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Are you as happy as you would like to be?

Everyone is responsible for their own joy.

Choose-to-be-Happy

The other day I expressed my concern for the folks who are lonely. Well I also get concerned about friends I know who always seem to be down in the dumps. I honestly believe that the best things these people can do is to get so happy that they don’t have time to dwell on their problems or maladies.

It is amazing how focusing on happiness helps to speed up the healing process. I know I have had plenty of experience depending on it for my recoveries.

Unfortunately too many of us wait for happiness to find us rather than actively pursuing its benefits. I am offering you today an abridged piece written by Henrik Edberg to help you search if you need more happiness than you already have.

How to Find Happiness: 7 Timeless Tips from the Last 2500 Years

What do you want? A great job? A fulfilling relationship? Go sailing around the Pacific for a few years in your very own luxurious boat? Or just to get along better with yourself? Perhaps you want one of more of those things. But beneath those and many common wishes, if you take it a step further, often lies a wish to find happiness.

One good way to find a few useful, life-improving and time-tested tips is to look back. To look way back through history. To find ideas that have arisen in minds over and over the last few thousand years. Here are seven such ideas about how you can find happiness. Maybe you´ll find them helpful.

You choose.

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. – Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

How your view yourself and your world are conscious choices and habits. The lens you choose to view everything through determines how you will interpret what is happening. And from your interpretation you act. And all of this becomes your life. You can choose to find happiness in small, everyday things. You can choose to interpret what happens in a positive way. Or in a negative way. And your choices controls much of how much happiness your will find and create in your life.

Focus on the present, not yesterday or tomorrow.

The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet. – James Oppenheim

You only have now. And now. And now. Yesterday is a memory and you cannot change it. Tomorrow is just a fantasy in your mind right now. So live more in the now, focus on the present moment and today. Think and worry less about yesterday and tomorrow. Otherwise you might miss a great deal of happiness that is available to you right now.

Don’t forget to be grateful.

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. – Frederick Keonig

One of the simplest and quickest ways to turn a negative and sour mood into a more positive one is to be grateful. A few things you can feel gratitude for are for instance: The sunshine and the weather. Your roof. Your health. A good TV-show, a movie or a song. Your friends, family, co-workers and just about anyone walking down the street.

Just try if for a minute and see how it changes how you feel. And it’s a win/win solution. You feel great because you are grateful about your world and the people you are grateful for feel great too because they feel appreciated.

Help someone else find happiness.

Happiness is like a kiss. You must share it to enjoy it. – Bernard Meltzer

This is certainly one of the most popular ideas I’ve found about happiness. And it might sound empty but it works very well. When you make someone else happy – by, for example, helping them with something – you can sense, see, feel and hear it. And that happy feeling flows back to you. And since the Law of Reciprocity is strong there is another upside. People will feel like giving back to you. Or they might feel like helping/sharing it with someone else. And so the two – or more – of you keep spreading the happiness.

Get rid of a couple of your less valuable desires.

If thou wilt make a man happy, add not unto his riches but take away from his desires. – Epicurus

If you want less instead of more, more, more then your desires are more likely to be fulfilled. And if you throw away a few of those desires that you may not really want or need that much anyway you’ll probably start to feel less stressed and worried.

Do what you like to do.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. – Albert Schweitzer

A pretty obvious one. But it’s still easy to trap yourself into doing what you don’t want to for many, many hours. And seldom do what you really love to do. You may not be able to choose to do what you want to do right now. But you almost always have a choice to do more of what you really want to do. There is always time. Or time you can free up. You have a choice.

Or at least do something.

Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action. – Benjamin Disraeli

One of the best ways to not find happiness is just to hold yourself back and do nothing. Seldom show up. Paralyze yourself through over analysis. It’s not always easy to take action, it can be scary and hard and difficult. But if you don’t take action you’ll be missing out on a lot. Including many moments, people and experiences that can bring you a lot of happiness.

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There are souls in this world who have the gift of finding joy everywhere and leaving it behind them when they go.

Faber

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In a Silver City, Nevada, cemetery:

Here lays Butch,

We planted him raw.

He was quick on the trigger,

But slow on the draw.

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Time may be a great healer, but it’s a lousy beautician.

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One Sunday a young child was “acting up” during the morning worship hour. The parents did their best to maintain some sense of order in the pew but were losing the battle. Finally, the father picked the little fellow up and walked sternly up the aisle on his way out. Just before reaching the safety of the foyer, the little one called loudly to the congregation, “Pray for me! Pray for me!”

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I’m writing a book. I’ve got the page numbers done already.

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Taking his seat in his chambers, the judge faced the opposing lawyers. “So,” he said, “I have been presented, by both of you, with a bribe.” Both lawyers squirmed uncomfortably. “You, attorney Leon, gave me $15,000. And you, attorney Campos, gave me $10,000.”

The judge reached into his pocket and pulled out a check. He handed it to Leon.   “Now then, I’m returning $5,000, and we’re going to decide this case solely on its merits!”

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A couple are lying in bed. He said: “I am going to make you the happiest woman in the world.”

She said: “I’m sure going to miss you!”

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A Dutchman in Amsterdam felt that he needed to confess, so he went to his Priest.

“Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. During WWll, I hid a Jewish man in my attic.”

“Well,” answered the Priest, “That’s no a sin.”

“But I made him pay me 20 gulden for each week he stayed.”

“I admit that wasn’t good, but you did it for a good cause.”

“Oh thank you Father; that eases my mind. Father, I have one more question.”

“What is it son.”

“Do I now have to tell him the war is over?”

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When you finally allow yourself to trust joy and embrace it, you will find you dance with everything.

Emanuel

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.

Mother Teresa

Lonliness

I think the greatest malady of older folks is loneliness. For many it starts with retirement, a time when all the people you spent time with each workday are no longer providing the fellowship that so often accompanies interaction with fellow workers. Many of us find positive human contact during time spent with family and friends only to find their numbers dwindling as time goes by, some move, some pass on and others just drift away.

We all need the benefits we get from our relationship with others and life becomes dreary when we don’t have much human contact. The choice we have is to drift into further isolation and stagnation or to invest in ourselves by taking action to fill the empty chairs. Here are excerpts from an article on the Free People blog I saved some time ago, it seems to me it provides antidotes to the ills associated with toxic loneliness.

How To Feel Better When You’re Alone

If you think, think positive.

Positive thoughts lead to positive outcomes. Being alone and without anyone to talk to makes it easy for thoughts to run wild in our head. Rather than dwelling on mistakes or things that take your mind to a negative place, think about things that get you excited, or times when you’ve felt the happiest. Keeping a journal filled with feel-good quotes is an easy way to get thinking upwards. Whenever you come across one you like, write it down. The next time you’re alone and need some words of encouragement, read back through your journal.

Explore.

