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Did you see it?

The question is not what you look at, but what you see.

Henry David Thoreau

 

If you have been reading the Daily for some time you have heard me lament the fact that I, like many others, miss a lot of what is around me. Often I catch myself not seeing something only because it has always been there and yet when I do stop to look I find some things change with age and far too often I learn that I never really looked in the first place. We are all told that our ability to stay focused is a great attribute that will improve performance, but I believe that if we stay too focused to see and appreciate what is around us we will lose in the long run.

Yesterday morning I had breakfast with a friend who commented on how I am almost always very early. It does appear to be compulsive behavior but I have learned that planning a leisurely drive or a half an hour of personal time for relaxed reading in advance of a commitment is great for the soul and is fuel for later accomplishment. It seems to me that we live part-time in an almost parallel world filled with electronically generated images and untold hundreds of messages and facts that can put so much demands on us that we miss the beauty of the real world.

What got me thinking about this today was an article in PositivelyPresent a blog written by a gal who focuses in on maintaining a positive outlook, here is some of what she had to say.

 

Seeing the small: how to look for the little things

Over the weekend I checked out an art exhibit featuring miniature art. All of the paintings and sculptures were miniature — no bigger than my hand — and they were beautiful. As a walked through the exhibit, surprised by the details and inspired by those who painted them, I began to think about the little things in life that often go unnoticed. Should one of those beautiful paintings be placed in a typical art gallery, it might go unnoticed, dwarfed by the scale of the typical paintings hanging beside it. Likewise, surrounded by all of the big things in life, the tiny things around us often go unnoticed.

But after seeing that exhibit this weekend, I realize that I’m still missing out on some of the best things in life: the little things. How often do I look down to see what’s on the ground? How often do I look closely at something I love — a book, a painting, a person — and really see the little things in it? Not often enough, I’d say.

Life is short and I don’t want to miss out on any of it. So I’m going to commit to looking at the little things in life — both through the lens of my camera and through my unfiltered eyes. I’m going to commit to looking for the tiny changes, the small details, the little ways the world is shaped by almost imperceptible elements. But I know it’s going to take some practice. Being present is tough enough and looking for the little details will kick the difficulty level up a notch. Here are some of the ways I’m going to learn to look for the little things:

Ways to Look for the Little Things

Study the lines on the face of someone you love.

Watch the sidewalk when you walk.

Examine the brush strokes on a painting.

Pause your favorite scene in a movie and look closer.

Seek out one little thing you love about your home.

Look at the various colors in a clouded sky (it’s not just gray!).

Check out the people on the sidelines during a big game.

Look up and see what’s above you right now.

Print out a quote you love and memorize the words.

Those are just a few suggestions to get me started. Just like being present in a general sense, being present to the little things in life is a great way to live a more positive life. Focusing on what’s all around you — what’s happening in this moment — allows us to live our lives more fully without worrying about the future or dwelling on the past.

Dani

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It is the familiar that usually eludes us in life. What is before our nose is what we see last.

William Barrett

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A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day… 30,000 to a man’s 15,000. The wife replied, “The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men… The husband then turned to his wife and asked, “What?”

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Hold fast to time! Use it! Be conscious of each day, each hour! They slip away unnoticed all too easily and swiftly.

Thomas Mann

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My buddy applied for a job as an insurance salesman.  Where the form requested “prior experience,” he wrote “lifeguard.”  That was it. Nothing else.

“We’re looking for someone who can not only sell insurance, but who can sell himself as well,” said the hiring manager.  “How does working as a lifeguard pertain to salesmanship?”

My pal replied, “I couldn’t swim.”  He got the job.

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Show me a man with both feet firmly on the ground, and I’ll show you a man who can’t get his pants off.

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The new pastor decided to visit the children’s Sunday school class.  The teacher introduced him to the children and said, “Pastor Jones, this morning we’re studying Joshua.”

“That’s wonderful,” said the new pastor, “let’s see what you’re learning. How about we start with this…who can give me an answer to this…. who tore down the walls of Jericho?”

Little Billy shyly raised hand and offered, “Pastor, I didn’t do it.”

Taken aback, the pastor asked, “Come on, now, *WHO* tore down those walls of Jericho?”

The teacher, interrupting, said, “Pastor, Billy’s a good boy. If he says he didn’t do it, I believe he didn’t do it.” Flustered, the pastor left the room and went directly to the Sunday school director and related the story to him.

