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Let’s Have A Good Week

Ray’s Daily

January 24, 2022

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Happiness is not doing fun things. Happiness is doing meaningful things.

Maxime Lagacé

Here we go, another week. I have decided to make it a happy one, at least as happy as I can make it. Fortunately most of the folks I know are basicly happy and I enjoy their company. I find happiness is infectious so I enjoy catching the happiness bug from my friends. What about you, are you as happy as you want to be? If not you may find that the following helps.

9 Things You Can Do to Be Happy in the Next 30 Minutes

By Gretchen Rubin

Being happier doesn’t have to be a long-term ambition. You can start right now. In the next 30 minutes, tackle as many of the following suggestions as possible. Not only will these tasks themselves increase your happiness, but the mere fact that you’ve achieved some concrete goals will boost your mood.

1. Raise your activity level to pump up your energy. If you’re on the phone, stand up and pace. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Put more energy into your voice. Take a brisk 10-minute walk. Even better…

2. Take a walk outside. Research suggests that light stimulates brain chemicals that improve mood. For an extra boost, get your sunlight first thing in the morning.

3. Reach out. Send an e-mail to a friend you haven’t seen in a while, or reach out to someone new. Having close bonds with other people is one of the most important keys to happiness. When you act in a friendly way, not only will others feel more friendly toward you, but you’ll also strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people.

4. Rid yourself of a nagging task. Deal with that insurance problem, purchase something you need, or make that long-postponed appointment with the dentist. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a rush of elation.

5. Create a more serene environment. Outer order contributes to inner peace, so spend some time organizing bills and tackling the piles in the kitchen. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizable dent. Set the timer for 10 minutes and see what you can do.

6. Do a good deed. Introduce two people by e-mail, take a minute to pass along useful information, or deliver some gratifying praise. In fact, you can also…

7. Save someone’s life. Sign up to be an organ donor, and remember to tell your family about your decision. Do good, feel good―it really works!

8. Act happy. Fake it ‘til you feel it. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile boosts your mood. And if you’re smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable.

9. Learn something new. Think of a subject that you wish you knew more about and spend 15 minutes on the Internet reading about it, or go to a bookstore and buy a book about it. But be honest! Pick a topic that really interests you, not something you think you “should” or “need to” learn about.

Some people worry that wanting to be happier is a selfish goal, but in fact, research shows that happier people are more sociable, likable, healthy, and productive―and they’re more inclined to help other people. By working to boost your own happiness, you’re making other people happier, too.

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Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.

Joseph Addison

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“20 Continuing Education Courses for Women”

1. Silence, the Final Frontier: Where No Woman Has Gone Before

2. The Undiscovered Side of Banking: Making Deposits

3. Combating the Imelda Marcos Syndrome: You Do Not Need New Shoes Everyday

4. Parties: Going Without New Outfits

5. Man Management: Discover How Minor Household Chores Can Wait Until… After the Game

6. Bathroom Etiquette I: Men Need Space in the Bathroom Cabinet Too

7. Bathroom Etiquette II: His Razor Is His

8. Valuation: Just Because It’s Not Important to You…

9. Communication Skills I: Tears – The Last Resort, Not the First

10. Driving a Car Safely: A Skill You CAN Acquire

11. Telephone Skills: How to Hang Up

12. Water retention: Fact or Fat

13. Cooking I: Bringing Back Bacon, Eggs and Butter

14. Compliments: Accepting Them Gracefully

15. PMS: Your Problem… Not His

16. Dancing: Why Men Don’t Like To

17. Household Dust: A Harmless Natural Occurrence Only Women Notice

18. Integrating Your Laundry: Washing It All Together

19. Oil and Gas: Your Car Needs Both

20. TV Remotes: For Men Only

Please don’t tell my wife that I sent you this. She has no flaws and needs no instruction since she already knows it all. Did I say that right? Well you know what I mean.

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Sadder than work left unfinished, is work never begun.

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She did invent this new survivor show:

Six married men will be dropped on an island with 1 car and 4 kids each, for 6 weeks.  Each kid plays two sports and either takes music or dance classes.

There is no access to fast food.

Each man must take care of his 4 kids, keep his assigned house clean, correct all homework, complete science projects, cook, do laundry, etc.

The men only have access to television when the kids are asleep and all chores are done.  There is only one TV between them and there is NO REMOTE

The men must shave their legs, wear makeup daily, which they must apply themselves, either while driving or while making four lunches.

They must attend weekly PTA meetings; clean up after their sick children at 3:00 a.m.; make an Indian hut model with six toothpicks, a tortilla and one marker; and get a 4-year-old to eat a serving of peas.

The kids vote them off the island, based on performance.

The last man wins …..

Only if ………..

He has enough energy to be intimate with his spouse at a moment’s notice.

If the last man does win, he can play the game over and over again for the next 18-25 years … eventually earning the right to be called “Mother.”

One more thing, they cannot kill themselves or the kids, or they automatically get voted off.

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Did you see this ad? Princess, Having Had Sufficient Experience with Princes, Seeks Frog.

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Why are we still there?

It is time to take a serious look at our involvement there.

Every day there are news reports about more deaths. Every night on the TV are photos of death and destruction. Why are we still there?

The land is too large to secure all of it. The bad people causing this damage can roam anywhere, and we can’t possibly police the whole place. Why are we still there?

We occupy this land, which we had to take by force, but it causes us nothing but trouble. Why are we still there?

Their government is unstable, and in the process of changing. Why are we still there?

Refugees are fleeing by the thousands, driven from their homes. Why are we still there?

It will cost billions to rebuild, which we can’t afford. Why are we still there?

We can’t even secure the borders. Why are we still there?

And to repeat. Every day we hear of more Americans killed in this dangerous land.

It is clear! We must abandon California

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Gravity…It’s Not Just a Good Idea. It’s the Law.

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The farmer stood in his chicken yard watching hundreds of baby chicks running here and there.  He kept pointing to them and trying    to count them.  “One, two, three, four, five, six, oh, no…” then he would start over, “one, two, three, four, and,… oh, no.” Then he’d start over again.

Finally he said, “I give up.  They say don’t count your chickens before they hatch but it sure is easier to do that than it is to count them after they hatch.”

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I’ve broken so many mirrors in my life, if I live long enough to have all that bad luck, I’ll be lucky…

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A Jewish man reads about Einstein’s theory of relativity in the newspaper and asks his scientist grandson to explain it to him.

“Well, zayda, it’s sort of like this.  Einstein says that if you’re having your teeth drilled without Novocain, a minute seems like an hour. But if you’re sitting with a beautiful woman on your lap, an hour seems like a minute.”

