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It is really not that bad

Look behind the clouds. You will always find the stars.

Evelyn Loeb

 ! 00000 pick yourself up

While I am generally in a positive and optimistic mood I do like most people occasionally get into a funk. Over the years I have learned that I don’t have to dwell there very long. I find that instead of wallowing in the blahs I can find alternatives that are great mood changers. Instead of staying down on the bad days I like to pull myself backup and that alone is a great morale booster.

What about you? How do you turn what looks like a bad day into a good one? Here is how author Henrik Edberg does it, I think he is worth listening to.

How to Improve Your Mood Right Now: 3 Simple Habits

I often write about how a good start to your day often leads to having a good day in general. A social, an energetic or a productive start sets the context for your day. But on some days you may not get a good start for some reason. Maybe you slept badly. Or the maybe grey skies and cold spring rain is dragging your energy down. Or you might have lost that positive momentum during a hard first part of the day and after lunch you feel tired, low or lost in a somewhat sad or uninspired funk. What to do then? Is that day lost and should you just aim for a better day tomorrow? Well, today is not over yet.

Maybe you can still make something good out it. Here’s how I do that by breaking the negative mood and getting a new start.

Appreciate what you have.

The simplest of my most commonly used pick-me-ups. I take about 2 minutes and sit in silence. I tell myself: OK, I might not feel so good right now, but what can I be grateful for and appreciate in my life? I usually come up with one simple thing like:

My tasty food.

My health.

That I have a roof.

That one thing opens up my mind. It redirects my thoughts from the negativity. Then I build upon that one thing. I make mental jumps from the roof, to the warmth in our home, to the fluffy cat sitting beside me on the sofa, to that I can work from home as the rain pours outside. I make those small mental leaps by just moving my attention around in the room I am in. Like skipping from stone to stone over a stream. And I take the time to slowly appreciate all those things. This changes my mood to a happier, warmer and more open one.

Act as you would like to feel.

Emotions work backwards too. So if I want to become more positive or enthusiastic then I act in the manner of a person who is positive or enthusiastic. I might not feel like it. But I do it as best as I can anyway. I may for example:

Think of the task I have in front of me as something exciting and fun. Answer some emails or talk to someone in a positive and enthusiastic manner. Assume rapport if I feel unmotivated, negative or nervous before some kind of meeting (assuming rapport is to I think to myself that I am meeting one of my best friends just before the meeting and that puts me in the right mood and headspace).

Think for a minute and give someone a genuine compliment.

Here’s a fun one I use quite often and that will not only lift my own mood. Spend one minute coming up with something you really and genuinely appreciate about someone in your life that is in the same room as you at some point during the day. Then tell him or her the genuine compliment you have come up with.

She or he will be happy. You’ll feel good about yourself and get positive feelings too from the now smiling, happy and complimented person. And so the mood for the both of you is changed for the better.

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You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted.

Ruth E. Renkl

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Susie Sunshine asked her Sunday School class to draw pictures of their favorite Bible stories. She was puzzled by Jimmie’s picture which showed four people on an airplane, so she asked him which story it was meant to represent. “The flight to Egypt.” said Jimmy.

“I see, and that must be Mary, Joseph and Baby Jesus,” Ms Susie said. But who’s the fourth person?”

“Oh, that’s Pontius – the Pilot.”

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What’s the use of happiness? It can’t buy you money.

Henny Youngman

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More signs from our time:

On the desk of a kindergarten teacher: THINK SMALL

Pawnshop sign: Please See Me At Your Earliest Inconvenience.

Sign in Office: The easiest way to make ends meet is to get off your own.

Sign at butcher shop: Honest scales–No Two Weighs About It.

Sign by stuffed fish on wall: If I had kept my mouth shut I wouldn’t be here.

Sign on travel agency window: Please Go Away!

Sign at Cafe: Eat here and you’ll never eat anyplace again!

Misprint on sign at drug store: You can be sure of having your prescriptions filled with scare and kill.

Sign in laundry window: We do not tear your laundry with machinery, we do it by hand.

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Why is it called a TV “set” when you only get one?

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Grandma Levy, always a regular synagogue member had finally talked her cousin, a woman who had lived a riotous, free life, into joining the Temple.

