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I am glad I took a different train

 

Ray’s Daily

October 16, 2018

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Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the actions stems the dream again; and this interdependence produces the highest form of living.

Anais Nin

Train

It is another day where I find myself with too much to do so here is another reprint.

Ray’s Daily first published on October 16, 2007

Since I will be going for my cardiac stress echo test first thing in the morning and doing additional medical stuff tomorrow I am putting the daily together twelve hours early, so if something newsworthy has taken place in the interim I probably didn’t miss it.

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Some of our readers are still in school laying the foundation for the rest of their lives, some are in their middle years, and then there are the rest of us who are given another chance to be what we want to be. It is not important where you are on life’s timeline it is only important that you realize it won’t stop and there is nothing you can do about that. But if you find that it is a train taking you to places you don’t want to go, remember you really don’t have to be on it.

It is not always easy to pick up your bags, leave the train with all its familiarity and board a train going someplace else, but for many of us it is the best thing we can do. The happiest people I know are those who have chosen a new destiny rather than staying on a train that goes nowhere. We all can begin again no matter how old we may be; all we have to do is get off the train. I did and it was the smartest thing I ever did.

Here is what Bill Greer suggests you do to begin again.

Begin to see yourself as you were when you were the happiest and strongest you’ve ever been.

Begin to remember what worked for you (and what worked against you), and try to capture the magic again.

Begin to remember how natural it was when you were a child — to live a lifetime each day.

Begin to forget the baggage you have carried with you for years:

The problems that don’t matter anymore,

The tears that cried themselves away,

And the worries that are going to wash away on the shore of tomorrow’s new beginnings.

Tomorrow tells us it will be here every new day of our lives; and if we will be wise, we will turn away from the problems of the past and give the future — and ourselves — a chance to become the best of friends.

Sometimes all it takes is a wish in the heart to let yourself begin again.

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How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.

Annie Dillard

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Things wives wish we would say:

~Wow, I just don’t know what to do with this money we won in the lottery, so why don’t you take it to the mall and see if you can find something to buy with it.

~Hey, how about inviting your mother to spend the summer with us.

~Oh, go ahead and eat that third piece of chocolate cream pie. If it’s one thing I hate it’s skinny women.

~What a break, I won a prize on the radio station…. tickets to either the super bowl or the opening of the New York Ballet. I got first choice so pack your bags for New York, we get to go to the ballet!!!

~Who wants to play golf when I can get to see how good the lawn looks when it’s freshly mowed.

~Shoot, there’s nothing on TV but football games. Let’s go furniture shopping.

~Man I tell you, nothing feels better than getting all spruced up in a suit and tie.

~I’m getting a little tired of steak on the grill. How about a nice quiche?

~You know, I think I’d really prefer the four-door sedan to that impractical Corvette.

~Golly I think we’re lost. Let me find a gas station to ask for directions.

~If the guys call and want me to go to that new sports club with them, tell them I’m busy. I really want to get the living room painted tonight.

~Sports cars are just such stupid little toys for men who have never really grown up.

~If you’re looking for me later, I’ll be over there looking at the home decorating magazines.

~You know, we really don’t visit your relatives enough.

~Why don’t you relax this weekend. I’ll take care of the cooking and housework.

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“Two wrongs are only the beginning.”

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At his request, each morning three-year-old Ray’s mother pinned a bath towel to the back shoulders of his size two T- shirt. Immediately in his young imaginative mind the towel became a brilliant magic blue and red cape. And he became Superman. Outfitted each day in his “cape,” Ray’s days were packed with adventure and daring escapades. He was Superman.

This fact was clearly pointed out last fall when his mother enrolled him in kindergarten class. During the course of the interview, the teacher asked Ray his name. “Superman,” he answered politely and without pause.

The teacher smiled, cast an appreciative glance at his mother, and asked again, “Your real name, please.”

Again, Ray answered, “Superman.”

Realizing the situation demanded more authority, or maybe to hide amusement, the teacher closed her eyes for a moment, then in a voice quite stern, said, “I will have to have your real name for the records.”

Sensing he’d have to play straight with the teacher, Ray slid his eyes around the room, hunched closer to her, and patting a corner of frayed towel at his shoulder, answered in a voice hushed with conspiracy, “Clark Kent.”

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“Always and never are two words you should always remember never to use.

