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Do Unto Others

Ray’s Daily

August 10, 2022

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Practicing the Golden Rule is not a sacrifice, it’s an investment.

Byllye Avery

Reprint: Ray’s Daily from August 10, 2004

I don’t know many people, no matter what their religion, that don’t pay lip-service to the golden rule. Yet many of these same people will jump positions in line, enjoy benefiting from another’s mistake, or do everything in their power to take advantage of others. Have you noticed it is these same people who spend their lives complaining about others? You would think they would learn that when you forsake the golden rule others will often respond by treating you just as you treat others. They often have few real friends and miss so much in life. It is not a case of the meek inheriting the earth, but rather a case of good people caring for others and truly enjoying life. So I will continue to wait my turn in line, return the coins when someone gives me too much change, and do what I can to help those who need it. The alternative just does not provide any reward.

Here are some “Ethic of Reciprocity” passages from the religious texts of various religions:

Bahá’í World Faith:   “Ascribe not to any soul that which thou wouldst not have ascribed to thee, and say not that which thou doest not.” “Blessed is he who preferreth his brother before himself.” Baha’u’llah

Brahmanism: “This is the sum of duty: Do naught unto others which would cause you pain if done to you”. Mahabharata, 5:1517

Buddhism:   Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.” Udana-Varga 5:18

Christianity:   “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them.” Matthew 7:12 

Confucianism:  “Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you” Analects 15:23

Hinduism:   “One should not behave towards others in a way which is disagreeable to oneself” Mencius Vii.A.4 

Islam: “None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself.” Number 13 of Imam “Al-Nawawi’s Forty Hadiths.” 6

Judaism:    “What is hateful to you, do not to your fellow man. This is the law: all the rest is commentary.” Talmud, Shabbat 31a.

Shinto:  “The heart of the person before you is a mirror. See there your own form”

Taoism:  “Regard your neighbor’s gain as your own gain, and your neighbor’s loss as your own loss.” T’ai Shang Kan Ying P’ien. 

I am sure you follow the principle in your own life, but in case you are tempted to slip once in awhile, just stop and remember what you do to others may very well be done to you. But of greater importance is that what you do for others is reward in itself.

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Look to be treated by others as you have treated others.

Publilius Syrus (~100 BC)

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A woman in my office, recently divorced after years of marriage, signed up for a refresher course in CPR. 

“Is it hard to learn?” asked someone.

“Not at all,” my co-worker replied.  “All you’re asked to do is breathe life into a dummy.  I don’t expect to have any problems.  I did that for 32 years.” 

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There are two rules for ultimate success in life. Never tell everything you know.

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The wife was busy frying eggs, when her husband came home. He walked into the kitchen and immediately started yelling.

CAREFULL!!!  CAREFULL!!!  MORE OIL!!!  TURN THEM!!!

TURN THEM NOW!!!  WE NEED MORE OIL!!!  THEY ARE GOING TO STICK!!! CAREFULL!!!  CAREFULL!!!  TURN THEM!!!

TURN THEM!!! HURRY UP!!!  ARE YOU CRAZY!!!!  THE OIL IS GOING TO SPILL!!! USE MORE SALT!!!  THE SALT!!!!”

The wife was very upset, “What is wrong with you? Why are you yelling like this? Do you think I don’t know how to fry an egg?”

The husband calmly replied, “This is to show you what it feels like for me when I am driving and you sit next to me…”

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“If you think your boss is stupid, remember: you wouldn’t have a job if he was any smarter.”

Albert A. Grant

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Scott and Glenn went on a fishing trip. They rented all the equipment: reels, rods, wading suits, rowboat, car, even a cabin in the woods. They spent a fortune.

The first day they went fishing and didn’t catch anything. The same thing happened on the second day and the third. It went on like this until finally, on the last day of their vacation, Scott caught a fish. Driving home they were really depressed.

Scott turned to Glenn and said, “Do you realize that this one lousy fish we caught cost us fifteen hundred dollars?”

Glenn replied, “Wow! It’s a good thing we didn’t catch any more!”

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I had amnesia once — or twice.

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A man was being proselytized by group of friends:

“Come join our study group. We want to discuss mankind’s relationship to God.”

“I’m married; I learned long ago that my opinions don’t matter.”

“But, when you die, will you go to heaven or to hell?”

“Wherever my wife tells me to.”

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“Darling,” said the young man to his new bride. “Now that we are married, do you think you will be able to live on my modest income?”

“Of course, dearest, no trouble,” she answered. “But what will you live on?”

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I really wish my supermarket had an aisle marked “unhealthy stuff”, so the chore of shopping wouldn’t take so long.

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A motorist was on trial for hitting a pedestrian. The motorist’s lawyer made this point: “Your honor, my client has been driving for over thirty years.”

To which the lawyer for the plaintiff retorted: “Your honor, if we are going to judge this case by experience, may I remind you that my client has been walking for over fifty years.”

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When you win, say nothing.  When you lose, say less.

Paul Brown

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A woman went to the bank and applied for a loan.

“I want a loan, I’m going to divorce my husband.”

“Oh, we don’t give loans for divorces” the manager says “We make loans for automobiles, businesses, home improvements….”

The woman interrupts and says “Well, this would certainly be a ‘Home Improvement.’

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Stress is when your mouth says “No problem” while your body screams “NO WAY!”

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“We have women in the military, but they don’t put us in the front lines. They don’t know if we can fight, if we can kill. I think we can. All the general has to do is walk over to the women and say, ‘You see the enemy over there? They say you look fat in those uniforms’.”

Elayne Boosler

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It takes two things to be a consultant – gray hair and hemorrhoids.

The gray hair makes you look distinguished and the hemorrhoids make you look concerned.

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Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight.

Extend them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster.

Your life will never be the same again.

Og Mandino

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Believe in yourself

Ray’s Daily

August 9, 2022

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Believe in yourself, push your limits, experience life, conquer your goals and be happy.

Joel Brown

Who ever you are you must believe in yourself if you are going to do all you are capable of doing. Success comes from doing the best you can do. No matter how skilled you are there is always something you can accomplish if you try.

Here is a story of a worthy young person who learned to believe in himself.

I am just as special and important as anybody else!

I used to work as a dog sitter and for a particular couple who were my clients for many years.  They had certain rules they liked followed regarding their dog’s care. 