“Tell me Rabbi,” the old lady asked, “Do you feel that my cousin will have her sins forgiven after all those years?”

“Yes I do.  I’m positive of it.  You must remember that the greater the number of sins, the greater the glory.”

“Really Rabbi?”, the old lady replied thoughtfully. “I sure do wish I’d known that fifty years ago.”

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If one man says, “it was an uphill battle,” and another says, “it went downhill from there,” how could they both be having troubles?

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When the car engine developed a slight knock, Kerry asked her husband if he had bought premium or regular gas, but he couldn’t remember.

“You probably got the cheaper gas,” she said. “That would account for the roughness of the engine.”

“No, the gas wasn’t cheaper!” he replied indignantly, “It cost the same as always. I put in the usual ten dollars worth.”

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All I know is that you can’t keep moping around – you have to pick yourself up off the ground and go on – that’s what life is – getting knocked down over and over, and getting right back up to face whatever it decides to throw at you. It may not be nice, pretty, good, or what you want – but it’s what makes you who you are, and what makes life what it is.

Jennifer Spradling

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Better get started now

Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.

Napoleon Hill

 ! 00000 Don't Wait

If you are like I am you enjoy spending time with people who don’t sit around waiting for something to happen or for someone to do what needs to be done. These are folks who are always ready to begin something new while so many of us are waiting until that elusive right moment before we get up and get moving.

I get especially frustrated with those who try to convince the doers that what they are about to do won’t work and is a waste of time. I have found that there are some great things waiting along the path that you will never see unless you step on to the trail. There is a world out there waiting for us but it won’t come to you, you have to go to it.

Want to do something, don’t wait start now, there will seldom be a better time than today. Here is a story I may of shared with you before but if I did it is worth reading again.

Stop Waiting

Author Unknown

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.

The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now.

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have.

Stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

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“‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you.”

Timothy Ferriss

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The following are a few simple ways to keep burglars out of the house by putting a few signs in well-placed locations.

  • Dear Mr. Butcher, starting tomorrow, please leave eight pounds of meat for Brutus. Six pounds only makes him angry and vicious!
  • Dear Mr. Mailman, we found bloodstains all over our mail. They must be yours. The next time you put mail into our slot, please be sure to keep all parts of your body well clear of all openings. P.S. – Any sign of that book we sent for, “The Care and Feeding of Wild Jungle Cats”?
  • Dear Mr. Exterminator, be very careful when you go inside! The termites have eaten through most of the floorboards and you will fall into the basement where all of the rats are!
  • To whom it may concern: Some of the items in this house have been engraved with Federal Identification Numbers. Others have merely been wired to explode when touched. Good luck…
  • Selma, don’t come in! The boa constrictor got loose again…

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I thank my lucky stars I’m not superstitious.

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An elderly man lay in a hospital, with his wife of 55 years sitting at his bedside. “Is that you Ethel, at my side again?” he whispered.

“Yes, dear,” she answered.

He softly said to her, “Remember years ago when I was in the Veteran’s Hospital? You were with me then. You were with me when we lost everything in a fire, and Ethel when we were poor – you stuck with me then too.”

The man sighed and said, “I tell you Ethel, you are bad luck!”

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I think … therefore I am overqualified.

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The rabbinical student is about to leave for America. When he asks his mentor for advice, the rabbi offers an adage that, he tells the student, will guide him for the rest of his life. “Always remember,” the rabbi said sagely, “life is like a fountain.” Deeply impressed by his teacher’s wisdom, the student departs for a successful career in America. Thirty years later, he learns that the rabbi is dying, so he returns for a final visit.

“Rabbi,” he says, “I have one question. For 30 years, whenever I was sad or confused, I thought about the phrase you passed on to me, and it has helped me through many difficult times. But to be perfectly frank, I have never understood the full meaning of it. Now that you are about to enter the realm of truth, tell me, dear rabbi, why is life like a fountain?”

Wearily, the old man replied, “All right, so it’s not like a fountain.”

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Why do we sing ‘Take me out to the ball game,’ when we are already there?

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A strained voice called out through the darkened theater, “Please, is there a doctor in the house?!”