The director, looking worried, explained, “Well, sir, we’ve had some problems with Billy before.  Let me talk to him and see what we can do.” Huh? Really bothered now by the answers of the teacher and the director, the new pastor approached the deacons and related the whole story, including the responses of the teacher and the director.

A white-haired gentleman thoughtfully stroked his chin and said, “Well, Pastor, I move we just take the money from the general fund to pay for the walls and leave it at that.”

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Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin’ away.

Elvis Presley

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A woman was telling her friend, “You know, Jane, it was me who made my husband what he is today–a millionaire.”

“Is that right? Well, what was he before you married him?” asked the Jane.

The woman replied, “A billionaire!”

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Many people have never learned to see the beauty of flowers, especially those that grow unnoticed. For instance, when you walk outside and look down at your feet, you may see tiny flowers nestled in the moss and clover hiding under a curled fern. Most people just step on them. I paint them.

ERIKA JUS

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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You’re welcome to come with us!

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.

Helen Keller

 

I met yesterday morning with a top administrator of a local university and the executive director of one of our cities premier senior serving organization. I commented on how I was concerned about many of my older friends who seem to be afraid to move with the changes that take place around us as time goes by, letting the opportunities to live a fuller life as they age pass them by. Unfortunately I also know many young who just stagnate in place trapped in a mundane existence. Thankfully it does not have to be that way, but it will be if they don’t get up and see the scenery of an ever changing world as an opportunity embrace the changes rather than fighting them or ignoring them.

As we talked I realized that for many it is not a case of wanting to stand still but rather a case of not knowing how to move ahead. Possibly it is fear of change but more likely it is lacking the confidence to risk venturing into the unknown. I know from experience that once someone who does step on the train that carries us through an ever changing landscape of ideas, interesting people and entertaining experiences their life becomes more stimulating and enjoyable.

One of the reasons that I am so active with Indianapolis OASIS, my friend’s agency, is that it provides an open door to a fuller life for those over fifty. No matter what a person’s interest may be or even might be OASIS can point its members in the right direction and even provide new friends to share the experiences.

We don’t have to wait to be asked either; we can take the first step on our own. I recently read a long article entitled Life Keeps Moving and So Should You written by author counselor Odette Worrell. It is too lengthy to include in its entirety so here is an excerpt that I think is worth your time.

 

I once read, “It isn’t enough to look up the steps, you must step up the steps.” Breakthroughs don’t happen by thinking about how to make a change….breakthroughs happen through action. Our fear of what we will leave behind & the comfort of knowing what to expect keeps us from moving forward. How about thinking of what not moving forward is keeping you from experiencing? If you are truly wanting to experience happiness, you will have to brave stepping outside your comfort zone and allow yourself to engage with the unknown. It is akin to being on a date with yourself.

 

Do one thing every day that you love.

The sheer fact that you are doing something that appeals to you and is for the sole reason of finding pleasure in your day will slowly make you reconnect with the part of you that has been shuffled aside for years. It is amazing to hear how difficult it is for people to take 3 minutes a day to honor themselves. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out what message we are giving our bodies and our psyche when we tell it that we simply don’t have time for ourselves. Find the joy and love yourself a little. You won’t believe what joy building can do to transform your life.

“Do” with “you” factored in the equation.

Many of us are living to work, rather than working to live. Remember that life is more than just paying the bills. A well-lived life is not simply a matter of what we have done or accomplished, but rather who we were while getting there?

Find someone without an agenda.

Whether it is a friend, a therapist, or a complete stranger….being able to share your struggle is often enough to release them. Being able to voice our fears in a safe place where there is no judgment, releases the tension and anxiety of suppressing our innermost feelings.

Put one or all of these pieces together and you will be that much closer to finding the ease that we all search for as the world around us changes. When a river comes to a stone, it simply bends and flows around it. Find this place in your own life. There is no need to push the river. When you get to those bridges, just put one foot in front of the other. Have faith that what awaits is simply a better you.

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Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Two kids are talking to each other. One says, “I’m really worried. My dad works twelve hours a day to give me a nice home and good food. My mom spends the whole day cleaning and cooking for me. I’m worried sick!”

The other kid says, “What have you got to worry about? Sounds to me like you’ve got it made!”

The first kid says, “What if they try to escape?”

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If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.

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A customer wanted to ask his attractive waitress for a date, but couldn’t get her attention. When he was able to catch her eye, she quickly looked away. Finally he followed her into the kitchen and blurted out his invitation. To his amazement, she readily consented.

