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Be Kind

Ray’s Daily

December 13, 2019

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KINDNESS MEANS BUILDING BRIDGES INSTEAD OF WALLS.”

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kindness

As we approach the upcoming holidays, we will hear that now is the time to be jolly and to offer goodwill to men. I think it is a great time to sharpen our caring skills by focusing our being kind to others. I wonder sometimes if we lose sight of the value of kindness both for the receiver of an act of caring but also to those offering the helping hand.

Some of us seem to limit our acts of kindness to only those close to us, thus missing the opportunity to reap the rewards that come from an unselfish action benefiting others. So my friends let’s all make this the season to be kind to others.

Here is an abridges article that outlines the health benefits that come from acts of kindness.

The Healing Power of Kindness

by Lloyd Dean & James Doty, M.D.

We’ve all heard the old adage that an apple a day keeps the doctor away, but what about a smile? An extensive scientific literature reveals a growing body of scientific evidence that indicates kindness holds the power to heal. We now know that this often overlooked, virtually cost-free remedy has a statistically significant impact on our physical health.

Those of us who work in the health care profession and study medicine have long believed in the value of a kind, compassionate bedside manner. But now, this belief isn’t just a nice notion – it’s sound science. The Dignity Health/CCARE scientific literature review shows that when patients are treated with kindness — when there is an effort made to get to know them, empathize with them, communicate with them, listen to them and respond to their needs — it can lead to the following outcomes:

  • faster healing of wounds,
  • reduced pain,
  • reduced anxiety,
  • reduced blood pressure,
  • and shorter hospital stays.

The research also shows that when doctors and nurses act compassionately, patients are more likely to be forthcoming in divulging medical information, which in turn leads to more accurate diagnoses. They are more likely to adhere to their prescribed treatments, which leads to fewer readmissions.

At the very least, this research review proves that in the context of health care and medicine, kindness shouldn’t be viewed as a warm and fuzzy afterthought, something nice to show after the “real” medicine is administered.

Instead, kindness should be viewed as an indispensable part of the healing process. After all, it’s been in the Hippocratic Oath for over a century: “I will remember that… warmth, sympathy, and understanding may outweigh the surgeon’s knife or the chemist’s drug.” So it’s the responsibility of those who work and study in the field of medicine to remember the spirit of this pledge, and make acts of kindness not-so-random for the people we serve and heal every day.

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“UNEXPECTED KINDNESS IS THE MOST POWERFUL, LEAST COSTLY, AND MOST UNDERRATED AGENT OF HUMAN CHANGE.”

Bob Kerrey

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Early one evening a gentleman scuttled out to his garage and pulled the lawn furniture out onto the driveway.  Shortly after followed the lawnmower, a few gardening tools and a bicycle.

A curious neighbor wandered over and asked if he was going to have a garage sale.

“No,” replied the gentleman, “my son just bought his first car and right now he’s getting ready for a big date.”

“So what’s with all the stuff?” asked the neighbor.

“Well, after years of moving tricycles, toys and sports equipment out of the way every time I came home from work I wanted to make sure the driveway was ready for him.”

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Make someone happy today. Mind your own business.

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Jill: What’s wrong, Mary?

Mary: I’m tired! I’ve been out seven nights in a row. I’m having too much fun!

Jill: Maybe you should get married again.

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Proper attire is required in the cafeteria at the University of Maine. To enforce that rule, the management posted this notice: “Shoes are required to eat in this cafeteria.”

Next to it, a student added, “Socks can eat wherever they want.”

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Marriage is like a tango. . .  it takes two, and occasionally one has to bend over backward to keep the dance going.

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OPINIONS ABOUT LOVE FROM KIDS

“I’m in favor of love as long as it doesn’t happen when ‘The Simpsons’ is on television.” (Anita, 6)

“Love will find you, even if you are trying to hide from it. I have been trying to hide from it since I was five, but the girls keep finding me.” (Bobby, 8)

“I’m not rushing into being in love. I’m finding fourth grade hard enough.” (Regina, 10)

THE PERSONAL QUALITIES NECESSARY TO BE A GOOD LOVER

“One of you should know how to write a check. Because, even if you have tons of love, there is still going to be a lot of bills.” (Ava, 8)

SOME SUREFIRE WAYS TO MAKE A PERSON FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU

“Tell them that you own a whole bunch of candy stores.” (Del, 6)

“Don’t do things like have smelly, green sneakers. You might get attention, but attention ain’t the same thing as love.” (Alonzo, 9)

“One way is to take the girl out to eat. Make sure it’s something she likes to eat. French fries usually works for me.” (Bart, 9)

HOW CAN YOU TELL IF TWO ADULTS EATING DINNER AT A RESTAURANT ARE IN LOVE?

