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Friendliness

Ray’s Daily

December 10, 2018

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Life is a mirror, it reflects your face. Be friendly, and all of life will reflect friendliness.

Rajneesh

friendliness

At our new home we eat at least two meals a day in our facilities dining room. It is a large comfortable place where most of the tables are four tops. Part of what adds to making our days pleasant are the folks we seated with. Our fellow residents come from a wide range of backgrounds and often share some of their interesting experiences.

Many of these folks are warm and outgoing while others are shy and somewhat introverted. One of my new friends said one time she hated to sit at a table where there was no conversation. I like people too much to stay mute and find that even the most reticent of our fellow tenants respond to a warm greeting and a sincere interest in who they are and what makes them special.

The other day I read an article from Inc magazine entitled Simple Activities That Science Proves Can Change Your Personality for the Better that can help folks open up. I know you don’t need to change but maybe you know someone who does. Here are some of the suggestions from the article:

  • Before you go to bed, reflect on a positive social experience you had during the day, and what you liked about it
  • Say hello to a cashier at a store
  • Prepare a few well-rehearsed and brief responses to commonly asked questions, such as “What do you do for a living?”
  • Say hello to someone you’ve never met and comment on your shared surroundings (e.g., “The weather is nice!”, “These flowers are beautiful!”, “I love the song this store is playing!”)
  • Write a list of questions to ask new people.
  • When someone asks for your opinion (e.g., “where should we eat?”; “what do you think about this topic?”), give your honest opinion
  • Open up and honestly tell a close friend about a problem you’re currently experiencing
  • When you wake up, say aloud to yourself, “I choose to be happy today”
  • Express gratitude to another person (e.g., tell a friend why you appreciate them)
  • Spend at least five minutes journaling about your day. Write about what happened, but also about your feelings
  • Spend at least 30 minutes going on a photo hunt with your phone. Take pictures of things that make you happy (e.g., pretty flowers, friends, a comfortable bed, yourself)
  • When you notice a negative thought, acknowledge the negative thought, but think three true positive thoughts about the same topic (e.g., “I hate that it’s raining on my Saturday. But we need the rain, slow weekends help me appreciate fast ones, and this gives me time to catch up on work”)

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When you smile and project an aura of warmth, kindness, and friendliness, you will attract warms, kindness, and friendliness. Happy people will be drawn to you.

Joel Osteen

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The tensions of life were threatening to get a strangle hold on Bob, and after he’d finished a good dinner, he relaxed mindlessly in a soft chair next to the stereo, with a stiff drink in his hand. His wife knew nothing of his nervous state, and she climbed onto his lap with the thought of trying to wheedle a fur coat out of him, and snuggled and murmured and fondled.

“Good heavens, Ethel,” he exploded, “get off of me! I get enough of this at the office.”

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The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right time, but also to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.

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My English professor was stopped for speeding. When asked why she was driving so fast, she quoted Robert Frost: “I have promises to keep and miles to go before I sleep.”

“But, Miss,” replied the officer, obviously familiar with the poet, “Frost chose the road less traveled, and, unfortunately for you, this wasn’t it.”

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A lawyer asked a boy, who was a witness in court: “Did anyone tell you what to say in court?”

“Yes, sir.”

“I thought so! Who was it?”

“My father, sir.”

“And what did he tell you?”

“He said the lawyers would try to get me all tangled up, but if I stuck to the truth, I would be all right.”

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Got kleptomania? Take something for it.

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Two men were talking about the secret of a long and happy marriage. “Our marriage” said one “is built on trust and understanding.” “My wife doesn’t trust me and I don’t understand her.”

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There are two kinds of people: those who do the work, and those who take the credit. Try to be in the first group; there is less competition there.

Indira Gandhi

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A man left for work one Friday afternoon. But it was payday, so instead of going home, he stayed out the entire weekend partying with the boys and spending his entire pay check.

When he finally appeared at home on Sunday night, he was confronted by his angry wife and was barraged for nearly two hours with a tirade befitting his actions. Finally his wife stopped the nagging and said to him, “How would you like it if you didn’t see me for two or three days?” He replied, “That would be fine with me.”

Monday went by and he didn’t see his wife. Tuesday and Wednesday came and went with the same results. But on Thursday, the swelling went down just enough where he could see her a little out of the corner of his eye.

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The very best way in all the world to overcome self-consciousness and shyness is to get interested in other people and to think of them and, almost miraculously, your timidity will pass. Do something for other people. Practice deeds of kindness, acts of friendliness, and you’ll be surprised to see what happens.

