by this noise, broke into loud screams. The woman mumbled some colorful words. She finally managed to pick up the receiver and lift it to her ear, just in time to hear her husband’s voice on the other end say, “Nobody’s said hello yet, but I’m positive I have the right number.”

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“I was trying to find stuff to talk about today, it was a slow news day, so I found this. On this day in 1492, Columbus set sail from Europe, looking for a sea route to India – and ended up in America. And ironically, if you make a call from Europe to a company in America today – it’s re-routed to India.”

Jay Leno

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The patrol officer stopped a motorist for a traffic violation.

Standing outside his expensive foreign car, the red-faced driver frantically waved his hands and jumped up and down. “I’ll have your job for this!” he shouted at the top of his lungs.

“Sir, you wouldn’t want my job,” replied the unruffled officer as he wrote out the citation. “The hours

are long, the pay is low, and you meet some of the nastiest people.”

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Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Important message from Laura

“When once the forms of civility are violated, there remains little hope of return to kindness or decency.”

Samuel Johnson

civilityworks

Here we go again a new week and the first Monday of autumn. I have a few exciting events that will take place this week as I spend time with old friends. I feel lucky that I know so many interesting people that share some of their time with me.

One of my favorites is my friend Laura who spreads warmth and kindness wherever she goes. She has had plenty of adversity in her life yet always rises above it. She is an occupational therapist who became my friend when she helped me after my stroke years ago. She also is a member of my Kiwanis Club. Just to help you get to know her better I am sharing a copy of the invocation she presented to our club a few weeks ago. I wish everyone would heed her call for civility.

My word for the day is “staunch” which means ‘being totally committed to something’.

I was raised in a home with staunch Republican parents and a close older friend of our family, Mildred, who lived with us for a few years – I was very close to her and considered her to be a grandmother – she was a staunch Democrat as well as a Catholic.  My parents belonged, and I regularly attended a Disciples of Christ Christian Church.  I would also, occasionally, attend the Catholic Church with Mildred.

I remember as a child trying to figure out the differences between the political parties and why the church that my parents took me to did not have saints – after all they seemed amazing!  As an adult, I am still working on figuring out politics and political parties!

In all of those years, I never remember anger or arguments over the differences in political or religious beliefs.  All that I remember was thoughtful conversations, love and a lot of respect. 

Today, we seem to live in a much different world.  People are quick to anger and not listen to each other.  There is a lot to try and figure out but for today, I pray that we may be open to each other’s ideas and beliefs, respectful when discussing our differences, and not threatened by them.

May we use kindness, insight and patience to help place others at ease as we talk.   Strength and respect can always find compromise.

By working together, may we find common ground that helps us to move forward with a shared purpose. May we focus on what is really important and what unites us.   Our shared purpose and what unites our group is “service”, and I feel blessed to serve with each and every one of you.  May each of us strive to be staunch Kiwanians. 

Amen

~~~

“As citizens we have to be more thoughtful and more educated and more informed. I turn on the TV and I see these grown people screaming at each other, and I think, well, if we don’t get our civility back we’re in trouble.”

Emmylou Harris

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She said, when I arrived for my daughter’s parent-teacher conference, the teacher seemed a bit flustered, especially when she started telling me that my little girl didn’t always pay attention in class and was sometimes a little flighty. “For example, she’ll do the wrong page in the workbook,” the teacher explained, “and I’ve even found her sitting in the wrong desk.” “I don’t understand that,” I replied defensively. “Where could she have gotten that?”

The teacher went on to reassure me that my daughter was still doing fine in school and was sweet and likeable. Finally, after a pause, she added, “By the way, Mrs. Johnson, our appointment was for tomorrow.”

~~~

“Practice Safe Food — Use Condiments.”

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A man had been driving all night and by morning was still far from his destination.  He decided to stop at the next city he came to, and park somewhere quiet so he could get an hour or two of sleep.

As luck would have it, the quiet place he chose happened to be on one of the city’s major jogging routes.  No sooner had he settled back to snooze when there came a knocking on his window.  He looked out and saw a jogger running in place.