“Just see if the man picks up the check. That’s how you can tell if he’s in love.” (John, 9)

“Lovers will just be staring at each other and their food will get cold. Other people care more about the food.” (Brad, 8)

“It’s love if they order one of those desserts that are on fire. They like to order those because it’s just like how their hearts are…on fire.” (Christine, 9)

WHAT MOST PEOPLE ARE THINKING WHEN THEY SAY “I LOVE YOU”

“The person is thinking: Yeah, I really do love him. But I hope he showers at least once a day.” (Michelle, 9)

HOW A PERSON LEARNS TO KISS

“You learn it right on the spot when the gooshy feelings get the best of you.” (Doug, 7)

“It might help to watch soap operas all day.” (Carin, 9)

WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?

“It’s never okay to kiss a boy. They always slobber all over you. That’s why I stopped doing it.” (Jean, 10)

HOW TO MAKE LOVE ENDURE

“Spend most of your time loving instead of going to work.” (Tom, 7)

“Don’t forget your wife’s name…That will mess up the love.” (Roger, 8)

“Be a good kisser. It might make your wife forget that you never take out the trash.” (Randy, 8)

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What an automated society we live in.

Have you ever noticed that when a traffic signal turns green, it automatically activates the horn of the car behind you?

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When our second child was on the way, my wife and I attended a pre-birth class aimed at couples who had already had at least one child. The instructor raised the issue of breaking the news to the older child. It went like this:

“Some parents,” she said, “tell the older child, ‘We love you so much we decided to bring another child into this family.’ But think about that. Ladies, what if your husband came home one day and said, ‘Honey, I love you so much I decided to bring home another wife.'”

One of the women spoke up immediately. “Does she cook???”

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“CONSTANT KINDNESS CAN ACCOMPLISH MUCH. AS THE SUN MAKES ICE MELT, KINDNESS CAUSES MISUNDERSTANDING, MISTRUST, AND HOSTILITY TO EVAPORATE”

Albert Schweitzer

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

Keep the Peace

Ray’s Daily

December 12, 2019

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Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Calm

One of the things I find most distressing these days is our societies polarization. Some folks let their biases blind them to more reasoned alternatives. In some settings it has gotten so bad that folks are afraid to talk to each other out of fear that the conversations will turn into angry debates.

It is especially tragic when families and friends split because of entrenched beliefs which often are not based on reality. During this holiday season I am hoping people will set their differences aside and focus on appreciating each other.

Here is an edited piece offered as strategies we can use to help keep our get-togethers’ friendly and stress free.

Holiday Stress by Managing What Your Mouth and Your Body Language Says

by Sharon Sayler

Seven Nonverbal Strategies for a Stress-less Holiday

Strategy One: No response can be the best response. A smile and a change of subject or your location might be all that is needed.

Strategy Two: Have a great memory already selected, what I call “go to your happy place” ready. When that stressor moment begins, think of the happiest memories you have. Holding those happy thoughts changes your body language and the thoughts around the current situation.

Strategy Three: Have a buddy. Let your buddy know how to intervene when “that family member starts….” Have them intervene by asking a question or having a task for you.

Strategy Four: Use positive gestures of relationship to set the tone. Using an open, upward facing palm, gesture with your forearm and hand to the person most likely to start the negative situation. While you slowly gesture – remember palm up and open – comment on how wonderful the decorations are this year. Continue the day assigning all the positive words you say, you’ll be amazed how it can reset the tone.

Strategy Four (and half): The opposite is true, you want to “aim” negativity AWAY from the person you’re talking to—no matter what you’re talking about. You can hurt feelings with your gestures and not even know it.

Strategy Five: Many situations can be diffused (or inflamed) by intentionally using your voice. Besides the words you choose, the emphasis, tone, volume, speed play a crucial role in how someone listens, interprets and reacts to what we say.

Strategy Six: Your facial expressions tell the world what you are feeling. Monitor those reaction facial expressions such as the ever so easy and favorite eye roll or pouty frown.

Strategy Seven: My favorite and the most powerful — your breathing. Train yourself to maintain low, abdominal (natural) breathing. The more you experience the calming effect that low, abdominal breathing has on your body, brain and voice, the easier it is to do in all situations. The goal is to maintain balanced breathing even while others around you are not.

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Remain calm, serene, always in command of yourself. You will then find out how easy it is to get along.

Paramahansa Yogananda

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Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

A medley of extemporanea;

And love is a thing that can never go wrong;

And I am Marie of Roumania.

Dorothy Parker (1893 – 1967)

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You can tell how big a person is by what it takes to discourage him.

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Andy Rooney On Phone-In-Polls:

You know those shows where people call in and vote on different issues? Did you ever notice there’s always like 18% that say, “I don’t know.”  It costs 90 cents to call up and vote and they’re voting “I don’t know.”  “Honey, I feel very strongly about this. Give me the phone.” (Says Into Phone) “I DON’T KNOW!” (Hangs up looking proud.) “Sometimes you have to stand up for what you  believe you’re not sure about.”

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If a thing is done wrong often enough, it becomes correct.

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An honest seven-year-old admitted calmly to her parents that Billy Brown had kissed her after class.

“How did that happen?” gasped her mother.

“It wasn’t easy,” admitted the young lady, “but 3 girls helped me catch him.”

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When your wife says, “Well, what do you think?” she is not asking for YOUR opinion.