Several men stood up as the lights came on.

An older lady pulled her daughter to stand next to her, “Good, are any of you doctors single and interested in a date with a nice, Jewish girl?”

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Where was the toothbrush invented? Mississippi. If it was invented anywhere else, it would have been called a teethbrush.

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Favorite Christian Pick-up Lines

Did it hurt when you fell from Heaven?

The word says “Give drink to those who are thirsty, and feed the hungry. How about dinner?

I didn’t believe in predestination till I met you.

What do YOU think? Will it be the flood or the fire next time?

Hi. Your name must be Grace because you are AMAZING!

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Did you hear about the $3 million Arkansas State Lottery?

The winner gets $3 a year for a million years.

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Don’t wait for time. Make it. Don’t wait for love. Feel it. Don’t wait for money. Earn it. Don’t wait for the path. Find it. Don’t wait for opportunity. Create it. Don’t go for less. Get the best. Don’t compare. Be unique. Don’t fight your misfortune. Transform it. Don’t avoid failure. Use it. Don’t dwell on mistake. Learn from it. Don’t back down. Go around. Don’t close your eyes. Open your mind. Don’t run from life. Embrace it.

Ritu Ghatourey

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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I appreciate our friendship

We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.

Roderick Thorp

! 00000 be your self

I don’t know if I ever shared with you that I find it difficult sometimes when someone I like or would like to know better drifts away. I even have had some friends I was close to almost disappear without me ever knowing why. Undoubtedly there was not an adequate connection to continue to grow the relationship. While I have lived long enough to realize that we cannot depend on sustaining all of our friendships I worry when some end if I did or said something that displeased a former friend.

As I am sure you know you can’t please everybody nor should we try but I do think we should invest in bonding with people who enrich our lives. I know I have told you before that this is as good as I get and what you see is really me. There is never much value in spending our days trying to act a part that we think will please others. Good people don’t have to do much to be liked for others gravitate around the warm and friendly and I like that.

It is a shame that some of us take the criticism of others as a personal attack and respond badly letting it destroy a friendship. Marc Chernoff recently penned a piece he called Ways to Stop Worrying about What Everyone Thinks of You, here in part is what he offered.

Remind yourself that most people are NOT thinking about you anyway.

Forget what everyone else thinks of you today; chances are, they aren’t thinking about you anyway.  If you feel like they always are, understand that this perception of them watching you and critiquing your every move is a complete figment of your imagination.  It’s your own inner fears and insecurities that are creating this illusion.

Acknowledge that external validation is only getting in your way.

Spend time clearly and consciously articulating to yourself how your thoughts about what others are (potentially) thinking plays out in your life. 

The ultimate goal is to never let someone’s opinion become your reality.  To never sacrifice who you are, or who you aspire to be, because someone else has a problem with it.  To love who you are inside and out as you push forward.  And to realize once and for all that no one else has the power to make you feel small unless you give them that power.

Get comfortable with not knowing what other people think.

Some problems in life, such as not knowing what others think of you, are not really meant to be resolved.  As I’ve mentioned, how people perceive you may have more to do with them than you anyway.  They may even like or dislike you simply because you’ve triggered an association in their minds by reminding them of someone they liked or disliked from their past, which has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Refocus your attention on what DOES matter.

People will think what they want to think.  You can’t control them.  No matter how carefully you choose your words and mannerisms, there’s always a good chance they’ll be misinterpreted and twisted upside down by someone.  Does this really matter in the grand scheme of things?  No, it doesn’t. What DOES matter is how you see yourself.

So when you’re making big decisions, make a habit of staying 100% true to your values and convictions.  Never be ashamed of doing what feels right.

Let go of your ‘end of the world’ thinking.

All variations of worrying, including worrying about rejection, thrive on ‘end of the world’ thinking.  In other words, our emotions convince us that an undesirable outcome results in annihilation.

What if they don’t like me? What if he rejects me? What if I don’t fit in and I’m left sitting alone at the party? etc.

None of these things result in the end of the world, but if we convince ourselves that they do, we will irrationally fear these outcomes and give our fears control over us.  The truth is, we – human beings – are inefficient at accurately predicting how future misfortune will make us feel.  In fact, most of the time we avoid consciously thinking about it all together, which only perpetuates our subconscious fears.

