Ray's musings and humor

“It is the preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else that prevents us from living freely and nobly.”

Bertrand Russell

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Here are excerpts from an article written by Angel Chernoff that I think is worth reading before we make our New Year’s resolutions. I fhink we all would be a lot happier if we were not so focused on the acquisition of things and position and spent more time on seeing the value of what is already available to us,

The Search for Happiness Causes Misery

You can’t find something that’s already here with you.  Happiness exists in this moment.  It’s not something you need to find.  That’s like trying to find the oxygen you’re breathing right now.

In reality, it’s the tension of your mind that causes unhappiness.  If you’re not happy, it’s because your mind is focused on something that’s making you unhappy.  And why is your mind doing this?  Because you’re stuck in a vicious cycle of misdirected judgment, productivity and purpose that has you thinking about every imaginable time and place, except right here, right now.  The problem occurs when you base your entire reason for living on a point in time – an activity or achievement – that doesn’t yet exist. 

When we place all of our happiness on the idea of ‘getting’ something, checking off items on a to-do list, or achieving a future goal, we’re fooling ourselves.  And we never stop to think that it might be all the chasing that’s making us miserable.  We’re too distracted with trying to win the game.  As soon as we beat one level and see some success, we’re instantly in a hurry to upgrade our search and move on to the next level.  We never stop to think that it’s not the failure to win the game that causes our grief, but the game itself.

We neglect to realize that sometimes the best way to solve a problem is to stop participating in the problem.  Sometimes the best way to solve a problem is to simply stand still and breathe.

Sometimes…

◾The smartest way to be happy with the place you live is to stop chasing the mansion you see on HGTV with five bedrooms, a pool, a fireplace, and a three-car garage.

◾The best way to solve the problem of not having lots of friends is to stop worrying about having more, and instead appreciate the few good ones you do have.

◾The simplest way to be content with yourself is not to achieve high admiration and praise from others, but to accept yourself fully for who you are now.

◾The quickest route to happiness is to stop the pursuit of finding happiness and start the process of being happiness.

By letting go a little we immediately release ourselves of the grasping tension of the mind.  But it’s not easy to stay in this mindset (the mind loves to hold on); it’s something we have to constantly cultivate.

It’s especially difficult when society tends to place more value on things and status, than on experiences.  We are told to value what we do more than how we feel.  This is complete nonsense when you think about it.  The way you feel is far more important than what you own or how others perceive you.  Isn’t the purpose of everything you do to feel good?  Isn’t the purpose of that new gold watch, that important job title, or college degree to give you a feeling of accomplishment?  Aren’t these things supposed to make you happy?

The problem with this is we’re basing our happiness on fleeting things and events.  We’re deriving our joy from an acquisition or an achievement.  This isn’t true, lasting happiness; it’s an addiction.  We get a short burst of endorphins to our bloodstream from our new big screen TV, or new iPhone, or new title on our business cards, and then what happens?  It disappears.  It leaves us feeling empty and we begin looking for our next fix.

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“To be content with little is difficult; to be content with much, impossible.”

Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach

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“Hey, Judi, how’d your ski weekend go?” Monika asked.

“The good news was I shared the cabin with these two drop dead gorgeous men!”

“Oooo!  That must have been wonderful!  What’s the bad news?”

“They were engaged to each other.”

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Do nothing, and nothing happens. Do something, and something happens.

Benjamin Franklin

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Max had lived in the city all his life, but tired of the rat race, decided he was going to give up the city life, move to the country, and become a chicken farmer

Turns out that his next door neighbor was also a chicken farmer. The neighbor came for a visit one day and said, “Chicken farming isn’t easy. Tell you what. To help you get started, I’ll give you 100 chickens.”

Max was thrilled. Two weeks later the new neighbor stopped by to see how things were going.

Max said, “Not too good. All 100 chickens died.”

His neighbor said, “Oh, I can’t believe that. I’ve never had any trouble with my chickens. I’ll give you 100 more.”

Another two weeks went by and the second 100 chickens died too.”

Astounded, the neighbor asked, “what went wrong? What did you do to them?”

Well, says Max, “I’m not sure whether I’m planting them too deep or not far apart enough.”

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Law of the Workshop: Any tool, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible corner.

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She said: When my son graduated from high school, he had to give a speech. He began by reading from his prepared text. “I want to talk about my mother and the wonderful influence she has had on my life,” he told the audience. “She is a shining example of parenthood, and I love her more than words could ever do justice.”