One night, I had been dealing with an issue over their complaints about how I was locking their front door. I had just returned from walking their dog and they left me with another reminder about how the front door needed to be locked. 

When I got home, I just lost it!  After I had cooled down, my dad pointed a finger at me and these words ‘Remember you are not second class. The ones who treat you like you are . . . they are the ones who are second class.’

There was just something about the way Dad said those words that has made them stay with me. I had been trying to give this couple the benefit of the doubt, but the time had come when enough had become enough.

You see, I was diagnosed with learning disabilities when I was five and have dealt with discrimination and rejection over the years. The couple knew about my condition and sadly they were just another example of people who didn’t seem to care.

I have finally learned that my dad is right.  All those people who have made me feel bad about myself are the ones that are not worth it, not me and I am now always reminded of this quote . . .

‘You are an amazing person with unique talents. Have faith in your abilities’

Lailah Gifty Akita

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You must believe you can. If anyone else can do this, you can do this as well. Yes, you can!

Tamara Tilleman

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A group of young children were sitting in a circle with their teacher. She was going around in turn asking them all questions.

“Davy, what noise does a cow make?”

“It goes moo.”

“Alice, what noise does a cat make?”

“It goes meow.”

“Jamie, what sound does a lamb make?”

“It goes baaa.”

“Jennifer, what sound does a mouse make?”

“Errr.., it goes.. click!”

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Be careful reading the fine print. There’s no way you’re going to like it.

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A nervous taxpayer was unhappily conversing with the IRS Tax auditor who had come to review his records. At one point the auditor exclaimed,

“Mr. Carr, we feel it is a great privilege to be allowed to live and work in the USA.  As a citizen you have an obligation to pay taxes, and we expect you to eagerly pay them with a smile.”

“Thank goodness,” returned Mr. Carr, with a giant grin on his face from ear to ear”   “I thought you were going to want me to pay with cash.”

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“If you’re ridin’ ahead of the herd, best take a look back every now and then to make sure it’s still there.”

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How does Janice like being pregnant?” Bob asked his friend John.

“Oh, she’s not pregnant,” John replied, “she’s expecting.”

“What’s the difference?” Bob pressed.

Well, John explained, “She’s expecting me to cook dinner, she’s expecting me to do the housework, she’s expecting me to rub her feet . . .”

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Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder…

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A C-141 was preparing for departure from Thule Greenland, and they were waiting for the truck to arrive to pump out the aircraft’s sewage holding tank. The Aircraft Commander was in a hurry, but the truck was late in arriving, and the Airman performing the job was extremely slow in getting the tank pumped out.When the Aircraft Commander berated the Airman for his lack of speed and promised punishment, the Airman responded:

“Sir, I have no stripes, it is 20 below zero, I am stationed in Thule, Greenland, and I am pumping crap out of airplanes. Just what are you planning to do to punish me?”

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Few women admit their age, Few men act it!

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A blonde was summoned to court to appear as a witness in a lawsuit. The prosecutor opened his questioning with, “Where were you the night of August 24th?”

“Objection!” said the defense attorney. “Irrelevant!”

“Oh, that’s okay,” said the blonde from the witness stand. “I don’t mind answering the question.”

“I object!” the defense said again.

“No, really,” said the blonde. “I’ll answer.”

The judge ruled “If the witness insists on answering, there is no reason for the defense to object.”

So the prosecutor repeated the question “Where were you the night of August 24th?”

The blonde replied brightly, “I don’t remember!”