She is asking for HER opinion, from your mouth.

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A young lady applied for a job and when she returned home, her mother asked how the interview went.  She said, “Pretty good, but if I get the job, I won’t get a vacation unless I’m married.”

Her mother had never heard of such a thing and asked, “Is that what they told you?”

The young lady replied, “No, they didn’t tell me that, but on the application it said that vacation time is not available until after your first anniversary.”

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She asked, if men are so competent, how come you always see signs reading “DANGER – MEN WORKING”?

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“Mr. Goldblatt,” announced little Joey, “there’s something I can’t figure out.”

“What’s that, Joey?” asked Goldblatt.

“Well, according to the Bible, the Children of Israel crossed the Red Sea, right?”

“Right.”

“And the Children of Israel beat up the Phillistines, right?”

“Er, right.”

“And the Children of Israel built the Temple, right?”

“Again you’re right.”

“And the Children of Israel fought the Egyptians, and the Children of Israel fought the Romans, and the Children of Israel were always doing something important, right?”

“All that is right, too,” agreed Goldblatt. “So what’s your question?”

“What were all the grown-ups doing?”

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“A mother never realizes that her children are no longer children.” James Agee

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She said, let’s celebrate each other for each other’s sake!

TO MY GIRLFRIENDS!

It is good to be a woman:

  1. We got off the Titanic first.
  2. We can scare male bosses with the mysterious gynecological disorder excuses.
  3. Taxis stop for us.
  4. We don’t look like a frog in a blender when dancing.
  5. No fashion faux pas we make, could ever rival the Speedo.
  6. We don’t have to pass gas to amuse ourselves.
  7. If we forget to shave, no one has to know.
  8. We can congratulate our teammate without ever touching her rear end.
  9. We never have to reach down every so often to make sure our privates are still there.
  10. We have the ability to dress ourselves.
  11. We can talk to the opposite sex without having to picture them naked.
  12. If we marry someone 20 years younger, we are aware that we will look like an idiot.
  13. We will never regret piercing our ears.
  14. There are times when chocolate really can solve all your problems.
  15. We can make comments about how silly men are in their presence because they aren’t listening anyway.

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Robert Benchley is one of my all time favorite humorists. He once said in a cable from Venice to Harold Ross, “Streets full of water. Please advise.”

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Her Bathroom Scale Tips

  1. Weigh yourself with clothes on, after dinner…as well as in the morning, without clothes, before breakfast, because it’s nice to see how much weight you’ve lost overnight.
  2. Never weigh yourself with wet hair or beard.
  3. When weighing, remove everything, including glasses. In this case, blurred vision is an asset. Don’t forget the earrings, these things can weigh at least a pound.
  4. Use cheap scales only, never the medical kind, because they are always five pounds off…to your advantage, of course.
  5. Always go to the bathroom first.
  6. Stand with arms raised, making pressure on the scale lighter. (Waving them is optional but occasionally helps!)
  7. Don’t eat or drink in the morning until AFTER you’ve weighed in, completely naked, of course.
  8. Weigh yourself after a haircut; this is good for at least half a pound of hair (hopefully).
  9. Exhale with all your might BEFORE stepping onto the scale (air has to weigh something, right?)
  10. Start out with just one foot on the scale, then holding onto the towel rack in front of you, slowly edge your other foot on and slowly let off of the rack. Admittedly, this takes time, but it’s worth it. You will weigh at least two pounds less than if you’d stepped on normally.

I find I get the most accurate weight if I hold on to the towel rack and not let go. Ray

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Being relaxed, at peace with yourself, confident, emotionally neutral loose, and free-floating – these are the keys to successful performance in almost everything.    

Wayne W. Dyer

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

Those were special days

Ray’s Daily
December 11, 2019
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“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
Maya Angelou

At Mekong River Thailand2

I am worn out from a full day of activities yesterday. I had to push my wife to a number of different events in her wheelchair and I am still pooped. So I am again going to send you another past issue of the Daily.

Ray’s Daily first published on December 11, 2002

I heard from my friend Karen who is based in Thailand where she works for UNICEF. I had the good fortune to spend a week with Karen a few years ago as we visited Thai villages, salt operations, and met with government officials. She has expanded her role and now has increased responsibility to the children of Asia. The world is a better place because of what she does.
Speaking of UNICEF, it was on this day in 1946 that the United Nations established the United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund (UNICEF) to provide relief and support to children living in countries devastated by war. Today UNICEF continues to provide help to children in need throughout the world.
I just got some more spring cruise news. My old UNIVAC friend Ray Esterline will be going on our cruise to the Caribbean and Europe, I have not seen Ray for more than 25 years, we were younger then. We now have four couples sailing this April. There are still a few cabins left for this great cruise that costs less than $100 per day and that includes hotel in Barcelona and airfare back to the states. If I missed sending you information and you would like to know more let me know.
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So long as little children are allowed to suffer, there is no true love in this world.
Isadora Duncan
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As in many homes throughout the US on New Year’s Day, my wife and I faced the annual conflict of which was more important — the football games on TV, or the dinner itself.
To keep peace, I ate dinner with the rest of the family, and even lingered for some pleasant after-dinner conversation before retiring to the Family Room to turn on the game.
Several minutes later, my wife came downstairs and graciously even brought a cold beer for me with her. She smiled, kissed me on the cheek and asked what the score was. I told her it was the end of the third quarter and that the score was still nothing to nothing.
“See?” she said, continuing to smile, “You didn’t miss a thing.”