At this point he seemed to struggle for words. After a pause, looking up with a sly grin he said, “It’s really hard to read my mom’s handwriting.”

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Before I met my husband, I’d never fallen in love. I’d stepped in it a few times.

Rita Rudner

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Lunching with a friend in a fast-food restaurant, I was telling her about a teenager who had rear-ended my car. The teen blamed me for the accident. “She even called me every dirty name in the book!” I said.

Just then I looked over to the next table where two nine-year-old boys had apparently been paying close attention to my story. One said to the other, “There’s a book?”

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While we ponder when to begin, it becomes too late to do.

Quintilian

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“Simplicity involves unburdening your life, and living more lightly with fewer distractions that interfere with a high quality life, as defined uniquely by each individual.”

Linda Breen Pierce.

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

We get another chance

“However long the night, the dawn will break.”

African Proverb

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As the year winds down many of us will take stock of how the year has been. I, like most people have some good memories and some that are not so good. Most of the unpleasant stuff was due to the unavoidable medical setbacks that come from aging. But some of my fond memories come from how much I appreciate the folks who provide me medical care.

I also appreciate the many positive minutes I spent with friends and family. I am particularly grateful for having attended so many quality entertainment offerings in my city, especially those provided by professional actor friends. While I do miss participating in as many projects and seminars as I have in the past the ones that I did participate in were especially rewarding. Of course as usual my days were brightened by the friendship offered by so many of you.

Some years ago Brian Dyson, the then CEO of Coca-Cola wrote the following that I think we should all think about as we plan how we will live in the year ahead. I do appreciate all of you and look forward to the months ahead.

Juggle Balls

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them – work, family, health, friends and spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life. How?

◾Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

◾Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.

◾Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

◾Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL the days of your life.

◾Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.

◾Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us each together.

◾Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.

◾Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.

◾Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you are going.

◾Don’t forget that a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.

◾Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.

◾Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

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“One’s doing well if age improves even slightly one’s capacity to hold on to that vital truism: “This too shall pass.”

Alain de Botton

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Lawyer: Tell us about the fight.

Witness: I didn’t see no fight.

Lawyer: Well, tell us what you did see.

Witness: I went to a dance at the Turner house, and as the men swung around and changed partners, they would slap each other, and one fellow hit harder than the other one liked, and so the other one hit back and somebody pulled a knife and someone else drew a six-shooter and another guy came up with a rifle that had been hidden under a bed, and the air was filled with yelling and smoke and bullets.

Lawyer: You, too, were shot in the fracas?

Witness: No sir, I was shot midway between the fracas and the navel.

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I’m convinced that in a past life I was somebody named Occupant, and they’re still forwarding my mail.

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WHAT I DIDN’T KNOW BEFORE I HAD KIDS

* Which lines of The Cat in the Hat and If I Ran the Circus can be skipped over without a child noticing.

* How bright a 3 a.m. full moon is.

* The design marvels of hooded towels, Velcro-strap shoes and mitten clips.

* Locations of public restrooms all across town.

* Why anyone would bother retracing their steps for miles just to retrieve a lost blankie.

* That tigers live in the trees in our backyard.

* How to open a van door while bobbling 2 lunch boxes, two extra coats, a purse, a diaper bag and a baby.

* That solid white socks get lost in the dryer at a much slower rate than do the mates of patterned socks that coordinate to special outfits.

* How little sleep a human body truly needs to function.

* Almost every Disney lyric ever penned.

* That one can never own too many sippy cup lids or refrigerator magnets.

* Scientific names of dinosaurs from A to Z.

* That reverse psychology really works.

* The distinctive sounds of Cheerios crunching underfoot.

* How far you can dilute juice and still retain it’s taste.

* The blessedness of naps, the inviolate importance of routines.

* How much you could love one human being!

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“Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.”

Eddie Cantor

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A little old lady told a friend of mine the other day, when they were standing in line together, that all she had ever wanted in life was four animals.

My friend, who has a large dog, and a big heart for strays said, “Oh really, what kind of animals do you want?”

The little old lady replied, “A mink on my back, a Jaguar in my garage, a tiger in my bed, and a jackass to pay for all of it!”

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The secret of getting ahead is getting started.