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There is just as much horse sense as ever, but it seems like the horses have it all.

~~~

A property manager of single family residence was showing a unit to prospective tenants and asking the usual questions. “Professionally employed?” he asked.

“We’re a military family,” the wife answered.

“Children?”

“Oh, yes! Ages nine and twelve,” she answered proudly.

“Animals?”

“Oh, no,” she said earnestly. “They’re very well behaved.”

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“Live your life from your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people’s souls.”

Melody Beattie

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On my way to a picnic, I stopped at a fast-food place to order a quart of potato salad. “We don’t sell it by the quart,” the clerk snapped.

“Okay, then give me two pints, please,” I replied.

I’m proud to say I held my tongue when she asked, “Do you want it in one container?”

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Believe in yourself, take on your challenges, dig deep within yourself to conquer fears. Never let anyone bring you down. You got to keep going.

Chantal Sutherland

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Be Yourself

Ray’s Daily

August 8, 2022

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Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.

Allen Ginsberg

I have decided that I will spend my time this week working on being the me I want to be. Too many times events distract us from reaping the rewards that come our efforts to do our best. I know this week will have plenty of opportunity to invest in being a better me. 

How about you? Ready for a great week. Here are some tips from Angel Chernoff on how we can make it a good one.

5 Simple Yet Powerful Affirmations to Start Your Week Right

1. If you don’t allow yourself to learn and grow from the experience — from what was said, done, and felt — you will always look at your life through the same old lens. Realize this. In many ways, what you do today matters more than what happened yesterday.

2. Calmness does not mean to be in a space where there is no chaos, trouble, or hard realities to deal with. Calmness means to be in the midst of all those things and still remain mentally, emotionally and physically centered.

3. Breathe. Be where you are. You’ve been broken down dozens of times and put yourself back together again. Think about how remarkable that is, and how far you’ve come. You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or even yesterday. You’re always growing… stronger!

4. As you journey forward, remember that the the way people see and treat you is their problem, how you respond is yours. So never regret the kindness and respect you have shown to the wrong people. Your behavior says everything about you, and their behavior says more than enough about them.

5. The fundamental goal right now is to gradually change your response to what you can’t control. To grow stronger on the inside, so that almost nothing on the outside can affect your inner peace and wellness without your conscious permission.

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About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all.

Rita Mae Brown

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We miss Bob Hope, but at least he left us his humor, here are a few of his one liners.

ON TURNING 70 “You still chase women, but only downhill”.

ON TURNING 80 “That’s the time of your life when even your birthday suit needs pressing.”

ON TURNING 90 “You know you’re getting old when the candles cost more than the cake.”

ON TURNING 100 ” I don’t feel old. In .fact I don’t feel anything until noon. Then it’s time for my nap.”

ON GIVING UP HIS EARLY CAREER, BOXING “I ruined my hands in the ring … the referee kept stepping on them.”

ON SAILORS “They spend the first six days of each week sowing their wild oats, then they go to church on Sunday and pray for crop failure.”

ON NEVER WINNING AN OSCAR “Welcome to the Academy Awards or, as it’s called at my home, ‘Passover’.”

ON GOLF “Golf is my profession. Show business is just to pay the green fees.”

ON PRESIDENTS ” I have performed for 12 presidents and entertained only six.”

ON HIS SIX BROTHERS “That’s how I learned to dance.  Waiting for the bathroom.”

ON HIS EARLY FAILURES “I would not have had anything to eat if it wasn’t for the stuff the audience threw at me.”

ON GOING TO HEAVEN “I’ve done benefits for ALL religions. I’d hate to blow the hereafter on a technicality.”

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He said: My wife and I divorced over religious differences.  She thought she was God and I didn’t!

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It had been snowing for hours when an announcement came over the intercom: “Will the students who are parked on University Drive please move their cars so that we may begin plowing.”

Twenty minutes later there was another announcement: “Will the twelve hundred students who went to move twenty six cars return to class.”

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“A tyrant must put on the appearance of uncommon devotion to religion. Subjects are less apprehensive of illegal treatment from a ruler whom they consider god-fearing and pious. On the other hand, they do less easily move against him, believing that he has the gods on his side.”

Aristotle

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An American history teacher, lecturing the class on the Puritans, asked: “What sort of people were punished in the stocks?”

To which a small voice from the back of the room responded: “The small investor.”

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Why do they lock gas station bathrooms? Are they afraid someone will clean them?

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At a golf course, four men approached the sixteenth tee. The straight fairway ran along a road and bike path fenced off on the left. The first golfer teed off and hooked the ball in that direction. The ball went over the fence and bounced off the bike path onto the road, where it hit the tire of a moving bus and was knocked back on to the fairway. As they all stood in amazement, one man asked him, “How on earth did you do that?”

He shrugged his shoulders and said, “You have to know the bus schedule.”

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According to MODERN BRIDE magazine, the average bride spends 150 hours planning her wedding.  The average groom spends 150 hours saying, “Yeah, sounds good.”

Jay Leno

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Jill had applied for a job and when she returned home, her mother asked how the interview went.

“Pretty good I think”, replied Jill, “but if I go to work there I won’t get a vacation unless I’m married.

Her mother of course, had never heard of such a thing and asked “Is that what they told you?

“No”, replied Jill, “they didn’t tell me that, but on the application it said “vacation time may not be taken until you’ve had your ‘First Anniversary'”

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Scrawled across the dorm wall were the words, “Question Everything!”

A couple of days later someone added one word… “Why?”

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During a training cruise, a destroyer was weaving its way through a myriad of islands and small fishing boats. Although it was a clear day, the radar was in operation to train the reservists. A report came from the radar room to the bridge, “Target bearing 230 degrees, believe it to be a log.”

Unimpressed by this superb job of radar interpretation, the young officer of the deck scanned the water with his powerful glasses. Perceiving a pair of sea gulls on top of the accurately reported log, he barked, “Radar, this is the bridge. Regarding your last reported target, there are two sea gulls on that log which you failed to report!”

There was a long silence as the radar antenna was swung about and pointed in the direction of the log. Then the voice of the chief radarman was heard, “Regarding the last sighting, we have a correction to make, sir. There ARE two sea gulls on that log – one male, the other female!”

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I planted some birdseed. A bird came up. Now I don’t know what to feed it.

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He said: When a new bunch of waiters was hired at the restaurant where I work, our manager asked us all to help out the new people.  Before he opened the place one day, he delivered a rehearsed motivational speech in which he emphasized teamwork and encouraged us all to work together.  “Now remember,” he concluded, “there’s no ‘I’ in team.”

One of the veterans spoke up.  “Yeah,” he said, “but there’s no ‘we’ in ‘tip.,'”

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To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.

E.E. Cummings

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Resent Daily

Ray’s Daily

August 5, 2022

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Some of our readers reported that some of yesterday’s Daily was unreadable so I am resending it today.

Ray’s Daily

August 4, 2022

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“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

Anna Quindlen

Reprint fo Ray’s Daily first published on August 4, 2004

