We can’t let it get us down
Good humor is the health of the soul, sadness is its poison.
January has not been that much fun as I have had a couple of old friends and a favorite family member pass away. If that was not enough I also have a couple of friends who are critically ill. My wife and my medical issues pale by comparison but have left us less mobile than normal. It is not always easy to stay upbeat when those you care about those have reached the end of life’s journey but it does little good to let grief take you down.
With all the losses I thought an article from the Positively Present blog just received was timely and helpful. Here are some of the suggestions it offers. You might want to save them in your mental medicine cabinet to use if tragedy strikes.
Feeling sad? Try these quick pick-me-ups!
Whether you’re going through a sad situation (a loss, a break-up, etc.) or you’re just having a bit of a down day, these are some of the best ways I’ve found to feel a little happier when I’m feeling low. If you have any other tips or tricks you use when you’re feeling sad, I’d love to hear them in the comments section below!
WRITE YOURSELF A LOVE LETTER
Self-love is a great place to start when you’re having a down day. Take a few minutes to write up a letter to yourself about all of the reasons you’re awesome. This might sound like vanity or excessive self-pride, but it’s actually really helpful when you’re feeling sad. It shifts your focus from what’s wrong to what’s right. (If you find it too hard to write a love letter to yourself, give a gratitude list a try. Gratitude is a great way to focus on happiness!)
TAKE A NAP
While I’m not a big nap-taker personally, I know there’s a lot of science that says a well-timed nap can make you feel a lot better (particularly if you’re sleep-deprived, something that can happen when your feeling sad or stressed). Even if you don’t love naps, give yourself time to rest and relax. Sadness — even just a little dip in your mood — can be exhausting, and you deserve a nice little rest. When you’re sad, give yourself permission to take time for rest.
TREAT YOUR SELF
Inspired by this episode of Parks & Recreation, one thing you can try when you’re feeling bad is give yourself a little treat. Go grab a favorite scoop of ice cream, order a pizza, schedule a spa day, buy yourself a new book — whatever it is you love, treat yourself to it! Of course, sadness can’t be bought (or eaten…) away, but I’ve found that it’s really nice to have a little treat when I’m feeling sad.
CALL A FRIEND
One of the absolute best ways to cheer yourself up when you’re sad is calling a good (and positive!) friend. You know that person who always knows how to find the good in a situation? Or the one that makes you feel like a rockstar when you’re down? Call him or her up for a chat — and a mood boost. Another great option is to create a connection with someone positive. Check out the Happiness Amplification Project to learn more about increasing happiness.
TAKE A WALK
Another way to break the rumination cycle is to go for a walk. Take a turn around the block, visit a local park, or go for a power-walk at your local mall. It doesn’t matter where you walk — just get out of where you’ve been feeling sad and experience a new environment (with a little light exercise thrown in!). Add a soundtrack if you like (like my Relaxing Walk playlist) to keep excessive rumination at bay.
READ A GOOD BOOK
Nothing feels quite as wonderful as good book (at least, if you’re a book nerd like me!). A really captivating book can take your mind away from your sadness and allow you to focus on a story that’s far away from wherever you are. Choose a genre that really appeals to you and set aside some quite, alone time to spend turning pages and becoming absorbed in someone else’s words. You can check out what I’m reading on GoodReads (and check out my book here!).
LOOK AT THE BIG PICTURE
The absolute best thing you can do for yourself when you’re sad is focusing on the big picture. Whatever’s causing your sadness might feel overwhelming and all-encompassing at the moment, but it will get easier to cope with in time. In most cases, what’s got you down today won’t matter in a year — or even in a month. And even if it will, the pain will lessen as time goes on. Also, I’ve found it helpful to look up at the stars and realize just how small I am in this crazily huge universe. It helps, I promise.
Like it or not, sadness is part of life. We all have our down days. We all have the moments that break our hearts, the times when we just feel like crying. But there are lots of little things you can do to help yourself cope with sadness. The tips I’ve listed above are useful for bouts of heartache or a bit of post-holiday blues. If you think you might be suffering from serious sadness or depression, please reach out to a loved one or a therapist and seek help. We can be happy every moment of our lives, but we all deserve as much happiness as possible. If you’re just feeling a little down, hang in there. You’re not alone — and it will get easier!
Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.
The child comes home from his first day at school.
His mother asks, “Well, what did you learn today?”
The kid replies, “Not enough. They want me to come back tomorrow.”
Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you don’t have a leg to stand on.
A DC-10 had an exceedingly long roll out after landing when his approach speed was just a little too fast.
San Jose Tower: “American 751 heavy, turn right at the end, if able. If not able, take the Guadeloupe exit off of Highway 101 and make a right at the light to return to the airport.
There are very few personal problems that cannot be solved through a suitable application of high explosives.
He went to United Airlines and asked for a reservation from Los Angeles to New York. The clerk knew that the plane was very full with baggage and passengers.
“How much do you weigh, Sir?” asked the clerk.
“With or without clothes?” the passenger asked.
“Well,” said the clerk, “how do you intend to travel?”
Grandchildren are God’s reward for not killing your children.
A young man decided to join the police force. As a recruit he was asked during the exam, “What would you do if you had to arrest your own mother?”
He answered, “Call for backup.”
“We are not retreating – we are advancing in another direction.”
General Douglas MacArthur
Jack and Jill were watching a TV show one night where the wife hired a private detective to follow her husband to see if he was “cheating” on her.
Jack asked, “Would you ever do that?”
Jill said, “Well not so much to find out who the other woman was, but to see if I could find out what she saw in you.”
Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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