Dale Carnegie

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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Memories

Ray’s Daily

December 7, 2018

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Mankind must put an end to war, or war will put an end to mankind.

John F. Kennedy

War

It is the anniversary of the bombing of Perl Harbor which began our entry in World War II. The passing of George H. W. Bush brought back memories of my childhood. Here is what I wrote about the experience years ago.

December 7, 2001

It was 60 years ago today, I was 6 years old and was visiting relatives in a small town in Illinois. My Aunt was coming home with her newborn daughter, my Uncle who was then a Colonel in the Army was home to greet the arrival of his new daughter. We soon heard the news of the attack on Pearl Harbor. We children were convinced that the bombs would soon come to us. My Uncle left for war the next day and we began to live our lives in a different world. We survived and even thrived. I think we need to give our children more credit than we do sometimes. We do not have to protect them from reality, reality will always find them, and if we do not demonstrate that we all have the capacity to rise above crisis we will have failed them.

December 7, 2004

Sixty-three years ago at 7:55 a.m. Hawaii time, a Japanese dive bomber bearing the red symbol of the Rising Sun of Japan on its wings appeared out of the clouds above the island of Oahu. 360 Japanese warplanes followed, descending on the U.S. naval base at Pearl Harbor in a ferocious assault. The surprise attack struck a critical blow against the U.S. Pacific fleet and drew the United States irrevocably into World War II. A hurried dispatch from the ranking United States naval officer in Pearl Harbor, Commander in Chief Pacific, to all major navy commands and fleet units provided the first official word of the attack at the ill-prepared Pearl Harbor base. It said simply: AIR RAID ON PEARL HARBOR X THIS IS NOT DRILL. Unfortunately war did not stop by the defeat of Japan and Germany. We have been to Korea, Vietnam, and now Iraq for the second time. It is tragic that young men and women continue to die because others have not found the way to peace.

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At A War Grave

No grave is rich, the dust that herein lies

Beneath this white cross mixing with the sand

Was vital once, with skill of eye and hand

And speed of brain. These will not re-arise

These riches, nor will they be replaced;

They are lost and nothing now, and here is left

Only a worthless corpse of sense bereft,

Symbol of death, and sacrifice and waste.

John Jarmain

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Preparation for Parenthood

1) (Women) To prepare for maternity, put on a dressing gown and stick a beanbag chair down the front.  Leave it there for nine months. After nine months, remove 10% of the beans.

2) (Men) To prepare for paternity, go to the local drug store, tip the contents of your wallet on the counter, and tell the pharmacist to help himself. Then go to the supermarket. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office. Go home. Pick up the paper and read it for the last time.

3) Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who are already parents and berate them about their methods of discipline, lack of patience, appallingly low tolerance levels, and how they have allowed their children to run riot. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child’s sleeping habits, toilet training, table manners, and overall behavior. Enjoy it–it’s the last time in your life that you will have all of the answers.

4) To discover how the nights feel, walk around the living room from 5pm till 10pm carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 pounds. At 10pm put the bag down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep. Get up at 12am and walk around the living room again with the bag, until 1am. Put the alarm on for 3am. As you can’t go back to sleep, get up at 2am and make a drink. Go to bed at 2:45am. Get up again at 3am when the alarm goes off. Sing songs in the dark till 4am. Put the alarm on for 5am. Get up. Make breakfast. Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful.

5) Can you stand the mess children make? To find out, smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains. Hide a fish stick behind the stereo and leave it there all summer. Stick your fingers in the flower beds then rub them on the clean walls. Cover the stains with crayons. There, how does that look?

6) Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems.  First buy an octopus and a string bag. Attempt to put the octopus into the string bag so that none of the arms hang out. Time allowed for this: all morning.

7) Take an egg carton. Using a pair of scissors and a can of paint, turn it into an alligator. Now take a toilet paper tube. Using only scotch tape and a piece of foil, turn it into a Christmas tree. Last, take a milk container, a ping pong ball, and an empty packet of COCO Puffs and make an exact replica of the Eiffel Tower. Congratulations, you have just qualified for a place on the play group committee.

8) Forget the Miata and buy the minivan. And don’t think you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don’t look like that. Buy a chocolate ice cream bar and put it in the glove compartment. Leave it there. Get a quarter. Stick it in the cassette player. Take a family size bag of chocolate cookies. Mash them down the back seats. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car. There! Perfect!