Wendell Johnson

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There’s this little guy sitting inside a bar, just looking at his drink. He stays like that for half-an-hour. Then, this big trouble-making truck driver steps next to him, takes the drink from the guy, and just drinks it all down.

The poor man starts crying.

The truck driver says: “Come on man, I was just joking.

Here, I’ll buy you another drink. I just can’t see a man crying.” “No, it’s not that. Today is the worst day of my life. First, I overslept and was late to an important meeting. My boss, outraged, fired me. When I left the building for my car, I found out it was stolen. The police said they could do nothing. I got a cab to return home, and after I paid the cab driver and the cab had gone, I found that I left my whole wallet in the cab. I got home only to find my wife was in bed with the gardener. I left home and came to this bar. And when I was thinking about putting an end to my life, you show up and drink the darn poison …”

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“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I have just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.”

Diane Ackerman

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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You can be happy too!

Ray’s Daily

October 15, 2018

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Doing what you like is freedom. Liking what you do is happiness.

Frank Tyger

Happiness

I recently read an article published in INC magazine about how we can find long-term happiness. As I read the article I realized that the traits they describe were not just the behaviors of happy people they also the traits that I have found in the truly successful people I know. I think that personal integrity is the cornerstone of a happy person’s foundations.

Here are excerpts from the article for your revue.

Want to Find Long-Term Happiness?

By Marcel Schwantes

I’ve learned to adapt these nine principles found in people who are generally at peace and in a state of happiness — the same habits commonly found in people of character who value the humanity of others.

  1. Happy people avoid arrogance.- People with a happiness advantage don’t trample over their colleagues to get what they want at the expense of relationships; they humbly acknowledge that they don’t have all the answers and will ask for feedback from trusted sources.
  2. Happy people avoid gossip. – Happy people will walk away the moment they pick up gossipers on their radar; it’s in the gossiper’s DNA to dig up things about other people and spread rumors like a tumor. Happy people take the higher road by not associating with such people because it will save them in the long run.
  3. Happy people gauge their emotions and that of others – Because they’re highly empathic, happy people are typically great listeners, self-reflective, and curious about the lives of others, according to research.
  4. Happy people walk in integrity – As the famous saying goes, “do the right thing, even when no one is looking,” isn’t always easy. However, when you walk the talk like most happy people, the benefits are tremendous.
  5. Happy people focus on what they can control – Take a hint from the happiest of people: relax, slow down, take one thing at a time, and then focus again on what’s immediately in front of you. This will help to ease your anxiety.
  6. Happy people practice mindfulness – A growing body of research in neuroscience suggest that mindfulness is one of the best-kept secrets to help manage anxiety. All you need to do to is sit down for five minutes and pay attention to the present moment, without judgment, accepting whatever thoughts and sensations you’re experiencing as you breathe in and out.
  7. Happy people admit their mistakes – Happy people are radically honest people; they show their likable humanity when the chips are down, rather than letting hubris rear its ugly head. When they make mistakes, they will admit them.
  8. Happy people are assertive when managing conflict – Courageously run toward the eye of the storm because assertively cutting through a conflict to resolve a problem with respect, dignity, and good listening skills is much, much easier than the negative consequences of running away from a conflict.
  9. Happy people speak their truth – Happy people are authentic; they don’t say things to sugarcoat or try to please others or look good in front of their peers. Speak clearly, honestly, and with integrity.

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True happiness arises, in the first place, from the enjoyment of one’s self.

Joseph Addison

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A four-year-old was showing a little friend the family photos that covered one wall in their basement. Out of sight but not out of earshot, her mother overheard her say, “Here’s a picture of my mommy when she was a little girl. I wasn’t there, but people say she used to be nice.”

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It’s easy to identify people who can’t count to ten. They’re in front of you in the supermarket express lane

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Obrien and Nealy were getting well on in years, and Obrien was in the hospital in his last days.

Obrien reached out his hand to his friend and said, “Me friend, we’ve been pals since we were wee lads, and I haven’t got much more time left of this earth. When I’m gone, would you do me the biggest of favors?”

To which Nealy replied, “Why of course my good friend … anything you’d ask of me.”

Obrien asked, “When I’m well planted, please pour a bottle of the very best Irish whiskey on my grave.”

Nealy’s response … “Of course my good friend but … would you be offended if I was to strain it through me kidneys first?”

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Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.

Warren Buffet

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“That was nice of you to set up a blind date for your ex-boyfriend.”

“I know, but I don’t hold any grudges.”