“Yes?”

“Excuse me, sir,” the jogger said, “do you have the time?”

The man looked at the car clock and answered, “8:15”.

The jogger said thanks and left.  The man settled back again, and was just dozing off when there was another knock on the window and yet *another* jogger!

“Excuse me, sir, do you have the time?”

“8:25!”

The jogger said thanks and left.  Now the man could see other joggers passing by and he knew it was only a matter of time before another one disturbed him.  To avoid the problem, he got out a pen and paper and put a sign in his window saying,

“I DO NOT KNOW THE TIME!”

Once again he settled back to sleep.  He was just dozing off when there was another knock on the window.

“Sir, sir?  I’ve got the time…..it’s 8:45!.”

~~~

“I was walking the streets of Glasgow the other week and I saw this sign: ‘This door is alarmed.’ I said to myself: ‘How do you think I feel?'”

Arnold Brown

~~~

An old man and a young woman, who had never met before, found themselves assigned to the same sleeping room on a transcontinental train.

Though initially embarrassed and uneasy over sharing a room, the two retired and fell asleep quickly, he in the upper bunk and she in the lower.

At 1:00 a.m., he leans over and gently wakes the woman saying, “I’m sorry to bother you, but would you be willing to reach into the cupboard to get me a second blanket? I’m awfully cold.”

“I have a better idea,” she replies. “Just for tonight, let’s pretend that we’re married.”

“Wow! That’s a great idea!!” he exclaims.

“Good,” she replies. “Get your own damned blanket!”

~~~

I thought my Boss was a creep, and quit, to work for myself.

My new Boss is a creep, too … but at least I respect him.

~~~

Mary: Linda was just in here. She had something stuck over her mouth.

Jill: Yeah, she calls it her “diet patch.”

Mary: It looked like duct tape!

Jill: It is! And it has some wonderful side effects. In addition to being unable to eat, she can’t talk either!

~~~

“Of Course I Don’t Look Busy — I Did It Right the First Time.”

~~~

As I approached the church entrance a friend stepped aside and held the door for me.

“Thank you, Bill,” I said as I walked through.

“Is there a tip involved?”

“Oh, no, Mary Catherine,” he answered.  “My mother taught me never to be good for money, but always to be good for nothing.”

~~~

“Civility means a great deal more than just being nice to one another. It is complex and encompasses learning how to connect successfully and live well with others, developing thoughtfulness, and fostering effective self-expression and communication. Civility includes courtesy, politeness, mutual respect, fairness, good manners, as well as a matter of good health.”

Pier Massimo Forni

~~~

Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Don’t we all

Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.

Dr. Seuss

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I was at a lecture given by a friend of mine a couple of days ago where a discussion took place about how many of us are discontented. Some of the anxiety was blamed on the rhetoric that is taking place in our polarized society. Too many seen to find it easy to place blame on others for everything they don’t like.

The ensuring discussion ended in agreement that we would be better off if we believed that we need each other. If we understood that than we could see the need to start to talk to each with respect and in a civil manner that would allow us to find what can bring us together instead of what is driving us apart.

Each of us can touch another if only by offering a hand shake or a smile, If we can talk to each other then we can start to build together, Here is a story that reminded me that we all have the ability to make a difference.

Three Little Words

Author Unknown

One evening I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to finish work.  Coming my way from across the parking lot, was what society would consider a bum. From the looks of him he had no car, no home, no clean clothes and no money. There are times when you feel generous, but there are times that you just don’t want to be bothered. This was one of the don’t-want-to-be-bothered times!  “Hope he doesn’t ask me for money,” I thought.

 He didn’t. He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop and he didn’t look like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.  After a few minutes he spoke. “That’s a very nice car,” he said. He was ragged, but had an air of dignity around him.

 I said “Thanks,” and continued wiping off my car.  He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never came. As the silence between us widened, something inside said, “Ask him if he needs any help.” I was sure that he would say yes, but I held true to the inner voice.  “Do you need any help?” I asked.