9) Get ready to go out. Wait outside the toilet for half an hour. Go out the front door. Come in again. Go out. Come back in. Go out again. Walk down the front path. Walk back up it again. Walk down it again. Walk very slowly down the road for 5 minutes. Stop to inspect minutely every cigarette butt, piece of used chewing gum, dirty tissue, and dead insect along the way. Retrace your steps. Scream that you’ve had as much as you can stand until all of the neighbors come out and stare at you. Give up and go back in the house. You are now just about ready to try taking a small child for a walk.

10) Always repeat everything you say at least five times. Go to your local supermarket. Take with you the nearest thing you can find to a pre-school child. A fully grown goat is excellent. If you intend to have more than one child, take more than one goat. Buy your week’s groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goats eat or destroy. Until you can easily accomplish this do not even contemplate having children.

11) Hollow out a melon. Make a small hole in the side. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side. Now get a bowl of soggy Froot Loops and attempt to spoon it into the swaying melon by pretending to be an airplane. Continue until half of the Froot Loops are gone. Tip the rest into your lap, making sure that a lot of it falls on the floor. You are now ready to feed a 12-month-old child.

12) Learn the names of every character from Barney, Sesame Street, and Power Rangers.  When you find yourself singing, I love you, you love me” at work, now you finally qualify as a parent!

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The argument you just won with your spouse isn’t over yet.

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I learned a lesson in marketing from a man who bought an old boat, a trailer and a motor from me. “Thanks,” he said as he loaded them up. “I’m planning to resell them.”

Good luck, I thought. I had been trying to get rid of them for months. But when I ran into him a few weeks later, he’d sold everything.

“How did you manage that?” I marveled.

“I took out an ad: ‘Heavy-duty boat trailer with free boat.’ When the buyer came to get it, I asked if he had a motor. He said no. I told him I happened to have one in my garage. Bought that, too.”

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The more you know, the more you know you ought to know.

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My friend’s mother is a proper Southern lady and a passionate gardener who spends hours outside with her plants. In her neighborhood, where she has lived most of her life, no one has fences and every yard is open to the next.

Recently one of her longtime neighbors, an elderly man, moved away. “Are you going to miss him?” my friend asked.

“Actually I’m relieved,” her mother replied. “Now I can bend over.”

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If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.

Mother Teresa

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Now is the time

Ray’s Daily

December 6, 2018

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In the end, what we regret most are the chances we never took.

Frasier Krane

don't wait

One of the realities of living in a Senior Living Facility is the frequent reminder that our lives are only temporary. Each week someone either has to move to where they can be taken care of or succumb to a life ending event.

The constant reminder of our mortality is a great motivator to invest in enjoying the days we have left. The answer to the question, if not now, when, quickly turns into never. Far too many uf us fail to turn our dreams into reality, everyday losing another chance for a happy experience.

I may do something silly or foolish but I don’t care. It is never too late to be who you want to be if you have the courage to be yourself.

Here is a story that is a great reminder that the answer we need to give is I’ll do it now.

Take Hold of Every Moment

Author Unknown

A friend of mine opened his wife’s underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package: “This, – he said – isn’t any ordinary package.” He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box. “She got this the first time we went to New York, 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on. Was saving it for a special occasion.

Well, I guess this is it. He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral parlor; his wife had just died. He turned to me and said:

“Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion”.

I still think those words changed my life. Now I read more and clean less. I sit on the porch without worrying about anything. I spend more time with my family, and less at work. I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through. I no longer keep anything. I use crystal glasses every day. I’ll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if i feel like it. I don’t save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to. The words “Someday…” and “One Day…” are fading away from my dictionary. If it’s worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now.

I don’t know what my friend’s wife would have done if she knew she wouldn’t be there the next morning, this nobody can tell. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends.

She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels. I’d like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food. It’s these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come. I would regret it, because I would no longer see the friends I would meet, letters that i wanted to write “One of these days”. I would regret and feel sad, because I didn’t say to my brothers and sons, not times enough at least, how much I love them.

Now, I try not to delay, postpone or keep anything that could bring laughter and joy into our lives. And, on each morning, I say to myself that this could be a special day. Each day, each hour, each minute, is special.

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Finally, we’ve learned why Webster compiled the dictionary. Every morning at breakfast, he’d sit down and talk to the wife for a few minutes. As soon as he said something, she’d say, “Now what’s that supposed to mean?”