“I’m surprised he trusted you enough to agree to go out with her.”

“Well, I had to swear to him she’s Jennifer Lopez’s double.”

“Wow! Is that true”?

“I wouldn’t lie. She’s twice her weight and twice her age!”

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Veni, Vidi, Velcro. (I came, I saw, I stuck around)

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He said: I’ve sure gotten old. I’ve had two By-pass surgeries. A hip replacement, new knees. Fought prostate cancer, and diabetes. I’m half blind, can’t hear anything quieter than a jet engine, take 40 different medications that make me dizzy, I’m winded, and subject to blackouts.

I have bouts with dementia. Have poor circulation, hardly feel my hands and feet anymore. Can’t remember if I’m 85 or 92. Have lost all my friends.

But… Thank God, I still have my Florida driver’s license.

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“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

Mahatma Gandhi

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Enjoy the Game

Ray’s Daily

October 12, 2018

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Just play. Have fun. Enjoy the game.

Michael Jordan

Cards

As I spend more time with folks older than I am; many who have an infirmity that slows them down, I realize the value of losing gracefully. While many of us are so competitive we are disappointed if we fail to win these people have an appreciation of the game itself.

It is the opportunity to play and interact with others that adds pleasure to their days. We all need the company of others to prevent loneliness and isolation. There is joy inherent in playing together, oh and by the way winning once in a while is fun too.

Here is a short poem describes the kind of plyers I like.

      A Smile

  Poet Unknown

 Let others cheer the winning man,

There’s one I hold worthwhile;

‘Tis he who does the best he can,

Then loses with a smile.

 

Beaten he is, but not to stay

Down with the rank and file;

That man will win some other day,

Who loses with a smile.

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Do you know what my favorite part of the game is? The opportunity to play.

Mike Singletary

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Introducing the Bio-Optic Organized Knowledge software: B.O.O.K.

BOOK is a revolutionary technological breakthrough: no wires, no electric currents, no batteries. Nothing to be connected or switched on. So easy to use, even a child can operate it! Compact, portable, it can be used anywhere — even on a beach, yards from a power point. Yet it is powerful enough to hold as much information as a CD-ROM disc! Here’s how it works:

BOOK is constructed of literally hundreds of sequentially numbered sheets of paper (recyclable), each capable of holding thousands of bits of information. The pages are locked together with a custom fit device (a “binder”) which maintains each sheet in its correct sequence.

Opaque Paper Technology (OPT) allows the manufacturer to utilize BOTH sides of each sheet, thus doubling information density while cutting costs. Sheets are scanned optically, registering information directly to the brain — the most efficient interface yet developed! And simple: a flick of a finger takes you to the next sheet! BOOK may be taken up at any time and used merely by opening it!

BOOK never crashes or requires rebooting. The “browse” feature permits you to move instantly to any single sheet, AND move forward and backward as you wish. Forget scrolling arrows or multiple key commands! BOOK often comes with an “index” feature which pinpoints the exact sheet location of any selected information for instant retrieval.

An optional “BOOKmark” accessory allows you to open book at THE EXACT PLACE YOU LEFT IT IN A PREVIOUS SESSION … even if BOOK has been closed!

Best of all, BOOKmarks fit universal design standards …any BOOKmark can be used in any BOOK by any manufacturer!

A brand new BOOKmark can even be used in a BOOK that predates it by months, even years!

Should you wish to store numerous views in a single book, multiple BOOKmarks can be used.

You also have the option to make personal notes next to BOOK text entries with an optional programming tool, Portable Erasable-Nib Cryptic Intercommunication Language Stylus (PENCILS).

Portable, durable, and affordable, BOOK is being hailed as the precursor of a new information-delivery wave. BOOK’s appeal is so certain that thousands of self-employed content creators (like me) have committed to the platform, and edit technicians are evaluating their submissions.

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“Every day is a good day to be alive, whether the sun’s shining or not.”

Marty Robbins

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A little girl says, “Daddy, I wish I had a little sister.”

Trying to be funny, the daddy says “Honey, you do have a sister. You just don’t see her because when you are coming in the front door, she is always leaving through the back door.”

The little girl thought about this and remarked, “You mean like my other Daddy does?”

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Take my advice, I don’t use it anyway.

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The businessman dragged himself home and barely made it to his chair before he dropped exhausted. His sympathetic wife was right there with a tall cool drink and a comforting word.  “My, you look tired,” she said.  “You must have had a hard day today.  What happened to make you so exhausted?”