The other day I spent a few hours with others of my generation in a workshop led by an excellent facilitator. The subject was Time for What Matters. It was obvious from the discussion that too many of us spend most, if not all of our time, doing things we think we must do, allowing little time for what we would like to do. It seems like our lives become cluttered with one thing after another that eat up our days, weeks, months and even years. We think we have to do what we always have done, we believe that we must always say yes when someone wants us to do something, we think we must have the biggest garden and the most beautiful Christmas decorations. We feel we must attend every one of our grandchildren’s sporting events, we feel that we must cook for the church super, that we must read every magazine we get, and that we must never miss an episode of a favorite TV series; the list goes on and on and on. We do lots of things that are OK but few things that really give us joy. If we just stop and think about it we discover we seldom get to do some of the things we would love to do because we have convinced ourselves that there is not time enough to do them.

As we age we have less time to finally do that one thing that we have always wanted to do. I think the worst form of procrastination is when we put off taking care of ourselves. It is perfectly alright to do what we would like to do, it is perfectly alright to reward ourselves, and it is perfectly all right to stop doing something that stands in our way of doing what we want to do. You know, if you miss that one game, skip that one magazine, keep a garden that requires less of your time, the world does not end. It is worthwhile to ask yourself every chance you get, if what you are doing is really that important and if you did not do it, who would it hurt.

Why not pick one or two things right now that you would like to do. If you are going to procrastinate, delay or cancel something else, not something that will give you satisfaction. I have always felt that the best time to take a vacation was when you can’t, that is when you need to be recharged the most. It is the same with everything else, the best time to do for ourselves is now, it is up to us to eliminate what keeps us from enjoying the rest of our lives.

The next time I hear from you I would love to hear that things are great and not just ok.

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I have enjoyed greatly the second blooming that comes when you finish the life of the emotions and of personal relations; and suddenly find – at the age of fifty, say – that a whole new life has opened before you, filled with things you can think about, study, or read about…It is as if a fresh sap of ideas and thoughts was rising in you.

Agatha Christie

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She said: My five-year-old nephew Elix wanted to caddy for my brother’s golf game.

“You have to count my strokes,” my brother told him.  “How much is six, nine, and eight?”

“Five,” answered Elix.

“Okay,” my brother smiled.  “Let’s go!”

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Warning: Dates in Calendar are closer than they appear.

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You’re Old When …”

1. You can live without sex but not without your glasses.

2. You quit trying to hold in your stomach, no matter who walks into the room.

3. You enjoy watching the news.

4. The phone rings and you hope its not for you.

5. The only reason you’re still awake at 4 am is indigestion.

6. You’re proud of your lawn mower.

7. You start singing along with the elevator music.

8. You really do want a new washing machine for your birthday.

9. You routinely check the oil in your car.

10. You’ve owned clothes so long that they’ve come back into style –TWICE.

11. You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.

12. You consider coffee one of the most important things in life.

13. 8 AM is your idea of “sleeping in.”

14. You write thank you notes without being told.

15. Neighbors borrow your tools.

16. You answer a question with, “Because I said so!”

17. Others ask for your recipes.

18. You start Christmas shopping in August.

19. You paint walls for a reason other than getting your deposit back.

20. You don’t like to drive after dark.

21. You say the words, “Turn that music down!” too often

22. You point out what buildings used to be where.

23. You know all the warning signs of a heart attack.

24. You rake the yard without being told to.

25. You can’t remember the last time you lay on the floor to watch television.

26. The service station attendant lets you pump your gas before paying

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“A cynic is a man who, when he smells flowers, looks around for a coffin.”

H. L. Mencken

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Two men were talking. “My son asked me what I did during the Sexual Revolution,” said one.

I told him I was captured early and spent the duration doing the dishes.

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My mom is very possessive.  She calls me up and says, “You weren’t home last night.  Is something going on?”

I say, “Yeah, Mom.  I’m cheating on you with another mother.”

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“The future you shall know when it has come; before then forget it.”

Aeschylus

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She said: A man called the government office where I work and requested an estimate of his benefits upon retirement.

After I gave him the information, he went on to inquire about his wife’s benefits. I asked if she had ever worked.

“She has worked all her life making me happy,” he replied.

That was nice, I commented, but had she ever contributed to a pension plan?

“No,” he said. “We made an agreement when we got married. I would make the living and she would make the living worthwhile.”

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My wife left me a note saying I should try out for “American Idle.”

But the joke is on her because she spelled it wr– hey, wait a minute!

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Mrs. Rosen is having her house painted, and her husband comes home from work and leans against the freshly painted wall.

The next day, she says to the painter, “You want to see where my husband put his hand last night?”

He sighs and says, “Look, lady, I got a tough day’s work ahead of me. Why don’t you just make us a cup of tea?”

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By the time we realize our parents were right, we have children who think we’re wrong.

Guillermo Hernandez

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Determined to cut the budget, the former governor directed that all government jobs remain unfilled once vacated.

There were many complaints, one concerning the retirement of a drawbridge operator. When Personnel refused to fill the position, the highway- division manager called the governor’s office.

“Ask the governor,” he told an aide, “Whether he wants the bridge left down so the cars can go over – or up so the ships can go through.”

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Know the true value of time; snatch, seize, and enjoy every moment of it.

No idleness; no laziness; no procrastination; never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.

Lord Chesterfield

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Take Care of Yourself

Ray’s Daily

August 4, 2022

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“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

Anna Quindlen

Reprint fo Ray’s Daily first published on August 4, 2004

The other day I spent a few hours with others of my generation in a workshop led by an excellent facilitator. The subject was Time for What Matters. It was obvious from the discussion that too many of us spend most, if not all of our time, doing things we think we must do, allowing little time for what we would like to do. It seems like our lives become cluttered with one thing after another that eat up our days, weeks, months and even years. We think we have to do what we always have done, we believe that we must always say yes when someone wants us to do something, we think we must have the biggest garden and the most beautiful Christmas decorations. We feel we must attend every one of our grandchildren’s sporting events, we feel that we must cook for the church super, that we must read every magazine we get, and that we must never miss an episode of a favorite TV series; the list goes on and on and on. We do lots of things that are OK but few things that really give us joy. If we just stop and think about it we discover we seldom get to do some of the things we would love to do because we have convinced ourselves that there is not time enough to do them.

As we age we have less time to finally do that one thing that we have always wanted to do. I think the worst form of procrastination is when we put off taking care of ourselves. It is perfectly alright to do what we would like to do, it is perfectly alright to reward ourselves, and it is perfectly all right to stop doing something that stands in our way of doing what we want to do. You know, if you miss that one game, skip that one magazine, keep a garden that requires less of your time, the world does not end. It is worthwhile to ask yourself every chance you get, if what you are doing is really that important and if you did not do it, who would it hurt.

Why not pick one or two things right now that you would like to do. If you are going to procrastinate, delay or cancel something else, not something that will give you satisfaction. I have always felt that the best time to take a vacation was when you can’t, that is when you need to be recharged the most. It is the same with everything else, the best time to do for ourselves is now, it is up to us to eliminate what keeps us from enjoying the rest of our lives.

 The next time I hear from you I would love to hear that things are great and not just ok.