The old man considers this profound bit of thinking for a moment and says,  “And from this he makes a living?”

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When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.

Helen Keller

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Love Life

Ray’s Daily

January 21, 2022

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“Be in love with your life. Every minute of it.”

Jack Kerouac

Some of us waste our time trying to be something other than who we are. The happiest people I know do not put on a false front. Our lives are too short to miss the enjoyment each day offers. The secret is to live every day enjoying what we have instead of always looking for more. The grass under our feet is just as beautiful as the grass grown elsewhere.

Life is for living

Life is a gift we’re given each and every day.

Dream about tomorrow, but live for today.

To live a little, you’ve got to love a whole lot.

Love turns the ordinary into the extraordinary.

Life’s a journey always worth taking.

Take time to smell the roses, daffodils and lilacs.

Count blessings like children count stars.

The secret of a happy life isn’t buried in a treasure chest . . . it lies within your heart.

It’s the little moments that make life big.

So don’t wait. Make memories today and celebrate your life!

Author Unknown

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“Life is about accepting the challenges along the way, choosing to keep moving forward, and savoring the journey.”

Roy T. Bennett

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As he lay on his deathbed he spoke, “Sara, I want you should know before I die that Ginsburg the tailor owes  me $200, and Morris the butcher owes me $50, and Klein next door owes me $300.”

His wife turned to the children and said, “What a wonderful man your father is. Even when he’s dying he’s got the brains to realize who owes him money.”

The old man continued, “And Sara I want you to also know that I owe the landlord a hundred dollars.”

To which his wife cried, “Oh oh, now he’s getting delirious!”

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If ignorance is bliss, why aren’t more people happy?

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Bidding at a local auction was proceeding furiously when the auctioneer suddenly announced, “A gentleman in this room has lost a wallet containing $10,000. If it is returned, he will pay a reward of $2,000.”

There was a moment’s silence, and then from the back of the room came the cry, “Two thousand five hundred!”

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“You can say any foolish thing to a dog, and the dog will give you this look that says, “My God, you’re right! I never would’ve thought of that!”

Dave Barry.

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A man walks into a shoe store, and tries on a pair of shoes. “How do they feel?” asks the sales clerk.

“Well … they feel a bit tight.” replies the man.

The assistant promptly bends down and has a look at the shoes and the mans feet. “Try pulling up on the tongue.” offers the clerk.

“Nath theyth sthill feelth a bith tighth.” He says.

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“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.”

Victor Borge

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If you have to write a letter of recommendation for a fired employee, here are a few suggested phrases:

  • For the chronically absent: “A man like him is hard to find.” “It seemed her career was just taking off.”
  • For the office drunk: “I feel his real talent is wasted here.” “We generally found him loaded with work to do.” “Every hour with him was a happy hour.”
  • For an employee with no ambition: “He could not care less about the number of hours he had to put in.” “You would indeed be fortunate to get this person to work for you.”
  • For an employee who is so unproductive that the job is better left unfilled: “I can assure you that no person would be better for the job.”
  • For an employee who is not worth further consideration as a job candidate: “I would urge you to waste no time in making this candidate an offer of employment.” “All in all, I cannot say enough good things about this candidate or recommend him too highly.”
  • For a stupid employee: “There is nothing you can teach a man like him.” “I most enthusiastically recommend this candidate with no qualifications whatsoever.”
  • For a dishonest employee: “Her true ability was deceiving.” “He’s an unbelievable worker.”

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“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child , and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”

Ashley Smith

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Quality of Life

Ray’s Daily

January 20. 2022

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It is our decisions not our conditions that determine our quality of life.

John C. Maxwell

I think my life is pretty good. One of the reasons is that I always am open to how I might make it better. I have learned that working on our own contentment is a process that results in personal satisfaction and happiness.

Here is a piece that I have edited that offers steps to increase the quality of our lives. While we may not be able to do all them we can do some of them.

20 Ways To Increase The Quality Of Your Life

1. Treat yourself. – It doesn’t matter if it’s a meal out, a visit to a theater, or a pampering visit to a spa. Make the first thing you do a treat that you have been craving for some time. Don’t make excuses about not having time or money. Treats can be free, and you can always make time.

2. Take up a hobby. – When you lead a hum-drum life, it is great to have something to think about that takes you into another world. Hobbies are brilliant for giving you something different to do that you enjoy.

3. Learn a skill. – Learning a new skill is one of the most satisfying things you can do. You will feel a sense of achievement that will boost your self-image. A great way to learn a skill is to join a class. Not only will you learn, but you will make new friends.

4. 30-day challenges. – Life-style gurus are increasingly promoting the idea of taking a 30-day challenge. Challenge yourself to achieve something in 30 days. The challenge can be anything that will benefit you once it has been completed.

5. Contact a loved one. – If you are lucky enough to have a loved one in your life who brightens your day when you speak to them, give them a call. You will feel better for making contact, and then feel much more positive after talking to them.

6. Create a gratitude list. – Sit down with a pad and pencil, preferably in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Allow yourself a few minutes to think about your life and identify the good things.

7. Bring on the humor. – Laughing is very good for you. It will lower your stress and put you in a good mood. It evens burns up a few calories!

8. Grow a positive thinking habit. – Are you prone to negative thoughts? Do you assume the worst will happen in any situation? Being negative damages your quality of life. Stop being a defeatist and start being an optimist. It will take work, but changing the way you think will bring greater happiness and make your quality of life considerably better.

9. Exercise. – Taking exercise is an excellent way of boosting your mood and improving your outlook on life. Go running, or get down to the gym. Sweat out the negatives and get fit for the future.

10. Drink more water. – Drinking water is the best way to stay hydrated. It is easy to forget to keep drinking throughout the day. Help yourself to remember by buying a refillable water bottle and keep it filled and with you throughout the day.

11. Declutter your house. – You will feel more positive if you have less unnecessary stuff lying about your house. Get rid of what you don’t want or need, and organize the rest, so it is easy to find when you need it. Doing this will lower your stress levels.

12. Make a daily plan. – Start each day by focusing on what to do, then make a list for that day. A few minutes spent making a list will prevent you from forgetting something important, and will help you prioritize your tasks.

13. Look good. – Every one of us feels better when we make an effort to look good. Looking good makes us feel good, and that really matters.

14. Save up for something special. – Do you dream of owning something that is too expensive to buy right now? Start saving a little money each week, and you will be doing something positive.

15. Meditation. – Meditation gives you a chance to clear your mind and focus on the now. Some people take a gentle walk. It is up to you how you approach meditation. Remember, the critical thing is that you must clear your mind and focus on you in the here and now.