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Never allow anyone to define you! Just be you!

Chrys Phillips

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We were so poor, we could only afford…

… Medicines called placebos

… Five of the Ten Commandments

… Bagel holes

… Sunrise OR Sunset

… Webster’s Extremely Abridged Dictionary

… White Crayolas

… Ivory soap soup mix

… Lipton Tea Bag strings

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Adam and Eve had the ideal marriage. He didn’t have to hear about all the men she could have married, and she didn’t have to hear about the way his mother cooked.

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After just one year of marriage, Jill filed for divorce. A friend, trying to console her, said that you never know what a man’s like until you live with him. “I should have left him right after the honeymoon. Not only did he not take me to Niagara Falls as he had promised, all we did was drive through a car wash a couple of times, really slowly.”

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Research shows the first five minutes of life can be the most risky.

Somehow I think that the last five minutes aren’t so hot either.

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A man walks into a bar and says, “Bartender, give me two shots.” Bartender says, “You want them both now or one at a time?” The guy says,” Oh, I want them both now. One’s for me and one’s for this little guy here,” and he pulls a tiny three inch man out of his pocket.

The bartender asks “He can drink?”

“Oh, sure. He can drink.”

So the bartender pours the shots and sure enough, the little guy drinks it all up. “That’s amazing” says the bartender. “What else can he do, can he walk?”

The man flicks a quarter down to the end of the bar and says, “Hey, Jake. Go get that.” The little guy runs down to the end of the bar and picks up the quarter. Then he runs back down and gives it to the man. The bartender is in total shock. “That’s amazing” he says, “what else can he do? Does he talk?”

The man says “Sure he talks, hey, Jake, tell him about that time we were in Africa and you made fun of that witch doctor’s powers!”

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We have women in the military, but they don’t put us in the front lines. They don’t know if we can fight, if we can kill. I think we can. All the general has to do is walk over to the women and say, “You see the enemy over there? They say you look fat in those uniforms.”

Elayne Boosler

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While meditating in the country, a poet noticed a farmer looking at him curiously. “Ah,” said the poet, “perhaps you, too, have seen the golden-red fingers of dawn speeding across the eastern sky, the red-stained sulfurous islets floating in a lake of wine in the West, the ragged clouds at midnight, blotting out the shuddering moon?”

“No,” replied the farmer, “not lately. I’ve been on the wagon for more than a year.”

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Trust is learning how you feel about yourself, not how others feel about you. Do you trust how you feel. If not, why.

Ron W. Rathbun

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

It is going to be great!

Saints have no moderation, nor do poets, just exuberance.

Anne Sexton

 ! 00000 exuberance

Last Saturday I attended a rehearsal of the professional Actors Theatre of Indiana’s forthcoming production of Xanadu that will open soon at the Carmel Performing Art’s Center. It was interesting to watch excellent performers being directed by a nationally known Director and a talented choreographer as they further developed the show.

The best way I can describe what we saw was a group of exuberant singers and dancers having fun and I found that their exuberance was contagious. Exuberant is the best way to describe how I felt when they were done. I am really looking forward to seeing the show in a few weeks. There is really nothing better than live theatre and ATI always does it so well. If you are in Central Indiana see the show, you’ll be glad you did.

The dictionary describes exuberance as being ebullient, buoyant, cheerful, jaunty, lighthearted, high-spirited, exhilarated, excited, elated, exultant, euphoric, joyful, cheery, merry, jubilant, vivacious, enthusiastic, irrepressible, energetic, animated, full of life, lively, vigorous, adrenalized and more. Those are some really neat feelings that are always worth having. I am lucky that I have ATI, many of you and other things in my life that leave me exuberant for it is a great alternative to a woe focused existence.

I have pulled a few paragraphs from an article by Kate Bratskeir that I think hold some of the keys to exuberance, you might like to heed the advice.

The Habits Of Supremely Happy People

And while it might sound like a big feat to tackle great concepts like meaning and engagement (pleasure sounded much more doable), happy people have habits you can introduce into your everyday life that may add to the bigger picture of bliss. Joyful folk have certain inclinations that add to their pursuit of meaning — and motivate them along the way.