Getting out of the house is the best thing to do when you’re feeling alone. Even if it’s just a quick walk around the block. Feeling the warmth of sunshine on my skin and being in the outside air makes me appreciate the day, and encourages me to explore new places. If you live in a city, try walking around a neighborhood you haven’t spent much time in, or drive to the next town over and find out what it has to offer. You might even make a new friend in the process.

Plan a trip.

Being alone isn’t very exciting, so do something to get you excited about times ahead, like planning a trip. Use the down time you have to think about where you want to go, who you want to bring along, and all of the things you can do when you’re there. It it’s a road trip, try embroidering out your route for something creative and useful to do. If you have that dream location you’ve always wanted to travel to, figure out exactly how you are going to get there.

Go to a coffee shop.

Even though you might not be surrounded by people you know and love, you can still surround yourself with people. I’ve found that being in a room full of strangers is sometimes better than being in a room with just yourself when you are feeling lonely. Coffee shops are perfect for this. Spend a few hours at your favorite one, reading, drawing, surfing the web or just relaxing. Chances are, there’s someone sitting right next to you doing the same thing for the exact same reason.

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Friendship needs no words – it is solitude delivered from the anguish of loneliness.

Dag Hammarskjold

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A gent from Chicago was on a fishing vacation up north in the Wisconsin woods He was out fishing on a lake in a small boat and not having much luck. He noticed a man in another small boat that was close by, open his tackle box and take out a mirror. Being curious the man rowed over and enquired, “What is the mirror for?”

“That’s my secret way to catch fish,” replied the other man. “I Shine the mirror on the top of the water. The fish notice the spot of sun on the water above and they swim up to the surface. Then I just reach down and net them and pull them into the boat.”

“Wow! Does that really work?” exclaimed the guy from Chicago.

“You bet it does.” was the response.

“Would you be interested in selling that mirror? I’ll give you $30 for it.” offered the big city gent.

“Well, okay.” said the country guy.

After the money was transferred, the city fisherman asked, “By the way, how many fish have you caught this week?”

The country local, grinned and said, “You’re the sixth.”

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“Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.”

Woody Allen

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“I had the toughest time of my life. First, I got angina pectoris and then arteriosclerosis. Just as I was recovering from these, I got tuberculosis, double pneumonia and phthisis. Then they gave me hypodermics. Appendicitis was followed by tonsillectomy. These gave way to aphasia and hypertrophic cirrhosis. I completely lost my memory for a while. I know I had diabetes and acute ingestion, besides gastritis, rheumatism, lumbago and neuritis. I don’t know how I pulled through it. It was the hardest spelling test I’ve ever had.”

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Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.

William James

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An old fellow came into the hospital truly on death’s door due to an infected gallbladder. The surgeon who removed the gallbladder was adamant that his patients be up and walking in the hall the day after surgery, to help prevent blood clots forming in the leg veins. The nurses walked the patient in the hall as ordered, and after the third day the nurse told how he complained bitterly each time they did. The surgeon told them to keep walking him.

After a week, the patient was ready to go. His family came to pick him up and thanked the surgeon profusely for what he had done for their father. The surgeon was pleased and appreciated the thanks, but told them that it was really a simple operation and we had been lucky to get him in time. “But doctor, you don’t understand,” they said, “Dad hasn’t walked in over a year!”

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“Did you know that hospital gowns come in three sizes?

“Short, shorter, and don’t bend over!”

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In 1990 a woman entered a Haagen-Dazs in the Kansas City Plaza for an ice-cream cone. While she was ordering, another customer entered the store. She placed her order, turned and found herself face to face with Paul Newman. He was in town filming a movie. His blue eyes made her knees buckle. She finished paying and quickly walked out of the store, her heart still pounding. Gaining her composure she suddenly realized she didn’t have her cone; she turned to go back in. At the door she again came face-to-face with Paul Newman who was coming out. He said to her, “Are you looking for your ice-cream cone?” Unable to utter a word she nodded yes. “You put it in your purse with your change.”

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If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.

Katherine Hepburn

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A blonde is on board a small two seater plane when suddenly the pilot dies. Not knowing how to fly a plane she grabs the radio. “Mayday, Mayday! My pilot just died!” she screams.

Ground control receives her call for help and answers back: “Don’t worry, madam. I’ll talk you down, just do as I say. First I need you to give me your height and position”

“I’m 5″2′ and sitting in the front”

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The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.

Pearl S. Buck

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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Don’t overlook the good news

“There is no bad time for good news.”

Stephen King

Good_News

There hardly seems to be a day that goes by without news of shootings, major fires, famine, violence and the like. Even in my city we are seeing youth shootings at levels seldom seen before. I live in a city filled with good people and pleasant neighborhoods where the living conditions are very good, I just wish it was that way for everyone who lives here.

I worry that we concentrate so much on the bad news that we start to think and behave defensively. Sure there are scams going on and people who have little respect for others but we must not lose sight of the fact they are the small minority. We must not act like everyone is ready to steal from us and close out the world by establishing walls built out of fear. I would rather be scammed by one person than to fail to do what I can for those who I can help.

When I read the following story years ago my thought at first were centered on the theft but as I thought about it I could see how knowing that a child was not near death was better than if one was. I abhor the violence that exists but I don’t want to lose sight of the fact that most of us live happy lives and be grateful for that. We can still do what we can to make things safe for others. Here is the story I read long ago that still has meaning for me.

Good News

Good news or bad news? It depends on how you see things. You can be bitter after being cheated. Or you can choose to move on with your life…

Robert De Vincenzo, the great Argentine golfer, once won a tournament and, after receiving the check and smiling for the cameras, he went to the clubhouse and prepared to leave. Some time later, he walked alone to his car in the parking lot and was approached by a young woman.

She congratulated him on his victory and then told him that her child was seriously ill and near death. She did not know how she could pay the doctor’s bills and hospital expenses.

De Vincenzo was touched by her story, and he took out a pen and endorsed his winning check for payment to the woman. “Make some good days for the baby,” he said as he pressed the check into her hand.

The next week he was having lunch in a country club when a Professional Golf Association official came to his table. “Some of the boys in the parking lot last week told me you met a young woman there after you won that tournament.” De Vincenzo nodded. “Well,” said the official, “I have news for you. She’s a phony. She has no sick baby. She’s not even married. She fleeced you, my friend.”

“You mean there is no baby who is dying?” said De Vincenzo.

“That’s right,” said the official.

“That’s the best good news I’ve heard all week.” De Vincenzo said.

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“For most folks, no news is good news; for the press, good news is not news.”

Gloria Borger

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Four retired guys are walking down a street in Milwaukee.

They turn a corner and see a sign that says “Old Timer’s Bar”  ” ALL DRINKS 10 CENTS!”  They look at each other, and then go in.

The old bartender says in a voice that carries across the room, “Come on in and let me pour one for you, what’ll it be, Gentlemen?”

There seems to be a fully stocked bar, so the men all ask for a martini. In short order, the bartender serves up 4 iced martinis — and says, “That’ll be 10 cents each, please.”