He said, “Why have you been avoiding me all this time? You wouldn’t even make eye contact.”

“Oh,” said the waitress, “I thought you wanted more coffee.”

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“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”

John R. Wooden

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A man goes to consult a specialist about his medical problem. After the visit the man asks, “How much do I owe you?”

“My fee is five hundred dollars,” replies the physician.

“Five hundred dollars? That’s impossible. No one charges that much!”

“In your case,” the doctor replies, “I suppose I could adjust my fee to three hundred.”

“Three hundred dollars? For one visit? Ridiculous.”

“Well, then, could you afford two hundred?”

“Who has that kind of money?”

“Look, replies the doctor,” growing irritated, “Just give me fifty bucks and get out.”

“I can give you twenty says the man. Take it or leave it.”

“I don’t understand you,” says the doctor. “Why did you come to the most expensive doctor in New York if you have no money?”

“Listen, Doctor”, says the patient, “When it comes to my health, nothing is too expensive.”

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I’m safe from identity theft, no one wants to be me.

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A lady who was speeding had an officer pulled her to the side of the road. She didn’t have her seat belt on so as soon as she stopped, she quickly slipped it on before the officer got to her window.

After talking to her about speeding, the officer said, “I see you are wearing your seat belt. Do you believe in wearing it at all times?”

“Yes, I do, officer,” she replied.

“Well,” asked the officer, “do you always do it up with it looped through your steering wheel?”

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The best way to prepare for life is to begin to live.

Elbert Hubbard

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

It works well for us!

It is the things in common that make relationships enjoyable, but it is the little differences that make them interesting.

Todd Ruthman

 

I have good news, I did not fail my first real cardiac rehab session last Friday, I didn’t do much but I did do what I was told to do. Today we get more serious. I am scheduled for thirty three insurance paid sessions, I don’t expect miracles but I do have high hopes. I know I will benefit from the discipline.

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On another subject, as many of you know I have been married since I was a teenager. My wife Nancy and I have had the good fortune to have had three great children who have given us seven great grandchildren. I give my wife most of credit for how well they developed for my early career kept me away from my family for extended periods during the kid’s formative years.

We have had our up and downs like most couples, but we always got through them, primarily because of our ability to forgive those we care about. I sometimes think that part of the success of our over a half-century of marriage is that I have enough flaws to satisfy my wife’s need to provide me council but not enough to create pain and ill will. All in all I really don’t see how my life could be much better.

In our case I don’t think the secret is more than unbelievable compatibility. Some people think it is strange because in many ways we are so different from each other. Our interests vary, sometimes completely, yet we care enough not to require each other to like the same things, do the same things and even think the same way. There is significant overlap of course, our love of family, enjoying live theatre, world travel and the friends we have in common are examples. But there is an equal amount that we do independently and that works well for us, we do not require each other to join us when we are doing something outside our common interest. We do make allowances when something is important enough for one that the others participation is warranted but that does not happen often. Yes our marriage wears a rich patina that has been created by many years of loving compatibility.

You know it is not often easy for someone to move away from their self-centered beliefs and accept someone else’s differences, but trust me it is worth the effort. Here are some tips that I found on a State of Virginia that can make for a happier existence.

 

10 Tips to Improve Your Interpersonal Skills

1. Practice Smiling Often.  No one wants to be around someone who is always frowning.  Maintain a positive, cheerful attitude about work and life.

2. Pay Attention to People.  Make eye contact and address people by their first names.  Ask them for their opinions and suggestions.

3. Be Generous with Praise and Words of Encouragement.  If you let others know that they are appreciated, they will want to give you their best.

4. Keep Your Promises.  If you promise something to someone, follow up on it.

5. Treat Everyone Fairly.  Do not play favorites and avoid talking about others behind their backs.

6. Pay Close Attention to Your Body Language.  This and the tone of your voice have a lot to do with how people feel about you.  Think before you speak!

7. Make other’s Laugh.  Most people are drawn to a person who can make them feel better.

8. Try to See Things from Another Person’s View.  Empathy is about being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and understanding how they feel.

9. Keep an Open Mind.  Remember there is always room for discussion and compromise.

10. Don’t Complain.  There is nothing worse than a chronic whiner.  Try to focus on helping other people solve their problems and it will be remembered.

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Find the person who will love you because of your differences and not in spite of them and you have found a lover for life.