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A keen sense of humor helps us to overlook the unbecoming, understand the unconventional, tolerate the unpleasant, overcome the unexpected, and outlast the unbearable.”

Billy Graham

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Two women are talking in a coffee shop when one says, “You know, there were very few things that upset my ex-husband.”

“Really?” asks the other woman.

“Yes, and it makes me feel rather special to have been one of them.”

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Last year I got my wife a Christmas gift that left her speechless. In fact, she didn’t speak to me for three weeks.

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An avid duck hunter was in the market for a new bird dog. His search ended when he found a dog that could actually walk on water to retrieve a duck. Shocked by his find, he was sure none of his friends would ever believe him. He decided to try to break the news to a friend of his, a pessimist by nature, and invited him to hunt with him and his new dog.

As they waited by the shore, a flock of ducks flew by. They fired, and a duck fell. The dog responded and jumped into the water. However, he did not sink but instead walked across the water to retrieve the bird, never getting more than his paws wet.

The friend saw everything but did not say a single word.

On the drive home the hunter asked his friend, “Did you notice anything unusual about my new dog?”

“I sure did,” responded his friend. “He can’t swim.”

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Better by far that you should forget and smile than that you should remember and be sad.

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Seven year old Susie went to her dad, who was working in the yard, and asked, “Daddy, what’s sex?”  He thought, well, is she interested in this already? Then he decided that if she was old enough to ask the question, then she was old enough to get a straight answer. He proceeded to tell her all about the birds and the bees, embellished with a simple but thorough discussion of what he thought she should know, including discreet references to body parts.  When he finished explaining, Susie stood there looking at him with her mouth hanging open.

Her father asked, “Why did you ask this question?”

“Oh,” Susie replied. “Mommy just told me to come outside and find you and tell you that dinner would be ready in a couple of secs.”

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Death to all fanatics!

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A business executive injured his leg skiing one weekend. By the time he got home Sunday, the leg was very swollen and he was having difficulty walking, so he called his physician at his home.  The doctor told him to soak it in hot water.  He tried soaking it in hot water but the leg became more swollen and more painful.

His maid saw him limping and said, “I don’t know, I’m only a maid, but I always thought it was better to use cold water, not hot, for swelling.” He tried switching to cold water, and the swelling rapidly subsided.

On Monday morning he called his Dr.  again to complain.  “Say Doc, what kind of a doctor are you anyway?  You told me to soak my leg in hot water and it got worse.  My maid told me to use cold water and it got better.”

“Really?” answered the doctor, “I don’t understand it – my maid said hot water.”

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Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.

Earl Nightingale

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

On the Bright Side

Ray’s Daily

December, 5, 2018

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Always look on the bright side of life

Graham Chapman

Bright Side

Recently a friend said, “So glad to hear that you and your wife are settling into your new surroundings and making new friends. Although, I’m not surprised considering your philosophy on life”.

I appreciated her comment and I do think that we are doing pretty well with the changes in our lives. It is important that we look at the positives of what we now have and not feel remorse for what we have left behind. Life is so much better on the bright side and while it is always available some of us have a hard time finding it.

I recently received the following article and have provided you an abridged copy. I think she provides sound advice.

10 Tips on How to Stay Emotionally Healthy

By Alice Landry

  1. Laugh often. – Emotional benefits of laughter include feeling a sense of contentment and joy, shifting your perspective to a positive outlook, giving you more courage and hope, dissolving tense situations, and improving overall mood.
  2. Do frequent feelings checks. – Determine how you feel when you wake up in the morning. If the feeling is negative, figure out what’s causing it and take steps to resolve the unsettling situation. Reorient your emotions with affirmations and confidence to set a new tone for the day.
  3. Focus on the positive. – Admit any negative feelings you may have, deal with them, and move on. Remember that what you focus on is what you will attract in life, so put your energy toward that which you desire, not what you don’t want.
  4. Take care of your physical self. – The mind/body connection refers to how your body responds to the way you think, feel, and act. If you are physically healthy, your emotions will tend to be high. Respect your body by exercising, eating nutritious foods, and getting proper rest.
  5. Perform relaxation exercises. – Dealing with emotional ups and downs can be exhaustive and confusing. Allow your body and mind to create a blank slate so that your intentions to heal the situation can come from a place of clarity, insight, and faith instead of fear or despair. Invest time and energy into practices such as yoga, meditation, deep breathing.
  6. Stay socially connected. – Involving yourself in projects and activities with family, friends, or the general community is a strong aspect of wellness at any age..
  7. Practice mindfulness. – Mindfulness is the state of being fully aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions at any given wakeful moment. Living in the here and now is a powerful self-growth tool.
  8. Channel your feelings productively. – If you feel acutely angered or overwhelmed, instead of harboring negative emotions, release built-up tension through activities such as running, writing in a journal, or transforming stress into motivation to achieve your goals.
  9. Avoid all or nothing thinking. – Thinking in terms of black and white absolutes instead of shades of grey is a common element of depression. Words like disastrous, terrible, ruined, and never should be red flag signs that you may be thinking catastrophically. Consider the point that even smart people don’t always make the best choices. You can learn from your mistakes and consciously choose a healthier path next time.
  10. Begin a personal development journey. – If you are ready and willing to heal your life, realize that you are in the driver’s seat. Think of ways to improve yourself, your relationships, and your overall life every day. Choose thoughts, feelings, and actions that are aligned with truth, love, and power.

