“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”
As you know I recently lost total track of a close friend and have struggled with the loss mostly because I don’t know what happened. It both worries and bothers me but nothing I have been able to do have resulted in my learning what happened. Of course it is not the end of the world but it does hurt.
When I think of friends who have lost their jobs, their homes and their savings my problems pale by comparison. This morning I met with a friend who lost a daughter and we discussed that it is easy for us to say how much we feel someone else’s pain when in most cases we really can’t. The same applies to the minor reversals that take place as we live out our lives, too often we feel the pain and then let it linger. In truth it is up to us to grieve, manage the pain and then move on. We do neither ourselves nor anyone else any good when we retain our misery. So my recent bad days will be followed by the good days ahead if I move on and I will.
Our old friend Ralph Marston again offers us thoughts on how to move on. Here is what he said:
Heal the hurt
When you blame others for your troubles, you give them control of your life. Free yourself from your own anger, from your own resentment, and you’ll find vastly more room for serenity and abundance.
It’s bad enough if someone has wronged you in the past. Is it of any value for you to continue suffering from it?
Your best strategy is not to prolong the pain, or expand upon it. Your best strategy is to get past it as quickly as possible.
Whether or not anyone deserves your forgiveness is not the point. The point is, you deserve to forgive, to take back control of your life, so that you can live abundantly.
Your forgiveness may not even make a difference to those you forgive, if they’re even aware of it. For you, it makes all the difference in the world.
When it is you who is feeling the hurt, it is also you who can heal the hurt. Heal the hurt, and move past the pain, with forgiveness.
We are all full of weakness and errors; let us mutually pardon each other our follies
Four-year-old Little Johnny asked, "Mummy, where do babies come from?
"The stork, dear." replied Johnny’s Mom.
"Mummy, who keeps bad people from robbing our house?" Asked Little Johnny.
Johnny’s mother answer, "The police, dear."
"Mummy, if our house was on fire, who would save us?"
"The fire department, dear."
"Mummy, where does food come from?"
"What do we need Daddy for?"
A good time to keep your mouth shut is when you’re in deep water.
Two senior ladies met for the first time since graduating from high school.
One asked the other, "You were always so organized in school, did you manage to live a well planned life?"
"Oh yes," said her friend.. "My first marriage was to a millionaire; my second marriage was to an actor; my third marriage was to a preacher; and now I’m married to an undertaker."
Her friend asked, "What do those marriages have to do with a well planned life?"
"One for the money, two for the show. three to get ready and four to go"
A fool and his money can throw one heck of a party.
A woman went into a hardware store to purchase a bale of peat moss. She gave a personal check in payment and said to the clerk, "I suppose you will want some identification."
He replied, without hesitation, "No ma’am, that won’t be necessary."
"How come?" asked the woman.
"Crooks don’t buy peat moss." answered the clerk.
The nicest thing about the future is that it always starts tomorrow.
In the maternity ward of a hospital, new-born girl baby looks over at new-born boy baby and asks, "Are you a girl baby or a boy baby?"
The boy baby quickly chirps up, "I’m a boy baby!"
"How can you tell?" asks girl baby.
"Easy," says boy baby. And, with that, he threw off the blankets, hoisted up his itty-bitty night-shirt and proudly pointed downward. "See…..blue booties"
Some people hate getting out of bed. I enjoy it. since I retired I do it 3-4 times a day.
Two men were fishing on a lake, feeling guilty that it was a Sunday morning and they were not attending church. Even worse, the fish were not biting.
The first guy eventually says, "I should have stayed home and gone to church."
To which the other angler replied, "I couldn’t have gone to church anyhow. My wife is sick in bed."
Why is it that at class reunions you feel younger than everyone else looks?
Bill, Jim, & Scott were at a convention together & were sharing a large suite on the top of a 75-story skyscraper. After a long day of meetings, they were shocked to hear that the elevators in their hotel were broken & they would have to climb 75 flights of stairs to get to their room.
Bill said to Jim & Scott, "Let’s break the monotony of this unpleasant task by concentrating on something interesting. I’ll tell jokes for 25 flights, Jim can sing songs for 25 flights, Scott can tell sad stories the rest of the way."
At the 26th floor, Bill stopped telling jokes & Jim began to sing. At the 51st floor Jim stopped singing & Scott began to tell sad stories.
"I will tell my saddest story first," he said. "I left the room key in the car!"
Waste not fresh tears over old griefs.
You may have heard about a new bride who was a bit embarrassed to be known as a honeymooner. So when she and her husband pulled up to the hotel, she asked him if there was any way that they could make it appear that they had been married a long time.
He responded, "Sure. You carry the suitcases!"
Not the power to remember, but its very opposite, the power to forget, is a necessary condition for our existence.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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