They can’t believe their good luck. They pay the 40 cents, finish their martinis, and order another round. Again, four excellent martinis are produced with the bartender again saying, “That’s 40 more cents, please.”

They pay the 40 cents, but their curiosity is more than they can stand. They’ve each had two martinis and so far they’ve spent  less than a dollar. Finally. one of the men couldn’t stand it any longer and asks the bartender “How can you afford to serve martinis as good as these for a dime apiece?”

“Here’s my story. I’m a retired cop from New York, and I always wanted to own a bar.  Last year I hit the lottery for $25 million, and decided to open this place.  Every drink costs a dime, wine, liquor, beer, all the same.”

“Wow. That’s quite a story” says one of the men.

The four of them sipped at their martinis and couldn’t help but notice three other guys at the end of the bar who didn’t have a drink in front of them, and hadn’t ordered anything the whole time they were there.

One man gestures at the three at the end of the bar without drinks and asks the bartender, “What’s with them?”

The bartender says, “They’re seniors from Florida, they’re waiting for Happy Hour.”

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I Live in My Own World But It’s OK — They Know Me Here

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One night a fellow drove his secretary home after she had imbibed a little too much at an office reception. Although this was an innocent gesture, he decided not to mention it to his wife, who tended to get jealous easily.

The next night the man and his wife were driving to a restaurant. Suddenly he looked down and spotted a high-heel shoe half hidden under the passenger seat. Not wanting to be conspicuous, he waited until his wife was looking out her window before he scooped up the shoe and tossed it out of the car.

With a sigh of relief, he pulled into the restaurant parking lot. That’s when he noticed his wife squirming around in her seat. “Honey,” she asked, “have you seen my other shoe?”

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A man should live forever, or die trying.

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A young man visiting a dude ranch wanted to be “Macho”, and went out walking with one of the hired hands. Walking through the barnyard, the visitor tried starting a conversation:

“Say, look at that big bunch of buffalos.”

The hired hand replied, “Not ‘bunch’ but ‘herd’.”

“Heard what?”

“Herd of buffalos.”

“Sure, I’ve heard of buffalos. There’s a big bunch of ’em right over there.”

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My dog saw a sign that said: “Wet Paint” – so he did!

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He said: Tech support people like me spend our days on the phone with customers. Many like to chat while waiting for their computers to reboot. One man told me he’d been a long-haul truck driver. I’d love to drive a big rig,” I said, “but I’d worry about falling asleep at the wheel.”

“Here’s a tip to stay awake,” he offered. “Put a $100 bill in your left hand and hold it out the window.”

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Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.

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The supermarket had a sale on boneless chicken breasts and I intended to stock up. At the store, however, I was disappointed to find only a few skimpy pre-packaged portions of the poultry, so I complained to the butcher.

“Don’t worry,” she said, “I’ll pack some more trays and have them ready for you by the time you finish shopping.”

Several aisles later, I heard the lady butcher’s voice boom over the public-address system:  “Will the gentleman who wanted bigger breasts please meet me at the back of the store.”

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There are people who Dream and there are people who Scream. There are people who Cry and there are people who Fly. The good news is that this is a CHOICE!

Author Unknown

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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What’s next?

“The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it.”

Thomas S. Monson

helpful-life-tips1

One of the ways I believe we can keep life interesting is to periodically take inventory of where we are at, where we are going and how we are feeling. There is no way we can drive a stake in the ground and expect to stay in one place as we age as the world provides us new challenges and opportunities.

Of course just knowing where we are just offers us a starting point for where we might go. In my case I am always looking for suggestions as I plan my journey into the future. One of my favorite sources is the Positively Present blog written by Danielle DiPirro. On her recent birthday she shared things she had learned in her thirty-two years of life. Here are some of them that hit home for me.

YOUR DEFINITIONS WILL CHANGE. I’ve learned that what you think of big concept words (like “love” and “career”) will change over time, and will constantly keep changing. What the word “love” means to you at 20 isn’t what it will mean to you at 30.

GRATITUDE IS EVERYTHING. It might sound cliché, but gratitude is emphasized often for a reason. The more you focus on what you have, the harder it is to waste energy on what you don’t have. Every time I’ve focused on feeling grateful, my attitude (and life) has changed for the better.

IT’S OKAY TO ACT LIKE A KID. Having a childlike sense of wonder is, sadly, something a lot of adults lose as they get older. I’ve tried to hang on to mine as much as I can, indulging in as many kid-like activities as I can get away with. Being a kid is fun and it doesn’t have to stop when you’re a grown-up.

CLOSE FRIENDS > LOTS OF FRIENDS. I’ve found that it’s more important to have fewer close relationships than to have lots of superficial friendships. This might not be the formula for everyone, but, for me, connecting on a deep level with people is rewarding, and it means focusing attention on the most important relationships.

IF YOU’RE UNHAPPY, LEAVE. I’ve been in many relationships and friendships in which I was unhappy and I just stayed where I was because it was more comfortable than changing. This is not a good plan. If you’re not happy for a long period of time and for good reasons, leave. Life is too short to waste it in unhappy relationships.

IT’S OKAY TO SAY NO… Never one to shy away from stating how I feel, I generally don’t have trouble saying no when I need to, but there have been some situations in my life when I said yes and I should have said no in an attempt to please others. Don’t do this. Saying no is saying yes to yourself.

YOU KNOW THE ANSWER. One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is to trust myself. Deep down, I always know what’s best for me. A lot of the time I ignore that voice that has the answer and do what feels good in the moment and that doesn’t always go so well. Trust — and listen to — yourself.

YOU CAN’T CONTROL IT ALL. No matter how many times life has taught me this lesson, I think I’ll always struggle with it. I enjoy being in control, but there’s a lot of life that is out of our hands. We cannot control it all. Learning to let go of control is the best way to handle life’s unexpected ups and downs. 

AVOID NEGATIVE PEOPLE. It took me a surprisingly long time to learn this one (perhaps because for so long I was pretty negative myself), but it’s so, so important. Avoiding negative people (or limiting the amount of interactions with them) can change your life in the most amazing ways. Life should not be wasted on those that bring you down.

TRY TO STAY IN THE NOW. The desire to stay present is one of the reasons I started Positively Present in the first place, and it’s still a challenge for me. I know how important it is, but it’s hard to stop my mind from wandering to the past or the future. But the point is: I keep trying. It’s hard work, staying present, but I’ve learned how important it is and I keep at it.

KEEP AN OPEN MIND. One of my most popular blog posts is this one, and I think it’s for good reason. Having an open mind is very beneficial. It changes you — and the way you see the world — for the better. It can be challenging to do at times (especially with long-held beliefs), but I’ve learned that it’s always worth the effort.

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“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

Mahatma Gandhi

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There was a gentleman in the hospital bed next to me. He was covered with bandages from head to toe. I said to him, “What do you do for a living?”

He said, “I’m a former window washer.” I asked, “When did you give it up?”

He replied, “Halfway down.”

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Ever wonder why we make vitamins in flavors so children will eat them, then child proof the regular flavored vitamins?