 He answered in three simple, but profound, words that I shall never forget. We often look for wisdom in great accomplishments. I expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments. I expected nothing here but an outstretched grimy hand.  Then, he spoke three words that shook me. “Don’t we all?” he said.

I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus fare but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day. Those three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, we all need help.

 No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can GIVE help. Even if it’s just a compliment, you can give that!  You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all, yet in actuality they need you to give them what they don’t have – a different perspective on life, a glimpse of something beautiful, a respite from daily chaos – that only you, through a torn world can see.

 Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets. Maybe he was more than that. Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and wise to minister to a soul too comfortable in himself.

Maybe someone looked down, called an angel, dressed him like a bum, and then said, “Go minister to that man cleaning the car; that man needs help.” Don’t we all?

~~~

How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.

Anne Frank

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Members of the Methodist women’s church circle were concerned because a widowed church member and her three small daughters were staying away from services. Finding the reason to be a lack of suitable clothes, the ladies’ group corrected the situation in a generous manner; they held a bake sale and used the money to buy new clothes for all the children and the mother.

When the little girls still failed to appear at Sunday School, some of the ladies called to inquire about their absence. The mother thanked them sweetly for the clothing and explained…..”The girls looked so nice, we decided to go to the Presbyterian Church down the street.”

~~~

If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap.

If you want happiness for a day, go fishing.

If you want happiness for a month, get married.

If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune.

If you want happiness for a lifetime, help others.

Chinese Proverb

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Standing on the tee of a relatively long par three, a confident golfer said to his caddy, “Looks like a four-wood and a putt to me.”

The caddy suggested that he instead play it safe and hit a 4-iron, then a wedge, THEN a putt.

The golfer was insulted and proceeded to scream and yell at the caddy telling him that he was a better golfer than that and how dare he underestimate his game!

Giving in the caddy handed the gentleman the four-wood he had asked for. He then proceeded to top the ball and watched as it rolled about fifteen yards off the front of the tee.

Immediately the caddy handed him his putter and said, “And now for one heck of a putt…”

~~~

“John, I can see that all your buttons are sewed on perfectly. You must be married!”

“That’s right. Sewing on buttons was the first thing my wife taught me on our honeymoon.”

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At a dinner party, one of the guests, an obnoxiously loud young man, tried to make clever remarks about everyone and everything. He was served a piece of meat, he picked it up with his fork, held it up and smirked: “Is this pig?”

Another guest, sitting opposite, asked quietly: “Which end of the fork are you referring to?”

~~~

After you’ve heard two eyewitness accounts of an automobile accident, you begin to worry about history.

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The woman applying for a job in a Florida lemon grove seemed way too qualified for the job. ‘Look, Miss,’ said the foreman, “Do you have any experience in picking lemons?”

“Well, as a matter of fact, yes!” she replied. “I’ve been divorced three times!”

~~~

I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.

Edward Everett Hale

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Your best years

The universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.

Eden Phillpotts

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Yesterday wore me out as I attended a lecture and went to a presentation made by one of my doctors. I taxed both my brain and my stamina. And this morning I have a 6 AM meeting so rather than pretend I am lucid I am sending you a daily from ten years ago.

Ray’s Daily first published on September 2006

Yesterday I was interviewed by a reporter from the Indianapolis Star, our cities daily newspaper. He wanted to know my views on life after retirement. I shared with him my strong feeling that retirement can be the best time in a person’s life. It is a time when we no longer have to impress anybody; it is when we are free to do as we please within our physical limitations. We need to remember there are no rules for retirement; it can be whatever we want it to be.

Unfortunately I feel too many of us really don’t know ourselves well enough to plan what we might do. Many have trained and conditioned themselves to think we must live within a box just as we always have. Some of us think we will find happiness by doing what we and others have convinced us we ought to do instead of doing what would give us real pleasure.

If we are willing to invest in ourselves we can list everything that ever made us happy from the smell of a spring flower to a trip to some exotic location. In my case the list is always full, everything from a book I want to read to a trip to a country I have never visited before. If we are willing to do it, we can take our lists consolidate similar things, identify those things that make us happy and then get up and go do them. Our happiness is often found in places new to us, if you enjoy people you can go where they are, volunteer and start a new hobby, the collecting of new friends.

The reporter also asked me if senior’s recognition of their mortality affected their retirement attitude. While I said I could not speak for others I found that knowing life is finite and can’t go on forever provides us the choice of focusing on the end with fear and sadness or recognizing just how precious each day is. Each day is a gift box that can be filled with all kinds of wondrous things, a book, a smile, holding a child’s hand, hugging a loved one, packing for the next adventure, each brings meaning to the day and adds another memorable page to our history.

Mortality is somewhere out there in the future, while each sunrise brings a new day, and the day gives us the opportunity to celebrate life. If we only look out across the horizon we will never see the flowers at our feet.