They surround themselves with other happy people.

Joy is contagious. Researchers of the Framingham Heart Study who investigated the spread of happiness over 20 years found that those who are surrounded by happy people “are more likely to become happy in the future.” This is reason enough to dump the Debbie Downers and spend more time with uplifting people.

They smile when they mean it.

Even if you’re not feeling so chipper, cultivating a happy thought — and then smiling about it — could up your happiness levels and make you more productive, according to a study published in the Academy of Management Journal. It’s important to be genuine with your grin: The study revealed that faking a smile while experiencing negative emotions could actually worsen your mood.

They cultivate resilience.

According to psychologist Peter Kramer, resilience, not happiness, is the opposite of depression: Happy people know how to bounce back from failure. Resilience is like a padding for the inevitable hardship human beings are bound to face. As the Japanese proverb goes, “Fall seven times and stand up eight.”

They try to be happy.

Yep — it’s as simple as it sounds: just trying to be happy can boost your emotional well-being, according to two studies recently published in The Journal of Positive Psychology. Those who actively tried to feel happier in the studies reported the highest level of positive moods, making a case for thinking yourself happy.

They are mindful of the good.

It’s important to celebrate great, hard-earned accomplishments, but happy people give attention to their smaller victories, too. “When we take time to notice the things that go right — it means we’re getting a lot of little rewards throughout the day,” Susan Weinschenk, Ph.D. told The Huffington Post in May. “That can help with our moods.”

They appreciate simple pleasures.

A meticulously swirled ice cream cone. An boundlessly waggy dog. Happy people take the time to appreciate these easy-to-come-by pleasures. Finding meaning in the little things, and practicing gratitude for all that you do have is associated with a sense of overall gladness.

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I call for a collective adventure in generalized joy and freely interdependent exuberance. Play isn’t passive.

Bob Black

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She said, I a Dominican sister, I lived in a convent named for a deceased pope. One day while I was wearing contemporary clothes instead of my habit, I drove into a gas station to get the communal car filled up. After the young attendant topped off the tank, he walked toward my car window to return my credit card.  It was clear from his furrowed brow that he had something on his mind. The young man looked at me shyly and pointed to the convent’s name, John XXIII Hall, imprinted on the card.

“Pardon me,” he asked hesitantly, “but how do you pronounce your husband’s middle name?”

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I used to be lost in the shuffle. Now I just shuffle along with the lost.

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They say that a preacher’s wife is always his number one assistant. An example of this comes one Sunday morning after the preacher had just finished his sermon. He went and sat down with his wife and she asked him how he thought the church service went. The Preacher shrugged and said, “The worship was excellent, and I think the prayer time went quite well, but,” he continued, “I just don’t think the sermon ever got off the ground.”

The wife looked over at him, and before she could stop herself, she said, “Well, it sure did taxi long enough!”

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Why is it called ‘after dark’, when it is really after light?

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Morris and Rachel are sweethearts. Morris lives in a small village out in the country and Rachel lives in town. One day, they go to see the Rabbi and set a date for their wedding. Before they leave, the Rabbi asks them whether they want a contemporary or traditional service. After a short discussion, they opt for the contemporary service. Their day arrives but the weather is rotten and a storm forces Morris to take an alternate route to the synagogue. The village streets are flooded, so he rolls up his trouser legs to keep his trousers dry.

When at last he reaches the shul, his best man immediately rushes him up the aisle. As the ceremony starts, the Rabbi whispers to Morris, “Pull down your trousers.”

“Rabbi, I’ve changed my mind,” says Morris, “I think I prefer the traditional service.”

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Consciousness: that annoying time between naps.

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A blonde was shopping at a Target Store and came across a silver thermos.  She was quite fascinated by it, so she picked it up and brought it over to the clerk to ask what it was. The clerk said, “Why, that’s a thermos…..it keeps things hot and some things cold.”

“Wow, said the blonde, “that’s amazing….I’m going to buy it !” So she bought the thermos and took it to work the next day. Her boss saw it on her desk. “What’s that,’ he asked? “Why, that’s a thermos…..it keeps hot things hot and cold things cold,” she replied.