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“On a cloudy day, be the sun in someone’s sky.”

Debasish Mridha

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Here is the latest from retirement central.

First, eventually you will reach a point when you stop lying about your age and start bragging about it.

Second, the older we get, the fewer things seem worth waiting in line for.

Third, some people try to turn back their odometers.  Not me, I want people to know “why”; I look this way.  I’ve traveled a long way and some of the roads weren’t paved.

Fourth, when you are dissatisfied and would like to go back to youth, think of Algebra.

Fifth, you know you are getting old when everything either dries up or leaks.

Sixth, I don’t know how I got over the hill without getting to the top.

Seventh, one of the many things no one tells you about aging is that it is such a nice change from being young.

Eighth, one must wait until evening to see how splendid the day has been.

Ninth, being young is beautiful, but being old is comfortable.

Tenth, long ago when men cursed and beat the ground with sticks, it was called witchcraft. Today it’s called golf.

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Things aren’t like they used to be and they never were.

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The Rabbi in my son’s Talmud class at Yeshiva University in New York City was always so involved in the text being studied that he never looked up. He would call on a student for translation and explanation, and — without realizing it — he often chose the same student day after day. Out of respect, the students wouldn’t point this out to him.

After being called on four days in a row, a student named Goldberg asked advice from his friends. The next day when the rabbi said “Goldberg, translate and explain,”

Goldberg replied, “Goldberg is absent today.”

“All right,” said the rabbi. “You translate and explain.”

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Those who get too big for their britches will be exposed in the end.

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Manny was almost 29 years old. Most of his friends had already gotten married, and Manny just bounced from one relationship to the next. Finally a friend asked him, “What’s the matter, are you looking for the perfect woman? Are you THAT particular? Can’t you find anyone who suits you?” “No,” Manny replied. “I meet a lot of nice girls, but as soon as I bring them home to meet my parents, my mother doesn’t like them. So I keep on looking!”

“Listen,” his friend suggested, “Why don’t you find a girl who’s just like your dear ole Mother?” Many weeks past before Manny and his friend got together again.

“So Manny. Did you find the perfect girl yet. One that’s just like your Mother?” Manny shrugged his shoulders, “Yes I found one just like Mom. My mother loved her, they became great friends.”

“Excellent!!! So,…. Are you and this girl engaged, yet?” “I’m afraid not. My Father can’t stand her!”

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A positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it would bring constructive changes into your life, and makes you happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic, and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing.

Dr Anil Kumar Sinha

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Audrey was right

Ray’s Daily

December 4, 2018

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The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.

Audrey Hepburn

Be Happy

I have come to believe that the difference between happiness and unhappiness is how we choose to live our lives. Too many folks seem to resign themselves to the fact that they will never be truly happy and do not see how they can change for the better.

The happy people I know are those who feel free to do things that give them pleasure. They appreciate what they have and share their joy with others. I seldom see them without a smile. I decided a long time ago I was not going to take life so seriously that I wouldn’t enjoy it. Here is an edited article that may help if you want more happiness in your life.

Want To Get Happier? Get Out Of Your Own Way

By Deirdre Maloney

Let’s get down to it. We all want to be happy. It feels good and it gives us energy and it makes us a lot more fun to be around.

#1: Embrace the Happiness Ratio – The first problem is that we often fail to recognize whether or not we’re happy in the first place. To get at this problem, consider the happiness ratio. This quick nugget of wisdom states that we must be happy in every part of our lives a minimum of 70% of the time.I came to this number after conducting research with plenty of happy and not-so-happy folks.