~~~

“Those who danced were thought to be quite insane by those who could not hear the music.”

Angela Monet

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“Grandma, when you and Grandpa had your first baby, did Grandpa ever handle the middle-of-the-night feeding?”

“No. I always did that.”

“That must have been before you had women’s liberation.”

“No, it was before we had baby bottles.”

~~~

If the right man does not come along, there are many fates far worse.

One is to have the wrong man come along.

~~~

19 Sayings We’d Like To See On Office Posters

  1. Rome did not create a great empire by having meetings; they did it by killing all those who opposed them.
  2. If you can stay calm, while all around you there is chaos, then you probably haven’t completely understood the seriousness of the situation.
  3. Doing a job RIGHT the first time gets the job done. Doing the job WRONG fourteen times gives you job security
  4. Artificial intelligence is no match for Natural Stupidity.
  5. A person who smiles in the face of adversity probably has a scapegoat.
  6. Plagiarism saves time.
  7. If at first you don’t succeed, try management.
  8. Never put off until tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.
  9. TEAMWORK: means never having to take all the blame yourself.
  10. The beatings will continue until morale improves.
  11. Never underestimate the power of very stupid people in large groups.
  12. We waste time, so you don’t have to.
  13. Hang in there, retirement is only 50 years away!
  14. Never criticize someone until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes; that way, when you criticize them, you’re a mile away AND you have their shoes!
  15. A snooze button is a poor excuse for no alarm clock at all.
  16. When the going gets tough, the tough take a coffee break.
  17. INDECISION: is the key to FLEXIBILITY.
  18. Succeed in spite of management.
  19. Aim Low, Reach your Goals, Avoid Disappointment.

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“We are here on Earth to do good to others. What the others are here for, I don’t know.”

H. Auden

~~~

A man left for work one Friday afternoon. But it was payday, so instead of going home, he stayed out the entire weekend partying with the boys and spending his entire pay check.

When he finally appeared at home on Sunday night, he was confronted by his angry wife and was barraged for nearly two hours with a tirade befitting his actions. Finally his wife stopped the nagging and said to him, “How would you like it if you didn’t see me for two or three days”?

He replied, “That would be fine with me.”

Monday went by and he didn’t see his wife. Tuesday and Wednesday came and went with the same results. But on Thursday, the swelling went down just enough where he could see her a little out of the corner of his left eye.

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Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you will help them become what they are capable of becoming.

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

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Cowboy Joe was telling his fellow cowboys back on the ranch about his first visit to a big-city church. “When I got there, they had me park my old truck in the corral,” Joe began.

“You mean the parking lot,” interrupted Charlie, a more worldly fellow.

“I walked up the trail to the door,” Joe continued.

“The sidewalk to the door,” Charlie corrected him.

“Inside the door, I was met by this dude,” Joe went on.

“That would be the usher,” Charlie explained.

“Well, the usher led me down the chute,” Joe said.

“You mean the aisle,” Charlie said.

“Then, he led me to a stall and told me to sit there,” Joe continued.

“Pew,” Charlie retorted.

“Yeah,” recalled Joe. “That’s what that pretty lady said when I sat down beside her.”

~~~

“I’m dating a guy who’s twenty-one. That’s seven in boy years.”

Lisa Goich

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Morris needs a lawyer, so he grabs the yellow pages and picks out a law firm —Schwartz, Schwartz, Schwartz & Schwartz.