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Karaoke bars combine two of the nation’s greatest evils; people who shouldn’t drink with people who shouldn’t sing.
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This woman rushes to see her doctor, looking very much worried and all strung out. She rattles off, “Doctor, take a look at me. When I woke up this morning, I looked at myself in the mirror and saw my hair all wiry and frazzled up, my skin was all wrinkled and pasty, my eyes were bloodshot and bugging out, and I had this corpse-like look on my face!
What’s wrong with me, Doctor?” The doctor looks her over for a couple of minutes, then calmly says, “Well, I can tell you that there is nothing wrong with your eyesight.”

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You are never a looser until you quit trying.
Mike Ditka
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At a Milwaukee post office, a woman complained to the clerk that a Pony Express rider could get a letter from Milwaukee to St. Louis in two days, and now it takes three. “I’d like to know why,” she scoffed.
The clerk thought a moment and then suggested,
“The horses are a lot older now?”

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Always remember you’re unique….just like everyone else.
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Exodus 28:42:
“And you shall make for Aaron your brother and for his sons’ linen undergarments to cover their nakedness; they shall reach from the waist to the thighs.”
There you have it, straight from the bible.
The only Kosher underwear are BOXER SHORTS!

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The biggest seller is cookbooks and the second is diet books — how not to eat what you’ve just learned to cook.

Andy Rooney
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A man is in no shape to drive, so he wisely leaves his car parked and walks home. As he is walking unsteadily along, he is stopped by a policeman.
“What are you doing out here at 2 a.m.?” the officer asks.
“I’m going to a lecture,” the man replies.
“And who is going to give a lecture at this hour?” the cop asks, his voice dripping with sarcasm.
“My wife.”

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“I often regret that I have spoken; never that I have been silent.”
Publilius Syrus
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After the trial had been going on for three days, Harrison, the man accused of committing the crimes, stood up and approached the judge’s bench.
“Your Honor, I would like to change my plea from ‘innocent’ to ‘guilty’ of these charges.”
The judge angrily banged his fist on the desk. “If you’re guilty, why didn’t you say so in the first place and save this court a lot of time and inconvenience?” he demanded.
Harrison looked up wide-eyed and stated, “Well, when the trial started I thought I was innocent, but that was before I heard all the evidence against me.”

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Let him who is without aim cast the first stone.
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A group of kids stood outside the circus, eager to get in, but without any money. They begged the ticket-taker to let them sneak in. He sternly refused. Seeing this, a kindly old man put his hand in his pocket and said to the ticket-taker, “Count them as they go in.”
One by one, the boys marched in. When the last one had disappeared into the audience, the old man said, “How many were there?”
The ticket-taker said, “Twelve.”
The old man said, “Shucks, I guessed wrong again.” And he walked off.

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People want the front of the bus, the back of the church, and the center of attention.
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There was a very gracious lady who was mailing an old family Bible to her brother in another part of the country.
“Is there anything breakable in here?” asked the postal clerk.
“Only the Ten Commandments.” answered the lady.

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“If you can’t laugh at yourself, I’ll be glad to do so for you.”
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Martin had just received his brand new driver’s license. The family troops out to the driveway, and climbs in the car, where he is going to take them for a ride for the first time. Dad immediately heads for the back seat, directly behind the newly minted driver.
“I’ll bet you’re back there to get a change of scenery after all those months of sitting in the front passenger seat teaching me how to drive,” says the beaming boy to his father.
“Nope,” comes dad’s reply, “I’m gonna sit here and kick the back of your seat as you drive, just like you’ve been doing to me all these years.”

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Well done is better than well said.
Benjamin Franklyn
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ay Mitchell
Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

You’re Fine

Ray’s Daily

December 10, 2019

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You are stronger than you realize. You are more capable than you can imagine.

Dieter F. Uchrdorf

love yourself

I am not sure we could ever be happy trying to be someone else. The best thing we can ever do is learn to be happy being ourselves. Many of you have heard me say that “this is as good as I get”, and for me that is enough. I am too old to start again, and that is OK.

In truth I like almost all of you as you are. I hope you appreciate what makes you special. Today I want to share with you what an author offered as the key to happiness.

Steps to happiness

Everybody Knows

You can’t be all things to all people.

You can’t do all things at once.

You can’t do all things equally well.

You can’t do all things better than everyone else.

Your humanity is showing just like everyone else’s.

So

You have to find out who you are, and be that.

You have to decide what comes first, and do that.

You have to discover your strengths, and use them.

You have to learn not to compete with others,

Because no one else is in the contest of being you.