Leo Buscaglia

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QUOTES FROM WHEN NANCY AND I GOT MARRIED

1) “I’ll tell you one thing, if things keep going the way they are, it’s going to be impossible to buy a weeks groceries for $20.”

2) “Have you seen the new cars coming out next year? It won’t be long when $5000 will only buy a used one.”

3) “If cigarettes keep going up in price, I’m going to quit. A quarter a pack is ridiculous.”

4) “Did you hear the post office is thinking about charging a dime just to mail a letter?”

5) “If they raise the minimum wage to $1, nobody will be able to hire outside help at the store.”

6) “When I first started driving, who would have thought gas would someday cost 40 cents a gallon. Guess we’d be better off leaving the car in the garage.”

7) “Did you see where some baseball player just signed a contract for $75,000 a year just to play ball? It wouldn’t surprise me if someday they’ll be making more than the president.”

8) “Do you suppose television will ever reach our part of the country?”

9) “I never thought I’d see the day all our kitchen appliances would be electric. They are even making electric typewriters now.”

10) “It’s too bad things are so tough nowadays. I see where some married women are having to work to make ends meet.”

11) “Did you know the new church in town is allowing women to wear slacks to their service?”

12). “Why in the world would you want to send your daughter to college? Isn’t she going to get married? It would be different if she could be a doctor or a lawyer.”

13) “There is no sense going to Lincoln or Omaha anymore for a weekend. It costs nearly $15 a night to stay in a hotel.”

14) “If a few idiots want to risk their necks flying across the country that’s fine, but nothing will ever replace trains.”

15) “We won’t be going out much anymore. Our sitter informed us she wants 50 cents an hour. Kids think money grows on trees.”

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The right thing to say comes to mind after you’ve said the wrong thing.

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She said: A friend and I were shopping for dresses for her three-year-old girls to wear to a wedding.  In the store, another girl staring intently at Sarah and Becky asked, “Are those girls twins?”

“Actually they’re triplets,” I explained. “They have a brother at home.”

“Wow,” she replied. “They sure look like twins to me.”

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The secret of good golf is to hit the ball hard, straight and not too often.

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I phoned one of those “let’s sue everyone partnerships” that advertise on T. V. I told them I wanted to sue them! I hurt myself going for the remote to turn them off.

Their response was “which member of the firm was doing the commercial?”

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The darkest hour is only 60 minutes.

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A young man visiting a dude ranch wanted to be macho, so he went out walking with one of the hired hands. As they were walking through the barnyard, the visitor tried to begin a conversation, “Say, look at that big bunch of cows.”

The hired hand replied, “Not ‘bunch,’ but ‘herd.'”

“Heard what?”

“Herd of cows.”

“Sure, I’ve heard of cows… there’s a big bunch of ’em right over there.”

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“Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.”

Dr. Joyce Brothers

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Thanksgiving a day we can see the good in others

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you

Matthew 7:1-2”

Ray’s Daily

Special Edition

 

While I had said I was not going to publish a Daily today, Thanksgiving Day, I changed my mind after I read the following on Gwyneth Paltrow’s Thanksgiving blog. I think many of us would do well if we were less judgmental and more understanding.

 

From Michael Berg:

“It is easy to judge others and find fault in them; it is sometimes even enjoyable. Yet in reality, if our aim is to draw greater blessings and fulfillment into our lives, it is one of the most dangerous things we can do.

When we judge others we often think that we are simply making an observation, and that this action or thought will not affect us. However this is not the case. When we judge others we are awakening and connecting ourselves to a force of judgment. It is like trying to throw mud at someone – we might or might not hit them but we are definitely tainted by the mud. And by acting in this way we don’t necessarily affect the other person, but we most definitely draw the energy of judgment and lack into ourselves.

I am often asked, ‘We know that there are no coincidences, but why, then, do we see faults in others if it is wrong to judge people?’ The kabbalists teach that as easy as it is to see shortcomings in others, it is almost impossible for an individual to truly find and assess his or her own faults. In order to change and grow we need to be able to know what it is about ourselves that we need to transform. Yet if we are never completely capable of seeing our own faults, how will we change?

In order to assist us, the Creator created endless mirrors for each of us that allow us to clearly see what we have to change. These mirrors are all the people that are in our lives every day. Every fault we see in another person is an indication that we have an aspect of that issue within ourselves. In fact, the reality is that the only reason we are being shown these flaws in others is to realize that they also exist within ourselves. How silly is it then that we often disregard this and focus on what is wrong with other people?