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Ten Things You *Don’t* Want to Overhear Over an Airline P.A. System……..

  1. Ocean crossing flight: This is your Captain speaking, I just wanted to take this time to remind you that your seat cushions can be used as floatation devices.
  2. Hey folks, we’re going to play a little game of geography trivia. If you can recognize where we are, tell your flight attendant and receive an extra pack of peanuts.
  3. Our loss of altitude allows a unique close up perspective of the local terrain. I assure you that it’s all part of our airline’s new commitment to make your a flight a sight seeing extravaganza.
  4. Goose! Bogey at 2 o’clock….one on our tail!!!! Eject!!!! Eject!!!!!!!
  5. Ummmmmm….Sorry……(silence)
  6. (As the plane turns around right after takeoff)….uhhhhh….we have to go back ….we ..we ….uhhhhhh ….forgot something…..
  7. I’m sure everyone noticed the loss of an engine, however the reduction in weight and drag will mean we’ll be flying much more efficiently now.
  8. Fasten your seat belt. (same tone your friend with the suicidal driving tendencies uses when you get in the car).
  9. This is your Captain speaking….these stupid planes are a lot different than the ships I’m used to.. so you’ll have to give me some leeway…
  10. It would be a good idea if right now everyone closed their shades and watched the in-flight movie.

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Good judgment comes from bad experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment.

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He said: When we moved cross-country, my wife and I decided to drive both of our cars. Nathan, our eight-year-old, worriedly asked, “How will we keep from getting separated?”

“We’ll drive slowly so that one car can follow the other,” I reassured him.

“Yeah, but what if we DO get separated?” he persisted.

“Well, then I guess we’ll never see each other again,” I quipped.

“Okay,” he said. “I’m riding with Mom.”

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“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”

Dr. Seuss

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Whose list are you on?

Success to me is being a good person, treating people well.

David LaChapelle

missed friend

The other day I attended the funeral of the father of one of my son-in-laws. I did not know him for a long time but I had learned to appreciate his kindness and his sense of humor. He lived in a small town here in Indiana and was loved by the folks who lived there. He was in his mid-eighties and had suffered from severe health problems in recent years including the amputation of a leg months ago. In spite of it all he stayed upbeat and active until he became totally bed ridden a few weeks ago. Through it all he found a way to make it to breakfast with friends almost every day and to continue many other activities.

I did not know him well but I liked him a lot. He was in agony during his last days so his passing was a blessing. While he will be missed the memory of him will linger on in the hearts and minds of the people he touched for years to come.

Today I read this piece that reminded me of this good man and I want to share it with you.

Whose list are you on?

Written by Bob Perks

I had to say goodbye to someone. You know I hate goodbyes, so I struggled with what I needed to say to him. But at the same time I discovered something special about how I feel about people and myself. The following is taken, in part, from the note I just emailed to him:

‘It’s the thing about caring for people. They get into your life, sometimes briefly, and manage to become a part of who you are. Not all people, but those special individuals who arrive unexpectedly and linger there. How does it happen?

They are the ones who, the first time you meet them, touch you in such a way that they leave an imprint on your heart. They are the people you look for and hope to meet along the way. They make the journey easier. Some become close friends and share everyday happenings in your life. Others just pass through leaving behind bits and pieces of who they are.

Then there are those who are always there, but off in the distance somewhere within reach whenever you need them. You may only see them once in a while, but when you do you are made better, lifted up, energized by the time you shared with them.’

After reading this I thought about the many people in my life who fit into this group. I realized how many people I depend on each day, sometimes just to get through it. I am blessed beyond measure. It also brought up this question…’Am I one of those people?’

Wouldn’t it be great if we could become more like the people we personally depend on? Like the old, ‘If you want a good friend, be one.’ or, ‘Be the change you want to see in the world.’

Look at the people around you that you love and depend on daily. Make a list of all of the qualities they possess that you admire and value. Now, take that same list and ask yourself, ‘I am I as good a person?’ Do you reflect those same qualities in the lives of others?

Now, ask yourself, ‘Whose list are you on?’

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“Why did you do all this for me?’ he asked. ‘I don’t deserve it. I’ve never done anything for you.’

‘You have been my friend,’ replied Charlotte. ‘That in itself is a tremendous thing.”

E.B. White, Charlotte’s Web

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A sales clerk asked his boss how to handle people who complained about the current prices compared to the low prices in the good old days.

“Just act surprised and tell them you didn’t think that they were old enough to remember them.”

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THINGS ONLY A MOM CAN TEACH

  1. My Mother taught me about ANTICIPATION… “Just wait until we get home.”
  2. My Mother taught me about RECEIVING…. “You are going to get it when we get home!”
  3. My Mother taught me to MEET A CHALLENGE… “What were you thinking? Answer me when I talk to you… Don’t talk back to me!”
  4. My Mother taught me LOGIC… “If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, your not going to the store with me.”
  5. My Mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE… “If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they are going to freeze that way.”
  6. My Mother taught me to THINK AHEAD… “If you don’t pass your spelling test, you’ll never get a good job.”
  7. My Mother taught me ESP… “Put your sweater on; don’t you think I know when you’re cold?”
  8. My Mother taught me HUMOR… “When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me.”
  9. My Mother taught me how to BECOME AN ADULT… “If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.”
  10. My Mother taught me about SEX…. “How do you think you got here?”
  11. My Mother taught me about GENETICS… “You’re just like your father.”
  12. My Mother taught me about my ROOTS… “Do you think you were born in a barn?”
  13. My Mother taught me about WISDOM OF AGE… “When you get to be my age, you will understand.
  14. And my all time favorite… JUSTICE… “One day you’ll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you….Then you’ll see what it’s like.”

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I would like to take you seriously, but to do so would affront your intelligence.

William F. Buckley

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The new priest is nervous about hearing confessions, so he asks the older priest to sit in on his sessions.  The new priest hears a couple of confessions, then the old priest asks him to step out of the confessional for a few suggestions. The old priest suggests, “Cross you arms over your chest, and rub your chin with one hand.”

The new priest tries this.

The old priest suggests, “Try saying things like, ‘I see, yes, go on,’ and ‘I understand.  How did you feel about that?'”

The new priest says those things.

The old priest says, “Now, don’t you think that’s a little better than slapping your knee and saying ‘You’re putting me on!!!  What happened next?'”

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Every teenager should get a high school education — even if they already know everything

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The Hodja (teacher) was selling olives at the market and business was slow. He called to a woman who was passing by and tried to entice her. She shook her head and told him she didn’t have any money with her. “No problem,” the Hodja grinned. “You can pay me later.” She still looked hesitant, so he offered her one to taste.

“Oh no, I can’t, I’m fasting,” she responded.

“Fasting? But Ramadan was 6 months ago!”

“Yes, well, I missed a day and I’m making it up now. Go ahead and give me a kilo of the black olives.”