He calls up and says, “Is Mr. Schwartz in?”

The man says, “No, he’s out playing golf.”

Morris says, “All right, then let me speak to Mr. Schwartz.”

“He’s not with the firm any more, he’s retired.”

“Then let me talk to Mr. Schwartz.”

“He’s away in Boston, won’t be back for a month.”

“Okay, then let me talk to the other Mr. Schwartz.”

He says, “Speaking!”

~~~

“Every man dies – Not every man really lives.”

William Ross Wallace

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Never give up hope

Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.

Samuel Smiles

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I am often accused of being unrealistically optimistic and I probably sometimes am. I do find life on the bright side to be a much more pleasant place to be than wallowing in pessimism. The great thing about being optimistic is that it allows one to retain hope.

For me hope provides the foundation that allows us to deal with the most adverse situations in a positive manner. Many times what I have hoped for a sick friend did not materialize but being hopeful eased the pain of my friends. I would rather deal with the realistic events we all have to face sometimes in our lives with a positive attitude than by helping to fuel the fires of despair.

The great thing about hope is that it is the alternative to giving up. Too many folks end up losing because they gave up too soon. Yep, hope can even cure. Here is a story that can help us understand the value of hope.

Hope

William M. Buchholz, M.D.

As I ate breakfast one morning, I overheard two oncologists conversing. One complained bitterly, “You know, Bob, I just don’t understand it. We used the same drugs, the same dosage, the same schedule and the same entry criteria. Yet I got a 22 percent response rate and you got a 74 percent. That’s unheard of for metastatic cancer. How do you do it?”

His colleague replied, “We’re both using Etoposide, Platinum, Oncovin and Hydroxyurea. You call yours EPOH. I tell my patients I’m giving them HOPE. As dismal as the statistics are, I emphasize that we have a chance.”

~~~

Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul – and sings the tunes without the words – and never stops at all.

Emily Dickinson

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A fisherman from the city was out fishing on a lake in a small boat.  He noticed another man in a small boat open his tackle box and take out a mirror.  Being curious the man rowed over and asked, “What is the mirror for?”

“That’s my secret way to catch fish,” said the other man.

“Shine the mirror on the top of the water. The fish notice the spot of sun on the water above and they swim to the surface. Then I just reach down and net them and pull them into the boat.”

“Wow! Does that really work?”

“You bet it does.”

“Would you be interested in selling that mirror? I’ll give you $30 for it.”

“Well, okay.”

After the money was transferred, the city fisherman asked,  “By the way, how many fish have you caught this week?”

“You’re the sixth,” he said.

~~~

Any child who is anxious to mow the lawn is too young to do so.

Bob Phillips

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Neither snow, nor rain, nor heat will stop my fellow mail carriers and me from delivering junk mail.  One day, I delivered an envelope full of coupons to a home.  It was addressed to “The Smart Shopper at 729 Main Street.”

The next day the envelope was returned with this note scrawled on it: “Not at this address.”

~~~

The person who agrees with everything you say either isn’t listening to you or plans to sell you something.

Bud Holiday

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Some Jewish Curses

May your bones be broken as often as the Ten Commandments.

May God answer all your prayers – and then may he mistake your worst enemy for you.

May your husband’s father marry three times so you’ll have three mothers-in-law.

May all your teeth fall out –except one, so you can have a toothache.

May a child be named after you – soon.

May the heartburn after one of your meals be strong enought to heat your home.

May you grow like an onion – with your head in the ground.

and Last but not least

I wish you everything you wish me, and everything you’ll regret not having wished me after I’ve wished you everything I wish you.

~~~

“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”

George Bernard Shaw

~~~

The afternoon was drawing to a close, and the guests were getting ready to leave.

“Mrs. Goldberg,” said one of the ladies, “I just wanted to tell you that your cookies were so delicious I ate four of them.”