The kabbalists use a simple story to illustrate this lesson. A man spends all of his day in a coal mine and his entire body and face are filthy. As he arrives home he sees a mirror his wife has bought. He looks at the mirror and sees that his reflection is dirty, so he takes a rag and starts cleaning the mirror. He tries and tries with all his might but his face still remains dirty. Of course this man is acting foolishly, as it is not a problem with the mirror but rather his own filth. This is how we usually behave—we see a reflection of our less-than-perfect traits in others, and rather than realizing that we are seeing this in order to change and perfect ourselves, we stay focused on the faulty mirror.

If we truly integrate this understanding into our lives, the next time we feel the urge to judge others we will instead look inward and find how we too possess the fault we see and forget about judging anyone. By acting in this way we protect ourselves from drawing the energy of judgment and lack into our lives. And most importantly, we gain a clear direction for own transformation and growth.”

Michael Berg is a Kabbalah scholar and author. He is co-Director of The Kabbalah Centre.

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From Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel:

“What I hear in this question is a common concern for all of us: we want to be able to respond to our relationships with skillfulness and clarity. But when we critically examine, say, a conflict we might be having with a friend or family member, we often find ourselves judging others based on ‘right’ or ‘wrong.’ So to me the fundamental question comes down to this: ‘Is there a way of working with relationships without judging or ignoring?’

For me this question opened up a query into the difference between discernment and judgment. When we look at another human being—or ourselves—we see that we are not ‘one way.’ Human beings are creative and destructive, cranky and kind, joyful and miserable…it’s impossible to pin down a human being. We are always a ‘work in progress.’ So when we judge others (or ourselves) we are objectifying or seeing them in a one-dimensional way. There is a closing down around a negative idea, and simultaneously, there is a non-acceptance of the “fullness” of who they are. This is why, when we judge others, we experience first and foremost the negativity of our own mind.

One thing I like to do when I find myself in these situations is to try to remember at least two other qualities about the person whom I have just ‘put in a box.’ For instance, aside from what is irritating us, we may acknowledge that she is a good mother to her children. We may remember that she brought us soup when we were sick. In this way, all of us move out of our tendency to judge them—to form a solid picture of them—which in turn moves us out of our own negativity. This helps us see this person more fully, which, if we are honest with ourselves, is more accurate.

This doesn’t mean that this person doesn’t exhibit habits that challenge us. Nor does it mean that we shouldn’t also find a way to work with or even communicate with this person, set boundaries, and so on… But when we don’t shut down by making judgments, the atmosphere of our minds is open, gentle and non-reactive. This gives us a greater capacity for clear seeing and how to relate to them skillfully in order to obtain a positive outcome.

I deeply believe that seeing the fullness of others, in all their pain and glory, allows us to express the greatest love and respect we can offer. It is an unconditional kind of love. And this kind of love has a profound effect on our own minds.

Not long ago a dear friend of mine lost her father. She told me that after his passing, her family and friends began to praise and deify him. Although she adored and respected her father, this was hard for her. She said that her father was many things: he was intelligent and kind, but also sometimes rough and gritty, ‘like a prickly pear cactus.’ She had trouble listening to people describe her father in such a one-dimensional way. She felt that her love for her father included the fullness of his human-ness.

I found this touching because her love for her father was inclusive … she didn’t have to forget or disregard him in any way. She could accept him completely for who he was. She was able to see him clearly and accept him fully, both at the same time.

We can have an inclusive stance that makes room for the full humanity of others. From this ground, we can respond to a parent, friend or co-worker without judgment. When we realize that we can be both open and discerning at the same time, we experience freedom from negativity and meaningfulness in our relationship with the world.”

Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel is a Buddhist scholar and the author of the book, The Power of an Open Question

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“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”

Mother Teresa

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Thanks everyone!

We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.

Thornton Wilder

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day, a national holiday in my country. Traditionally it motivates many of us to look back and appreciate all the reasons we have to be grateful for the many things that make our lives worthwhile. It is not a day to be spent on what is wrong in the world but rather to focus in on what is right. It is also time for those of us who are lucky enough to have family nearby to share our love for each other over a feast. My hope is that the spirit of Thanksgiving will linger on for far longer than just one day and possibly help to defuse the anger and ill will that is so prevalent these days.