16. Take a trip. – A hectic life with no time off is not good for you. We all need a little relaxation, and looking forward to a trip is a great way to make yourself feel better.

17. Help others. – One of the best ways of creating positivity is to help other people. Not only do you feel good about yourself, but other people will benefit from your involvement. Helping others will make you feel that you have something to offer the world.

18. Yoga. – Yoga is a great way to relax. It is also perfect for your health, as it increases your strength and flexibility. Again, if you feel physically in great shape, your mind will be in great shape.

19. Eat healthily. – Diet is a vital aspect of keeping healthy and to increase the quality of your life. Eat plenty of fruit and vegetables, drink lots of water, and avoid too much red meat.

20. Take a walk through nature. – Get out into the countryside and enjoy the great outdoors. If you need a reason, take a camera. Appreciate the sheer beauty of the world we live in, and think how lucky you are to be a part of it. Nothing is more life-affirming than life itself.

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There is only one person responsible for the quality of life you live and that person is you.

Jack Canfield

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A rabbi said to a precocious six-year-old boy: “So your mother says your prayers for you each night? Very commendable. What does she say?”

The little boy replied, “Thank God he’s in bed!”

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Daddy, where did I come from?” the seven-year-old asked.

It was a moment for which her parents had carefully prepared. They took her into the living room, got out the encyclopedia and several other books, and explained all they thought she should know about sexual attraction, affection, love, and reproductions. Then they both sat back and smiled contentedly.

“Does that answer your question?” her father asked.

“Not really,” the little girl said. “Marcia said she came from Detroit. I want to know where I came from.”

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Time may be a great healer but it’s also a lousy beautician.

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Dear Mom and Dad,

I feel miserable because I have to keep writing for money. I feel ashamed and unhappy. I have to ask for another hundred, but every cell in my body rebels. I beg on bended knee that you forgive me.

Your son, Marvin.

P.S. I felt so terrible, I ran after the mailman who picked this up in the box at the corner. I wanted to take this letter and burn it. I prayed that I could get it back. But it was too late.”

 A few days later he received a letter from his father. It said,

“Your prayers were answered.

Your letter never came!”

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“Who are you going to believe, me or your own eyes?”

Groucho Marx

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Two guys are driving through Texas when they get pulled over by a state trooper. The trooper walks up, taps on the window with his nightstick, the driver rolls down the window, and the trooper smacks him in the head with the stick.

The driver says, “Why’d you do that?

The trooper says, “You’re in Texas, son. When I pull you over, you’ll have your license ready.”

Driver says, “I’m sorry, officer, I’m not from around here.”

The trooper runs a check on the guy’s license, and he’s clean. He gives the guy his license back and walks around to the passenger side and taps on the window. The passenger rolls his window down, and the trooper smacks him with the nightstick.

The passenger says, “What’d you do that for?”

The cop says, “Just making your wishes come true.”

The passenger says, “Huh?”

The cop says, “I know that two miles down the road you’re gonna say, ‘I wish that guy would’ve tried that crap with me!'”

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Brain cells come and go but fat cells live forever.

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“My girlfriend came up to me the other day and introduced me to one of her male friends, and at first I didn’t mind, since I’m not the jealous type. I just wish she hadn’t started calling him “Sweetie” and living with him and having his kids and marrying him and stuff.  It’s really starting to make me wonder if she wants a future with me or not.”

Derek Maness

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Love your enemies.  It makes them so damned mad.

P.D. East

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The priest was at the side of a dying man. Whispering firmly, the priest said, “Denounce the devil! Let him know how little you think of his evil!”

The dying man said nothing.

The priest repeated his order. Still the dying man said nothing. The priest asked, “Why do you refuse to denounce the devil and his evil?”

The dying man said, “Well, if you really want the truth, until I know where I’m going, I don’t think I should make him mad!”

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It is time to stop looking outside yourself for the answers to why you haven’t created the life and results you want, for it is you who creates the quality of life you lead and the results you produce. You-no one else! To achieve major success in life-to achieve those things that are most important to you-you must assume 100% responsibility for your life. Nothing less will do.

Jack Canfield

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Stop Stressing

Ray’s Daily

January 19, 2022

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“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

William James

I think one of the reasons some of us are unhappy so often is our inability to handle stress and our worries. We are better off doing what we can with our troubles and then moving on, leaving our worries behind.

Here is a story I got from the Thought Catalog that reminds us that the longer we fret over our worries the worse they become.

Stop stressing so much

“Once upon a time a psychology professor walked around on a stage while teaching stress management principles to an auditorium filled with students. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the typical ‘glass half empty or glass half full’ question. Instead, with a smile on her face, the professor asked, ‘How heavy is this glass of water I’m holding?’

Students shouted out answers ranging from eight ounces to a couple pounds.

She replied, ‘From my perspective, the absolute weight of this glass doesn’t matter.  It all depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute or two, it’s fairly light. If I hold it for an hour straight, its weight might make my arm ache a little. If I hold it for a day straight, my arm will likely cramp up and feel completely numb and paralyzed, forcing me to drop the glass to the floor. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it feels to me.’

As the class shook their heads in agreement, she continued, ‘Your stresses and worries in life are very much like this glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and you begin to ache a little. Think about them all day long, and you will feel completely numb and paralyzed – incapable of doing anything else until you drop them.’”

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“The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about your circumstances.”

Andrew Bernstein

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“Sometimes I lie awake at night, and I ask, ‘Where have I gone wrong?’

Then a voice says to me, ‘This is going to take more than one night.’ “

Charlie Brown.

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Famous Last Words:

— Unfortunately I can not totally agree with comrade Stalin.

— Of course you don’t look fat in that dress honey.  Well… maybe a little.

— Hey ya’ll watch this.

— LOOK! An old mine from world war…..

— Sure, rope bridges last forever.

— Trust me, I know what I’m doing.

— Do I cut the red or the blue wire?

— Oh shut up! I won’t fall!

— Oh, it looks like a dolphin is swimming this way…

— I wonder what happens if these two wires touch.

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If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

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Two hikers are out hiking. All of a sudden, a bear starts chasing them.

They climb a tree, but the bear starts climbing up the tree after them. The first hiker gets his sneakers out of his knapsack and starts putting them on.

The second hiker says, ‘What are you doing?’

The first responds, ‘I figure when the bear gets close to us, we’ll have to jump down and make a run for it.’

The second says, ‘Are you crazy? Don’t you know you can’t outrun a bear?