Sally Berger

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She said:

Early one morning, my husband, who works in a funeral home, woke me, complaining of severe abdominal pains. We rushed to the emergency room, where tests were performed to determine the source of the pain. My husband decided not to have me call in sick for him until we knew what was wrong. When the results came back, the nurse informed us that, true to our suspicions, he was suffering from a kidney stone. I turned to my husband and asked, “Would you like me to call the funeral home now?”

With a scornful look, the nurse turned to me and snapped, “Honey, he’s not that sick!”

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“Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good.”

Elizabeth Edwards

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Who are you really?

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations  and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

Bruce Lee

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Winter has been hiding from us here in Indiana but it has decided to come out of hiding but it still remains unseasonably moderate. I hope I haven’t triggered a change for the worse.

The other day I read an article by Mark Chernoff that I think has a lot of merit. I believe that far too many of us compulsively try to please everyone or equally as bad try to make others change to please ourselves. Too many of us in effect give who we are try to become what we are not. I honestly think that living the happy life results from know yourself and then spending your time just being you.

I have abridged Chernoff’s article because of its length but have retained all his points. Oh and by the way I like you the way you are when you daon’t try to be someone else.

7 Things You Should Stop Expecting from Others

The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations.  This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others. Which means it’s time to…

  1. Stop expecting them to agree with you. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about.  Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget that.  You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to yours.  In fact, the more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less approval you need from everyone else.
  2. Stop expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself. True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it.  Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.
  3. Stop expecting (and needing) them to like you. You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another. Don’t ever forget your worth.  Spend time with those who value you.  No matter how good you are to people, there will always be one negative person who criticizes you.  Smile, ignore them, and carry on.
  4. Stop expecting them to fit your idea of who they are. Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM.
  5. Stop expecting them to know what you’re thinking. People can’t read minds. They will never know how you feel unless you tell them.  Your boss?  Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet.  That cute guy you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy?  Yeah, you guessed it, he hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given him the time of day either.

In life, you have to communicate with others regularly and effectively.  And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words.  You have to tell people what you’re thinking.  It’s as simple as that.

  1. Stop expecting them to suddenly change. If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do.

For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try.  Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them.

  1. Stop expecting them to be “OK.” Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you. Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own.

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“There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves. Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.”

Steve Maraboli

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HELPFUL LIFE HINTS

  • If you’re bidding on a job for UPS, don’t send your bid by FedEx.
  • If your computer says, “Printer out of Paper,” this problem cannot be resolved by continuously clicking the “OK” button.
  • When your PC says “You have mail,” don’t go to the company mail room and look for a package.
  • If you’re in the armed services, and it’s April 1st, and you get an e-mail message to call Colonel Sanders for new orders, don’t.
  • If you go to the computer store to buy a mousepad, you don’t have to specify whether it’s for a Windows or a Macintosh.

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Consciousness: That annoying time between naps.

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Two old guys are pushing their carts around Wal-Mart when they collide. The first old guy says to the second guy, “Sorry about that.  I’m looking for my wife, and I guess I wasn’t paying attention to where I was going.”

The second old guy says, “That’s OK.  It’s a coincidence.  I’m looking for my wife, too. I can’t find her, and I’m getting a little desperate.”

The first old guy says, “Well, maybe I can help you find her. What does she look like?”

The second old guy says, “Well, she is 27 yrs old, tall, with red hair, blue eyes, long legs, big busted, and is wearing short shorts. What does your wife look like?”

To which the first old guy says, “Doesn’t matter, — let’s look for yours.”

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When I hear somebody sigh, ‘Life is hard,’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?’

Sydney J. Harris

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Joe went to a psychiatrist. “Doc,” he said. “I’ve got trouble. Every time I get into bed, I’m sure that there’s somebody under it. I haven’t slept in a week. I’m going crazy.”

“Come to me three times a week and I’ll cure your fears.”

“How much do you charge”?

“A hundred dollars per visit.”

Six months later, the doctor met Joe on the street.

“Why didn’t you ever come to see me again”?

“A bartender cured me for $10. He told me to cut the legs off the bed!”

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The person who spends all of today bragging about what he is going to accomplish tomorrow probably did the very same thing yesterday.

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Growing up as a kid, I learned all about capitalism through the board game Monopoly. I mean, what better way to teach a young mind the way our economy functions. I loved this game and still do. Only now, as an adult I have some questions that remain unanswered.   For instance, if I have all this money and own all this real estate…why am I still driving around in a thimble?

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Why must the phrase, “It is none of my business,” always be followed by the word “but”?

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A Florida officer pulls over an eighty-six-year-old woman because her hand signals were confusing.