“Forget it!” shouted the Hodja. “If it took you 6 months to pay back a debt you owed ALLAH, who knows when you’ll get around to paying me!”

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“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him.”

David Brinkley

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She said:

“The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you’ve started.” So I looked around the house to see all the things I started and hadn’t finished… and before leaving the house this morning I finished off a bottle of red wine, a bottle of white, the Bailey’s, Kahlua and Wild Turkey, the Prozac, some Valium, some cheesecake and a box of chocolates. You have no idea how freaking good I feel.

You may pass this on to those you feel are in need of Inner Peace.

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“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Wise words from a good man

Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.

Swedish Proverb

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The other day I shared with you how much I am moved by a friend of mine who is fighting cancer. His therapy has not been easy and was complicated by an infection that put him in the hospital interrupting his chemo treatments. His strength of character and positive attitude has made him a role model we all would do well to emulate.

Rather than bemoan his bad luck my friend has chosen to give us the gift of his thoughts through a blog he has subtitled “Funny things happen on your way to getting cancer.” Below is one of his short essays that reminds us why we should not take our friends for granted and the value of letting them know they are appreciated.

The Talk Doctor

Friends

There has probably been as much written about friends and friendship as any other topic. Friendship has never been more evident to me than during this journey. I can’t begin to express thanks for all those cards, phone calls, emails, and texts filled with good thoughts and prayers. At the recent funeral of a beloved priest, the church was bursting at the seams. The number of those paying their respects at the funerals of two well-known, well-liked corporate executives, on the other hand, was quite small. In a recent book, Jim Denison asks the question, “Are You Building a Resume or Writing a Eulogy?” I hope you have given at least equal time to your eulogy.

For more than forty years I have been a member and then the Executive Director of a Physical Education fraternal organization whose motto is, “Friendship Hath Power.” I’d like to borrow from the fraternity’s section on friendship. Friendship is defined by Aristotle as “one mind in two bodies.” Think about your best friend or friends and how much you think alike, respond in similar ways and generally have an almost spiritual trust in one another. Don’t put off that next phone call, email or text to your best friend. If it is been awhile and you’re not sure exactly what you’ll say, take some inspiration from Edgar Guest’s poem written at Christmas time.

A FRIEND’S GREETING

 

I’d like to be the sort of friend that you have been to me;

I’d like to be the help that you’ve been always glad to be;

I’d like to mean as much to you each minute of the day

As you have meant, old friend of mine, to me along the way.

 

I’d like to do the big things and the splendid things for you,

To brush the gray from out your skies and leave them only blue,

I’d like to say the kindly things that I so oft have heard,

And feel that I could rouse your soul the way that mine you’ve stirred.

 

I’d like to give you back the joy that you have given me,

Yet that were wishing you a need I hope you will never be;

I’d like to make you feel as rich as I, who travel on

Undaunted in the darkest hours with you to lean upon.

I’m wishing at this Christmas time that I could but repay

A portion of the gladness that you’ve strewn along my way;

And could I have one wish this year, this only would it be;

I’d like to be the sort of friend that you have been to me.

It has been said that we make our friends, not by calling them friends, but by being a friend. The greatest loss would not be the breaking of friendship ties, but the failure to make these friendships. Jesus never said a more gracious word to His disciples than, “Ye are my friends.” He bound them to Him and He bound Himself to them in ties of unselfish devotion.

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Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.

Emily Kimbrough

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Adam and Eve had an ideal marriage. He didn’t have to hear about all the men she could have married, and she didn’t have to hear about the way his mother cooked.

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One woman was bragging to her next-door neighbor about her son, a college student. “Why, our son is so brilliant, every time we get a letter from him we have to go to the dictionary.”

“You’re lucky,” the neighbor said. “Every time we get a letter from ours, we have to go to the bank!”

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Catching her in the act, I confronted my 3-year-old granddaughter, “Are you eating your little sister’s grapes?” I demanded.

“No,” she innocently replied, “I’m helping her share.”

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Ex-lovers make good speed bumps.

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The tiresome jury selection process continued, each side hotly contesting and dismissing potential jurors. Don O’Brian was called for his question session.

“Property holder?”

“Yes, I am, Your Honor.”

“Married or single?”

“Married for twenty years, Your Honor.”

“Formed or expressed an opinion?”

“Not in twenty years, Your Honor.”

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Why is it called a T.V. set when you only get one? Same thing for a pair of jeans. What’s one jean?

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There was a competition to cross the English channel doing only the breaststroke, and the three women who entered the race were a brunette, a redhead and a blonde.

After approximately 14 hours, the brunette staggered up on the shore and was declared the fastest. About 40 minutes later, the redhead crawled up on the shore and was declared the second place finisher.

Nearly 4 hours after that, the blonde finally came ashore and promptly collapsed in front of the worried onlookers.

When the reporters asked why it took her so long to complete the race, she replied, “I don’t want to sound like I’m a sore loser, but I think those two other girls were using their arms…”

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I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.

Jon Katz

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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He Inspires

Live life to the fullest, and focus on the positive.

Matt Cameron

Be-Positive

Yesterday I was able to catch up with a good friend who is battling cancer. His chemo treatments had been interrupted because of a serious infection that included some hospital time. He shared with me that he was really happy since the day before he had his first treatment in seven weeks. These last few months have not been easy for him but listening to him you would never know it as he is staying unbelievably positive. He not only still exhibits his great sense of humor but he also is sharing his thoughts and wisdom via a blog as he keeps readers updated on his path path to remission.

My friend is a respected retired college professor who has made a difference in the lives of hundreds of others. He now uses his skills to adjust in a positive way to the challenges he faces every day.

It is his great attitude that I appreciate and I know his medical team does as well. Here are excerpts from article written by Remez Sasson the founder of Success Consciousness that could have been written by my friend.

Positive Thinking Is a Way of Life

With a positive attitude we experience pleasant and happy feelings. This brings brightness to the eyes, more energy, and happiness. Our whole being broadcasts good will, happiness and success. Even our health is affected in a beneficial way. We walk tall, our voice is more powerful, and our body language shows the way we feel.

In order to turn the mind toward the positive, some inner work is required, since attitude and thoughts do not change overnight.

Positive Thinking Practical Instructions

  1. Read about this subject, think about its benefits, and persuade yourself to try it. The power of your thoughts is a mighty power that is always shaping your life. This shaping is usually done subconsciously, but it is possible to make the process a conscious one. Even if the idea seems strange, give it a try. You have nothing to lose, but only to gain.
  2. Ignore what other people say or think about you, if they discover that you are changing the way you think.
  3. Use your imagination to visualize only favorable and beneficial situations.
  4. Use positive words in your inner dialogues, or when talking with others.
  5. Smile a little more, as this helps to think positively.
  6. Once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to be aware of it, and endeavor to replace it with a constructive one. If the negative thought returns, replace it again with a positive one. It is as if there are two pictures in front of you, and you have to choose to look at one of them, and disregard the other. Persistence will eventually teach your mind to think positively, and to ignore negative thoughts.
  7. In case you experience inner resistance and difficulties when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, do not give up, but keep looking only at the beneficial, good and happy thoughts in your mind.
  8. It doesn’t matter what your circumstances are at the present moment. Think positively, expect only favorable results and situations, and circumstances will change accordingly. If you persevere, you will transform the way your mind thinks. It might take some time for the changes to take place, but eventually they will.
  9. Another useful technique is the repetition of affirmations. This technique is similar to creative visualization, and can be used together with it.