It’s a fair number, right? So write down the various components of your life and honestly assess where they fall. Notice which ones fall short of 70%. Notice which ones fall very short. It’s time to change them.

#2: Check Yourself on Your Stories – Change, I say? At first the word might feel liberating or energizing…until it doesn’t. Inherently, change means we’re changing from something we know to something we don’t.

We tell our stories to ourselves and to others with conviction. They feel untouchable, but in reality they’re excuses to stay stuck. They’re not real. Think about it. Other jobs pay good salaries. Toxic colleagues will find other friends.

Recognize that the unknown doesn’t have to be that scary. That you’re good enough to tackle anything. That you can keep going as long as it takes to get the happiness you deserve.

#3 Enough with the “Shoulds”! – Another barrier we put up against our own happiness is the sneaky should. Our shoulds begin right after birth. Often with the best of intentions, our parents and our friends and the media tell us how things should be. How we should be.

The problem is that we don’t see these shoulds as recommendations. Instead, we believe they are facts. They are statements about what is right and what is wrong.

Recognize the many shoulds delivered from others and yourself. They are not facts, so get rid of them. Find new beliefs that work for you and your happiness. Find others who agree.

#4 Quit the Self-Smack-Talk – One of the most common and maddening ways we get in the way of our own happiness – and it happens a lot when we are in the midst of change and insecure – is to talk smack about ourselves. We joke about our appearance or our age, our intellect or our abilities. Nothing is off limits.

We do this because we want to beat others to the punch, naming the perceived flaw before anyone else can. Or because we want to fill the conversation. Or because we think it’s funny.

It’s not. When we put ourself down to others—no matter how insignificant it might seem—we are disrespecting ourselves. Which means we are saying that we are not worthy of respect. Which is a pretty unhappy thing to do. Because we grow to believe that garbage. So stop it, please.

In the end……know this: You deserve to be as happy as possible as often as possible. In fact, you should be. Because it makes you better at everything you do. It makes you better at being with everyone else around you.

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Happiness doesn’t depend on what we have, but it does depend on how we feel toward what we have. We can be happy with little and miserable with much.

William D. Hoard

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Aaron is telling his friends about his recent divorce.

“Yes, it’s true. Sylvia divorced me for religious reasons. She worshipped money and I didn’t have any.”

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At a dinner party to introduce the new Administrator of the State Highway, everybody’s new boss went on and on extolling his own virtues, forward-thinking, the modernization he’d put in place, the downsizing, equipment upgrades, roadway improvements he had both instituted and planned for the future while he was with the Pennsylvania Dept of Transportation.

Finally, after what seemed like hours, he opened the floor for questions.

“Sir,” said a voice from the back of the room, “perhaps you’d also tell us why they fired you.”

~~~

A backward poet writes inverse.

~~~

Dear Mr. Bill Collector:

I have not opened the bills that you sent me because I saw some white Powder on the envelope. I fear that it may be anthrax. I am sorry that your Payment will be late. Until the president says that it is safe to open my mail, I have no idea what to pay you.

Sincerely,

I-O-U

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“A keen sense of humor helps us to overlook the unbecoming, understand the unconventional, tolerate the unpleasant, overcome the unexpected, and outlast the unbearable.”

Billy Graham

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Little Johnny was staying with his grandmother for a few days.  He’d been playing outside for a while when he came into the house and asked her, “Grandma, what is it called when people are sleeping on top of each other?”

She was a little taken aback, but decided to tell him the truth. “It’s called sexual intercourse, darling.”

Little Johnny just said, “OK” and went back outside to play.

A few minutes later he came back in and said angrily, “Grandpa said, it is not called sexual intercourse!  It’s called bunk beds!”

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“I like to drive with my knees. Otherwise, how can I put on my lipstick and talk on the phone?”

Sharon Stone

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An elderly Jewish man is struck by a car and brought to the local hospital. A pretty nurse tucks him into bed and says, “Mr. Epstein, are you comfortable?”

Epstein replies, “I make a nice living.”

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When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.

John Lennon

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

We all need them

Ray’s Daily

December 3, 2018

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One of the deep secrets of life is that all that is really worth the doing is what we do for others.

Lewis Carroll

Be a friend

I have been having breakfast lately with some new friends in our residence’s dining room. A few days ago my professor friend and his wife did not show up, they missed again the next day and I learned he had been taken to the hospital. He is now at a rehab facility and will return when he regains his strength.

