August 23, 2019
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders.
I have another full day today, starting with an early morning doctor appointment. So I am again sending you a reprint.
Ray’s Daily first published on August 23, 2012
The other day I made a pitch for allowing tranquility into our lives — at least for a little bit whenever we can. In a meeting I had yesterday morning with a new friend from another nation I again realized how elusive tranquility can be when our burdens become almost too much to carry.
Unfortunately, adversity befalls almost all of us at one time or another. More often than not we let it get to us when in reality it is either imagined or transient — soon to pass into history. But like in my new friends case it occasionally can be real and debilitating. Sometimes, like in my periodic health interruptions they are events that we have to live with and wait out while making life adjustments so they can be tolerated or ignored.
In other cases it requires us to take action to neutralize its impact on our lives. In reality it often takes perseverance, confidence and even courage to avoid being taken down. I know one thing, there is little hope for us if we just give up wallowing in self-pity or sorrow. Adversity cannot be ignored, it is real and how we deal with it often determines the difference between happiness and regret. Here is something I picked up from the Coaching Newsletter that I liked; if you need aid as I sometimes do I hope it will be of help.
Ten Ways to Handle Adversity
We’ve all experienced difficult times in our work or home lives, often through events and circumstances outside our control. But like great trees, humans grow stronger when exposed to powerful winds. Here are 10 suggestions for dealing with the hard times when they happen.
- Take responsibility. Assume an “I can do something” attitude rather than pointing fingers. If nothing else, you can control your own response to the situation.
- Limit the focus. Don’t let the problem become all encompassing. When you compartmentalize the difficulty, you can focus on a workable solution.
- Be optimistic. The ultimate belief in life as positive, even with hard-times and troubles, will result in positive behaviors and positive actions.
- Think creatively. Approach the problem from new and different directions. Trust your creativity.
- Have courage. Having courage doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. It means that you don’t let the fear get in the way of doing what you need to do.
- Take action. Handling the day-to-day details can keep you from getting bogged down in the mud of adversity. Determine what can be done, and do it.
- Take the long-range view. Remember that “this too shall pass.” Recount other times when you have overcome challenges.
- Maintain a sense of humor. Even in the darkest times, laughter can help ease the pain.
- Get support. No need to do it alone. Ask for help.
- Don’t quit. Persistence may be the greatest of human qualities that help us overcome adversity. Consider how water smoothes stones and wind sculpts cliffsides.
Nothing is predestined: The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.
Here’s the exercise program I use to use to stay in shape in the summer. You might want to take it easy at first, then do it faster as you become more proficient. It may be too strenuous for some.
*Always Consult Your Doctor Before Starting Any Exercise Program*
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Okay….that’s enough for the first day! Drink some water and rest.
A doctor examined a woman, took the husband aside, and said, “I don’t like the looks of your wife at all,”
“Me neither doc,” said the husband. “But she’s a great cook and really good with the kids.
After a young couple brought their new baby home, the wife suggested that her husband should try his hand at changing diapers. “I’m busy,” he said, “I’ll do the next one.”
The next time came around and she asked again. The husband looked puzzled,
“Oh! I didn’t mean the next diaper. I meant the next baby!”
“A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.”
The wife heard her husband come back into the house not too long after he had left.
She said, “Hon, I thought you were going to your lodge meeting.”
“It was postponed.” he replied. “The wife of the Grand Exalted Invincible Supreme Potentate wouldn’t let him attend tonight.”
Ever stop to think, and forget to start again?
A first grade teacher collected well known proverbs. She gave each child in her class the first half of a proverb and asked them to come up with the rest.
Strike while the …………………….bug is close.
It’s always darkest before………………Daylight Saving Time.
Never underestimate the power of……….termites.
Don’t bite the hand that………………..looks dirty.
You can’t teach an old dog new…………..math.
If you lie down with dogs, you’ll…………stink in the morning.
Where there’s smoke there’s……………..pollution.
Happy the bride who……………………..gets all the presents.
A penny saved is…………………………not much.
Two’s company, three’s………………….the Musketeers.
Laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and….you have to blow your nose.
There are none so blind as……………….Stevie Wonder.
If at first you don’t succeed…………….don’t skydive.
When the blind leadeth the blind………….get out of the way.
Better late than………………………pregnant!!!!
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
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