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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours”

Swedish Proverb

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A psychiatrist was trying to comfort a new patient who was terribly upset. “You see, Doc,” the patient explained, “my problem is that I like shoes much better than I like boots.”

“Why, that’s not even a problem,” answered the doctor. “MOST people like shoes better than boots. Even I prefer shoes to boots.”

The patient was elated, “That’s neat, Doc. How do you like them, fried or scrambled?”

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“University of Minnesota researchers said that the drug Naltrexone could be used to curb a kleptomaniac’s impulse to steal. Although the drug is not covered by most HMO’s, doctors say kleptomaniacs should have no problem obtaining it.”

Tina Fey

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We’ll begin with a box, and the plural is boxes; but the plural of ox became oxen not oxes. One fowl is a goose, but two are called geese, yet the plural of moose should never be meese.

You may find a lone mouse or a nest full of mice; yet the plural of house is houses, not hice. If the plural of man is always called men, why shouldn’t the plural of pan be called pen?

If I spoke of my foot and show you my feet, and I give you a boot, would a pair be called beet? If one is a tooth and a whole set are teeth, why shouldn’t the plural of booth be called beeth?

Then one may be that, and three would be those, yet hat in the plural would never be hose, and the plural of cat is cats, not cose.

We speak of a brother and also of brethren, but though we say mother we never say methren. Then the masculine pronouns are he, his and him, but imagine the feminine, she, shis and shim.

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“I’m realistic — I expect miracles.”

Wayne Dyer

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An Amish man answered a knock on his door one morning. An electric company worker handed him a piece of paper stating that the electric company would like to run a power line through his cow pasture. The Amish man said, “No, no you cannot.”

“Legally, that paper says we can.” replied the gruff worker. As he turned and left returning to his co-workers in the field, the Amish man went to his barn and turned his bull into the pasture. As the bull rumbled toward the workers in the field, the Amish farmer hollered, “Show him thy paper!”

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Esther and Max were having a very heated argument. Esther shouts at Max, “You don’t deserve a woman like me.”

Max retorted, “Yeah, well I don’t deserve arthritis either, but I got that too.”

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Billy Bob walks into a bar and says, “Bartender, one round for everyone, on me!”

The bartender says, “Well, seems you’re in a really good mood tonight.”

Billy Bob says, “Oh, you can bet on it! I just got hired by the city to go around and remove all the money from parking meters. I start on Monday!” The bartender congratulates him and proceeds to pour the round.

Monday evening arrives. Billy Bob comes back into the bar and says Bartender, TWO rounds for everyone, on me!”

The bartender says, “Well now! If you’re so happy just over having this new job, I can just imagine how happy you’ll be when you get your paycheck!”

Billy Bob looks at the bartender with a wondrous lok on his face, pulls out a handful of quarters from his pocket, and says “You mean they’ll PAY me too?”

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Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.

Joseph Campbell

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Do you have a yen for zen?

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control over what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”

Steve Maraboli

lifebalance

I met with three of my favorite people yesterday, two at breakfast and one at lunch. These three have a lot in common you see they all are working to make our community a better place. But what impressed me the most was how happy they are with the lives the lead.

My lunch partner is a highly regarded philanthropist, international traveler and true humanitarian who has thrived because of the balance now has in her life. As I thought about what she said I realized that seems to be the secret of my other two friends as well. We all need to keep our jobs, our outside activities and other actions in balance if we are going to take advantage of our potential for happiness.

My lunch friend is also a yoga aficionado and I think would agree with the following abridged article.

6 Ways to Create More Zen in Your Day

by Angie Sarhan

A few years ago I was feeling what we all experience from time to time: chaos.  Life had turned into one big juggling act where the days were blending together and I felt like I was doing hundreds of things only adequately.  What was worse was I was losing touch with myself and the things that bring me happiness and I wasn’t sure what to do about it.

I used to believe that in order to notice the positive effects of change, the change needed to be noticeable to others, massive and life altering.  I’ve discovered though, that sometimes simply making a few adjustments in your daily routine can be the extra boost you need to get less chaos and more calmness into your life. Here are six of my favorite practices that may help you get started.

Start your day with a relaxing routine.

It’s essential to begin your day in a way that doesn’t cause anxiety, high blood pressure, or you breaking out in a sweat in your rush to get out the door.  Whatever it is, vow that before you rush out of your house to attack the day, you do at least one thing that brings you joy and peace.  Give yourself all the time you need to walk out into the world in the spirit of serenity, even if this means stopping in your tracks to have a sixty-second time-out.

Make time to be alone with your thoughts and set your intention for the day.

Commit to giving yourself a minimum of five minutes to sit alone, take some calming breaths and set your intention for how you want your day to go.  However you want this to look is entirely up to you.  Sometimes I sit on my bed, sit on my floor or sit on my yoga mat; it doesn’t matter.  Just sit alone.

Setting your intentions creates a feeling of happiness and eases you into the day ahead with confidence.

Plan your meals ahead of time.

For the most part, I try to eat healthy.  But I’ll admit that there have been mornings when I’ve jetted off for a long day ahead with no real plan for my meals.  Spoiler alert: those days are not pretty.  Truth be told, they have even involved choosing from a convenience store menu of cherry cola and candy.   Not surprisingly those are the days I end up feeling the lousiest. If you make time, I promise you’ll thank yourself later.  I’ve found I never feel the time I take to plan ahead is wasted and in fact, I feel grateful for the meals and snacks!  And making yourself happier and healthier by eating well are added bonuses.

Exercise as regularly possible.

I won’t lecture you on the benefits of exercise so I’ll just say this:  No one ever regrets working out.  Ever.  If exercise isn’t part of your routine, start small and work your way up.  If you have the time for your favorite workout or a trip to the gym, that’s wonderful.  If you don’t have the time, don’t get discouraged.  Try doing squats and lunges while you cook, parking a little further than you normally would, stretching throughout the day, or simply jumping for joy.

Treat yourself daily.

Don’t wait for others to make you happy.  Put that responsibility on yourself.  Start by asking what is it that brings you joy?  I’m not talking about a trip to Tahiti, though by all means plan that if it’s your life’s desire.  I’m talking about the small, manageable choices you can make every day.  Is it a cup of green tea in the afternoon?  Is it reading a novel for twenty minutes?  Having a little treat to look forward can be the bright spot in even the gloomiest of days.

End your night with gratitude.