Then

You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.

You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.

You will have learned to live with your limitations.

You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.

And you’ll be a most vital mortal.

Dare To Believe

That you are a wonderful, unique person.

That you are a once-in-all-history event.

That it’s more than a right, it’s your duty, to be who you are.

That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.

And you’ll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.

Author Unknown

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Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as it should be.

Wayne W. Dyer

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THE SECRETS OF WOMAN’S LANGUAGE

  1. FINE – This is the word a woman uses at the end of any argument that she feels she is right about but needs to shut you up. NEVER use fine to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.
  2. FIVE MINUTES – This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football/hockey or whatever game is going to last before you take out the trash, so she feels that it’s an even trade.
  3. NOTHING – This means something and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with the word “Fine”.
  4. GO AHEAD (c/w Raised Eyebrows) – This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over “Nothing” and eventually cause an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with the word “Fine”.
  5. GO AHEAD (w/out raised eyebrows) – This means “I give up. Do what you want because I don’t care.” You will, however, get a Raised Eyebrow “Go Ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing”, and a “Five Minute” argument ending with “Fine”.
  6. LOUD SIGH – Not actually a word of course but often a verbal cue misunderstood by men. The “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you’re an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing there having a “Five Minute” argument with you over “Nothing”.
  7. SOFT SIGH – One of the few sounds that some men actually understand. She is content. Your best bet is not to move or breathe. Just stay clear.

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“Is sloppiness in speech caused by ignorance or apathy? I don’t know and I don’t care.”

William Safire

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Kathy offered to care for the six-year-old son of her next-door neighbor. She arrived in time to prepare breakfast, laying a generous helping of bacon and eggs in front of the child.

“Mother always serves hot biscuits for breakfast,” said the six-year-old.

So, Kathy, very eager to oblige, hurried into the kitchen and quickly prepared a plate of hot biscuits, which she laid in front of the boy.

“No, thank you,” he said.

“But I thought you said your mother always prepares hot biscuits for breakfast!” said Kathy in surprise.

“She does,” said the child. “But I don’t eat them.”

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“According to ‘Modern Bride’ magazine, the average bride spends 150 hours planning her wedding.  The average groom spends 150 hours going, ‘Yeah, sounds good.'”

Jay Leno

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One day I found Morris, my five-year-old son, with the telephone, which he quickly hung up when he saw me.  “What were you doing?” I asked him.

“Calling Aunt Sarah.”

“How could you have called Aunt Sarah ?”  I asked.  “You don’t even know her number.”

“Yes, I do and I did call her,” little Morris replied.

I wasted a lot of breath trying to convince him that he didn’tknow her number, but he insisted he had made the call.

“Okay,” I said finally.  “What did she say, then, if you called her?”

“She told me I had the wrong number.”

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“It has been my experience that folks who have no vices have very few virtues.”

Abraham Lincoln

~~~

“Get this,” said a guy to his friends, “Last night while I was down at the bar with you guys, a burglar broke into my house.”

“Did he get anything,” his friends asked.

The guy said, “Yeah, a broken jaw, six teeth knocked out, and a coupla’ broken ribs.”

One of his friends asks, “Hey….how did that happen?”

The guy answered, “Well, it was really late at night and my wife thought it was ‘me’ coming home!”

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Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.

Coco Chanel

~~~

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

Getting to know them

Ray’s Daily

December 9. 2019

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“If you want understanding try giving some.”

Malcolm Forbes

appreciate

Lately I have wondered how many good friends I might have made over the years if I would have spent more time getting to know the people I met. I know that as most of my days these days are spent with other old folks, who like me have the time to spend in leisurely conversation.

It is during the times I get to reminisce with so many of these good people that I learn just how special they are. One unassuming gal turned out to have sung with a big band, another spent much of the time serving others. The list goes on. But there are others who carry burdens that would get most of us down. Some have lost all of their loved ones and suffer from loneliness. Others have lost their sight and have become dependent on others more than we realize.

In all of these cases the folks have enriched my life by sharing their stories. They also have helped me appreciate just how fortunate I am, As often as not my first impressions have been wrong, I have learned again that I need to keep my mind open and not make snap judgements about the people I meet. Here is an old favorite story that has meaning for me.

Everyone Has a Story in Life

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…

“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”

Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…

“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…

“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.”

Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.

~~~

“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.”

Marvin J. Ashton

~~~

A couple phoned a neighbor to extend birthday greetings. They dialed the number and then sang “Happy Birthday” to him.

But when they finished their off-key rendition, they discovered that they had dialed the wrong number.

“Don’t let it bother you,” said a strange but amused voice. “You folks need all the practice you can get.”

~~~

“Of all things which wisdom provides to make life entirely happy, much the greatest is the possession of friendship.”

Epicurus

~~~

For their anniversary, a couple went out for a romantic dinner. Their teenage daughters said they would fix a dessert and leave it waiting. When the couple got home, they saw that the dining room table was beautifully set with china, crystal, and candles. There was also a note that read,

“Your dessert is in the refrigerator. We are staying with friends, so go ahead and do something we wouldn’t do!”