There will be no Daily until next Monday since we are taking both tomorrow and Friday off. But I want you to know before I leave that all of you are on my reasons-to-be-thankful list, so many of you make my life both interesting and worthwhile. I am afraid there are far too many others who have either lost sight of the value of Thanksgiving or are so alone that they need people like you and me to let them know they are worthy and important. Here is a poem by Edgar Guest written many years ago that brings up images of what Thanksgiving can mean if we follow its spirit.

Thanksgiving

Gettin’ together to smile an’ rejoice,

An’ eatin’ an’ laughin’ with folks of your choice;

An’ kissin’ the girls an’ declarin’ that they

Are growin more beautiful day after day;

Chattin’ an’ braggin’ a bit with the men,

Buildin’ the old family circle again;

Livin’ the wholesome an’ old-fashioned cheer,

Just for awhile at the end of the year.

Greetings fly fast as we crowd through the door

And under the old roof we gather once more

Just as we did when the youngsters were small;

Mother’s a little bit grayer, that’s all.

Father’s a little bit older, but still

Ready to romp an’ to laugh with a will.

Here we are back at the table again

Tellin’ our stories as women an men.

Bowed are our heads for a moment in prayer;

Oh, but we’re grateful an’ glad to be there.

Home from the east land an’ home from the west,

Home with the folks that are dearest an’ best.

Out of the sham of the cities afar

We’ve come for a time to be just what we are.

Here we can talk of ourselves an’ be frank,

Forgettin’ position an’ station an’ rank.

Give me the end of the year an’ its fun

When most of the plannin’ an’ toilin’ is done;

Bring all the wanderers home to the nest,

Let me sit down with the ones I love best,

Hear the old voices still ringin’ with song,

See the old faces unblemished by wrong,

See the old table with all of its chairs

An I’ll put soul in my Thanksgivin’ prayers.

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A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all the other virtues.

Cicero

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A man in Phoenix calls his son in New York the day before Thanksgiving and says, “I hate to ruin your day, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are divorcing; forty-five years of misery is enough.

“Pop, what are you talking about?” the son screams. We can’t stand the sight of each other any longer,” the father says. “We’re sick of each other, and I’m sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Chicago and tell her.”

Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone. “Like heck they’re getting divorced,” she shouts, “I’ll take care of this,”

She calls Phoenix immediately, and screams at her father, “You are NOT getting divorced. Don’t do a single thing until I get there. I’m calling my brother back, and we’ll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don’t do a thing, DO YOU HEAR ME?” and hangs up.

The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife. “Okay,” he says, “they’re coming for Thanksgiving and paying their own way.”

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“My cooking is so bad my kids thought Thanksgiving was to commemorate Pearl Harbor.”

Phyllis Diller

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A lady was picking through the frozen turkeys at the grocery store, but couldn’t find one big enough for her family. She asked the stock boy, ‘Do these turkeys get any bigger?’

The stock boy answered, ‘No ma’am, they’re dead.’

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Vegetables are a must on a diet. I suggest carrot cake, zucchini bread and pumpkin pie.

Jim Davis

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In the week before Thanksgiving Mary-Jo asked her class of 9 year-olds to write a paragraph entitled: ‘What I am most thankful for on Thanksgiving Day’. All Joey could write was:  ‘I am thankful that I’m not a turkey at Thanksgiving.’

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“He who thanks but with the lips

Thanks but in part;

The full, the true Thanksgiving

Comes from the heart.”

J.A. Shedd

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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I start again tomorrow

“When you are in the valley, keep your goal firmly in view and you will get the renewed energy to continue the climb.”

Denis Waitley

I have pre-Thanksgiving good news, the docs have monitored my Pacemaker adjustment results and found improvement. Because of the seven days of better heart performance I am able to go back to Cardiac rehab tomorrow, let’s hope I last more than 3 minutes this time.

As I think I shared with you before the goal of the rehab is to restore my vigor, improve my physical status, get me back into the habit of regular exercise, and motivate me to eat smarter and lose my excess pounds. In effect my doc’s are taking away my excuses. I have really done poorly using the heart problems as the rationale for not pushing too hard. The sad part was that before all this happened I was on my treadmill regularly and had lost substantial weight and felt good. That is where I want to get to again, I have a cruise in early January and I do not want to have to restrict my activity to the point I miss too much. Of course I understand that what I must do is reestablish the mindset that will keep me from slacking off.

I like what personal trainer Bob Choat offers in the following article. As of this moment I plan on following his advice, OK I will follow his advice, is that more positive?