~~~

I have enjoyed greatly the second blooming that comes when you finish the life of the emotions and of personal relations; and suddenly find – at the age of fifty, say – that a whole new life has opened before you, filled with things you can think about, study, or read about…It is as if a fresh sap of ideas and thoughts was rising in you.

Agatha Christie

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She said: My five-year-old nephew Elix wanted to caddy for my brother’s golf game.

“You have to count my strokes,” my brother told him.  “How much is six, nine, and eight?”

“Five,” answered Elix.

“Okay,” my brother smiled.  “Let’s go!”

~~~

Warning: Dates in Calendar are closer than they appear.

~~~

You’re Old When …”

1. You can live without sex but not without your glasses.

2. You quit trying to hold in your stomach, no matter who walks into the room.

3. You enjoy watching the news.

4. The phone rings and you hope its not for you.

5. The only reason you’re still awake at 4 am is indigestion.

6. You’re proud of your lawn mower.

7. You start singing along with the elevator music.

8. You really do want a new washing machine for your birthday.

9. You routinely check the oil in your car.

10. You’ve owned clothes so long that they’ve come back into style –TWICE.

11. You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.

12. You consider coffee one of the most important things in life.

13. 8 AM is your idea of “sleeping in.”

14. You write thank you notes without being told.

15. Neighbors borrow your tools.

16. You answer a question with, “Because I said so!”

17. Others ask for your recipes.

18. You start Christmas shopping in August.

19. You paint walls for a reason other than getting your deposit back.

20. You don’t like to drive after dark.

21. You say the words, “Turn that music down!” too often

22. You point out what buildings used to be where.

23. You know all the warning signs of a heart attack.

24. You rake the yard without being told to.

25. You can’t remember the last time you lay on the floor to watch television.

26. The service station attendant lets you pump your gas before paying

~~~

“A cynic is a man who, when he smells flowers, looks around for a coffin.”

H. L. Mencken

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Two men were talking. “My son asked me what I did during the Sexual Revolution,” said one.

I told him I was captured early and spent the duration doing the dishes.

~~~

My mom is very possessive.  She calls me up and says, “You weren’t home last night.  Is something going on?”

I say, “Yeah, Mom.  I’m cheating on you with another mother.”

~~~

“The future you shall know when it has come; before then forget it.”

Aeschylus

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She said: A man called the government office where I work and requested an estimate of his benefits upon retirement.

After I gave him the information, he went on to inquire about his wife’s benefits. I asked if she had ever worked.

“She has worked all her life making me happy,” he replied.

That was nice, I commented, but had she ever contributed to a pension plan?

“No,” he said. “We made an agreement when we got married. I would make the living and she would make the living worthwhile.”

~~~

My wife left me a note saying I should try out for “American Idle.”

But the joke is on her because she spelled it wr– hey, wait a minute!

~~~

Mrs. Rosen is having her house painted, and her husband comes home from work and leans against the freshly painted wall.

The next day, she says to the painter, “You want to see where my husband put his hand last night?”

He sighs and says, “Look, lady, I got a tough day’s work ahead of me. Why don’t you just make us a cup of tea?”

~~~

By the time we realize our parents were right, we have children who think we’re wrong.

Guillermo Hernandez

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Determined to cut the budget, the former governor directed that all government jobs remain unfilled once vacated.

There were many complaints, one concerning the retirement of a drawbridge operator. When Personnel refused to fill the position, the highway- division manager called the governor’s office.

“Ask the governor,” he told an aide, “Whether he wants the bridge left down so the cars can go over – or up so the ships can go through.”

~~~

Know the true value of time; snatch, seize, and enjoy every moment of it.

No idleness; no laziness; no procrastination; never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.

Lord Chesterfield

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

We need each other

Ray’s Daily

August 3, 2022

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We need to feel the cheer and inspiration of meeting each other, we need to gain the courage and fresh life that comes from the mingling of congenial souls, of those working for the same ends.

Josephine St. Pierre Ruffin

As time goes by I continually realize how important it is that we earn the goodwill of others. Our world is a dreary place if we face each day alone. It is those we care for and who care for us that keep us from withering in isolation. So to each of you I am grateful for your friendship fo without you my days would be bleak.

The following commitments can help us to be worthy friends,

Promise yourself

  • To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
  • To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.
  • To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.
  • To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
  • To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.
  • To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
  • To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
  • To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
  • To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
  • To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear; and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
  • To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.
  • To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

C.D. Larson

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We need Joy as we need air. We need Love as we need water. We need each other as we need the earth we share.

Maya Angelou

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For many of you this will not mean much. For myself and any others that served in the Navy in the fifties this is exactly as it was then.

How to Simulate The Life Of A Sailor. . .

·        Buy a steel dumpster, paint it gray inside & out, & live in it for 6 months.

·        Repaint your entire house every month.

·        Raise the thresholds & lower the headers of your front & back doors so that you either trip or bang your head every time you pass through them.

·        On Mondays, Wednesdays, & Fridays, turn your water heater temperature up to 200 degrees. On Tuesdays & Thursdays, turn the water heater off. On Saturdays & Sundays tell your family they use too much water during the week, so no bathing will be allowed.

·        Raise your bed to within 6 inches of the ceiling, so you can’t turn over without getting out & then getting back in.

·        Have your neighbor come over each day at 5 am, blow a whistle loudly, & shout “Reveille, reveille, all hands heave out & trice up.”

·        Empty all the garbage bins in your house & sweep the driveway three times a day, whether it needs it or not.

·        Post a menu on the kitchen door informing your family that they are having steak for dinner. Then make them wait in line for an hour. When they finally get to the kitchen, tell them you are out of steak, but they can have dried ham or hot dogs. Repeat daily until they ignore the menu & just ask for hot dogs.

·        Set your alarm clock to go off at random times during the night. At the alarm, jump up & dress as fast as you can, making sure to button your top shirt button & tuck your pants into your socks. Run out into the backyard & uncoil the garden hose.

·        Make coffee using eighteen scoops of budget-priced coffee grounds per pot, & allow the pot to simmer for 5 hours before drinking.

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May you live as long as you want, and never want as long as you live.

~~~

Down in the south, there are many churches known as “answer back” churches. When the preacher says something, the congregation naturally replies.

One Sunday, a preacher was speaking on what it would take for the church to become better.

He said “If this church is to become better, it must take up it’s bed, and walk.”

The congregation said “Let it walk, Preacher, let it walk.”

Encouraged by their response, he went further.

“If this church is going to become better, it will have to throw aside it’s hindrances and run!”

The congregation replied,

“Let it run, preacher, let it run!”

Now really into his message, he spoke stronger.

“If this church really wants to become great, it will have to take up it’s wings and fly!”

“Let it fly, Preacher, let it fly!” the congregation shouts.

The Preacher gets louder.

“If this church is going to fly, it will cost money!”

The congregation replied.         “Let it walk, Preacher, let it walk.”

~~~

A mother may hope that her daughter will get a better husband that she did, but she knows her son will never get as good a wife as his father did.

~~~

Father O’Malley answers the phone:

“Hello, is this Father O’Malley?”

“It is.”

“This is the IRS. Can you help us?”

“I can.”

“Do you know a Ted Houlihan?”

“I do.”

“Is he a member of your congregation?”

“He is.”

“Did he donate $10,000 to the church?”