Saturday I lunched with an elderly former big band singer who is losing her eyesight, but not her sense of humor. She requires assistance as she is not ambulatory. She is just one of the special people I sit with every day, a few over one hundred years old.

What I am learning is to appreciate the little things most of us take for granted, I also learned again that there are many wonderful people waiting to be your friend if you reach out to them. My new friends have reminded me that life is not over until it is over unless you give up. I have been reminded that earned friendships last the longest.

It is up you to make the best of the years we have Now is not the time to come to a halt. Here is a piece that reminds me of the attitudes of many of my new friends.

 

A Creed To Live By

Nancye Sims

  • Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others.
  • It is because we are different thateach of us are special. Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only do what is best for you.
  • Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them life is meaningless.
  • Don’t let life slip through your fingers by living in the past or in the future. By living one day at a time you live all days of your life.
  • Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
  • Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is the fragile thread that binds us to each other.
  • Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
  • Don’t shut love out of your lifeby saying it is impossible. The fastest way to lose love is to hold to it tightly, and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
  • Don’t dismiss your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope, to be without hope is to be without purpose.
  • Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going.Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

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Seek the ones who never stop caring, who break down your walls, and help you come back to yourself.

Yasmin Mogahed

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A small, uncertain, and nervous witness was being cross-examined.

The lawyer thundered, “Have you ever been married?”

“Yes, sir,” said the witness in a low voice. “Once.”

“Whom did you marry?” the lawyer demanded.

“Well, a woman,” the witness answered timidly.

The lawyer said angrily, “Of course you married a woman. Did you ever hear of anyone marrying a man?”

And the witness said meekly, “My sister did.”

~~~

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”

Abraham Lincoln

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The priest was exhorting the parishioners to do good deeds because there was no telling when something might cut their lives short.

“Yes, he said, “somebody in this parish will die today.”

A man in the back sighed with relief and said, “Thank the Lord I’m not from this parish!”

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“I dearly love the state of Texas, but I consider that a harmless perversion on my part, and discuss it only with consenting adults.”

Molly Ivins

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The bride came down the aisle and when she reached the altar, the groom was standing there with his golf bag and clubs at his side. She said:” What are your golf clubs doing here”?

He looked her right in the eye and said, “This isn’t going to take all day, is it?”

~~~

Tears: The hydraulic force by which masculine will-power is defeated by feminine water-power.

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The wise old Mother Superior from county Tipperary was dying. The nuns gathered around her bed trying to make her comfortable. They gave her warm milk to drink, but she refused it. One nun took the glass back to the kitchen.

Remembering a bottle of Irish whiskey the nuns had received as a gift the previous Christmas, she opened and poured a generous amount into the warm milk.

The nun took the glass back to Mother Superior’s bedside, and held the glass to her lips. Mother drank a little, then a little more. Before they knew it, she had downed the whole glass, down to the last drop.

“Mother,” the nuns asked earnestly, “please give us some wisdom before you die.”

Mother Superior slowly raised her head, and with a pious look on her face whispered, “Don’t sell that cow”

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Nothing increases your golf score like witnesses.

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A father noticed that his son was spending way too much time playing computer games.

In an effort to motivate the boy into focusing more attention on his schoolwork, the father said to his son, “When Abe Lincoln was your age, he was studying books by the light of the fireplace.”

The son replied, “When Lincoln was your age, he was The President of The United States.”

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I’m getting so absent-minded that sometimes in the middle of a sentence I…

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A man walks into a flower shop “I’d like some flowers please.”

“Certainly, Sir. What did you have in mind?”

He shrugs “Well I’m not sure, I uh, I uh, I uh…”