“It was terrible,” her husband said.  “The computer broke down and all of us had to do our own thinking.”

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There is no They, Only Us.

Graffito

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As a Delta Air Lines jet was flying over Arizona on a clear day, the copilot was providing his passengers with a running commentary about landmarks over the PA system.

“Coming up on the right, you can see the Meteor Crater, which is a major tourist attraction in northern Arizona. It was formed when a lump of nickel and iron, roughly 150 feet in diameter and weighing 300,000 tons, struck the earth at about 40,000 miles an hour, scattering white-hot debris for miles in every direction. The hole measures nearly a mile across and is 570 feet deep.”

From the cabin, a passenger was heard to exclaim, “Wow! It just missed the highway!”

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At the marriage counselor’s office, the woman complained, “What’s-his-name here says I don’t give him enough attention.”

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Mother:  “Why are you home from school so early?”

Son:  “I was the only one who could answer a question.”

Mother:  “Oh, really?  What was the question?”

Son:  “Who threw the eraser at the principal?”

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Life is a song – sing it. Life is a game – play it. Life is a challenge – meet it. Life is a dream – realize it. Life is a sacrifice – offer it. Life is love – enjoy it.

Sai Baba

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

We Are OK

Ray’s Daily

October 11, 2018

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“Doing your best is more important than being the best.”

Zig Ziglar

We're OK

If there is one key behavior I have found to be important these days it is to be OK with my limitations and to just do the best I can. I can’t see as well as I did but I can still see, I can’t hear as well as I did but I can still hear, I can’t walk as far but I can still walk. All-in-all I am doing much better than many of my contemporaries and I am grateful for that as it is more than enough.

I recently read an article written by Sara Fabian entitled When I Stopped Competing, I Set Myself Free that reminded me of the value of being happy with what you can do. Here are excerpts that I would like to share with you today.

Stop competing against myself.

Perfection is nothing but pure fiction, an illusion created by our minds. It’s also a learned practice. Most of us were raised to constantly strive to become better people—to focus on our flaws and perceived limitations—and we either take our strengths for granted or aren’t even aware of them.

While we are all learning from our experiences and mistakes, we also need to be aware of our gifts and talents. We need to celebrate our uniqueness and detach ourselves from the toxic habit of comparing ourselves to others.

Why turn my life into a never-ending competition? True friendship is not about competing against each other. It’s about support and collaboration. Why act as my competitor when I can be my own best friend?

As the Chinese proverb says, “Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”

Since I changed my perspective, I’ve stopped beating myself up. I now talk to myself kindly. I treat myself with dignity and respect. I know I am worthy of the best things life has to offer, and it is my birthright to be happy. My happiness is nothing to compete or fight for.

I’ve learned to forgive myself for my mistakes in the same way I forgive others, knowing I am also human. As a student at the school of life, I will sometimes rise and sometimes fall, and that is okay. I no longer strive to become the best version of myself. Instead, I always do the best I can. When I know I’ve done the best I could, there’s no room for regrets. Whenever I know better, I do better. The day I stopped competing against myself and others, I set myself free.

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Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Don Miguel Ruiz

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The kids said:

“If you want to be loved by somebody who isn’t already in your family, it doesn’t hurt to be beautiful.” — Anita, age 8

“Beauty is skin deep. But how rich you are can last a long time.” — Christine, age 9

“It isn’t always how you look. Look at me. I’m handsome like anything, and I haven’t got anybody to marry me yet.” — Brian, age 7

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The Trouble With the Gene Pool Is That There’s No Lifeguard

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A guy is walking down the street with his friend. He says to his friend, “I’m a walking economy.”

His friend replies, “How’s that?”

“It’s like this: My hair line is in recession, my stomach is a victim of inflation, and the combination of these factors is putting me into a deep depression.”

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A man went to the Police Station wishing to speak with the burglar who had broken into his house the night before.

“You’ll get your chance in court,” said the Desk Sergeant.

“No, no, no!” said the man.  “I want to know how he got into the house without waking my wife. I’ve been trying to do that for years!”

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An insurance agent was teaching his wife to drive when the brakes suddenly failed on a steep, downhill grade.

“I can’t stop!” she shrilled.  “What should I do?”

“Brace yourself,” advised her husband, “and try to hit something cheap.”

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Adults are just kids who owe money.