“You ate five,” replied the hostess, “But who’s counting?”

~~~

“Sometimes I wonder whether the world is being run by smart people who are putting us on or by imbeciles who really mean it.”

Mark Twain

~~~

A gal bought a brand new Car and decided to drive down from some place far off, to meet this friend. She reached there in a few hours. After spending a few days there, she decided to return, and called up her mother to expect her in the evening. But she didn’t reach home in the evening and not the next day either. When she finally reached home on the third day, her distraught mother ran and asked her “What Happened?”

She got out, obviously very tired from a long journey, and said, “Oh, these car designers, these people are crazy! They have four gears for going forward, but only one for going back!”

~~~

I shall always decide not to decide, unless of course I decide to change my mind.

~~~

A Duke was hunting in the forest with his men-at-arms and servants when he came across a tree. Upon it, archery targets were painted and smack in the middle of each was an arrow.

“Who is this incredibly fine archer?” cried the duke. “I must find him!”

After continuing through the forest for a few miles he came across a small boy carrying a bow and arrow. Eventually the boy admitted that it was he who shot the arrows plumb in the center of all the targets.

“You didn’t just walk up to the targets and hammer the arrows into the

middle, did you?” asked the duke worriedly.

“No my lord. I shot them from a hundred paces. I swear it by all that I hold holy.”

“That is truly astonishing,” said the duke. “I hereby admit you into my service.” The boy thanked him profusely.

“But I must ask one favor in return,” the duke continued.

“You must tell me how you came to be such an outstanding shot.”

“Well,” said the boy, “first I fire the arrow at the tree……and then I paint the target around it.”

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You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world’s problems at once but don’t ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.

Michelle Obama

~~~

Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Like Yourself

Expecting perfection inevitably leads to disappointment.

Kemmy Nola

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I sometimes think that we are our own worst enemy. Some of us have been so conditioned to strive for perfection that we are bound to regular self-criticism for our failure to reach unrealistic goals. The most effective people I know, and also the happiest are those who do not get bogged down in an excessive commitment to never making a mistake, they get on with the job and make corrections if needed along the way.

The people who understand that alright really is alright get things done and are happy in the process while the perfectionists struggle to get much accomplished while blaming themselves for their lack of success.

Here are some tips on how you can be more effective and happier with what you accomplish.

Go Easy on Yourself: 4 Tips to Help You Do What Matters in a Self-Kind Way

by Henrik Edberg

Here are 4 tips that helped me to become kinder towards myself, to get more of the most important things done and to feel better about myself and my life.

Remind yourself of the negative effects of this attitude.

To just remind yourself of how damaging being hard on yourself has been is in my experience a very effective way to replace the old habit with going easier on yourself.

Go for more human and smarter standards for yourself.

Movies, books and the people around you may push standards on you that are just pure fantasy or some kind of perfect dream. But life is life, not a fantasy or dream and to set such extremely high standards that no one can live up to just leads to what you may see as failure and disappointment in yourself and in your life.

Instead, relax a bit and accept that everything and everyone has flaws and things don’t always go as planned. Accept that you can still improve things but they will never be perfect. And realize that you won’t be rejected if things or you aren’t perfect. At least not by reasonably well-balanced human beings, like most people actually are in reality.

Focus on the positive and helpful feedback in setbacks.

It is very common to be hard on yourself when you make a mistake or fail. But it is also a very destructive habit because it can magnify one such event into something that makes you feel depressed for weeks or makes you quit altogether. So when you are hard on yourself for a failure or mistake then relax a bit and go a bit easier on yourself. Remind yourself of why this is a much better strategy to keep the motivation and self-esteem up.

And ask yourself:

  • What is one thing I can I learn from this situation?
  • How can I use what I learn from this to not make the same mistake again and to move forward in a smarter way?

Celebrate your small steps of progress.

If you are in the habit of only celebrating when you reach a big milestone or a perfect moment or two then you may lose your motivation and feel like you are never happy or arriving where you want to be.

So make a habit of celebrating your small daily and weekly successes too.

This will help you to keep the soul-tiring monotony away and help you to stay enthusiastic instead of getting more and more unmotivated until you may even consider quitting halfway to that big milestone.

~~~

Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.