“First you put your hand up, like you’re turning right, then you wave your hand up and down, then you turn left,” said the officer.

“I decided not to turn right,” she explains.

“Then why the up and down?” asks the officer.

“Officer,” she sniffs, “I was erasing!”

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The essential lesson I’ve learned in life is to just be yourself. Treasure the magnificent being that you are and recognize first and foremost you’re not here as a human being only. You’re a spiritual being having a human experience.

Wayne Dyer

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Thanks for the memories

The best memory is that which forgets nothing, but injuries.

Write kindness in marble and write injuries in the dust.

Persian Proverb

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I had a full day yesterday and am off to she a Doctor first thing this morning so let’s see what I can dig up from the archives.

Ray’s Daily first published on December 2, 2004

As you know the news is not always good. Each day one or more of us has to carry a heavy burden. I hope that we all do what we can to share the load, or at least provide empathy to those who must deal with tragedy in their lives.

Yesterday I just got an e-mail from a friend who just lost her brother to cancer at too young an age. My friend shared her brother’s almost intolerable agony as his life slipped away over a long period of time. I also recently heard from an old friend’s daughter that her dad has inoperable lung cancer and is terminal, this on top of her mother dying of cancer not that many months ago. Not only that, she told me that her brother’s son is fighting a brain tumor. This family has been friends of ours for nearly 50 years, when we lived in the same city they were our brothers and sisters. They deserve better.

My heart goes out to those who are suffering and to those who suffer with them as they watch loved ones battle for their very lives. I never have adequate words to express just how much I wish that they did not have to go through these terrible life experiences. It is a time when our friends probably need us most. While it is not too much fun to put your arm around someone who is sharing the pain of a loved one, there is no better time to show them that we care. As we reach the end of another year I hope that these wonderful caregivers will find life a little better in the months ahead.

Each of us experience pain and joy as life goes on. At least we have been given the memories of the good years, years that those we have lost would most like to be remembered. It is up to us to remember the past while making the best of the future. I wish us all well.

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Every man’s memory is his private literature.

Aldous Huxley

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A couple went to pay a visit to another couple, unannounced.

The wife answered the door.  “Come in,” she said.

The other couple came in, sat down, then asked, “Where’s Jack?”

“Oh,” replied his wife, “he’s in the bathroom, grouting and spackling.”

“Oh, dear,” said the other lady, “I had that once and didn’t get over it for two weeks.”

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Being right too soon is socially unacceptable.

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Here is some more about where I live.

YOU KNOW YOU’RE FROM INDIANA WHEN:

You think the state Bird is Larry.

You can say “French Lick” without laughing out loud.

There’s actually a college near you named “Ball State.”

You know Batesville is the casket-making capital of the world and you’re proud of it.

You could never figure out spring forward-fall back, so screw Daylight Savings Time!

Down south to you means Kentucky.

You have no problem spelling or pronouncing Terre Haute.

Your school classes were canceled because of cold.

Your school classes were canceled because of heat.

You know what the phrase “knee-high by the Fourth of July” means.

You’ve heard of Euchre, you know how to play Euchre, and you are a master of Euchre.

Detassling was your first job. Bailing hay, your second. Or you could stack hay, swim in the pond to clean off and then have the strength to play a couple of games of hoops, all in the same barn lot on the same day.

You say things like catty-wampus and kitty corner and know what they mean.

You install security lights on your house and garage, then leave them both unlocked.

You drink pop. You catch frogs at the crick. If you want someone to hear you, you holler at ’em.

You know that baling wire was the predecessor to duct tape.

You know that strangers are the only ones who come to your front door.

You think nothing of driving on the roads and being stuck behind a farm implement in spring and fall. You just hope it’s not a hog truck or a manure spreader.

High school basketball games draw bigger crowds on the weekend than movie theaters, If you have a movie theater.

Driving is better in the winter because the potholes are filled with snow.

The local paper covers national and international headlines on one page but requires six for local sports.

You can repeat the scores of the last eight NBA games, but unless the MVP is a Hoosier, you are not sure who he is.

You can see at least two basketball hoops from your yard.

Indianapolis is the BIG CITY.

Getting stuck by a train is a legitimate excuse for being late to school or work.

Everyone knows who the town cops are, where they live, and whether they’re at home or on duty.

You’ve been to the Covered Bridge Festival. And you took back roads to get there. Why sit in traffic?