The first guy says, ‘I don’t have to outrun the bear I only have to outrun you!’

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Insanity is my only means of relaxation.

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The businessman dragged himself home and barely made it to his chair before he dropped exhausted.

His sympathetic wife was right there with a tall cool drink and a comforting word. “My you look tired,” she said. “You must have had a hard day today. What happened to make you so exhausted?”

“It was terrible,” her husband said. “The computer broke down and all of us had to do our own thinking.”

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I wonder if Adam ever said to Eve,

“Watch it!!! There are plenty more ribs where YOU came from!”

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Two old friends meet passing on the street one day. But one looked forlorn, and almost on the verge of tears. His friend asked, “What had the world done to you, my old friend?”

The sad fellow said, “Let me tell you. Three weeks ago, an uncle died and left me forty thousand dollars.”

“That’s not bad.”

“But you see, two weeks ago, a cousin I never even knew kicked the bucket, and left me eighty-five thousand free and clear.”

“Sounds like you should be grateful…”

“You don’t understand!” he interrupted. “Last week my great-aunt passed away. I inherited almost a quarter of a million.”

Now he was really confused. “Then, how come you look so glum?”

“This week… nothing!”

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“Women and cats will do as they please and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.”

Robert A. Heinlein

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During an Army war game a commanding officer’s jeep got stuck in the mud.

The C.O. saw some men lounging around nearby and asked them to help him get unstuck. “Sorry sir,” said one of the loafers, “but we’ve been classified dead and the umpire said we couldn’t contribute in any way.”

The C.O. turned to his driver and said, “Go drag a couple of those dead bodies over here and throw them under the wheels to give us some traction.”

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“We can easily manage if we will only take, each day, the burden appointed to it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over again today, and then add the burden of the morrow before we are required to bear it.”

John Newton

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

We Need Them

Ray’s Daily

January 18, 2022

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“A stranger is just a friend I haven’t met yet.”

Will Rogers

Ray’s Daily first published on January 18, 2004

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,

An hour to appreciate them,

A day to love them,

But an entire life to forget them.

This is really true. As life goes on I find the greatest joy comes from making new friends and revisiting old ones, even if only in memory. As an example, yesterday I learned that an old friend passed away in Minnesota. I had not seen Joe in many years and yet he lives on in my memory. The good times we had will never be lost.

Someone said to me once that I treated everyone as if they were my friend, I thought about what she said, not realizing that I behaved that way. Maybe if I behaved differently I never would have met so many of you. I wonder how much many of us have lost in our lives because we waited for the other guy to smile, extend a hand, or just say hello. I am beginning to think the real pleasure of retirement is to find and enjoy others. When you brighten someone else’s day you are often rewarded with not only a smile but sometimes even a hug. It is even hard for those we think of as soreheads to behave badly when they are faced with a friendly act. It is so much better walking through life expecting good from others and offering your friendship to all, than to be afraid to reach out to them.

So old friend, have a great day. Say hi to a stranger, and please hug someone once in awhile, you will be glad you did.

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“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

Melody Beattie

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A man asks his guru, “Do you have anything that stops the aging process?”

The guru responds, “Sure. What kind of disease would you like?”

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A husband and wife were involved in a petty argument, both of them unwilling to admit they might be in error.

“I’ll admit I’m wrong,” the wife told her husband in a conciliatory attempt, “if you’ll admit I’m right.”

He agreed and, like a gentleman, insisted she go first.

“I’m wrong,” she said.

With a twinkle in his eye, he responded, “You’re right!”

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I know that there are people in this world who do not love their fellow man, and I hate people like that.

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She said: While trying to explain to our five-year-old daughter how much technology had changed, my husband pointed to our brand-new personal computer and told her that when he was in college, a computer with the same amount of power would have been the size of a house.

Wide-eyed, our daughter asked, “How big was the mouse?”

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A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.

Herm Albright

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Anne meets up with Dana as she is picking her car up from the mechanic.

Anne asks, “Everything ok with your car now?”

Dana replies, “Yes, thank goodness.  I was worried that my mechanic might try to rip me off, so I was relieved when he told me all I needed was $12 worth of blinker fluid.”

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“I still believe that love is all you need.

I don’t know a better message than that.”

Paul McCartney

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The Italian composer, Rossini, went to see his doctor. After examining him, the doctor said, “Your trouble stems from wine, women and song.”

Rossini suggested, “Well, I can get along without the songs, since I compose my own.”

The doctor said, “Well, which of the other two are you prepared to give up?” Rossini relied, “That depends entirely on the vintage.”

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“Never explain–your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.”

Elbert Hubbard

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A man was waiting at the train station.  The train was due at 5:23 PM. Finally, it rolled into the station at 6:07 PM.

“You’re LATE,” the man said to the conductor.  “What’s the use of having a schedule if you’re going to be late anyway?”

The Conductor looked at him, and said, “Sir, if we didn’t have a schedule, how on earth would you realize what time you were supposed to be at the station?  And how would you know that we were late?”

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“The generation of random numbers is too important to be left to chance.”

Robert R. Coveyou

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A famed English explorer was invited to Dartmouth to tell of his adventures in the African jungle.

“Can you imagine,” he demanded, “people so primitive that they love to eat the embryo of certain birds, and slices from the belly of certain animals? And grind up grass seed, make it into a paste, burn it over a fire, then smear it with a greasy mess they extract from the mammary fluid of certain other animals?”

When the students looked startled by such barbarism, the explorer added softly, “What I’ve been describing, of course, is a breakfast of bacon and eggs and buttered toast.”

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“I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.”

Noel Coward

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Billy Bob and Lester were talking one afternoon when Billy Bob told Lester, “Ya know, I reckon I’m about ready for a vacation. Only this year I’m gonna do it a little different. The last two years I took your suggestions as to where to go. Three years ago you said to go to Hawaii. I went to Hawaii and Marie got pregnant. Then two years ago you told me to go to the Bahamas, and Marie got pregnant again. Last year you suggested Tahiti and darned if Marie didn’t get pregnant again.

Lester asks Billy Bob, “So what you gonna do this year that’s different?”

Billy Bob says, “This year, I’m takin’ Marie with me.”

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“We need old friends to help us grow old and new friends to help us stay young.”

Letty Cottin Pogrebin

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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Enjoy Your Life

Ray’s Daily

January 17, 2022

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Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.

Steve Maraboli

Some of us find our happiness to be elusive. To often we expect more than is realistic. In my case, I think I am generally a happy person because I appreciate what I have and don’t yearn for more. I have learned that focusing on the good things I already have are the keys to my happiness.