“He will.”

~~~

Each one of us has lived through some devastation, some loneliness, some weather superstorm or spiritual superstorm, when we look at each other we must say, I understand. I understand how you feel because I have been there myself. We must support each other and empathize with each other because each of us is more alike than we are unalike.

Maya Angelou

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Keep Calm

Ray’s Daily

August 2, 2022

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have found over the years that getting upset does not do me any good. The alternative is to stay calm and make the best of what ever comes my way.

Here are some thoughts of Angel Chernoff’s that I agree with.

5 Daily Quotes that Will Calm Your Mind When You’re at a Crossroads

1. Talk like you are blessed. Walk like you are blessed. Think like you are blessed. Work like you are blessed. And you will be.

2. It’s often our own thinking that hurts us the most. There’s no reason to imprison yourself. Don’t think outside the box. Think like there is no box.

3. Letting go isn’t forgetting, it’s remembering without fear. It’s stepping forward with a present mind and a lesson learned.

4. Our character is often most evident at our highs and lows. Be humble at the mountaintops, strong in the valleys, and faithful in between.

5. It’s funny how we outgrow what we once thought we couldn’t live without, and then we fall in love with what we didn’t even know we wanted. Embrace life’s gradual evolution…

The bottom line is, despite the real world challenges you face, the biggest and most complex obstacle you will ever have to personally overcome is your own mind. In other words, you aren’t responsible for everything that happens to you in life, but you ARE responsible for undoing the self-defeating thinking patterns that these undesirable experiences create.

~~~

. “Set peace of mind as your highest goal, and organise your life around it.”

Brian Tracy

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A blonde is taking the driving portion of her driver’s license exam. She handles most of the maneuvers quite well. She has a little trouble parallel parking, however, and winds up a couple of feet from the curb.

“Could you get a little closer?” the examiner asks.

The blonde then unbuckles her seat belt and slides over toward the examiner. She asks, “Now what?”

~~~

I made a stupid mistake last week. But now that I think of it, did you ever hear of someone making a clever mistake?

~~~

A Catholic woman, a Protestant woman and a Jewish woman die and go to heaven. St. Peter meets them at the gate to heaven.

The Catholic woman says, “I’ve been a good wife and mother, I took good care of my family and I want to go to heaven.” St. Peter tells her to go to the left.

The Protestant woman says, “I’ve been a good woman. I kept my house clean and cooked and took care of my family, and went to church every Sunday.” St. Peter tells her to step to the left also.

The Jewish woman tells St. Peter, “I’ve been a good woman, I made Shabbos every Friday, I went to the synagogue on the holidays, and took care of my family.” St. Peter tells her to step to the right.

She immediately asks him, “Why did you tell me to go to the right and you told the other two women to go to the left?”

St. Peter replies, “Don’t you want to go to the beauty parlor first?

I love Jewish humor, it is no wonder that most of the great comedians have been Jewish.

Ray

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I am a deeply superficial person.

Andy Warhol

~~~

Mary:  So I guess I misinterpreted everything.

Jill:  What do you mean?

Mary:  Well, he got down on one knee in front of me, and…

Jill:  And what?

Mary:  And he retied his shoe!

~~~

“An error can never become true however many times you repeat it. The truth can never be wrong, even if no one hears it.”

Mahatma Gandhi

~~~

She said: Being married or single is a choice we all have to make. It’s not a great choice….it’s sort of like when the doctor says “Ointment or suppositories?”

~~~

Give a man enough rope and he’ll claim he’s tied up at the office.

~~~

NEW BUMPER STICKERS

Don’t play stupid with me… I’m better at it.

This truck has been in 15 accidents…and hasn’t lost one yet.

Humpty-Dumpty was pushed!

Keep honking, I am reloading!

Was today really necessary?

~~~

“Patience is not the ability to wait. Patience is to be calm no matter what happens, constantly take action to turn it to positive growth opportunities, and have faith to believe that it will all work out in the end while you are waiting.”

Roy T. Bennett

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

I can do it

Ray’s Daily

August 1, 2022

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“When you think positive, good things happen.”

Matt Kemp

Here we go, a new month that will include more torrid weather. I also have a number of activities scheduled. With my failing eyesight, balance problems and hearing loss some of what I will do will be difficult but not impossible. The reward for staying active and doing all I can do makes it all worthwhile

Thinking positively

If you want to get somewhere, you have to know where you want to go and how to get there. Then never, never, never give up.

The secret of life isn’t what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you.

Help other people to cope with their problems and your own will be easier to cope with.

Never use the word impossible seriously again. Toss it into the verbal wastebasket.

Self-trust is the first secret of success. So believe in and trust yourself.

Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have.

Joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. In giving it, you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible.

How you think about a problem is more important than the problem itself – so always think positively.

Go at life with abandon; give it all you’ve got. And life will give all it has to you.

Norman Vincent Peale

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“A positive attitude causes a chain of reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.”

Wade Boggs

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A friend sent this to me. I assume that these are memories to forget if you can. Ray

The Seven Dwarfs of Menopause arrived at my door without warning:

Itchy, Bitchy, Sweaty, Sleepy, Bloated, Forgetful and All-Dried-Up. One by one they crept into my own private cottage in the woods and started to take over my life. The first to arrive was Itchy. I developed this itch on my right calf that was so irritating, I wanted to scratch the skin right off my body.

Then Bitchy came to my door. No longer was my PMS restrained to one or two days a month–it felt like constant PMS. Then I would swing from Bitchy to Weepy for God’s sake, what was wrong with me? Ding-dong… It’s the middle of the night and Sweaty has crawled into bed with me. Oh, yes, Sweaty brought embarrassing hot flashes and introduced me to night sweats where it seemed as if a faucet had been attached between my breasts.

Of course Sweaty brought about Sleepy, because I was tired all the time. I would wake up so many times in the night and not be able to get back to sleep.

Bloated crept in slowly, my once-svelte figure got thick through the middle section, even though I was following my weight-loss program that had worked so well for so many years!

I can’t quite remember when Forgetful arrived, but one day my brain stopped working. I considered myself a pretty focused woman until Forgetful came, and I could not keep a coherent thought in my brain. Am I getting Alzheimer’s? I wondered.

Last, All-Dried-Up slowly encroached upon my happy marriage. This was probably the most unpleasant of the dwarf family. Sex was no longer on the top of my list–or on my list at all. My husband would give me that knowing look, and I would think, “Frankly, I’d rather have a smoothie.”

~~~

It’s no use having a good memory unless you have something good to remember.

~~~

The Scottsman comes to his friend in tears. “My beautiful comb. I broke a tooth on it an now I can’t use it anymore. What am I going to do? Now I’ll have to buy another one.”