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As I was driving home from work one day, I stopped to watch a local Little League baseball game that was being played in a park near my home. As I sat down behind the bench on the first-baseline, I asked one of the boys what the score was.

“We’re behind 14 to nothing,” he answered with a smile.

“Really,” I said. “I have to say you don’t look very discouraged.”

“Discouraged?” the boy asked with a puzzled look on his face. “Why should we be discouraged? We haven’t been up to bat yet.”

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“I just recently had my Visa card stolen … Right now it’s everywhere I want to be.”

Scott Wood

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A guy had been feeling down for so long that he finally decided to seek the aid of a psychiatrist.

He went there, laid on the couch, spilled his guts then waited for the profound wisdom of the psychiatrist to make him feel better.

The psychiatrist asked me a few questions, took some notes then sat thinking in silence for a few minutes with a puzzled look on his face.

Suddenly, he looked up with an expression of delight and said, “Um, I think your problem is low self-esteem. It is very common among losers.”

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“At the end of the day, remind yourself that you did the best you could today, and that is good enough.”

Lori Deschene

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

 

Let’s do something worthwhile today

Ray’s Daily

October 10, 2018

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What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.

Ralph Marston

Do well

Yesterday wore me out, I had an early morning Doctor’s appointment and a long physical therapy session were I learned just how out of shape I really am. My muscles are reminding me this morning that I have to work to do to restore my health.

The good news is that I can rest today and enjoy lunch with one of my favorite friends. She is an educator, author, former CEO ae well as a highly regarded philanthropist. Her and her husband continue to good works focused on children.

As I looked forward to my lunch I remembered the following list I picked up years ago, It describes behaviors similar to those of my friend,

Thoughts for The Day

  • Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
  • A sharp tongue can cut your own throat.
  • If you want your dreams to come true, you mustn’t oversleep.
  • Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important.
  • The best vitamin for making friends….. B1!
  • The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
  • The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge.
  • One thing you can give and still keep…is your word.
  • You lie the loudest when you lie to yourself
  • If you lack the courage to start, you have already finished.
  • One thing you can’t recycle is wasted time.
  • Ideas won’t work unless ‘You’ do.
  • Your mind is like a parachute…it functions only when open.
  • The 10 commandments are not a multiple choice.
  • The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime!
  • It is never too late to become what you might have been.

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Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.

Helen Keller

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One of those physical fitness club franchises was preparing to enter the international market.  They placed ads in newspapers all over the county for people who could represent them on a tour.  The ad said:

We’re looking for five men in peak physical condition.  Must be able to speak Spanish, French, Chinese, or Japanese.  Must be knowledgeable about weights, aerobics, and at least two major sports. The day after the ad appeared, a heavy man of about 70 appeared in the offices of the fitness club.  “I’m here about the ad,” he said.

The bronzed Adonis behind the desk looked surprised, but decided to be polite.  “Do you speak Spanish or French?” he asked.

“Nope,” the old man said.

“Chinese? Japanese?”

“No, both times.”

“Know anything about weights or aerobic exercises?”

“Only that I wouldn’t be caught dead with either one.”

“How about sports?”

“I’ve never played anything more taxing than checkers.”

“I see,” the young man said.  “Tell me something.  Why did you come here?”

“To tell you to count me out.”

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An eternity is very, very long, especially towards the end.

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A nervous taxpayer watches with growing unhappiness as an IRS tax auditor goes over his records, making notations on a legal pad. Finally, the auditor finishes his work. He turns to the taxpayer and says, “We feel it is a great privilege to be allowed to live and work in the United States. As a citizen, you have an obligation to pay taxes, and we expect you to eagerly pay them with a smile.”

“Thank goodness,” the man says, a grin spreading from ear to ear. “I thought you were going to want me to pay with cash!”

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Natives who beat drums to drive off evil spirits are objects of scorn to smart Americans who blow horns to break up traffic jams.

Mary Kelly

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A couples happy married life almost went on the rocks because of the presence in the household of old Aunt Emma. For seventeen long years she lived with them, always crotchety, always demanding. Finally, the old girl died.On the way back from the cemetery, the husband confessed to his wife, “Darling, if I didn’t love you so much, I don’t think I would have put up with having your Aunt Emma in the house all those years.”

His wife looked at him aghast. “My Aunt Emma!” she cried. “I thought she was ‘your’ Aunt Emma!”

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“I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.”