Here are excerpts from an article by Marc Chernoff that I agree with I hope you will too.

10 Things You Do NOT Need to Be Happier in Life

  1. To please everyone – Be careful not to give so much of yourself to others that you end up completely losing yourself. When you go around pleasing everyone but yourself, you are the one that gets hurt in the end.
  2. Everything to be easy – You have to do hard things to be happy in life. The things no one else is doing. The things that frighten you. The things others can’t do for you. The things that make you question how much longer you can hold on and push forward. Because those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living – between knowing the path and walking the path – between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with happiness and success.
  3. Certainty and guarantees – Some people build too many walls in their lives and not enough bridges. It sounds crazy, but they would rather be certain they’re miserable, than risk being happy. Don’t be one of them. Open yourself up. Take chances. Run free. To accomplish amazing things, you must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.
  4. To be better than others – The size of our universe shrinks dramatically when we place ourselves at the center – when we think everyone is our competition – when we think we have to be richer, smarter, and more attractive than the person sitting next to us. Such a goal just keeps a person alienated and tirelessly running in place.
  5. More control over everything and everyone – Sometimes we put too much interest into trying to control every tiny aspect of our lives. Learn to relax and ride the path that life takes you sometimes. Incredible change will happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you do not. Freeing yourself from trying to control the insignificant and uncontrollable things lets you experience more of the goodness around you.
  6. Immense moments of glory – Graduations, wedding days, lavish vacations – these times are often fun-filled and deeply celebrated, but these times pass, because time passes. This is something we rarely grasp at first. True, lasting happiness is found in the appreciation of all the small things.
  7. Other people to constantly validate me – Relationships are essential, but happiness originates from within. It is not exclusively dependent on external validation or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend entirely on the behavior and actions of others. Never give all your power to anyone else. Learn to love and respect yourself first, before loving the idea of other people loving and respecting you.
  8. Perfect harmony in all relationships at all times – Harmony in relationships is nice when it’s sincere, but too often we try to fake it. Effective communication is king. You have to talk it out sometimes. After all, the only way to be happy in life is to live with integrity.
  9. A superior time and place – The reason many people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be. The key, of course, is to do the opposite. Appreciate your past without reliving it, handle your present with confidence, and face your future without fear. Life is simply too short to spend at war with yourself. Letting go of the past and future is your first step to happiness and peace in the present.
  10. Happiness 24/7 – Absolutely no one is happy all of the time. Because you simply can’t be happy unless you’re unhappy sometimes. This is a harsh truth, I know. Just keep in mind that it’s perfectly normal to experience considerable fluctuations in your level of happiness from day to day, month to month, and even year to year. Choose positivity, always. The greatest act of faith some days is to simply get up and face the day, with a smile.

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Happiness consists more in conveniences of pleasure that occur everyday than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom.

Benjamin Franklin

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Depend on the rabbit’s foot if you will, but remember it didn’t work for the rabbit.

R.E. Shay

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“I was relaxing in my favorite chair on Sunday,” said Doug to Bill, “reading the newspaper, watching a ball game on TV and listening to another on the radio, drinking a beer, eating a snack, and scratching the dog with my foot — and my wife has the nerve to accuse me of just sitting there doing nothing !”

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Why do you get on a bus and a train but get into a car?

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A class professor was giving a lecture on company slogans and was asking his students if they were familiar with them.

“Joe,” he asked, “which company has the slogan, ‘come fly the friendly skies’?”

Joe answered the correct airline.

“Brenda, can you tell me which company has the slogan, “Don’t leave home without it?”

Brenda answered the correct credit card company with no difficulty.

“Now John, Tell me which company bears the slogan, ‘Just do it’?”

And John answered, “Mom….”

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Always keep several get well cards on the mantel;

if unexpected guests arrive, they will think you’ve been sick and unable to clean.

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A man calling refrigerator repair service: “My refrigerator isn’t working!”

“What kind is it?”

“It’s a small one.”

“Electric, gas or propane?”

“Propane.”

“Ah! Then the problem is most likely vapor lock. You don’t need a service call, just turn the refrigerator upside down for a few minutes to allow the lock to clear. Then put it back and all should be well”

Second call, a few minutes later: “The least you could have done is to tell me to empty the fridge first!”

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Without geography, you’re nowhere.

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A minister told his congregation, “Next week I plan to preach about the sin of lying. To help you understand my sermon, I want you all to read Mark 17.”

The following Sunday, as he prepared to deliver his sermon, the minister asked for a show of hands. He wanted to know how many had read Mark 17. Every hand went up. The minister smiled and said, “Mark has only sixteen chapters. I will now proceed with my sermon on the sin of lying.”

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Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today.  It is already tomorrow in Australia.

Charles Schulz

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I pulled into the crowded parking lot at the Super Wal-Mart Shopping Center and rolled down the car windows to make sure my Labrador Retriever pup had fresh air. She was stretched full-out on the back seat and I wanted to impress upon her that she must remain there. I walked to the curb backward, pointing my finger at the car and saying emphatically, ‘Now you stay. Do you hear me?’ ‘Stay! Stay!’

The driver of a nearby car, a pretty blonde young lady, gave me a strange look and said,