Her boss inquired, “What do you have in it?”

The blond replied, “Two popsicles, and some coffee.”

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Enthusiasm is the best protection in any situation. Wholeheartedness is contagious.

David Seabury

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Are you ready for the trip?

“Happiness is not an accident. Nor is it something you wish for. Happiness is something you design.”

Jim Rohn

 ! 00000 happiness road

I don’t know about you but it seems to me that there are a lot of unhappy people around these days, there are even more who while not being unhappy don’t see themselves as happy either. I think far too many of us are not even sure what would make us happy, we tend to describe the things that we would have once we found it only to learn that it is not things that are key to a happy life.

My concern is that many are not even prepared to make a successful journey to a happy place. I found the following article on the Inspired Personal Development web site and saw that it includes many things that I have found that provide me a platform of wellbeing that is the foundation of my surprisingly happy existence. If you follow the advice offered you might have the same experience I have had.

9 Building Blocks for Authentic Happiness

There are some vital basics on how to be happy, yet they are often overlooked in our fast paced world. Take note of the following 9 keys. Treating your body and mind the way it loves to be treated is a vitally important key in how to be happy. You don’t put polluted petrol into your car, nor do you expect it to run on an empty tank, so don’t expect yourself to find the key to happiness if you don’t give your body and mind what it needs!

Sun, Glorious Sun – Get fresh air and sunshine every day. Sunshine has been highly underrated in the past few years as many people became paranoid of the negative affects of burning. Never the less, sunshine is the greatest supplier of a vitamin that we cannot live without, Vitamin D.

Take a drink – Of water that is! Your body is made up of about 70% water. Imagine if your cells and molecules are swimming happily one day, and the following week they’re trying to make their way through a desert. Yes, knowing how to be happy can be this easy… drinking clean fresh water each day is vital to maximizing your happiness quotient.

Kick Your Heels Up – Exercise is a vibrant stimulant for your happiness chemicals. Jasper Smits, director of the Anxiety Research and Treatment Program at Southern Methodist University has reported that exercise plays an important role in helping you grasp your keys to happiness. He succinctly states,  “Exercise appears to affect, like an antidepressant, particular neurotransmitter systems in the brain, and it helps patients with depression re-establish positive behaviors.”

Eat well. Wean yourself off a diet of predominantly processed foods, and replace with raw and freshly cooked. Combine lots of vegies, fruit, protein, some dairy and grains and give thanks for the goodness and abundance you have.

Is That a Silver Lining You See? – Look for the best in a situation. Even in dismal circumstances, there is invariably something to learn and benefit from. Practice positive self talk and positive personal affirmations.

Give Yourself a Rest and Relaxation Prescription – It’s no secret that people are renowned for getting ‘tired and grumpy’. You can translate the opposite traits to being ‘well rested and happy’. Take heed,… get your sleep and enjoy time for relaxation.

You Mean It’s Not All About Me? – Spare a thought or two for some of the other 6 billion plus people in the world. When researchers asked ‘what is happiness correlated with?’, meaningful relationships with others showed a strong correlation. You might find that when you reach out to help someone else, and forget about yourself for a while, then life’s goodness shines through a bit brighter.

Appreciate Your True Wealth – Authentic happiness and wealth is not about the money… people have differing amounts and happiness is not dependent on that. Neither is it about the ‘time’ you have…. everyone in the world has exactly the same amount of time, yet some are happy and others not. Explore what your true wealth is and savor it.

Mix your Personal Recipe for Happiness – It’s time to turn up the heat and bake up your personal recipe for happiness once you’ve started to integrate the above points into your daily routine. Your personal recipe is full of what you love about yourself and your life. When you mix your values, passions and highest purpose into your daily life, your authentic happiness will naturally rise and get richer! You’ll be a living example of how to be happy.

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Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.

Albert Schweitzer

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A precious little girl walks into a pet shop and asks, in the sweetest little lisp, between two missing teeth, “Excuthe me, mithter, do you keep widdle wabbits?”