As you fall asleep replay the best moments of your day and give thanks for them.  We often can get caught up on what wrong, what we didn’t have time to do and call it a bad day.  Most times there’s a spark of light in each day.  Don’t forget to look and acknowledge it.   It’s a lot more calming and rewarding than ending the day with worries, regrets or tomorrow’s to-do list.  You’ll fall asleep more peacefully and sleep better.

The important thing is to consciously make an effort to carve out time for yourself, your joy and your peace of mind.  Creating moments for solitary peace and happiness—even five minutes—can make all the difference.  Being in tune with your body and mind—by being aware of how you feel and what your thoughts and intentions are—can lead to better choices and better mental and physical health.

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Work, love and play are the great balance wheels of man’s being.

Orison Swett Marden

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I am glad there was a program on obesity that I attended recently, if there had not been I might not have understood this information.

On a recent trip to Shanghai, China, our tour bus filled with Americans passed a new soccer stadium.  I asked our guide what the seating capacity was. Upon surveying the occupants of the bus, he replied, “Stadium hold 80,000 Chinese, only 40,000 Americans.

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You don’t get harmony when everybody sings the same note.

Doug Floyd

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A nun who works for a local home health care agency was out making her rounds when she ran out of gas. As luck would have it there was a station just down the street. She walked to the station to borrow a can with enough gas to start the car and drive to the station for a fill up. The attendant regretfully told her that the only can he owned had just been loaned out, but if she would care to wait he was sure it would be back shortly. Since the nun was on the way to see a patient she decided not to wait and walked back to her car. After looking through her car for something to carry to the station to fill with gas, she spotted a bedpan she was taking to the patient. Always resourceful, she carried it to the station and filled it with gasoline.

As she was pouring the gas into the tank of her car two men walked by. One was heard to exclaim, “Now that is what I call faith!”

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You’re just jealous because the voices only talk to me.

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Our bank provides a sheet to balance our checkbook each month. My wife always seems to come out perfect. I stole a peek at the last one, curious as to what her system was, and noticed one strange entry — it said “ESP – $ 57.12”.

I asked her what in the world “ESP” was — she said, “Error Some Place”.

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A bill collector came to my house the other day, so I gave him a huge stack of old bills.

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A policeman noticed an old lady standing on a street corner during a sudden windstorm.

She was bracing herself by holding a light post with one hand, and she was holding her hat snuggly against her head with her other hand. Unfortunately, a strong gust blew her dress upward, and it continued to flap in the wind, exposing her privates for everyone to see.

The policeman asked, “Hey Lady, everybody is taking a look at what you’ve got.  Don’t you think that pulling your dress down is more important than worrying about your hat?”

“Look here, Sonny – what these people are looking at is 85 years old, but the *hat* is BRAND NEW!”

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Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.

Melody Beattie

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Don’t miss what’s there

“The capacity for delight is the gift of paying attention”

Julia Cameron

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Yesterday I suggested that one of the secrets of having a productive life was to be a good listener. I would like to add that too many of us miss a lot by not paying attention and staying alert to all that goes on around us. If we don’t stay aware of what is happening where are we stand a really good chance of missing something really special, even the chance to make a new friend.

Some of us get so distracted by our thoughts that we might as well be on a different planet. Life can be a great adventure if we just live it well and appreciate every moment that allows us to enjoy all it has to offer.

I like this article from the Positive Thoughts blog as it reminds me of the value of just paying attention:

The art of living well.

One of the major reasons why we fail to find happiness or to create a unique lifestyle is because we have not yet mastered the art of being.

While we are home our thoughts are still absorbed with solving the challenges we face at the office. And when we are at the office we find ourselves worrying about problems at home.

We go through the day without really listening to what others are saying to us. We may be hearing the words, but we aren’t absorbing the message.

As we go through the day we find ourselves focusing on past experiences or future possibilities. We are so involved in yesterday and tomorrow that we never even notice that today is slipping by.

We go through the day rather than getting something from the day. We are everywhere at any given moment in time except living in that moment in time.

Lifestyle is learning to be wherever you are. It is developing a unique focus on the current moment, and drawing from it all of the substance and wealth of experience and emotions that it has to offer. Lifestyle is taking time to watch a sunset. Lifestyle is listening to silence. Lifestyle is capturing each moment so that it becomes a new part of what we are and of what we are in the process of becoming. Lifestyle is not something we do; it is something we experience. And until we learn to be there, we will never master the art of living well.

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I’m saying look, here they come, pay attention. Let your eyes transform what appears ordinary, commonplace, into what it is, a moment in time, an observed fragment of eternity.

Philip Levine

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Three surgeons were one day talking about their best work ever.  The first one: “Once, one of my cousins horribly injured his leg in a car accident.  It was completely crushed, yet I managed to rebuild it, and since there was nothing I could do about the bones, I took a chance and used plastic sticks.  And what do you know, today he’s walking just fine!” The other two express their amazement.

The second one said:  “Last year my own mother lost her eyesight completely in an accident.  There was really no way to make her see again, her eyeballs were completely ruined, so I took a chance and replaced her eyes with glass eyes. I hooked them up with her nerves, and, what do you know, today she sees perfectly!” The other two are even more amazed.

The third one goes: “A few months ago my uncle, who’s a lumberjack, accidentally chopped off his right hand. I operated immediately and, having no other choice, replaced his hand with a rubber glove filled with sawdust.  I connected it to the arm and after a few weeks, what do you know, he’s using it just fine!”

“Wait a darn minute,” blurts the second one, “now this story is a bit TOO MUCH!  Who’s ever seen something like THAT happen?”

“Your mother with her glass eyes…”

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“A year from now you may wish you had started today.”

Karen Lamb

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After a long life of unselfish service, Father John O’Malley died and went to heaven. St Peter met him at the gate and said: “John, you did such a wonderful job for us on earth, we’d like to do something special for you. You name it; it’s yours.”

John thought for a moment and said: “I’d like a private audience with the Holy Mother.” St Peter told him it would be arranged.

On the appointed day, St Peter escorted John to the Holy Mother’s sanctuary. John went before Her, knelt, and said: “Holy Mother, I’ve always looked to You for guidance, and You have granted me peace and serenity through some difficult times. But I have one question that has nagged me during my whole time on earth. In all the paintings that were done of you, and in all the sculptures that were carved of you, you always looked so sad. Why is that?”

Mary thought for a moment, pursing her lips. She said: “I always wanted a girl.”

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Want to have your husband remember your anniversary? Get married on his birthday.

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As I left the supermarket, I noticed two little kids, maybe six or seven years old, selling candy bars in front of the store to raise money for their school band. “I’ll buy a chocolate bar on one condition,” I said to one of the boys. “That you eat it for me.”  As I handed him back the candy bar, he shook his head. “I can’t,” he said.

“Why not?”

Looking me in the eye, he responded gravely, “Because I’m not supposed to take candy from strangers.”

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Give to the world the best you have, and the best will come back to you.