Marilu Henner

~~~

John, went into a convenience store to prepay for gasoline and returned with two plastic bottles of soda.

As he filled the tank, his wife opened a bottle. To her dismay it fizzed and foamed all over her lap.

Several miles down the road, John asked for his soda. Handing it to him, She warned, “Be careful. These are really over-carbonated.”

But when John opened his bottle, it barely hissed.

Eyes on the road, he nonchalantly said, “You must have gotten the one I dropped.”

~~~

A smart husband buys his wife very fine china so she won’t trust him to wash it.

~~~

A vacationer e-mailed a seaside hotel to ask its location. “It’s only a stone’s throw away from the beach,” he was told.

“But how will I recognize it?” asked the man.

The reply was, “It’s the one with all the broken windows.”

~~~

An attitude is contagious.  Is yours worth catching?

~~~

A man approaches a very beautiful woman in a large supermarket and says,

“You know, I’ve lost my wife somewhere in this huge supermarket. Can you stay right here and talk to me for a couple of minutes?”

“Why?” she asks, suspiciously eyeing the guy.

“Because….. every time I talk to a beautiful woman, my wife suddenly appears out of nowhere, and right now I’m tired of looking for her!”

~~~

She told me “I got rid of my husband. The cat was allergic.”

~~~

A golfer asked his friend, “Why are you so late?”

The friend replied, “It’s Sunday.  I had to toss a coin between going to church or playing golf and it took 25 tosses to get it right!”

~~~

Curiosity killed the cat, but for a while I was a suspect.

Steven Wright

~~~

A flight attendant for a major airline, watched one day as a passenger

hopelessly overloaded with bags tried to stuff his belongings in the

overhead bin of the plane. Finally, she informed him that he would have to

check the oversized luggage. “When I fly other airlines,” he said

irritably, “I never have this problem.” She smiled and said, “Sir, when you

fly other airlines, I don’t have this problem either.”

~~~

“Sometimes it is not right to wait for the right train. Take any train instead of rotting at the station! In other words, be realistic!”