As the shopkeeper’s heart melts, he gets down on his knees so that he’s on her level and asks, “Do you want a widdle white wabbit, or a thoft and fuwwy bwack wabbit, or maybe one like that cute widdle bwown wabbit over there?”

She, in turn, blushes, rocks on her heels, puts her hands on her knees, leans forward, and says in a tiny quiet voice, “I don’t think my python weally gives a thit”.

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“Man has never made any material as resilient as the human spirit.”

Bernard Williams

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A generally good-humored boss was finally compelled to call an employee into his office about the sick leave policy. “It has not escaped my attention,” he pointed out, “that every time there’s a home game at the stadium, you have to take your aunt to the doctor.”

“You know you’re right, sir,” exclaimed the bashfully grinning employee. “I didn’t realize it. You don’t suppose she’s faking it, do you?”

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And remember, aim low, reach your goals, avoid disappointment.

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Father, Mother and their 3 sons, John (the oldest), Mike (middle) and Steve (youngest) are conversing around the table after dinner. The subject of traits of parents being passed on to children comes up. The Father says, “John has my eyes, Mike has my creativity, and Steve has my intelligence.”

Steve responds, “Daddy, what’s intelligence?”

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Why does life keep teaching me lessons I have no desire to learn?

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It was a typical Fall Saturday and the wife happened upon her husband sprawled on the couch, beer in hand, staring at a college football game on the TV. After taking in the scene a few moments, she said, “Ya know George, somehow I find it difficult to believe that you’re the end product of millions of years of evolution.

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She’s been married so many times she has rice marks on her face.

Henny Youngman

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I was talking on the phone with my son, who was stationed in Hawaii with the Air Force. He was explaining how the troops were learning to scuba-dive. “We used the buddy system,” he said, “and occasionally dived into shark-infested waters.”

Listening on the extension, my daughter asked, “What do you do if you see a shark?”

My son said, “Swim faster than my buddy.”

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“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

Mahatma Gandhi

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Enjoy the day

“The fundamental obstacle to happiness, says Epicurus, is anxiety.”

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I know many folks who as they age let excessive anxiety steal happiness from their day to day existence. Far too often we fret over things we cannot control while anticipating the worst. Some of us spend so much time worrying that we become blinded to what is good around us.

What got me thinking about this is that I have friends my age that believe they can see the end of their life’s journey and only focus on what might be, rather than focusing on what has been and the time left to focus on enjoying what is left. I think they would benefit from a little Epicurean philosophy as outlined below.

The four-part cure

Don’t fear god,

Don’t worry about death;

What is good is easy to get, and

What is terrible is easy to endure

Philodemus, Herculaneum Papyrus

The following is a description of each line as the Epicureans understood it.

Don’t fear god

As a prelude to “Don’t worry about death,” the concept of “god” in Epicurus’ time was incompatible to Epicurus’ beliefs. The worrying about whether or not the gods are concerned about the actions of human beings, and the amount of observance and worship ascribed to them, was the general relationship of man’s belief to the gods’ purpose and temperament. But Epicurus and many other Greeks at the time conceived the gods to be a hypothetical state of bliss rather than higher bodies of judgment; they are indestructible entities that are completely invulnerable, enviable to mortals, and, most importantly, unconcerned about anything beyond the bliss and happiness they represent. They are mere role models for human beings “who emulate the happiness of the gods, within the limits imposed by human nature.”

Don’t worry about death

As D. S. Hutchinson wrote concerning this line, “While you are alive, you don’t have to deal with being dead, but when you are dead you don’t have to deal with it either, because you aren’t there to deal with it.” In Epicurus’ own words, “Death means nothing to us…when we exist, death is not yet present, and when death is present, then we do not exist.” Death, says Epicurus, is the greatest anxiety of all, in length and intensity. This anxiety about death impedes the quality and happiness of one’s life by the theory of afterlife: the worrying about whether or not one’s deeds and actions in life will translate well into the region of the gods, the wondering whether one will be assigned to an eternity of pain or to an eternity of pleasure.