‘Why don’t you just put it in park ?’

~~~

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.

Carl Jung

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Don’t Get Mad

Ray’s Daily

January 14, 2022

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“Do not let your anger lead to hatred, as you will hurt yourself more than you would the other.”

Stephen Richards.

I am really uncomfortable with folks who seem to always be angry. Their anger often spills over as they behave badly. While I avoid the chronically angry I also feel sorry for what appears to be their constant unhappiness.

The following offers suggestions on how folks can control their anger. I know you probably don’t need it but maybe someone you know does.

How To Stop Being Angry

Many people try to live by high standards, and as a result, are often disappointed and become angry.  The answer is to be a bit more flexible and loosen your hold on life.  High standards are praiseworthy, but so is pragmatism.

Secondly, don’t dismiss anger as a bad emotion.  There are occasions when anger can be directed in such a way as to achieve great things.  Martin Luther King was angry about the lack of civil rights in the USA.  Gandhi was angry about British domination in India.  They both used that anger to motivate themselves to fight against what they saw as injustice.

Thirdly, it is beneficial to stop trying to manage your anger.  Anger management used to be promoted as a way of dealing with anger, but all that happens is that the anger is suppressed.  A much better way of facing up to anger is to identify the root cause.  A flash of anger is not what we are discussing here.  It is the long-term underlying anger that comes to the fore many times a day that is the problem.

When trying to get to the root cause of this type of anger, be prepared to be honest with yourself.  Is it worry or stress making you angry?  Are you fearful of failure?  Are you unhappy?  Once you know why you get mad, then it is possible to deal with the cause.  Taking positive steps towards solving the underlying problem will help you overcome feelings of anger.

Fourthly, reacting angrily is a hard habit to break.  But it is a habit, and habits can be broken.  The trick is to avoid reacting when faced with a situation that usually angers.  Anger is a negative reaction, but in this type of situation, there is no merit in reacting by forming positive thoughts.  You need to learn not to respond at all.  This way, your anger will not get the emotional food it needs to survive.

Fifthly, don’t take the easy way when you get angry.  We all get tempted to throw something, hit something (or even someone), or scream when we are angry.  You might say you feel better after an angry outburst, but that is just the after-effect of the adrenalin your body released while you were angry.

A reaction like that is the easy way.  It is much harder to stay calm, to walk away from conflict, or to take a deep breath and act normally.  That, however, is what you must do if you are to stop anger from becoming your master. By learning control, you can become a much calmer, less volatile person.  You will be better liked and better placed to influence others.  Anger will no longer side-track you and prevent you from achieving a prosperous, fulfilled life.

In conclusion, you must recognize that anger is something you can control.  That control will come once you identify what is at the root of your anger.  Make changes to your lifestyle and attitudes, and you will find that you will turn angry much less often, if at all.  Angry people are not nice people.  Angry people will fail to achieve more often than those people who are pleasant, calm, relaxed, and considerate.

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“Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it… Don’t allow his anger to become your anger.”

Bohdi Sanders

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Some more of life’s lessons:

•           Heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

•           Money is a lousy way of keeping score.

•           You and your best friends can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

•           Sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

•           Sometimes when your angry, You have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give you the right to be cruel.

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Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.

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He said I’d rather be a guy because:

If someone forgets to invite me to something, he or she can still be my friend.

My underwear is $10 for a three-pack.

I don’t have to shave below my neck.

None of my coworkers has the power to make me cry.

I don’t have to curl up next to a hairy butt every night.

I can write my name in the snow.

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I’m not afraid of heights. I’m afraid of widths.

Steven Wright

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A pastor walked into a neighborhood bar to use the restroom. The place was hopping with music and dancing, until people saw the pastor. As the room quieted down he walked up to the bartender, and asked, “May I please use the restroom?”

The bartender replied, “I really don’t think you should.”

“Why not?” the pastor asked. “I really need to use a restroom!”

“Well, I don’t think you should. There is a statue of a naked woman in there — and she’s only covered by a fig leaf!”

“Nonsense,” said the pastor, “I’ll look the other way!”

So, the bartender showed the clergyman the door at the top of the stairs, and he proceeded to the restroom.

After a few minutes, he came back out, and the whole place was hopping with music and dancing again! He went to the bartender and said, “Sir, I don’t understand. When I came in here, the place was hopping with music and dancing. Then the room became absolutely quiet. I went to the restroom, and now the place is hopping again.”

“Well, now you’re one of us!” said the bartender. “Would you like a drink too?”

“But, I still don’t understand,” said the puzzled pastor.

“You see,” laughed the bartender, “every time the fig leaf is lifted on the statue, the lights go out in the whole place.

Now, how about that drink?”

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“I know they say, ‘Good things come to those who wait,’ but I have problems with that. First of all, if this were true, we’d all be sitting around waiting and waiting, expecting that good things would happen. Then some guy would stand up and yell, ‘Dear God, have we not waited long enough?’ No, you have to wait longer.”

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Late one Friday night the policeman spotted a man driving very erratically through the streets of Dublin. They pulled the man over and asked him if he had been drinking that evening.

‘Aye, so I have. ‘Tis Friday, you know, so me and the lads stopped by the pub where I had six or seven pints. And then there was something called ‘Happy Hour’ and they served these mar-gar-itos which are quite good. I had four or five o’those. Then I had to drive me friend Mike home and O’ course I had to go in for a couple of Guiness – couldn’t be rude, ye know. Then I stopped on the way home to get another bottle for later ..’ And the man fumbled around in his coat until he located his bottle of whiskey, which he held up for inspection.

The officer sighed, and said, ‘Sir, I’m afraid I’ll need you to step out of the car and take a breathalyzer test.’

Indignantly, the man said, ‘Why? Don’t ye believe me?!?’

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Skill is successfully walking a tightrope over Niagara Falls. Intelligence is not trying.

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TEN REASONS ADAM WAS THE LUCKIEST MAN

1. He is the only man who has never been compared to the man she could have married.

2. He had no in-laws to drop in.

3. There were no Jones for him to keep up with.

4. There were no credit cards OR shopping centers.

5. He never had his dinner interrupted by window salesmen.

6. He got away with wearing a simple wardrobe.

7. He never had to shovel snow!

8. If he had gone bald, who would have known that wasn’t normal.

9. There was no “standard weight and height” tables – and the word FAT meant good.

10. When God asked “Adam, where are you?”  He replied, “The woman you gave me was reading the map.”

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FOR SALE BY OWNER:

Complete set of Encyclopedia Britannica. 45 volumes. Excellent condition. $1,000.00 or best offer. No longer needed. Got married last weekend. Wife knows everything.

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At the Henry Street Hebrew School, Goldblatt, the new teacher, finished the day’s lesson. It was now time for the usual question period.

“Mr. Goldblatt,” announced little Joey, “there’s somethin’ I can’t figger out.”

“What’s that Joey?” asked Goldblatt.

“Well accordin’ to the Bible, the Children of Israel crossed the Red Sea, right?”

“Right.”

“An’ the Children of Israel beat up the Philistines, right?”

“Er–right.”

“An’ the Children of Israel built the Temple, right?”

“Again you’re right.”

“An’ the Children of Israel fought the ‘gyptians, an’ the Children of Israel fought the Romans, an’ the Children of Israel wuz always doin’ somethin’ important, right?”

“All that is right, too,” agreed Goldblatt. “So what’s your question?”

“What I wanna know is this,” demanded Joey. “What wuz all the grown-ups doin”?