Mehmet Murat ildan

~~~

Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

The world did not end

“Simply being alive is the greatest blessing we can enjoy.”

Rene Dubos.

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Over the years I have often found myself saying at a time of adversity that “the world did not end and this too will pass.” And almost always believing that has freed me from the anxiety that so often accompanies negative events. Unfortunately far too many of us pile on mountains of stressful moments letting things of little consequence overwhelm us. Trust me when something goes wrong the world will pay little attention, the sun will rise tomorrow and bring with it new opportunities to make things better.

Here is a story that offers how wise patience is in life.

We’ll See

Author Unknown

     Once upon a time, there was a farmer in the central region of China. He didn’t have a lot of money and, instead of a tractor, he used an old horse to plow his field.

     One afternoon, while working in the field, the horse dropped dead. Everyone in the village said, “Oh, what a horrible thing to happen.” The farmer said simply, “We’ll see.” He was so at peace and so calm, that everyone in the village got together and, admiring his attitude, gave him a new horse as a gift.

     Everyone’s reaction now was, “What a lucky man.” And the farmer said, “We’ll see.”

     A couple days later, the new horse jumped a fence and ran away. Everyone in the village shook their heads and said, “What a poor fellow!”

     The farmer smiled and said, “We’ll see.”

     Eventually, the horse found his way home, and everyone again said, “What a fortunate man.”

     The farmer said, “We’ll see.”

     Later in the year, the farmer’s young boy went out riding on the horse and fell and broke his leg. Everyone in the village said, “What a shame for the poor boy.”

     The farmer said, “We’ll see.”

     Two days later, the army came into the village to draft new recruits. When they saw that the farmer’s son had a broken leg, they decided not to recruit him.

     Everyone said, “What a fortunate young man.”

     The farmer smiled again – and said “We’ll see.”

     Moral of the story: There’s no use in overreacting to the events and circumstances of our everyday lives. Many times what looks like a setback, may actually be a gift in disguise. And when our hearts are in the right place, all events and circumstances are gifts that we can learn valuable lessons from.

     As Fra Giovanni once said:

     “Everything we call a trial, a sorrow, or a duty, believe me… the gift is there and the wonder of an overshadowing presence.”

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Courage doesn’t always roar.  Sometimes courage is the quiet voice  at the end of the day, saying,  “I will try again tomorrow.”

Mary Anne Radmacher

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Jack and Jill were watching a TV show one night where the wife hired a private detective to follow her husband to see if he was “cheating” on her.

Jack asked, “Would you ever do that?”

Jill said, “Well not so much to find out who the other woman was, but to see if I could find out what she saw in you.”

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Don’t ask me why, but old women, for some reason, just don’t look right to me when I see them in a thong or using cell phones.

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Drivers

One hand on wheel, one hand on horn: Chicago

One hand on wheel, one finger out window: New York

One hand on wheel, one hand on newspaper, foot solidly on accelerator: Boston

One hand on wheel, cradling cell phone, brick on accelerator: California. With gun in lap: L.A.

Both hands on wheel, eyes shut, both feet on brake, quivering in terror: Ohio, but driving in California.

Both hands in air, gesturing, both feet on accelerator, head turned to talk to someone in back seat: Italy.

One hand on latte, one knee on wheel, cradling cell phone, foot on brake, mind on game: Seattle.

One hand on wheel, one hand on hunting rifle, alternating between both feet being on the accelerator and both on the brake, throwing a McDonalds bag out the window: Texas city male.

One hand on wheel, one hand hanging out the window, keeping speed steadily at 70 mph, driving down the center of the road unless coming around a blind curve, in which case they are on the left side of the road: Texas country male.

One hand constantly refocusing the rear-view mirror to show different angles of the BIG hair, one hand going between mousse, brush, and rat-tail to keep the helmet hair going, both feet on the accelerator, poodle steering the car, chrome .38 revolver with mother of pearl inlaid handle in the glove compartment: Texas female.

Both hands on steering wheel in a relaxed posture, eyes constantly checking the rear-view mirror to watch for visible emissions from their own or another’s car: Colorado.

One hand on steering wheel, yelling obscenities, the other hand waving gun out the window and firing repeatedly, keeping a careful eye out for landmarks along the way so as to be able to come back and pick up any bullets that didn’t hit other motorists so as not to litter: Colorado resident on spotting a car with Texas plate.

Four wheel drive pickup truck, shotgun mounted in rear window, beer cans on floor, squirrel tails attached to antenna: West Virginia male.

Junker, driven by someone who previously had a nice car and who is now wearing a barrel: Las Vegas.

Two hands gripping wheel, blue hair barely visible above window level, driving 35 on the interstate in the left lane with the left blinker on: Florida “seasoned citizen” driver, also known as “no-see-um.”

Two hands on the wheel, driving forty-five in a seventy mph zone in the left lane, with the left turn signal on, and making a right turn: New Mexico resident.

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Beware the barrenness of a busy life.

Socrates

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Have you noticed that we talk about certain things only when they are absent? Have you ever seen a horseful carriage or a strapful gown? Met a sung hero or experienced requited love? Have you ever run into someone who was combobulated, gruntled, ruly or peccable? And where are all those people who ARE spring chickens or who would ACTUALLY hurt a fly?

You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which an alarm clock goes off by going on.

English was invented by people, not computers, and it reflects the creativity of the human race (which, of course, isn’t a race at all). That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible. And why, when I wind up my watch, I start it, but when I wind up this essay, I end it.

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My mama always said we were put on this earth to help others. My question is, what are the others here for?

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I recently saw a distraught young lady weeping beside her car. “Do you need some help”? I asked.

She replied, “I knew I should have replaced the battery in this remote door unlocker. Now I can’t get into my car. Do you think they (pointing to a distant convenience store) would have a battery for this”?

“Hmmm, I dunno. Do you have an alarm, too”? I asked.

“No, just this remote thingy,” she answered, handing it and the car keys to me.

As I took the key and manually unlocked the door, I replied, “Why don’t you drive over there and check about the batteries. It’s a long walk.”

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“Be glad of  life, because it gives you the chance to love and to work and to play and to look up at the stars.”

Henry Van Dyke

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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