Madeline Bridges

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My sister-in-law, a truck driver, had decided to get a dog for protection.  As she inspected a likely candidate, the trainer told her, “He doesn’t like men.”

“Perfect,” my sister-in-law thought and took the dog.

Then one day she was approached by two men in a parking lot, and she watched to see how her canine bodyguard would react.  Soon it became clear the trainer wasn’t kidding.  As the men got closer, the dog ran under the nearest car.

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I came, I saw, I had no idea what the heck was going on, I Left.

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A Kansas cyclone hit a farmhouse just before dawn one morning. It lifted the roof off, picked up the beds, on which the farmer and his wife slept, and set them down gently in the next county. The wife began to cry.

“Don’t be scared, Mary,” her husband said. “We’re not hurt.”

Mary continued to cry. “I’m not scared,” she responded between sobs. “I’m happy ’cause this is the first time in 14 years we’ve been out together.”

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“You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one, each day brings a miracle of its own. It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle.”

Paulo Coelho

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Did you hear what they said?

“Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk.”

Doug Larson

Listen

One of the concerns I have often heard about has been how many of us concentrate so heavily on what we want to say in conversations that we don’t really listen to what others are saying. I think sometimes it goes even further when someone tunes another out because they think they heard something that they did not agree with so they stop paying attention.

I know that far too many these days seem to close their minds and miss the learning opportunity that comes when we have the chance to listen to others, even those whose opinions are different than ours. I sometimes think that the polarization that exists in our federal, state and local legislatures is due in no small part to our unwillingness to listen to those who have a differing opinion. The civility that once assured that the processes would allow ideas to surface and be discussed while working for consensus seems to have disappeared.

The other problem I see is how many of us think we hear something that was different than what the speaker said or intended. Not many of us verify that what we understood was really what has been said. Listening is critical not only for the learning process it is also critical in our interpersonal relationships. I recommend the following article to those who want to reap the benefits of good listening.

The Top Ten Tips for Being an Excellent Listener

By Dr. Clare Albright, Psychologist and Professional Coach

  1. Detect whether the person talking to you is expressing facts or feelings. Respond with extra care and sensitivity when the person who you are listening to is coming from the more subjective domain of feelings and opinions.
  2. Respond fully to the feelings that someone shares before responding with the facts. For example, when a child says, “I am afraid that there is a monster under the bed,” few parents provide an empathetic response such as, “Sounds like you had a scary night.” Most parents reassure the child prematurely by saying something like, “Don’t worry, there are no monsters.” This objective response can make the child feel alone and that their feelings are unimportant.
  3. Use silence when the person talking to you is sharing feelings and you do not know what to say. Simply nod in understanding and let yourself be touched by what they are saying. Resist the temptation to say something just so that you are saying something.
  4. Groan or make encouraging sounds when someone is sharing feelings and they seem to desire some acknowledgement from you. This can actually buy you some time to formulate an empathetic response.
  5. Focus on what someone is saying instead of thinking of what you are going to say when they are finished speaking. The tennis coach is always saying, “Watch the ball.” Focusing on the speaker is equivalent to becoming a good listener. Your responses will be more helpful and natural if you focus on the other person fully while they are speaking.
  6. Listen FOR things when people share instead of merely listening TO them. There are so many things that you can listen for, such as the speaker’s values, feelings, needs, strengths, weaknesses, etc.
  7. Use short responses when the speaker is sharing something that is very important to them. Longer responses will make the speaker feel impatient because they may feel “de-railed” by your intrusion.
  8. Respond to others by repeating the metaphors that they have used. For example, if your co-worker tells you that she feels like an old lady because her birthday is coming, you could say, “Well, at least we can use our senior discount together when we go to the diner now.” Practice ‘volleying’ with the metaphors of others.
  9. Listen twice as much as you speak. Are you speaking more than half of the time? Remember the old saying about having two ears and one mouth? Becoming this kind of listener is a great way to win friends.
  10. Remember that the attitude of your heart as a listener is always more important and more obvious than anything that you say in response to someone. An attitude of respect and of trying to understand another person’s world is much more important than learning how to formulate brilliant responses.

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If you make listening and observation your occupation you will gain much more than you can by talk.

Robert Baden-Powell

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Bob, a 70 year old extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful and very sexy 25 year-old blonde who knocks everyone’s socks off with her youthful sex appeal and charm and who hangs over Bob’s arm and listens intently to his every word.

His buddies at the club are all aghast. They corner him and ask, “Bob, how’d you get the trophy girlfriend?” Bob replies, “Girlfriend? She’s my wife!” They’re knocked over, but continue to ask. “So, how’d you persuade her to marry you?”

Bob says, “I lied about my age.”

His friends respond, “What do you mean? Did you tell her you were only 50?” Bob smiles and says, “No, I told her I was 90.”

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Never wave to your friends at an auction.

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When I arrived for my daughter’s parent-teacher conference, the teacher seemed a bit flustered, especially when she started telling me that my little girl didn’t always pay attention in class and was sometimes a little flighty.

“For example, she’ll do the wrong page in the workbook,” the teacher explained, “and I’ve even found her sitting in the wrong desk.”

“I don’t understand that,” I replied defensively. “Where could she have gotten that?”

The teacher went on to reassure me that my daughter was still doing fine in school and was sweet and likeable. Finally, after a pause, she added, “By the way, our appointment was for tomorrow.”

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I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.

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Her Philosophy of Housecleaning

I don’t do windows because … I love birds and don’t want one to run into a clean window and get hurt. (I am compassionate.)

I don’t wax floors because … I am terrified a guest will slip, hurt themselves, I’ll feel terrible and they may sue me. (I am careful and poor.)

I don’t mind the dust bunnies because … they are very good company, I have named most of them, and they agree with everything I say. (I am imaginative.)

I don’t disturb cobwebs because … I want every creature to have a home of their own and my family loves spiders. (I am kind.)

I don’t Spring Clean because … I love all the seasons and don’t want the others to get jealous. (I am fair-minded.)

I don’t plant a garden because … I don’t want to get in God’s way, He is an excellent designer. (I am courteous.)

I don’t put things away because … my family will never be able to find them again. (I am considerate.)

I don’t do gourmet meals when I entertain because I don’t want my guests to stress out over what to make when they invite me over for dinner.

I don’t iron because … I choose to believe them when they say “Permanent Press”. (I am trusting.)

I don’t stress much on anything because … “A Type” personalities die young and I want to stick around and become a wrinkled up crusty ol’ woman!!!!

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Conscience is what makes a boy tell his mother before his sister does.

Evan Esar

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Parents can be very upset when their children don’t get into the college of their choice. As an admissions counselor for a state university, I took a call from an irate mother who was demanding to know why her daughter had been turned down.

Avoiding any mention of the transcript full of Ds, I explained that her daughter just wasn’t as “competitive” as the admitted class. “Why doesn’t she try anther school for a year and then transfer?” I suggested.

“Another school?!” exclaimed the mother. “Have you seen her grades?”

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“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”

Ralph Nichols

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

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