To you, tenderloin is not an expensive cut of beef, but a big, salty, breaded, & fried piece of pork served on a bun with pickle.

You end your sentences with prepositions, as in “Where’s it at?” or “Where’s he going to?”

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Ever once in a while, take the scenic route.

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An elderly couple were sitting together watching television. During one of the commercials, the husband asked his wife, “Whatever happened to our sexual relations?”

After a long, thoughtful silence, the wife replied, during the next commercial, “You know, I don’t even think we got a Christmas card from them this year.”

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Mr. Allen, a high-powered executive trying to impress a client in his office, flipped on his intercom switch and barked to his secretary, “Miss Hunter, get my broker!”

The client was impressed until he heard the secretary’s clear voice saying, “Yes, sir, stock or pawn!”

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A good memory is one trained to forget the trivial.

Clifton Fadiman

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He was a good man but a bit stingy.  He would bargain and haggle on a price, never paying the price asked.  He especially hated paying his medical fees. One day, while eating fish, a bone became lodged in his throat and within minutes he could scarcely breathe.  His wife frantically calls the family doctor, who arrived just as the patient’s face was turning blue. The physician quickly removed the bone with a pair of forceps.

After he was breathing normally again, although overwhelmed with gratitude to the doctor for saving his life, he began to worry about the medical fees.

Trying his best to keep his costs down & down play the whole episode, he turns to the good doctor and asks, “So, doc, how much do I owe you for that small two-minute job?”

The doctor, who knew his patient’s miserly habit all too well, replies,

“Just pay me half of what you would have when the bone was still stuck in your throat!”

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The severity of the itch is proportional to the reach.

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It was a terrible night, blowing cold and snow in a most frightful manner. The streets were deserted and the local baker was just about to close up shop when a little Jewish man slipped through the door. He carried an umbrella, blown inside out, and was bundled in two sweaters and a thick coat. But even so he still looked wet, freezing, and bedraggled.

As he unwound his scarf he said to the baker, “May I have two poppy seed bagels to go, please?”

The baker said in astonishment, “Two bagels? Nothing more?”

“That’s right,” answered the little man. “One for me and one for Sherry.”

“Sherry is your wife?” asked the baker.

“What did you think,” snapped the little man, “that my mother would send me out on a night like this?”

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When the heart grieves over what is has lost, The spirit rejoices over what it has left.

Sufi Epigram

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

Thanks for being here

We all need each other.

Leo Buscaglia

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I have been distressed by the recent rash of demonstrations of hate that seem to be growing around us. Hate messages written on churches, threatening letters sent to religious organizations as well as racial and ethnic threats seem to be growing.

This is not a time for rampant intolerance rather it is a time when we need to stay focused on peace on earth and goodwill towards others. Anything less can take us to a disastrous place. Thankfully I sincerely believe we are better people than we sometimes appear to be, That belief is due in no small part to observing what so many of you do as you spread kindness to others.

The following offers hope, the last paragraph reminded me of the value each of you brings to our table.

An Angel Wrote …

From the Kindness Blog

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.

To handle yourself, use your head, To handle others, use your heart.

Anger is one letter short of danger.

If someone betrays you once, it’s his fault. If they betray you twice, it’s your fault.

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.

God gives every bird its food, but He does not throw it into its nest.

He who loses money, loses much; He who loses a friend, loses more; He who loses faith, loses all.

Beautiful young people are acts of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.

Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.

The tongue weighs practically nothing, but so few people can hold it.

Friends, you and me…you brought another friend, and then there were 3. We started our group…Our circle of friends…and like that circle, there is no beginning…there is no end.

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We need each other, deeper than anyone ever dares to admit even to themselves. I think it is a genetic imperative that we huddle together and hold on to each other. There is no question in my mind that there is nothing else in life, really, than friendship.

Patch Adams

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A man was driving through west Texas one spring evening. The road was deserted and he had not seen a soul for what seemed like hours. Suddenly his car started to cough and splutter and the engine slowly died away, leaving him sitting on the side of the road in total silence.

He popped the hood and looked to see if there was anything that he could do to get it going again. Unfortunately, he had a limited knowledge of cars, so all he could do was look at the engine, feeling despondent As he stood looking at the gradually fading light of his flashlight, he cursed that he had not put in new batteries, like he had promised himself.