“Well,” said his friend, “you don’t need to buy another just because you lost one tooth on your comb.”

“But you don’t understand. It was the last tooth.”

~~~

If a book about failures doesn’t sell, is it a success?

~~~

On a busy Med/Surg floor the doctor stops the nurse to brief her on a patient’s condition. “This patient is a fellow physician and my favorite golf partner. His injury is serious and I fear he will not be able to play golf again unless you follow my orders exactly.”

The doctor then began listing orders:

“You must give an injection in a different location every twenty minutes followed by a second injection exactly five minutes after the first.”

“He must take two pills at exactly every hour followed by one pill every fifteen minutes for eight hours.”

“He must drink no more and no less than ten ounces of water every twenty-five minutes and must void between.

“Soak his arm in warm water for fifteen minutes then place ice for ten minutes and repeat over and over for the rest of the day.”

“Give range of motion every thirty minutes.”

“He requires a back rub and foot rub every hour.”

“Feed him something tasty every hour.”

“Be cheerful and do whatever he asks at all times.

“Chart his condition and vital signs every twenty minutes.”

“You must do these things exactly as I ordered or his injury will not heal properly, and he will not able to play golf well.”

The nurse left the doctor and entered the patient’s room. She was greeted by anxious family and an equally anxious patient. All asked the nurse what the doctor had said about the patient.

The nurse started, “The doctor said that you will live.”

Then quickly reviewing the orders, the nurse added, “But you will have to learn a new sport.”

~~~

A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.

Pioneer Girls Leaders’ Handbook

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Nancy complained to Pat, “Martha told me that you told her the secret I told you not to tell her.”  

“Well,” replied Pat in a hurt tone, “I told her not to tell you I told her.”  

“Oh dear!” sighed Nancy. “Well, don’t tell her I told you that she told me.”  

~~~

“If you see the world and yourself through a lens smudged by negativity, then you’ll find much misery. If you look outwards and inwards through lens brightened by positivity you’ll find much to be happy and appreciative about.”

Henrik Edberg

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Be Wise

Ray’s Daily

July 29, 2022

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“Clear thinking requires courage rather than intelligence.”

Thomas Szasz

Life is not always easy but we can deal with the challenges we face. All of us have the latent ability to overcome adversity all we need to do is unleash our inner strength. Here are some quotes offered by Angel Chernoff that can help.

5 Quotes that Will Change How You Think and Handle Tough Situations

1. Taking a step back to gracefully walk away from situations that threaten your peace of mind, values, morals, or self-worth, is almost always a healthy and necessary step forward.

2. Distancing yourself from someone who keeps giving you negative vibes or unhealthy energy is self-care. Stepping back from situations where you feel unappreciated or disrespected is self-care. Choose to honor your feelings and boundaries, respectfully.

3. Trust the journey of your life, and you will gradually outgrow what you thought you couldn’t live without, and fall in love with what you didn’t even know you wanted.

4. Remember, peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no chaos, trouble, or hard realities to deal with. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still remain mentally, emotionally, and physically centered.

5. The latest research suggests that it takes roughly 66 days to form a new habit. So for the next nine weeks, wake up every morning and look at the right side, or perhaps the bright side, of your life and you will rewire your brain.

The bottom line is, despite the real world challenges you face, the biggest and most complex obstacle you will have to personally overcome on a daily basis is your own mind and reactions…

YES, YOU CAN THINK BETTER, which means you can tap into your inner strength and ultimately live better, one day at a time.

Truth be told, life will get better when YOU get better. Start investing in yourself mentally and physically. Make it a priority to learn and grow a little bit every day. The stronger you grow and become, the better your life will feel in the long run.

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“What we think, we become.”

Buddha

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“Ever since we got married, my wife has tried to change me. She got me to stop drinking, smoking and running around until all hours of the night. She taught me how to dress well, enjoy the fine arts, gourmet cooking, classical music, even how to invest in the stock market.”

“Sounds like you may be bitter because she changed you so drastically,” remarked his friend.

“I’m not bitter. Now that I’m so improved, she just isn’t good enough for me.”

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Teacher: I hope I didn’t see you looking at Don’s paper.

Little Johnny: I hope you didn’t either.

~~~

I knew as early as our wedding what marriage to my wife would be like. The priest asked my wife, “Do you take this man to be your husband.” And she said, “I do.”

Then the priest asked me, “Do you take this woman to be your wife,” and my wife said, “He does.”

~~~

Someday, we’ll look back on this, laugh nervously and change the subject.

~~~

Will Rogers said:

1. Eventually you will reach a point when you stop lying about your age and start bragging about it.

2. The older we get, the fewer things seem worth waiting in line for.

3. Some people try to turn back their odometers. Not me, I want people to know “why” I look this way. I’ve traveled a long way and some of the roads weren’t paved.

4. When you are dissatisfied and would like to go back to youth, think of Algebra.

5. You know you are getting old when everything either dries up or leaks.

6. I don’t know how I got over the hill without getting to the top.

7. One of the many things no one tells you about aging is that it is such a nice change from being young.

8. One must wait until evening to see how splendid the day has been.

9. Being young is beautiful, but being old is comfortable.

10. Long ago when men cursed and beat the ground with sticks, it was called witchcraft. Today it’s called golf.

And finally, If you don’t learn to laugh at trouble, you won’t have anything to laugh at when you are old.

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There’s always at least one bolt on anything that’s adjustable. It fits whatever size wrench you don’t have.

~~~

A blonde and her brunette friend were talking, when the blonde said, “I hate all the blonde jokes people tell.” “Oh, they are only jokes. There are a lot of stupid people out there. Here, I’ll prove it to you.” They went outside and hailed a taxi driver. “Please take me to 29 Nickel Street to see if I’m home,” said the brunette. The taxi drove them to Nickel Street, and when they finally got out, the brunette looked at the blonde and said, “See! That guy was really stupid.”

“No kidding,” replied the blonde. “There was a pay phone just around the corner. You could have called instead.”

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The most damaging phrase in the language is: It’s always been done that way.

Grace Hopper

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A young man from a prominent family was being divorced by his glamorous wife. His lawyer called with news about the property settlement. “The good news is that she isn’t asking for any share of your future inheritance.”

“Great!” said the young man. “What’s the bad news?”

“Well,” said the lawyer, “after the divorce, she’s marrying your father!”