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“Don’t waste your time in anger, regrets, worries, and grudges. Life is too short to be unhappy.”

Roy T. Bennett.

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Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Live

Ray’s Daily

January 13, 2022

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Not how long, but how well you have lived is the main thing.

Seneca

I really like most people I know. They continue to do their best even during these tough times. I especially relate to those who do so much for others. Every offering of friendship and help makes a difference. The secret they share is being the best they can be and not giving into the temptation to give up. They make our world a better place, we benefit from all they do.

So thank you my friends, you may not be a violin virtuoso like Fritz Kreisler but there is no one being a better you than you.

Life is meant to be lived

Life is to be lived. No excuses. No reservations. No holding back.

An enchanting story about violinist Fritz Kreisler tells how he once came across a beautiful instrument he wanted to acquire. When he finally raised the money for the violin, he returned to buy it and learned that it had already been sold to a collector.

He went to the new owner’s home in order to try to persuade him to sell the violin. But the collector said it was one of his prized possessions and he could not let it go. The disappointed Kreisler turned to leave, but then asked a favour. ‘May I play the instrument once more before it is consigned to silence?’

Permission was granted and the great musician began to play. The violin sang out a quality of music so beautiful that the collector himself could only listen in wonderment. ‘I have no right to keep that to myself,’ he said after the musician finished. ‘The violin is yours, Mr. Kreisler. Take it into world, and let people hear it.’

William Arthur Ward said, ‘If you believe in prayer, pray; if you believe in serving, serve; if you believe in giving, give. For you and I are exquisite violins – our music is meant to be heard.’

I want to live my life that way – to take it into the world and live it fully. I’d rather burn out than rust out. I’d rather be used up than die not having done whatever I could . . . wherever I would.

I’m not talking about wearing ourselves out on over-activity. Happiness is never found in excessive busyness. But it is found in investing our lives in others. Saying yes when asked for a hand. Volunteering some time for a worthwhile organization. Spending an hour with a lonely relative.

In the end, I know that my happiness will not have been about by my ability or my inability. It will have been about my availability. My life is meant to be lived.

Written by Steve Goodier

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Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of.

Benjamin Franklin

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More things to remember:

Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.

Eat a live toad in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you for the rest of the day.

If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

If you lend someone $20, and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you don’t have a leg to stand on.

Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig.

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“I belong to Bridegrooms Anonymous. Whenever I feel like getting married, they send over a lady in a housecoat and hair curlers to burn my toast for me.”

Dick Martin

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My friend’s sister was to be married on short notice but still wanted an elaborate wedding. The invitations were ready to be mailed when someone noticed that there were no inserted cards inviting guests to the reception. Undaunted, the mother of the bride typed up a note, made 280 copies and enclosed one with each formal invitation. Family and friends were surprised to read: “Conception immediately following the ceremony in the grand Ballroom of the Holiday Inn.” Everyone is invited.”

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The reason so few people are successful is no one has yet found a way for someone to sit down and slide uphill.

W. Clement Stone

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A manager was told by his doctor to take up some sport for exercise so he decided to play tennis.   After a couple of weeks his secretary asked him how he was doing.

“It’s going fine”, the manager said, “When I’m on the court and I see the ball speeding towards me my brain immediately says: To the corner! Back hand!  To the net!  Smash!  Go back!”

“Really?  What happens then?”, the girl asked enthusiastically.

“Then my body says, ‘Who?  Me?  Don’t talk nonsense!'”

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“Dear IRS: I would like to cancel my subscription. Please remove my name from your mailing list…”

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Two guys had businesses on the same street. One had customers coming and going and the other, well, maybe two or three a day. Finally, Morris, whose business was doing badly, decided to visit Shapiro, who was doing very well. Going in the door, he saw a large banner over the entrance which read: “GOING OUT OF BUSINESS SALE.”

Morris wanted to know why Shapiro was going out of business, since he seemed to be doing so well. Shapiro confided, “That sign has been in my window for almost eight months. If I took it down, I would go out of business.”

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(NEWLYWEDS) ‘Dear, don’t expect the first few meals to be great. It takes time to find the right restaurant.’

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“Do you believe in life after death?” the boss asked one of his employees.

“Yes, sir,” the new recruit replied.

“Well, then, that makes everything just fine,” the boss went on. “After you left early yesterday to go to your grandmother’s funeral, she stopped in to see you.”

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Do stuff. Be clenched, curious. Not waiting for inspiration’s shove or society’s kiss on your forehead. Pay attention. It’s all about paying attention. Attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. Stay eager.

Susan Sontag

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Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

True Success

Ray’s Daily

January 12, 2022

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Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life

Wayne Dyer

I was in conversation with a few of my senior resident friends the other day where we discussed how we defined success as we age. Most of the results seemed non-traditionl in so far as they defined success it was not for acquiring material things or external recognition. These good people expressed the importance of their relationship with others and thier never ending investments in themselves as being most meaningful.

The conversations reminded me of the following piece that was sent to me by the Chernoffs.

5 Daily Reminders We Need to Read Every Morning

1. There’s been progress in 2021. You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop. That’s life. And the very experiences that seem so hard when you’re going through them are often the ones you’ll look back on with gratitude for how far you’ve come.

2. You can’t calm the storm and it’s not worth trying. What you can do is calm yourself, and the storm will pass. Truly, the most powerful changes happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over, instead of craving control over everything you don’t.

3. What you pay attention to grows. Stop managing your time, start managing your focus. Practice focusing on what matters, and letting go of what does not.

4. Breathe deep in this moment, reset, and reflect. Remind yourself that the first step to inner peace is letting go of what you assume your journey is supposed to be like right now, and sincerely appreciating it for everything that it is.

5. You won’t always be a priority to others, and that’s why you have to be a priority to yourself. Learn to respect yourself, take care of yourself, and become a solid part of your own support system. Your needs matter. Start meeting them. Don’t wait on others to choose you. Choose yourself today, and into 2022!

The bottom line is, despite the real world challenges you face, the biggest and most complex obstacle you will ever have to personally overcome is your own mind. In other words, you aren’t responsible for everything that happens to you in life, but you ARE responsible for undoing the self-defeating thinking patterns that these undesirable experiences create.

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If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.

Jim Rohn

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Recently in Traffic Court a man who received an expensive parking ticket testified that a uniformed Policeman had given his OK for the man to park there. The Judge asked the man if he would recognize the Officer if he ever saw him again, and the man replied that he would.

The Judge then said, “Good.  When you see the Officer again, tell him he owes you $57. Next…”

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I love giving homemade gifts. Which of my children would you like?

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The Japanese eat very little fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.