Suddenly, through the inky shadows, came a deep voice, “It’s your fuel pump.” The man raised up quickly, striking his head on the underside of the hood. “Who said that?” he demanded. There were two horses standing in the fenced field alongside the road and the man was amazed when the nearest of the two horses repeated, “It’s your fuel pump. Tap it with your flashlight, and try it again.” Confused, the man tapped the fuel pump with his flashlight, turned the key and sure enough, the engine roared to life. He muttered a short thanks to the horse and screeched away.

When he reached the next town, he ran into the local bar. “Gimme a large whiskey, please!” he said. A rancher sitting at the bar looked at the man’s ashen face and asked, “What’s wrong, man? You look like you’ve seen a ghost!” “It’s unbelievable,” the man said and recalled the whole tale to the rancher.

The rancher took a sip of his beer and looked thoughtful. “A horse, you say? Was it by any chance a white horse?”

The man replied to the affirmative. “Yes, it was! Am I crazy?”

“No, you ain’t crazy. In fact, you’re lucky,” said the rancher, “because that black horse don’t know anything about cars!”

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I planted some birdseed. A bird came up. Now I don’t know what to feed it.

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Whoever used the milk in the small plastic container that was in the refrigerator yesterday, please do NOT own up to it. I would find it forever after difficult to meet your gaze across a cafeteria table whilst having a discussion about java applets or brand identity.

Just be aware that that milk was EXPRESSLY for my son if you get my drift. I will label these things from now on, but if you found your coffee tasted just a little bit unusual this morning, you might think about calling your mom and telling her you love her.

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She said: He has all the virtues I dislike and none of the vices I admire.

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A customer was really harassing and hassling an airline agent at the ticket counter — yelling and using foul language. However, the agent was polite, pleasant and smiled while the customer continued to abuse her. When the man finally left, the next person in line said to the agent,

“Geez, does that happen often? I can’t believe how nice you were to him after the way he treated you!”

The agent smiled and whispered, “No problemo! I took care of it! He’s going to Detroit…….his bags, however, heh heh, are going to Bangkok.”

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“I’m Jewish but not very religious…I go to Temple twice a year.  Christmas and Easter.”

Jeffery Ross

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My wife and I were comparing notes the other day, “I have a higher IQ, did better on my SATs and make more money than you,” she pointed out.

“Yeah, but when you step back and look at the big picture, I’m still ahead,” I said.

She looked mystified. “How do you figure?”

“I married better,” I replied.

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And then she told me that I had delusions of adequacy.

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On a visit to my wife’s native England for our honeymoon, we arrived at London’s Gatwick Airport.  Tania headed for the British-passport control line while I, an American, waited in the foreigners’ line.  When my turn came, the customs officer asked me the purpose of my visit.        “Pleasure,” I replied. “I’m on my honeymoon.”        The officer looked first to one side of me, then the other.  “That’s very interesting, sir,” he said as he stamped my passport.  “Most men bring their wives with them.”

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It may be that it is not given to us to know when we are angels. We may only be given to know when others are. This may be one of the reasons we need each other so.

Michael Ventura

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

It keeps going

“There is no such thing in anyone’s life as an unimportant day.”

 Alexander Woollcott

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There is one truth we all share and that is that life goes on and I am glad it does. The fact that each day is a new start allows yesterday’s problems to slip into the past while leaving us new opportunities to enrich today and tomorrow. In truth it is up to us how we deal with life’s movement. We can either float on the tide with each days seeming to be not much different than yesterdays or we find a wave to ride so we can explore new adventures.

I think that a lot of what lies ahead for each of us depends on our freeing ourselves from any barriers that anchor us to a mundane existence.  We cab choose to live always ready to enjoy new possibilities. Here is a piece that outlines the kind of life that would serve us all well.

Instructions for Life

Jackson Brown

Excerpts from his book Life’s Little Instruction Book

  1. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
  2. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams.
  3. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
  4. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
  5. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
  6. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
  7. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
  8. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
  9. Remember that your character is your destiny.
  10. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
  11. Spend some time alone every day.
  12. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
  13. Pray. There’s immeasurable power in it.
  14. At least once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
  15. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
  16. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
  17. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
  18. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

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“Be glad of  life, because it gives you the chance to love and to work and to play and to look up at the stars.”

Henry Van Dyke

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My buddy applied for a job as an insurance salesman.  Where the form requested “prior experience,” he wrote “lifeguard.”  That was it. Nothing else.