 

Creating a Peak Performance Mindset

 

Being able to stay at a high level of performance on a continuing basis is difficult for the majority of the population. It’s important to have the right mindset in order to stay at a high level of living day in and day out. There are certain mental techniques that you can use.

1. Make sure you are keeping yourself fit. Get out and exercise. This will enable you to deal with both mental and physical stress that may come your way.

2. Eat high quality foods. By eating right and healthy, your body will get the proper nutrients for physical and mental health.

3. Do deep breathing. Our blood supply needs constant oxygen that will energize our bodies and minds. This will insure that our bodies get the energy it needs and keep our lungs healthy too.

4. Do mental training. Meditation and self-hypnosis as well as visualization help to calm a stressed mind and to develop focus and awareness. The more you’re able to train your mind on a regular basis, the easier it will be to access that calm state whenever you need it.

5. Stay optimistic. Having a positive mindset is important for continued high level performance. Being around positive people will help you too.

6. Have positive goals. Having goals that you can stay focused on will help you stay focused on the task at hand and provide a target to aim for.

7. Do some extreme self-care. Taking care of you first is important for recovery. You’ve done some of it in the other steps. It’s important to take some down time. This recovery period will help raise your performance level when you are taking action.

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Lots of people limit their possibilities by giving up easily. Never tell yourself this is too much for me. It’s no use. I can’t go on. If you do you’re licked, and by your own thinking too. Keep believing and keep on keeping on.”

Norman Vincent Peale

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“I’d like the number for Jennifer Smith in Richmond, Virginia,” the young man said to the 411 operator.

“There are multiple listings for Jennifer Smith in Richmond, Virginia,” the operator said.

“Do you happen to have a street name?”

The young man scratched his head and hesitated a minute, and then replied…..

“Well, if it will help any, my friends call me ‘Snake’.”

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A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong.

Milton Berle

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What did the Yogi say when he walked into the Zen Pizza Parlor?

“Make me one with everything.”

When the Yogi got the pizza, he gave the proprietor a $20 bill. The proprietor pocketed the bill. The Yogi said “Don’t I get change?”

The proprietor said, “Change must come from within.”

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The only two things we do with greater frequency as we age are urinate and attend funerals.

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A man in a hurry taking his 8-year old son to school, made a turn at a red light where it was prohibited.

“Uh-oh, I just made an illegal turn!” the man says.

“Aw, dad, it’s okay,” the son replies. “The poilce car behind us just did the same thing too!”

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If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.

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A blonde woman goes to the post office to buy stamps for her Christmas cards.

She says to the clerk, “May I have 50 Christmas stamps?”

The clerk says, “What denominations?”

The woman says, “God help us. Has it come to this? Give me 6 Catholic, 12 Presbyterian, 10 Lutheran and 22 Baptists.”

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It’s always darkest before dawn. So if you’re going to steal your neighbor’s newspaper, that’s the time to do it.

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A man is a person who, if a woman says, “Never mind, I’ll do it myself,” lets her.

A woman is a person who, if she says to a man, “Never mind, I’ll do it myself,” and he lets her; gets mad.

A man is a person who, if a woman says to him, “Never mind, I’ll do it myself,” and he lets her and she gets mad; says, “Now what are you mad about?”

A woman is a person who, if she says to a man, “Never mind, I’ll do it myself,” and he lets her and she gets mad, and he says, “Now what are mad about?” says, “If you don’t know I’m not going to tell you.”

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The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind.”

William James

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

I was disappointed!

The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.

Robert Kiyosaki

 

I have often been accused of not taking things as seriously as I should. As I have shared with you in the past I have been fortunate to realize that you can’t change what has already happened and that rather than agonizing over it, it is best to learn from it and move on. Another thing that has always helped me is the understanding that almost everything we worry about does not happen, so worry is a non-productive distraction that can really have a negative effect on how we feel and what we do. I decided a long time ago that it is better understand our challenges, prepare for them if we can and then put off worry until it is too late to worry and then take whatever recovery steps you can.