“I suppose,” the husband responded dryly, “we could clean the house.”

~~~

“He has all the virtues I dislike and none of the vices I admire.”

Winston Churchill

~~~

An Australian tour guide was showing a group of American tourists the Top End On their way to Kakadu he was describing the abilities of the Australian Aborigine to track man or beast over land, through the air or beneath the sea. The Americans were incredulous.

Then later in the day, the tour rounded a bend on the highway and discovered, lying in the middle of the road, an Aborigine. He had one ear pressed to the white line whilst his left leg was held high in the air. The tour stopped and the guide and the tourists gathered around the prostrate Aborigine.

“Jacky,” said the tour guide, “what are you tracking and what are you listening for?”

The aborigine replied, “Down the road about 25 miles is a 1971 Valiant Ute. It’s red. The left front tire is bald. The front end is out of whack and it has dents in every panel. There are 9 black fellas in the back, all drinking warm sherry. There are 3 kangaroos on the roof rack and 6 dogs on the front seat.”

The American tourists moved forward, astounded by this precise and detailed knowledge.

“Wow, man! How do you know all that?” asked one American.

The Aborigine replied, “I fell out of the thing about half an hour ago.”

~~~

I’m not into working out.  My philosophy:  No pain, no pain.

~~~

A professor asked a student to remain for a few moments after class. Holding out the young man’s assignment, the professor said, “Ah, tell me something. This poem is very good. Did you write it all by yourself?

The student replies, “Every word of it, sir!’

The professor says, “Well, then, I’m glad to meet you, Mr. Poe.  I thought you were long dead.”

~~~

Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you.

Jackson Brown, Jr.

~~~

As Joan was getting to know Kyle and his family, she was very impressed by how much his parents loved each other. “They’re so thoughtful,” Joan said. “Why, your dad even brings your mom a cup of hot coffee in bed every morning.”

After a time, Joan and Kyle were engaged, and then married. On the way from the wedding to the reception, Joan again remarked on Kyle’s loving parents, and even the coffee in bed. “Tell me,” she said, “does it run in the family?”

“It sure does,” replied Kyle. “And I take after my mom.”

~~~

God made man before woman to give him time to think of an answer for her first question.

~~~

YOU MIGHT BE A SCHOOL TEACHER IF…

  1. You want to slug the next person who says, “Must be nice to work 8 to 3:20 and have summers free.”
  2. You believe “unbelievably annoying” should have its own box in the report card.
  3. You believe that unspeakable evils will befall you if anyone says “Boy, the kids sure are mellow today.”
  4. When out in public you feel the urge to snap your fingers at children you do not know and correct their behavior.
  5. You reflect that marking all A’s on report cards would make your life SO much easier.
  6. You think people should be required to spend two years teaching middle school before being allowed to reproduce.
  7. You wonder how some parents ever MANAGED to reproduce.
  8. You encourage an obnoxious parent to check into home schooling.
  9. You think caffeine should be available in intravenous form.
  10. Meeting a child’s parent instantly answers the question, “Why is this kid like this?”

~~~

“He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends.”

Oscar Wilde

~~~

A little boy came home from the playground with a bloody nose, black eye, and torn clothing. It was obvious he’d been in a bad fight and lost. While his father was patching him up, he asked his son what happened.

“Well, Dad,” said the boy, “I challenged Larry to a duel. And, you know, I gave him his choice of weapons.”

“Uh-huh,” said the father, “that seems fair.”

“I know, but I never thought he’d choose his big sister!”

~~~

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

~~~

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

Stay Cool

Ray’s Daily

December 6, 2019

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For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

anger

I don’t know about you but I sometimes get angry and usually it is just not worth it. In fact I often get criticizes for got getting mad about something or event. But I am OK with that for in my case getting angry only distresses me and has no good purpose.

In the heavily edited article below we are offered tips on how we can understand our anger and then hopefully deal with it. I guess I am lucky for I feel I know what is behind mine.

How To Handle Anger

by Dr. Annette Colby, RD

Anger is an emotion that can be difficult to deal with. Sometimes it’s experienced as a fleeting annoyance while other times it consumes our bodies with a burning rage. Anger is a natural human emotion, and it happens to everybody, whether we openly express it or not. The problem is not that we have anger. How we process anger determines whether it becomes a tool for self-healing or a weapon of destruction. The following is a guideline for working with anger. The steps work best if done out loud because this brings out the internal dialogue of the mind so you can become conscious of what is really going on for you beneath the anger.

