"I had found a kind of serenity, a new maturity… I didn’t feel better or stronger than anyone else, but it seemed no longer important whether everyone loved me or not–more important now was for me to love them. Feeling that way turns your whole life around; living becomes the act of giving."
Good news, my tests went well yesterday they found no blockage so no heart surgery is required. So the mystery of Ray’s periodic energy crashes continues with more Doc’s in the queue waiting their turn. But I am back, can start driving tomorrow and on with the show.
I really like what Beverly Sills said. As the years have gone by I have learned that attrempting to make everyone happy by trying to do what you think they would like you to do or trying to be something your not is a slippery slope leading to misfortune and unhappiness. I think we benefit when we achieve a balance of self confidence, tolerance, forgiveness, understanding and humor while avoiding excessive efforts to judge others.
I am not saying that I am capable of liking everyone, I’m not, but I am capable of rising above any feeling of need or responsibility to judge or change them. But more often than not I find that the flaws I see or imagine in someone is only on the surface and that underneath rests a person who relishes understanding while hiding much that is worthwhile.
I, like most people do like to be liked but only if it is for what I am and not what I may appear to be. Once I started to understand that I had the power to rebuild broken relationships by simply not being part of the problem wonderful things happened. I find the reward that comes from shared experiences and genuine concern for others is worth more than almost anything else in life.
I hope I have convinced you to tolerate my flaws, forgive my missteps and allow me to continue to benefit from our friendship.
In the same spirit I would like to share this story about an act of kindness that was written by Veronica Hay, inspirational writer and publisher of A Magazine of People and Possibilities.
A friend called me recently to tell me that one of her daughter’s teachers had committed suicide. Needless to say, everyone involved was extremely upset by this.
Many looked upon this as a selfish act on the part of the teacher. I thought to myself how quick we are to judge another after the fact. And how terribly slow we are to recognize the walking wounded all around us.
The news of this teacher’s suicide reminded me of a story I read about an elderly woman who had decided to take her life one morning, but someone had stopped to feed the pigeons with her in the park and the kindness of that one stranger changed her mind and saved her life. We never know what is in another person’s heart. What level of pain they may be going through. And in some cases, the pain may be so great that living no longer seems an option to them.
We may never know the sometimes immense consequences upon another, of an unkind word, a thoughtless deed, or a hasty decision made from an unexamined heart.
Each day, everyone of us, has a new opportunity to make a huge difference in this world. If I had one dream for humanity, it would be that tomorrow morning we would all wake up with amnesia. We would then see the world for the first time, with new eyes, the way a new born baby sees it, except that we would be in a grown up body.
We would have no conception of what was considered beautiful or good or important according to society’s ridiculous standard of worth. Everything and everyone would be a blessed opportunity for us, just the way they are.
Life would be waiting with another possibility to be all that we could be. Another opportunity to practice the gift of kindness in every moment. Another chance to rise above our mere mortal existence and for that one grand moment in time to walk among the gods. Another day to love.
"Spread love everywhere you go: First of all in your own house… let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile."
The junior executive had been complaining to his wife of aches and pains. Neither one could account for his trouble. Arriving home from work one night, he informed her, "I finally discovered why I’ve been feeling so miserable. We got some ultra-modern office furniture two weeks ago and I just learned today that I’ve been sitting in the wastebasket."
Seen on a headstone in a Ribbesford, England, cemetery:
The children of Israel wanted bread, and the Lord sent them manna.
Old clerk Wallace wanted a wife, and the Devil sent him Anna.
A lawyer had successfully handled a difficult law case for a wealthy friend. Following the happy outcome of the case, the friend and client called on the lawyer, expressed his appreciation of his work and handed him a handsome Moroccan leather wallet.
The lawyer looked at the wallet in astonishment and handed it back with a sharp reminder that a wallet could not possible compensate him for his services. "My fee for that work, " acidly snapped the attorney, "is five hundred dollars." The client opened the wallet, removed a one-thousand dollar bill, replaced it with a five-hundred dollar bill and handed it back to the lawyer with a smile.
"Happy laughter and family voices in the home will keep more kids off the streets at night than the strictest curfew."
At age 4 success is . . . not peeing in your pants.
At age 12 success is . . . having friends.
At age 16 success is . . . having a drivers license.
At age 20 success is . . . having sex.
At age 35 success is . . . having money.
At age 50 success is . . . having money.
At age 60 success is . . . having sex.
At age 70 success is . . . having a drivers license.
At age 75 success is . . . having friends.
At age 80 success is . . . not peeing in your pants.
She said, my mother is a typical Jewish mother. Once she was on Jury duty…
They sent her home. She insisted SHE was guilty.
What the Store-employees really mean…
1. "Can I help you get a size?" Don’t touch that, I just spent an hour folding it and I don’t need your hands messing it up again.
2. "Do you need help with anything?" Quick, my manager is coming around the corner and I need to look busy.
3. "Welcome to <<Store Name Here>>" Good, another customer to mess up my entire store just to buy a pair of socks.
4. "Have a nice day!" Now that you ruined mine
5. "Thank you for shopping at <<Store Name Here>>" Thanks for emptying your wallet with us!
6. "Do you need a shopping cart to help you carry your items?" The more you can carry, the more you can buy!
7. "I love your shirt! Where did you get it?" Your shirt is much nicer than the clothes we sell here, why are you even shopping here?
8. "Can I help you get something down?" I’ll get a ladder and put it up for you since this other nice customer put in the absolute wrong place.
9. "Don’t worry about folding it, I can do it" You would just mess it up again if you folded it.
10. "No, we don’t have any more in the back" I just don’t want to check
"It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others."
Sidney J. Harris
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