Of course my life, like everyone else’s has its ups and downs. Lately I have had a number of regrets. In the past two weeks I missed a community based board meeting, had to leave a Salvation Army major event before it was completed, had to cancel my attendance to a leadership organizations annual meeting, as well as missing a number of other activities. What is so disappointing is that I am sometimes letting others down. My life has been full and I have seen and done a lot so missing some activities is no big deal from my standpoint, but to me it is when I am expected by others to participate but don’t. The reality is that my health has been somewhat erratic of late and what I have tried to do is avoid any commitments where I would be important or critical to the outcome. I have even offered to resign from one board, not due to lack of interest but rather due to my failing to help as much as needed, my resignation was not accepted.

I can live with the disappointment but I am not happy with letting others down. Hopefully this week will lay the foundation for wellness after my heart docs read the results last week’s cardiac monitoring. The disappointment not withstanding I have much to be thankful for and will truly appreciate our Thanksgiving Holiday on Thursday.

I live through my disappointments but sometimes it is not always easy. Here are tips from E-How Health that might help me and possibly others.

 

How to handle disappointment

1 If you fail at something, don’t let the disappointment stop you from trying again. Pick yourself up and give it a try again. You may just succeed next time.

2 Think about all the other great achievements that you had in your life. Use this to strengthen yourself. Know that this is just a temporary stumbling block.

3 Talk to yourself, tell yourself that you are not a failure. Use other successful people as examples. Use their experiences to help you look at things from a different perspective.

4 Use laughter to deal with your disappointments. Don’t let your disappointments steal your joy. It helps if you can find humor in the situation.

5 Choose supportive, positive friends to share your pain with. Hearing uplifting words can make a big difference and help to boost your self-esteem.

6 Find things to occupy your time. keeping yourself busy will lessen the pain. Sometimes when you encounter disappointments, you become stronger from it. Keep your head up high, and look towards a brighter beginning.

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You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try.

Beverly Sills

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A foursome teed off on the long par-3 eighth hole. The green on this hole lay behind a large bunker, so any shot that made the green would disappear over the top ridge of bunker. You couldn’t tell where your ball landed until you arrived on the green.

After the last player hit his shot, the first golfer to hit charged off down the fairway, without waiting for the others. He disappeared over the bunker and seconds later came running back down the fairway to the other three, yelling and screaming, “I got a hole-in-one!

I don’t believe it!” “You’ve got to be kidding,” said the other golfers in the foursome. “You run ahead of us down the fairway. Then you vanish over the rise, where you know we can’t see you, and, all of a sudden, you start hootin’ and hollerin’ about a hole-in-one. Do you actually expect us to believe you? How stupid do you think we three are?”

“No, no. It’s true. I swear it,” he said crossing his heart. “Go look. I left it in the hole to prove it.”

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A pessimist mourns the future.

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Millions of years ago, there was no such thing as the wheel; the only way to move things was by carrying or dragging. One day, some primitive guys were watching their wives drag a dead mastodon to the food preparation area. It was exhausting work; the guys were getting tired just watching. Then they noticed some large, smooth, rounded boulders, and they had an idea: They could sit on the much more comfortable boulders and watch! This was the first in a series of breakthroughs that ultimately led to watching football on television.

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I just read a report that stated that last year 4,153,237 people got married.

I don’t want to start any trouble, but shouldn’t that be an even number?

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When entering a hotel where she and her husband were staying, Gladys, a devout Baptist, noticed a shabbily dressed man lounging idly in front of the newspaper stand in the lobby. She noticed that several men stopped to talk to him and gave him a little money. He seemed so cheered by the encounters she impulsively put ten dollars in an envelope, wrote ‘God Bless” on the outside, and handed it to him.

The nest day the man stopped her on the street. “Here’s your $250,” he said cheerily. “God Bless won 28 to 1!”

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To make the world a friendly place, one must show it a friendly face.

James Whitcomb Riley

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Arnold was a ventriloquist, and not a good one at that. In fact business was so bad that he was trying his luck as a medium. One day, a widow came into his office and said that she wanted to contact her dear departed husband and asked Arnold what he charged.

“If you only want to hear him speak,” said Arnold, “I charge $30. If you want to have a conversation with him, I charge $50. But I charge $100 if you want a conversation with him while I’m drinking a glass of water.”

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I have six locks on my door all in a row.  When I go out, I lock every other one.  I figure no matter how long somebody stands there picking the locks, they are always locking three.

Elayne Boosler

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It was a typically busy day at the bank. After a glance at the line of waiting customers, a harried looking man came up to the side counter and demanded, “What do I have to do to change the address on my account?”

Without missing a beat, the clerk replied, “Move!”

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Men’s best successes come after their disappointments.

Henry Ward Beecher

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

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