Pity the faultless
Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but having faults different from your own.
Before I forget, my wife is taken me out for rest and relaxation tomorrow morning so I will be shutting down the office until Thursday so no Daily. I’ll see you then.
I don’t know about you but I am a little tired of all the negativism that seems to abound these days. I run into more and more people who are quick to blame everyone else but themselves for all of today’s problems. I use to let excessive criticism of my activities get me down, but that was a long time ago. Unfortunately though many people lose confidence and even suffer from what sometimes is almost cruel derision from others. In todays polarized society it seems that more and more folks think it is cute to heap ridicule and scorn on others. For some, facts and accuracy are not as important as their belief that points are scored by the amount of disdain they can heap on others.
Trust me; many people are hurt deeply even when they know that they are the victims of false or half-truths spread by others. Regrettably the rest of us often stand mute for fear of retaliation by the screamers. Me, I long for the civility of the past, the days when we tried to criticize constructively. I know from growing up in Chicago that it was not a bed of roses, but the impolite were the thugs and bullies, not neighbors and fellow workers. Maybe I just see more of it these days because I am out and about. Possibly fear has driven some otherwise good people over into thoughtless behavior while others just stand quietly by and let the tirades flow.
Fortunately I have learned to do the best I can, listening to the critics and accepting what is constructive while ignoring animosity and moving on. Our old friend Ralph Marston had this to say about disapproval, I think he is right on target
If you give in to the disapproval of others, you’ll simply encourage them to disapprove even more. If you fight against their disapproval, that will also cause their disapproval to grow stronger. Your most effective response is to gently accept the disapproval, then let it go and move forward. That strategy will dilute and dispense with the resistance you encounter faster than anything else.
Stop needing the approval of others, and you’ll receive more approval and support than ever. Live each moment from your own inspiration, not from your desire to look good in the eyes of others. You can be exceptionally kind, loving, giving and respectful without being a slave to the opinions of others. Accept that other people will disapprove of some things you do, and you’ll free yourself to do truly magnificent things.
Your great value does not derive from the approval of others. You are entirely worthy and able to give much to life, regardless of what anyone else may think. Graciously and enthusiastically accept that others will disapprove, no matter what you do. And delight in the freedom of doing whatever you know is right for you.
“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.”
A mother was showing her son how to zip up his coat. “The secret,” she said, “is to get the left part of the zipper to fit in the other side before you try to zip it up.”
The boy looked at her quizzically… “Why does it have to be a secret?”
A motivational sign at work: The beatings will continue until morale improves.
Grandma, when you and Grandpa had your first baby, did Grandpa ever handle the middle of the night feeding?”
“No. I always did that.”
“That must have been before you had women’s liberation.”
“No, it was before we had baby bottles.”
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
A site foreman had ten very lazy men working for him, so one day he decided to trick them into doing some work for a change.
“I’ve got a really easy job today for the laziest one among you,” he announced. “Will the laziest man please put his hand up?”
Nine hands went up.
“Why didn’t you put your hand up?” he asked the tenth man.
“Too much trouble,” came the reply.
“To err is human, but when the eraser wears out ahead of the pencil, you’re overdoing it.”
At the height of a political corruption trial, the prosecuting attorney attacked a witness. “Isn’t it true,” he bellowed, “that you accepted five thousand dollars to compromise this case?”
The witness stared out the window as though he hadn’t hear the question. “Isn’t it true that you accepted five thousand dollars to compromise this case?” the lawyer repeated.
The witness still did not respond. Finally, the judge leaned over and said, “Sir, please answer the question.”
“Oh,” the startled witness said, “I’m sorry, Your Honor, I thought he was talking to you.”
Alcohol and calculus don’t mix. Never drink and derive.
An older lady is making her first visit to her new doctor’s office. Before seeing the doctor she is required to fill-out forms. A nurse in the office offers to help her do this. The nurse starts by asking, “How old are you, Mrs. Silver?”
“None of your business,” she responds. The nurse then says, “But the doctor must know your age for his records.”
Mrs. Silver replies, “Okay. Well, first, multiply twenty by two, then add ten. Got that?”
“Yes.” answers the nurse.
“All right, now subtract fifty, and tell me, what do you get?”
The nurse says, “Zero.”
Mrs. Silver responds, “Right! And that’s exactly the chance of me telling you my age.”
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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