The Mexicans east a lot of fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.

The Japanese drink very little red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.

The Italians drink excessive amounts of red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.

The Germans drink a lot of beer and eat lots of fatty food and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.

Conclusion:  Eat, drink and be merry.  Speaking English is what kills

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Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?

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The Founding Fathers were sitting around a table sometime in 1776, working on the constitution. It had been a long day.

Father1:  Whew! It’s getting rather warm in here, isn’t it?

Father2:  Shall I open the window?

Father1:  No, that’s alright. I’ll just take off my jacket, and roll up my sleeves.

Father2:  Hey, that’s a good idea. Why don’t we include that in the constitution?

Father1:  What? That we’re allowed to take our jackets off and roll up our sleeves while at work?

Father2:  Yeah, but that doesn’t sound very smooth. How about “Everyone shall have the right to bare arms?”

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She said: If the shoe fits……buy a pair in every color.

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He said, as a high school football coach, I’m aware that student athletes tend to focus too much on sports.  Bob, a fellow coach, was talking about one such player, who called him at home one night. When his wife informed the kid that Bob wasn’t home, he became frantic and said he had to speak to the coach right away.

“Just calm down, and I’ll have him call you as soon as he gets home,” the coach’s wife told him.  “What’s your number?”

The flustered kid replied, “Three.”

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What is a success? To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; that is to have succeeded.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

Excuses

Ray’s Daily

January 11, 2022

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“For many people, an excuse is better than an achievement because an achievement, no matter how great, leaves you having to prove yourself again in the future but an excuse can last for life.”

Eric Hoffer

Ray’s Daily first published on January 11, 2006

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If you are like I am it is far too easy to use an excuse in order to avoid action, commitment, chores, donations, or any one of the thousands of choices we make in our lifetime. In my mind there are two kinds of excuses that are especially harmful to those of us who use them.

The first is the excuses we use to justify our behavior. Too many of us say things like, “I just can never get up on time” or “I would do it but I am not handy with tools,” once we decide that that is what we are, that will be what we will be. We are never going to do better if we have an excuse not to try. The list is endless, “I don’t want to try Asian cooking because I had some once,” “I don’t go to any of the meetings because I know they are a waste of time,” we could go on and on. The bottom line is that when we excuse ourselves we are really saying is that we are too lazy to try. That’s ok if that is what you want to do, but if you do you will never experience the feeling you get when surprise yourself with what you really can do. An example for me was a long history of avoiding fish, once I eat some because there was no choice I ended up kicking myself for missing something I found I really liked for so long.

The second type of excuse is even worse. Those are the ones we use to rationalize avoiding doing something worthy. Do we really fool anyone when we say things like I never give anything to charity since I know they all just spend the money on the staff, or make some other judgmental proclamation? Or when we say “I never vote, everyone knows voting does not make any difference,” of course when we don’t vote we can blame someone else for electing people we don’t like. Why can’t we just be honest and say I don’t want to donate to charity or that we chose not to get involved in elections or the like? Maybe if we were honest with ourselves we would not be too happy with what we see. But like everything else it is up to us individually to make the choices we make. I just hope that when I make mine that they are not all based on my avoiding doing anything that requires effort.

Oh by the way. I do appreciate people who make white lie excuses in order not to hurt my feelings. I handle “I can’t make it, I have a previous commitment,” much better than I do someone telling me,“Are you kidding me, why would I go with you, I don’t like you.”

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He who excuses himself, accuses himself.

Gabriel Meurier

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Florida

Note: If you are not a resident of FLORIDA or never have lived in hot, humid south Florida, youmay not understand the weight of this blessing!

Bless this house, oh Lord, we cry.

Please keep it cool in mid-July.

Bless the walls where termites dine

While ants and roaches march in time.

Bless our yard where spiders pass

Fire ant castles in the grass.

Bless the garage, a home to please

Carpenter beetles, ticks and fleas.

Bless the love bugs, two by two,

The gnats and mosquitoes that feed on you.

Millions of creatures that fly or crawl, In FLORIDA, Lord, you’ve put them all!

But this is home, and here we’ll stay,

So thank you Lord, for insect spray.

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She said: All Desirable things in life are either ILLEGAL, BANNED, FATTENING, OR MARRIED TO OTHERS.

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A couple of women moved in across the hall from me. One is a middle-aged gym teacher and the other is a social worker in her mid-twenties. These two women go everywhere together and I’ve never seen a man go into their apartment or come out. Do you think they could be Lebanese?

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My forty-year-old son has been paying a psychiatrist $50 an hour every week for two-and-a-half years. He must be crazy.  

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She said: Curious when I found two black-and-white negatives in a drawer, I had them made into prints. I was pleasantly surprised to see that they were of a younger, slimmer me, taken on one of my first dates with my husband.

When I showed him the photos, his face lit up. “Wow, look at that!” he said with appreciation. “It’s my old Plymouth!”

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Regrets and recriminations only hurt your soul.

Armand Hammer

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THE TODDLER’S RULES

* If it is on, I must turn it off.  

* If it is off, I must turn it on.  

* If it is folded, I must unfold it.  

* If it is liquid, it must be shaken then spilled.  

* If it is solid, it must be crumbled, chewed or smeared.  

* If it is high, it must be reached.  

* If it is shelved, it must be unshelved.  

* If it is pointed, it must be run with full speed.  

* If it has leaves, they must be picked.  

* If it is plugged, it must be unplugged.  

* If it is trash, it must be removed, inspected and thrown on the floor.  

* If it is closed, it must be opened.  

* If it does not open, it must be screamed at.  

* If it has drawers, they must be rifled.  

* If it is a pen or pencil, it must write on refrigerator, monitor, TV or table.  

* If it is full, it will be more interesting empty.  

* If it is empty, it must be more interesting full.  

* If it is a pile of dirt, it must be laid upon.  

* If it has a flat surface, it must be banged upon.  

* If it is a paper, it must be torn.  

* If it has switches, they must be pressed.  

* If the volume is low, it must go high.  

* If it is a bug, it must be swallowed. If it doesn’t stay on my spoon, it must be dropped on the floor.  

* If it is not food, it must be tasted.  

* If it is food, it must not be tasted.  

* If it is dry, it must be made wet.  

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“I’m dating a guy who’s twenty-one. That’s seven in boy years.”

Lisa Goich

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An evangelist had a great revival camp going.  One night he was up in front of a large audience, speaking on imperfection.  He asked his audience towards the end, “Has anyone ever known anyone who has come CLOSE to the perfection of our lord, Jesus Christ?”  Nobody, of course raised their hand.  So he issued the question again.  “Anybody! Has ANYONE ever known that kind of perfection?”

Finally a guy in the back raised his hand, so of course he was asked to stand up. “Tell us.  Tell us who you knew who was so close to perfection.”

The man responded, “My wife’s first husband.”

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“The trick is not how much pain you feel–but how much joy you feel.

Any idiot can feel pain.

Life is full of excuses to feel pain, excuses not to live, excuses, excuses, excuses.”

Erica Jong

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than twenty years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@comcast.net. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are hundreds of  readers from around the world.

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