April 24, 2018
“A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.”
The article I want tp share with you today really rings true with me. My wife is, and has been my best friend for almost all of my life. The problem is it took me a long time to realize it. I just took my marriage for granted seldom telling my partner how much I appreciated her. Yet she was always there to help shore me up during bad times and cheer me on during good times. I only wish I had exhibited the same traits as well as she does.
I have edited out a lot of the original article but kept the main points. Note especially the underlined paragraph that defines a best friend for it is there where my wife is is described.
Spouses Who Have This 1 View of Their Partner Are Twice as Happy in Life
There are a lot of reasons to get married. One is being in love. Another is wanting the tax break. Yet another is the desire to publicly commit to your best friend that you will be with him or her forever, no matter what. Until death parts you. Now, science has proved a somewhat shocking concept: When it comes to having a fulfilling life, it’s that last part that matters the most. No, not the death part–the best friend status.
This science suggests that if you want a fulfilling partnership and satisfying life, there’s one question to add to the list that should arguably be put at the top:
Is s/he my best friend?
A best friend has your back. A best friend supports your dreams. A best friend is someone you can call anytime, anywhere, without feeling like they’ll resent you for it. They’re the person you put as an emergency contact and the first person you think about when something wonderful happens at work. They know all your quirks (and love you anyway). They can challenge you in deep ways because they know the ins and outs of your psyche (and love you anyway). They’re the kind of person who’ll make soup and draw you a bath when you’re sick, even if they’re busy, because they genuinely want you to feel better.
And if you’re already married to the person you consider your best friend, then this kind of research determination is cause for celebration.
Why? Because it proves what you’ve known all along: that you live a happier, healthier, richer life because of that gorgeous, flawed, sometimes grumpy, often generous, always interesting, perfectly imperfect person you chose to marry.
As Nietzsche said, “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.”
A large, well established, Canadian lumber camp advertised that they were looking for a good lumberjack.
The very next day, a skinny little man showed up at the camp with his axe, and knocked on the head lumberjacks’ door. The head lumberjack took one look at the little man and told him to leave.
“Just give me a chance to show you what I can do,” said the skinny man.
“Okay, see that giant redwood over there?” said the lumberjack. “Take your axe and go cut it down.”
The skinny man headed for the tree, and in five minutes he was back knocking on the lumberjack’s door. “I cut the tree down,” said the man.
The lumberjack couldn’t believe his eyes and said, “Where did you get the skill to chop down trees like that?”
“In the Sahara Forest,” replied the puny man.
“You mean the Sahara Desert,” said the lumberjack.
The little man laughed and answered back, “Oh sure, that’s what they call it now!”
Husband: Darling, will you love me when I’m old and feeble?
Spouse: You bet I do.
A wife invited some people to dinner. At the table, she turned to their six-year-old daughter and said, “Would you like to say the blessing?”
“I wouldn’t know what to say,” the girl replied.
“Just say what you hear Mommy say,” the wife answered.
The daughter bowed her head and said,
“Lord, why on earth did I invite all these people to dinner?”
I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.
She told me that working as a court reporter, she hears a lot of testimony you will never hear on the TV show, Law and Order, including the following give-and-take between the judge and a mother during a paternity suit.
Judge: “Was the child born out of wedlock?”
Mother: “No, sir. Just outside of Louisville.”
“Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.”
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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