  1. Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t allow connection with your feeling, and won’t allow movement to occur. Acknowledge that you have anger and take some time to feel it within your body. Decide not to run away from it. Thank the anger for being present. Allow for the ideas that even if you don’t understand your anger completely. Your anger is attempting to fight for you. Gratitude will melt resistance you have towards your own anger.
  2. Give anger your unconditional acceptance. Commit to yourself that you will not judge, ignore, shame, reject, criticize, or punish yourself for having anger. It is allowable for you to have anger. Your experience is meaningful.
  3. Share your desire to get to know your anger, why it is here, and what it wants for you. Anger is not your enemy. Anger indicates you are in pain, hurt, or fear. It’s very presence allows an opportunity to heal or open the doorway to greater love. Express your desire to know what experiences might be connected with this anger. Communicate with your anger in a way that you allow yourself to be its friend, and that your desire is to have it express itself to you.
  4. Allow your anger, words, or memories to have a safe space to come out. As you listen to your anger, go beyond the surface and ask what you are feeling threatened by. Ask what you would need from yourself to feel even a little better. Continue to remember anger is an experience, not who you are.
  5. Recognize that beneath your anger, you felt threatened in some manner. Listen and be willing to understand what lives inside of you. Offer love to your anger and the tender place beneath your anger. This is the process of transformation. You don’t need to solve anything, rather you need to bring a loving presence to the hurt that lives beneath anger. Your job is to realize exactly what caused you to feel threatened, and now allow for new assertive, loving, and adult ways of dealing with that threat.

~~~

There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.

Plato

~~~

Speaking of kids….

  • Dear God, Please send me a pony. I never asked for anything before. You can look it up. Bruce
    · Dear God, If we come back as something, please don’t let me be Jennifer Horton, because I hate her. Denise
    ·       Dear God, I want to be just like my daddy when I get big, but not with so much hair all over. Sam
    ·       Dear God, I think the stapler is one of your greatest inventions. Ruth
    ·       Dear God, I think about you sometimes, even when I’m not praying. Elliott
    ·       Dear God, I bet it is very hard for you to love all the people in the world. There are only four people in our family and I can never do it. Nan

~~~
A good way to get your name in the newspaper is to cross the street reading one.
~~~

A southern minister was completing a temperance sermon.  With great expression he said, “If I had all the beer in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.”

With even greater emphasis he said, “And if I had all the wine in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.”
And then finally, he said, “And if I had all the whiskey in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.” Sermon complete, he then sat down.

The song leader stood very cautiously and announced with a smile, “For our closing song, let us sing Hymn #365: ‘Shall We Gather at the River’.”

~~~

“Never judge a man by the opinion his wife has of him.”
– Bob Edwards
~~~

I remember:

Blackjack and Beeman’s gum
Powerhouse candy bars
Licorice records
Wax teeth, lips and mustaches
Wax Coke-shaped bottles with colored sugar water
Candy lipstick
Candy cigarettes
Fizzies
Soda pop machines that dispense bottles
Tableside jukeboxes in coffee shops
Home milk delivery in glass bottles with cardboard stoppers
Movies preceded by cartoons and newsreels
Party lines
Rotary phones

If you do too, I hope your arthritis is not as severe as mine.

~~~

The worst thing about accidents in the kitchen is that you usually have to eat them.
~~~

Don’t you just hate it when:
You have to try on a pair of sunglasses with that stupid little plastic thing in the middle of them.
The person behind you in the supermarket runs his cart into the back of your ankle.
The elevator stops on every floor and nobody gets on or off.
There’s always a car riding your tail when you’re slowing down to find an address.
You open a can of soup and the lid falls in.
The tiny red string on the Band-Aid wrapper never works for you.
You can never put anything back in a box the way it came.
Your tire gauge lets out half the air while you’re trying to get a reading.
A station comes in brilliantly when you’re standing near the radio but buzzes, drifts and has fits every time you move away.You wash a garment with a tissue in the pocket and your entire laundry comes out covered with lint.
The car behind you blasts its horn because you let a pedestrian finish crossing.
You set the alarm on your digital clock for 7pm instead of 7am.
The radio station doesn’t tell you who sang that song.
People behind you on a supermarket line dash ahead of you to a counter just opening up.
You can’t look up the correct spelling of a word in the dictionary because you don’t know how to spell it.
You have to inform five different sales people in the same store that you’re just browsing.
You reach under the table to pick something off the floor and smash your head on the way up.

~~~

Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.

Joel Osteen

~~~

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

We can do it

Ray’s Daily

December 5, 2019

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“The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them. Even the most tedious chore will become endurable as you parade through each day convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams.”

Og Mandino

Don't Wait

I am off to an early doctor’s appointment this morning, and that is after a full day yesterday. So I am again sending you something from the past, days when I was able to do more.

Ray’s Daily first published on December 5, 2007

 Yesterday I suggested that we get out of our easy chairs and do some good for others, or at least something for ourselves. That got me thinking about what an expert procrastinator I have become. I am pretty good about getting out and about and volunteering for this or that. In fact when I am healthy I usually have more on my plate than I can handle. Where I fall down badly is in the little things, balancing my checkbook, updating software, throwing out junk, and more. The crazy part is that most of the time I put stuff off for long periods, fret about the fact that I haven’t got to them only to find that when I do it takes little time and I feel better when they are done.

Sometime ago I got the following tip from guru Kathy Gates that she entitled, Life Vitamins:  A Task A Day” I think I better try her suggestions.