“Perhaps I could help. What exactly have you done!”

~~~

Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.

Karl Marx ,

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

What will be your legacy?

Ray’s Daily

November 30, 2018

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“That is your legacy on this Earth when you leave this Earth: how many hearts you touched.”

Patti Davis

Legacy

If you are like I am you are concerned about the world we are leaving to our children and grandchildren. It seems that we have become so greedy as a people that we are only focused on what we can get for ourselves.

The recent report on climate change predicts a devastating future in the decades ahead, putting our coastal citizens in danger while making life difficult for the rest of us. Yet our political leaders choose to pretend climate change does not exist, they are also watering down existing efforts to try and mitigate its effects. At the same time we are building huge federal deficits as we place more emphasis on our own pocket books with little worry about how we will pay for it all. The interest on the national debt our grandchildren will have to pay will leave little money left to pay for infrastructure, health care and more.

We seem to be like the guy who has fallen off the Empire State building and as he passes the 55th floor declares he is alright so far. I hope the legacy I leave will show I have done what I can to avoid being part of the problem.

Kate Snowise wrote the following piece on legacies that I would like to share with you today.

What Do You Want Your Legacy To Be?

Our time on earth is limited. We all know this, yet for some reason, we generally push it to one side. We get caught in the trap of believing there are infinite tomorrows when it simply isn’t the case.

We are here for a short time, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t leave a big legacy. And by big, I don’t mean famous or visible, but a legacy that makes a difference in some way.

So what do you want your legacy to be? Have you ever pondered this question or something similar? What do you want your life to be remembered by? We are full of possibility if we allow ourselves to believe it.

Wayne Dyer, a pioneer in the self-help field and great spiritual teacher passed away suddenly over the weekend. He was 75. I was shocked when I read the post on Facebook from his family that said he was no longer with us. He was a bright light in the world, and you could say his legacy was love. Love for ourselves, love for one another and love for this life. He taught us that through connecting and living with our hearts, we can create heaven on earth. It’s up to us.

I sit here, in my 33-year-old body, in good health, and the tomorrows feel like they stretch as far as I can see. But hearing that a great soul has moved on, and instantaneously knowing his legacy was one of love, brought me back to the point of what do I want to achieve in this life I’ve been given? When you look back at the end of your life, if you are given the chance, and assess what you have done with the moments, the days, the weeks and the years, will you be proud of yourself? Or will you have regrets? What would you have been frustrated that you didn’t do? Or what would you have been incredibly proud of trying?

For me, they are big questions that help to cut through the daily chaos of life and provide a sense of clarity. It’s like shining a light through the busyness so that you can recognize what is really important.

Here are some of my thoughts about my legacy:

If I get to the end of my life and realize that I played it safe because I was too afraid to fail, I would be mad at myself. The only way we know if life has a chance of moving in a certain direction is if we are daring enough to take the risk. I know I won’t regret taking risks.

I hope I leave a legacy, much like Dr. Wayne Dyers. I hope those who knew me will associate my name with a sense of deep, collective love. I hope they will think about their souls and the connection I encouraged them to have with their true-selves. I hope that when those who knew me hear my name after I am gone, they will feel a sense of warmth in their hearts.

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“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.”

Shannon L. Alder

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After putting her children to bed, a mother changed into old slacks and a droopy blouse and proceeded to wash her hair. As she heard the children getting more and more rambunctious, her patience grew thin. At last she threw a towel around her head & stormed into their room, putting them back to bed with stern warnings. As she left the room, she heard her three-year-old say with a trembling voice, “Who was that?”

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Laughter: The shortest distance between two people.
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While working for an organization that delivers lunches to elderly shut-ins, I used to take my four-year-old daughter on my afternoon rounds.

She was unfailingly intrigued by the various appliances of old age, particularly the canes, walkers and wheelchairs.
One day I found her staring at a pair of false teeth soaking in a glass. As I braced myself for the inevitable barrage of questions, she merely turned and whispered, “The tooth fairy will never believe this!”

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A man never discloses his character so clearly as when he describes another’s.

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A lady came to the hospital to visit a friend. She had not been in a hospital for several years and felt uneasy, not knowing about all the new technology. A technician followed her onto the elevator, wheeling a large, intimidating looking machine with tubes and wires and dials.

“Boy, would I hate to be hooked up to that thing,” she said.

“So would I,” replied the technician. “It’s a floor-cleaning machine.”

~~~

Life is cheap. It’s the accessories that kill you.

~~~

Harry had just reached his 175th birthday last week. Surrounded by reporters, he was asked, “Excuse me, sir, but how did you come to live to be 175?”

Harry answered, “It was easy.  I just never argue with anyone.”

The reporter shot back, “That’s crazy.  It had to be something else –diet, meditation, or *something*.  Just not arguing won’t keep you alive for 175 years!”

The old fella stared hard at the reporter for several seconds.

Then he shrugged.  “Hmmm.  Maybe you’re right.”

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“Language allows us to reach out to people, to touch them with our innermost fears, hopes, disappointments, victories. To reach out to people we’ll never meet. It’s the greatest legacy you could ever leave your children or your loved ones: The history of how you felt.”

Simon Van Booy

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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