Mark Twain

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An older couple went on a cruise for their anniversary. Their conversation with the other couples they met tended towards political and international events.

At one point, the husband asked, “Honey, what do you think about the Middle East position?”

She replied, “Oh, I don’t know, dear, you know I’m not into any of that kinky stuff.”

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Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.

William James

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Let’s Be Civil

Ray’s Daily

October 9, 2018

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Civility is not a sign of weakness.

John F. Kennedy

civility

I am worried that too many of us have lost our ability to look at today’s issues with an open mind. Modern media makes it too easy to see only what we want to see and hear only what we want to hear. For example the current political ads are more negative than ever, many loded with innuendo and falsehoods.

The consensus building that has been the foundation of our democracy has been stifled by polarization, animosity and tribalism. Our leaders seem to have little time for constructive dialogue spending more of their time raising funds to increase their power than solving problems.

In some settings it has gotten so bad that neighbors are reluctant to discuss current events for fear of triggering an angry response, even from their friends. What must our children think? Our tradition of civil discourse has been diluted by the angry rhetoric of today. Too many of us seem to believe we already know all the answers and have no need to listen to others. The right and left use to meet in the civil middle as we built our nation, I miss those days. I yearn for a return to civility.

Choosing Civility

The 25 rules of considerate conduct

Pay attention

Acknowledge others

Think the best

Listen

Be inclusive

Speak kindly

Don’t speak ill

Accept and give praise

Respect even a subtle “no”

Respect others’ opinions

Mind your body

Be agreeable

Keep it down (and rediscover silence)

Respect other people’s time

Respect other people’s space

Apologize earnestly

Assert yourself

Avoid personal questions

Care for your guests

Be a considerate guest

Think twice before asking for favors

Refrain from idle complaints

Accept and give constructive criticism

Respect the environment and be gentle

Don’t shift responsibility and blame

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We are losing sight of civility in government and politics. Debate and dialogue is taking a back seat to the politics of destruction and anger and control. Dogma has replaced thoughtful discussion between people of differing views.

James McGreevey

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Radar: “Flight 1234, for noise abatement turn right 45 degrees.”

Pilot: “Roger, but we are at 35,000 feet, how much noise can we make up here?”

Radar: “Sir, have you ever heard the noise a 727 makes when it hits a 747?”

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My wife tends to leave well enough alone. Unfortunately, things are rarely well enough.

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The wise old Mother Superior was dying. The nuns gathered around her bed trying to make her comfortable. They gave her some warm milk to drink, but she refused it.

Then one nun took the glass back to the kitchen. Remembering a bottle of Irish whiskey received as a gift the previous Christmas, she opened and poured a generous amount into the warm milk. Back at Mother Superior’s bed, she held the glass to her lips. Mother drank a little, then a little more. Before they knew it, she had drunk the whole glass down to the last drop.

“Mother,” the nuns asked with earnest, “Please give us some wisdom before you die.”

She raised herself up in bed with a pious look on her face and said, “Don’t sell that cow.”

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It’s frustrating when you know all the answers, but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.

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A young preacher was contacted by the local funeral director to hold a grave-side committal service at a small local cemetery for someone with no family or friends. The preacher started early but quickly got himself lost, making several wrong turns.

He arrived a half-hour late, the hearse was nowhere in sight, and the workmen were eating lunch.

The pastor went to the open grave and found the vault lid already in place.  Taking out his book, he read the service.

As he was returning to his car, he overheard one of the workmen say: “Think we should tell him it’s a septic tank?”

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On a trip to the zoo, I made a casual stroll by the cage of a laughing hyena.  A young man was leaning over the bar at the edge of the cage, whispering something in the animal’s direction.  As I stepped closer, I heard him say, “Did you hear the one about…”

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Civility means a great deal more than just being nice to one another. It is complex and encompasses learning how to connect successfully and live well with others, developing thoughtfulness, and fostering effective self-expression and communication. Civility includes courtesy, politeness, mutual respect, fairness, good manners, as well as a matter of good health. Taking an active interest in the well-being of our community and concern for the health of our society is also involved in civility.

  1. M. Forni

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Enjoying Your Life?

Ray’s Daily

October 8, 2018

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Do what you need to do and enjoy life as it happens.

John Scalzi

enjoy life

I am learning that a life of leisure takes up a lot of time and today we are adding physical therapy sessions. My docs want me to regain some of the strength in my legs that I lost since I can no longer get to the gym and my coach, Julia.