“We’re looking for someone who can not only sell insurance, but who can sell himself as well,” said the hiring manager.  “How does working as a lifeguard pertain to salesmanship?”

My pal replied, “I couldn’t swim.”  He got the job.

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Show me a man with both feet firmly on the ground, and I’ll show you a man who can’t get his pants off.

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The new pastor decided to visit the children’s Sunday school class.  The teacher introduced him to the children and said, “Pastor Jones, this morning we’re studying Joshua.”

“That’s wonderful,” said the new pastor, “let’s see what you’re learning. How about we start with this…who can give me an answer to this…. who tore down the walls of Jericho?”

Little Billy shyly raised hand and offered, “Pastor, I didn’t do it.”

Taken aback, the pastor asked, “Come on, now, *WHO* tore down those walls of Jericho?”

The teacher, interrupting, said, “Pastor, Billy’s a good boy. If he says he didn’t do it, I believe he didn’t do it.”

Flustered, the pastor left the room and went directly to the Sunday school director and related the story to him. The director, looking worried, explained,

“Well, sir, we’ve had some problems with Billy before.  Let me talk to him and see what we can do.”

Huh? Really bothered now by the answers of the teacher and the director, the new pastor approached the deacons and related the whole story, including the responses of the teacher and the director.

A white-haired gentleman thoughtfully stroked his chin and said,

“Well, Pastor, I move we just take the money from the general fund to pay for the walls and leave it at that.”

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Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin’ away.

Elvis Presley

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A woman was telling her friend, “You know, Jane, it was me who made my husband what he is today–a millionaire.”

“Is that right? Well, what was he before you married him?” asked the Jane.

The woman replied, “A billionaire!”

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“A horse never runs so fast as when he has other horses to catch up and outpace.”

Ovid

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An out-of-towner drove his car into a ditch in a desolated area. Luckily, a local farmer came to help with his big strong horse named Buddy.

He hitched Buddy up to the car and yelled, “Pull, Nellie, pull!”

Buddy didn’t move. Then the farmer hollered, “Pull, Buster, pull!”

Buddy didn’t respond.

Once more the farmer commanded, “Pull, Coco, pull!” Nothing…

Then the farmer nonchalantly said, “Pull, Buddy, pull!” And the horse easily dragged the car out of the ditch.

The motorist was most appreciative and very curious. He asked the farmer why he called his horse by the wrong name three times.

The farmer said, “Oh, Buddy is blind and if he thought he was the only one pulling, he wouldn’t even try!”

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“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

Howard Thurman

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

Living the good life

“Find your focus by seeking all that is good in your life.”

Lorii Myers

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For many of us it will soon be the holiday season and then we will begin a new year. It is not a time for us to dwell on what may be wrong in our lives it is rather a time to celebrate what is right in our fives. If you live as long as I have you will have learned many times over that the old adage of “what you sow you will reap” applies. It is unfortunate that so many of us fail to invest in our own happiness.

It is never too late to make some positive life improvement moves. Here is an abridged article written by Dani DiPirro that offers ways to bring more happiness into our lives.

How to Make Your Life Uncommonly Good

RULE 1: EXAMINE + ENGAGE IN LIFE

The first rule of living a good life is knowing how important it is to explore the world and be curious about your environment. We instinctively do this as children, but it should be a lifelong practice. You can’t live if a good life if you’re not really living.

RULE 2: (TRY TO) WORRY LESS

Worry is, unfortunately, a part of life, but how much you worry — and what you worry about — can impact how good your life is. It’s important to try your best to worry only about the things you can control. Learning how to quickly identify what you can control vs. what’s out of your hands is one of the best ways to minimize worries.

RULE 3: CHERISH FRIENDSHIPS

As humans, we crave connection and affection. Whether you’re the type of person that has countless friends or you prefer a few close pals, friendship — and the connections and life lessons that come along with those relationships — are invaluable. No amount of wealth, power, success, fame or any other measure of success can beat the positive benefits of a good friendship.

RULE 4: FOCUS ON TRUE JOY

In life there are plenty of things that make us feel good, but not all of those things should be the focus. Living a good life means avoiding shallow, meaningless, or fleeting pleasures and instead focusing on meaningful, deep joys that have lasting effects. For instance, consider the feeling of eating a giant slice of cake vs. the feeling of having an inspiring conversation. Both feel good in the moment, but the long-term impacts are very different.