Everybody needs a way to stay healthy in their life, not only physically, but emotionally and mentally as well.  In that vein, most of us know that a good way to help stay physically healthier is to take a vitamin every day. But did you know that a great way to help you stay emotionally and mentally healthier is to do a Task A Day?

It’s like a vitamin for your daily life.  By staying on top of the tasks of your life you are taking care of your mental and emotional health.  If you neglect things in your life, no different than when you neglect your physical health, you will find that you are emotionally unhealthy as well.

Just like your vitamins, in order to have a healthy emotional and mental life it’s important to signal your brain and your emotions that you are in control and you are taking action. “Life Vitamins” help you feel good about yourself, and about what you accomplish.  They give you a sense of mastery over your life, a sense of moving toward something instead of being bogged down.

Think about several relatively small tasks that you’d like to have off your To-Do list — call somebody, return something, arrange for something, finish something, pick up something, catch up on something. You get the idea.

The key is to keep it small enough to accomplish with a relatively small outlay of energy — like that daily One-A-Day. However, you can put in a step to a larger task if you’d like. For example, if “clean out closet”, is languishing in can’t-get-it-done-land, try putting “go through shoes” on the list instead.  Or even “go through dress shoes” if you’re Imelda Marcos.  That’s a 10 minute project instead of a half day project.

Now that you’ve got the concept, write out the first 10 things you can think of that you’d like to get off your mind, and that would take you 15 minutes or less to accomplish.

And yes, it’s important to write them out.  This does several things:  (1) Takes it out of the “I wish” category, and puts it in the “I am” category;  (2) Gets it off your mind and onto something concrete; (3) Starts the ACTION phase, sending a signal to your brain that this is to be taken care of, not just worried about.

Now focus on one a day for the next 10 days.  Remember to keep it to tasks that are 15 minutes or less to accomplish, or break up larger ones into bite-size pieces. Make a commitment.  Make a new habit.  Change your perspective to see the tasks as your Daily Vitamin — essential to helping you feel happier, more efficient, and make your life much more comfortable. 

~~~

“Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task”

William James

~~~

“Office Work”

You can create your own opportunities this week. Blackmail a senior executive.

To err is human, to forgive is Not Company Policy.

A conference is simply an admission that you want somebody else to join you in your troubles.

Work is the curse of the drinking class.

The fifteen minute morning coffee break is when your employees take a break from doing nothing.

You worry too much about your job. Stop it. You are not paid enough to worry.

The usefulness of a meeting is inversely proportional to its attendance.

If you don’t know what you’re doing, do it neatly.

Work fascinates me. I can sit and watch it for hours.

When in charge, ponder. When in doubt, mumble. When in trouble, delegate

The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can fake that you’ve got it made.

No man goes before his time. Unless, of course, the boss leaves early.

~~~

Never go to bed angry, stay awake and plot your revenge

~~~

She said: Working as a court reporter, I hear to a lot of testimony that you won’t hear on LAW AND ORDER, including the following give-and-take between the judge and a mother during a paternity suit.

Judge: “Was the child born out of wedlock?”

Mother: “No, sir, just outside of Louisville.”

~~~

“I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason and intellect has intended us to forgo their use.”

Galileo Galilei

~~~

“Who broke this window?” cried a furious father.

“It was Andy, Dad.” replied the young boy. “He ducked when I threw a rock at him.”

~~~

Six retired Floridians were playing poker in the condo clubhouse when Meyerwitz loses $500 on a single hand, clutches his chest and drops dead at the table. Showing respect for their fallen comrade, the other five continued playing standing up.

Finkelstein looks around and asks, “So, who is going to tell his wife”?

They draw straws. Goldberg picks the short one.

They tell him to use good judgment, be discreet and be gentle. Don’t make a bad situation any worse.

“Discreet”? he asked. “I’ll be the most discreet person you will ever meet. Discretion is my middle name. Just leave it to me.”

So, Goldberg goes over to the Meyerwitz apartment and knocks on the door.

The wife answers and asks what he wants. Goldberg declares, “Your husband just lost $500 and is afraid to come home.”

“Tell him to drop dead!” she yells.

“I’ll go tell him,” says Goldberg.

~~~

What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t invent with your mouth.

Jewish Proverb

~~~

A Scotsman, carrying a huge suitcase, has been riding a London bus for five miles along its route, all the while attempting to avoid the ticket collector. Finally, the conductor manages to corner him and tells him to pay up.

“You’ve been on for five miles–that’ll be 50p, please, and 10p for your suitcase.”

The Scotsman responds, “I ha’not, I want a ha’penny fare, just got on this vera moment.”

They begin to argue, and the ticket collector becomes more and more enraged, and finally, as the bus is passing over London bridge, he grabs the Scotsman’s suitcase and hurls it out of the bus. It lands in the river and sinks without a trace.

The Scotsman stands shocked for a moment and says to the ticket collector, “Not only are ye tryin’ to overcharge me for the ticket–but now ye’ve gone an’ drowned me boy Angus!”

~~~

Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another’s pain, life is not in vain.

Helen Keller

~~~

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

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