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“A man who as a physical being is always turned toward the outside, thinking that his happiness lies outside him, finally turns inward and discovers that the source is within him.”

Soren Kierkegaard

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Avoid Ego Trips

Ray’s Daily

July 28, 2022

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Ego trip: a journey to nowhere.

Robert Half

Before I start what will be a busy day I thought I would share with you the value of setting our ego aside while we concentrate on enjoying our lives.  I think too many of us let our desire to win keep us from appreciating all we have already won. Here is a piece from the internet that I have abridged that offers what may be the secret of achieving more happiness.

5 Ways For Getting Rid Of Ego

Before we can discuss how to get rid of ego, it is necessary to understand what is meant by ego.  Put very simply, ego is the sum of all the beliefs and experiences that combine to define the way a person leads their life.

We can see our ego as a little internal voice that speaks to us of fear, anxiety, and judgment – both of ourselves and others.  The nagging doubts that your ego presents to you can hold you back, making you fearful for the future, doubting your ability to do anything at all, and giving you a feeling of inadequacy.

Here are five ways that will show you how to get rid of ego.

1.  Avoid being offended. – Do not allow your ego to whisper destructive thoughts to you as you go through life.  Being constantly offended by the small things that we encounter every day takes your attention away from the bigger picture.

2.  Lose the need to win and to be always right. – Being urged on by your ego to be right and to win in every situation is destructive.  The need to be right every time leads to unpopularity and others having a negative view of you.  This will hold you back when you need the help and co-operation of others to achieve your goals.

3.  Stop feeling superior. – You will soon alienate others if you adopt an attitude of superiority.  This will lead to you being resented and eventually ignored.  Life is much less enjoyable when you are an outsider.

4.  Lose the need for more.  – Do not give in to your ego’s need for more.  Lead a simpler life, and you will find it brings greater contentment and a feeling of achievement.  The pressure will be off you, and you will progress far more easily towards your goal.

5.  Stop coveting accomplishments. – Just as losing the need for more is a desirable aim, so is losing the need for accomplishments.  It is the need that is destructive, as having an over-riding need for something puts unnecessary pressure on you.  Taking away that pressure will make achieving a goal a pleasurable activity.  You will be happier and more likely to make meaningful progress.

Conclusion

Getting rid of your ego, therefore, is something that you can achieve by altering your approach to life.  Lead a simpler, calmer, less demanding life, with less pressure on yourself to perform, and you will find that you now face less of a struggle.

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An egotist is not a man who thinks too much of himself; he is a man who thinks too little of other people.

Joseph Fort Newton

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The top ten reasons men should join the church choir

10. Rehearsals are every Wednesday night. Which means that for those few hours, you will significantly reduce your risk of contracting tendonitis from non-stop operation of a television remote control or computer mouse.

9. Because you wear a choir robe every Sunday, you are liberated from a task many men find quite challenging: finding clothes that match properly.

8. From your special vantage point every Sunday, in which you look out at the entire congregation from the choir seats, you will develop interesting new hobbies. Among these is a little guessing game called “Who’s Praying, Who’s Sleeping?”

7. On the other hand, sitting in full view of 400 500 people on a weekly basis makes it much less likely that you yourself will give in to a chronic lack of sleep. Although it has been known to happen.

6. If you think your singing in the shower sounds good now, just wait till you’ve been singing with us for a few weeks.

5. Singing in a choir is one of the few activities for men that does not require electronics equipment or expensive power tools. This could be good for the family budget.

4. For the fitness buffs, singing in the Choir is not only heart healthy, it’s soul healthy. But there are no monthly membership fees, and it’s a lot easier on the knees than jogging.

3. If you think you’ve done everything there is to do, and there are no great challenges left in life, try singing with us guys and staying on pitch.

2. Choir rehearsal lasts half as long as a professional football game, but is at least twice as satisfying. This is especially true if you are a long-suffering fan of the Bengals or Colts.

And the number 1 reason men should join the choir:

1. When people ask you whether you’ve been behaving yourself,  you can say with the utmost sincerity, “Hey, I’m a Choir Boy.”

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Waiter: Would you like your coffee black?

Customer: What other colors do you have?

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Hints From Helga

Dirt: Layers of dirty film on windows and screens provide a helpful filter against harmful and aging rays from the sun. Call it an SPF factor of 5 and leave it alone.

Cobwebs: Cobwebs artfully draped over lampshades reduce the glare from the bulb, thereby creating a romantic atmosphere. If your husband points out that the light fixtures need dusting, simply look confused and exclaim, “What? And spoil the mood?”

Pet Hair: Explain the mound of pet hair brushed up against the doorways by claiming you are collecting it there to use for stuffing hand-sewn play animals for underprivileged children.

Guests: If unexpected company is coming, pile everything unsightly into one room and close the door. As you show your guests through your tidy home, rattle the door knob vigorously, fake a growl, and say, “I’d love you to see our den, but Fluffy hates to be disturbed and the shots are SO expensive.”

Dusting: If dusting is REALLY out of control, simply place a showy urn on the coffee table and insist “This is where Grandma wanted us to scatter her ashes…”

Painting: Don’t bother repainting. Simply scribble lightly over a dirty wall with an assortment of crayons, and try to muster a glint of tears as you say, “Junior did this the week before that unspeakable accident…I haven’t had the heart to clean it…”

General Cleaning: Mix one-quart cup pine-scented household cleaner with four cup soft water in a spray bottle. Mist the air lightly. Leave dampened rags in conspicuous locations. Develop an exhausted look, throw yourself onto the couch, and sigh: “I clean and I clean and I still don’t get anywhere…”

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Lord, grant that I might not so much seek to be loved as to love.

St. Francis of Assisi

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There was a university in New England where the students operated a “bank” of term papers and other homework assignments.

There were papers to suit all needs and as it would look odd if an undistinguished student suddenly handed in a brilliant essay, there were papers for an A grade, B grade and C grade.

A student, who had spent the weekend on pursuits other than his assignment, went to the “bank” and as his course was a standard one he took out a paper for an inconspicuous C, retyped it and handed the work in.

In due course he received it back with the professor’s comments “I wrote this paper myself twenty years ago. I always thought it should have had an A, and now I am glad to give it one!”

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No one has learned the meaning of life until he has surrendered his ego to the service of his fellow men.

Beran Wolfe

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