My PT folks will escort me to the workout area and put me through their regimen. Since I walk from my apartment to the facilities restaurant two or three times a day, a long distance, I should be able to retain my strength.

One of the good things about my life these days is that there is little time for negative thoughts, I get to enjoy what I do have rather than morn what I no longer have. Of course my siestas do shorten my day.

What about you? I hope you are enjoying your life as much as I am. Here are a few tips that might help you enjoy it more.

Three Ways to Enjoy Your Life More

Enjoyment is an incredible energizer to the human spirit.

John C. Maxwell

We all want to be happier: a simple sentence, only six words long. And yet every time it crosses my mind, it’s a powerful reminder of why my job—psychologist—even exists; every patient I work with wants my help in order to enjoy their life more. These individuals come from all walks of life, and each has his or her own story, but this desire is perhaps the only thing that they have in common with each other—and, for that matter with you or me. They all want to “be happier”.

So, what’s the number one thing you can do to make that happen?

During my first meetings with them, people often suggest large, sweeping changes to their lives. I could quit my job. I could leave New York. I could get back with my ex. I could shave off my beard.

All valid ideas. But here’s my suggestion: I could try to find more enjoyment in my life as it exists right now.  It is so clear that enjoyment of life is linked to so many other positive outcomes. Some point to the possibility that enjoying exercise will lead to better performance in physical activity. But are there things that you can do practice enjoyment? What concrete behavioral changes can you make to begin your quest to enjoy your life with more vigor?

Here are three ideas for you to practice:

1.Have a daily ritual around enjoyment: Upon waking, ask yourself, “What do I look forward to most today.” At the end of your day, ask yourself, “What was the most enjoyable part of my day and why?

You could actually take it one step further and document your enjoyment ritual. Each night, you could write down one thing you enjoyed about your day on a slip of paper, and drop it in a jar.  A year from now, empty the jar and re-read the slips. I love this method because of its double-pronged benefit: not only do you get to dwell on your enjoyment every day, but you can relive it all at once, long after the fact.

  1. Whenever you eat try to focus on the taste of your food for just one minute. What does it taste like? Try to identify the different sensations. Salty? Sweet? Bitter? Sour? If you are eating with someone, comment to them about each observation.

This tip comes out of the research which suggests that eating smaller portions of food with more mindfulness can increase your actual enjoyment of what you are eating. (Of course, the trick is the smaller portions – read my post on changing a behavior for that one!)

  1. Put a reminder on your phone, computer or calendar that reminds you to enjoy whatever is most important in your life. I have a small cartoon sticker of a shining sun that my daughter gave me that’s on my phone case. In the midst of any stressful day, it reminds me to focus on what I can enjoy and divert my attention from the rest.

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If you go around being afraid, you’re never going to enjoy life. You have only one chance, so you’ve got to have fun.

Lindsey Vonn

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We were on our way to the hospital where our 16-year-old daughter was scheduled to undergo a tonsillectomy.  During the ride we talked about how the procedure would be performed. “Dad,” our teenager asked, “how are they going to keep my mouth open during the surgery?” Without hesitation he quipped, “They’re going to give you a phone to hold.”

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When you have accumulated sufficient knowledge to get by, you’re too old to remember it.

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Recently we called a business phone number and heard the following:  If you are calling from a touch-tone phone, press one now.  If you are calling from a rotary phone, hang up and call back from a touch-tone phone.

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I dialed a wrong number and got the following recording: I am not available right now, but thank you for caring enough to call.  I am making some changes in my life.  Please leave a message after the beep. If I do not return your call, you are one of the changes.”

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There was a woman who spent some months serving God in Kenya.  On her final visit to a remote township she attended a medical clinic. As the Maasai women there began to sing together, she found herself deeply moved by their hauntingly beautiful harmonies.  She wanted to always remember this moment and try to share it with friends when she arrived home. With tears flowing down her cheeks, she turned to her friend and asked, “Can you please tell me the translation of the words to this song?” Her friend looked at her an solemnly replied, “If you boil the water, you won’t get dysentery.”

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“A day without laughter is a day wasted.”

Charlie Chaplin

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When the new patient was settled comfortably on the couch, the psychiatrist began his therapy session. I’m not aware of your problem,” the doctor said. “So perhaps, you should start at the very beginning.”

“Of course,” replied the patient. In the beginning, I created the Heavens and the Earth…”

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“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”

Maya Angelou

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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