RULE 5: KNOW WHO YOU ARE

Personally, I think this should be number 1! To live a good life, it’s essential to know yourself, to be self-reliant, to cultivate self-love. Equally as important is focusing on what’s true, not what’s convenient. Self-deception is all too common for many of us, but it does us no good to convince ourselves of things that are untrue.

RULE 6: FIND BALANCE + HARMONY

As you might already know, too much of anything (even the good stuff!) can be a bad thing, which is why, to live a good life, it’s important to avoid excess. In all areas of life — home, relationships, love, work, etc. — it’s a good idea to strive for balance. Overindulging in the good stuff can lead to what I think of as a “happiness hangover,” but depriving yourself of fun (and a little bit of bad behavior!) it’s great either. Find what balance means for you and strive for that.

RULE 7:  ADHERE TO POSITIVE VALUES

This rule really comes down to one basic concept: be a decent human being. When you’ve done wrong, accept responsibility. Whenever possible, be honest with yourself and with others. It’s vital to be accountable for your choices and actions. What you value is up to you, but figuring out those values and sticking to them throughout your life is one of the best ways to ensure you’re living a good life.

RULE 8: PROSPER WITH CAUTION

With any luck, you’ll have an wonderful opportunity to prosper in this life, to flourish financially and achieve great success. If this happens (and I hope it does!), be cautious and thoughtful in your choices. I imagine it’s difficult not to get carried away, but one of the keys to living a good life is being rational with your resources (whatever those might be!).

RULE 9: DO HARM TO NO ONE

This might sound like an obvious rule for a good life, but it’s an important one. To live well, strive to harm no one — including yourself. Hurting others hurts you too (even if, for whatever reason, you feel as if they deserve to be hurt). Speak with kindness, focus on forgiveness, have compassion, embrace empathy, and, above all, try to cultivate as much love as you can for your fellow humans.

RULE 10: BE ENDLESSLY KIND

Kindness is mandatory for living a good life. Not only does kindness make the world a better place, but every time you’re kind, you feel good. Also, regardless of whether or not you believe in karma, if you pay attention to how kindness plays out in your own life, you’ll find that your kind deeds are often rewarded or returned in some way.

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Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.

Rollo May

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Joey’s teacher sent a note home to his Mother saying, “Joey seems to be a very bright boy, but spends too much of his time thinking about girls.”

The Mother wrote back the next day, “If you find a solution, please advise.  I have the same problem with his Father.”

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If your parents never had children, chances are you won’t, either.

Dick Cavett

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A police officer stops a blonde for speeding and asks her very nicely if he could see her license.

She replied in a huff, “I wish you guys would get your act together. Yesterday you took my license away and today you expect me to show it to you!”

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Constant change is here to stay.

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On his honeymoon, a very thick redneck farmer, Billy Joe, insisted on having a room at the luxury hotel with a balcony overlooking the sea. On retiring for the night after the wedding, his new bride emerged from the bathroom dressed in some very sexy lingerie. “Hey Billy Joe, come in off the balcony and see what I have waiting for you to savor for the first time” she said coyly.

“No thanks, I want to sit out here,” he said.

So Daisy sat down brushing her golden hair for 10 minutes after which she invited Billy Joe once more to come in off the balcony to take pleasure of her virginal body.  Once more he refused.  Eventually Daisy grew tired of waiting and she retired to the wedding bed and fell asleep. In the morning, she awoke to find him still sitting on the balcony.

“Why did you spend the whole night out there when you could have been making love all night?” she asked.

“Well my pa said the first night of my marriage would be the most beautiful night of my whole life – and I didn’t want to miss a moment of it.”

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They told me I was gullible — and I believed them.

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A man came hobbling into the doctor’s waiting room, assisted by his wife. The poor guy could hardly move. He was bent over and grimacing with pain as he shuffled along, his hands like two rigid claws.

The receptionist looked on sympathetically. “Oh dear,” she said. “Arthritis with complications?”

“No,” said the guy’s wife. “Do-it-yourself with concrete blocks.”

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“Baseball is ninety percent mental. The other half is physical.”

Yogi Berra

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My niece, after living in several apartments, found one in the area where she had grown up.

“The best thing about this apartment,” she said to her sister, “is that it’s within walking distance of the grocery store.”

“What grocery store? I don’t recall a close by grocery store replied her sister..

“You know…..” my niece said…. “Mom’s house.”

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Every day, it’s important to ask and answer these questions: “What’s good in my life?” and “What needs to be done?”

Nathaniel Branden

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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