What is good is easy to get

Sustenance and shelter, these things can be acquired by anyone—by both animal and human—with minimal effort, regardless of wealth. But if one wants more than one needs (over indulgency, gluttony, etc.), one is limiting the chances of satisfaction and happiness, and therefore creating a “needless anxiety” in one’s life. “What is good is easy to get” implies that the minimum amount of necessity it takes to satisfy an urge is the maximum amount of interest a person should have in satisfying that urge.[7]

What is terrible is easy to endure

The Epicureans understood that, in nature, illness and pain is not suffered for very long, for pain and suffering is either “brief or chronic…either mild or intense, but discomfort that is both chronic and intense is very unusual; so there is no need to be concerned about the prospect of suffering.” Like “What is good is easy to get,” recognizing one’s physical and mental limit and one’s threshold of pain—understanding how much pain the body or mind can endure—and maintaining confidence that pleasure only follows pain (and the avoidance of anxiety about the length of pain), is the remedy against prolonged suffering.

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Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.

Omar Khayyam

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Mrs. Moskowitz was trying to describe to the interior decorator exactly how she wanted her house done. She said, “I leave the art and design entirely to you. I ask only that whatever you do, it be spectacular. I want it done in such a way that when my dear best friend, Mrs. Finkelstein, should come in for the first time, she should instantly have a stroke with jealousy and drop dead.”

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Abe asked, “Is my face dirty or is it just my imagination?”

Mollie answered, “Your face is clean but I don’t know about your imagination.”

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A very zealous soul-winning young preacher recently came upon a Farmer working in his field. Being concerned about the farmer’s soul the preacher asked the man, “Are you laboring in the vineyard of the Lord, my good man?”

Not even looking at the preacher and continuing his work, the farmer replied, “Naw, these are soybeans.”

“You don’t understand,” said the preacher. “Are you a Christian?”

With the same amount of interest as his previous answer the farmer said, “Nope my name is Jones. You must be looking for Jim Christian. He lives a mile south of here.”

The young determined preacher tried again asking the farmer, “Are you lost?”

“Naw! I’ve lived here all my life,” answered the farmer.

“Are you prepared for the resurrection?” the fustrated preacher asked.

This caught the farmer’s attention and he asked, “When’s it gonna be?”

Thinking he had accomplished something the young Preacher replied, “It could be today, tomorrow, or the next day.”

Taking a handkerchief from his back pocket and wiping his brow, the farmer remarked, “Well, don’t mention it to my wife. She don’t get out much and she’ll wanna go all three days.”

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Everybody at the FBI seems to be a special agent. Don’t they have any regular ones?

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A man went to his lawyer and told him, “My neighbor owes me $500 and he doesn’t want to pay up.  What should I do?”

“Do you have any proof?” asked the lawyer.

“Nope,” replied the man.

“Okay, then write him a letter asking him for the $1000 he owed you,” said the lawyer.

“But it’s only $500,” replied the man.

“Precisely.  That’s what he will reply and we will have the proof we need to nail him.”

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I solved the parking problem.  I bought a parked car.

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As the passengers settled in on a West Coast commuter flight, a flight attendant announced, “We’d like you folks to help us welcome our new co-pilot. He’ll be performing his first commercial landing for us today, so be sure to give him a big round of applause when we come to a stop.”

The plane made an extremely bumpy landing, bouncing hard two or three times before taxiing to a stop. Still, the passengers applauded. Then the attendant’s voice came over the intercom, “Thanks for flying with us. And don’t forget to let our co-pilot know which landing you liked best.”

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I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.

Groucho Marx

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Honor the compassionate

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.”

Dalai Lama

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During our lifetime we all will encounter a wide variety of people, some are mean spirited but most are not. Some are really smart and are fun to listen to. Others are just good people getting by without hate or anger and doing the best they can. For me the people who have impressed me the most are those who are truly compassionate. These are people who regularly practice kindness without ulterior motive. They don’t have big egos rather they mostly avoid recognition. These are the folks you want as friends and to join your family through marriage.

Equally important is learning the benefits than come from being compassionate. Not through material reward but via personal wellbeing. I think many of the troubles so many folks face these days would disappear if the truly compassionate were in charge. Here is an article written by psychiatrist Kavetha Sundaramoorthy that can benefit us all.

6 Ways to Deepen Your Compassion to Help Other People

I thought I understood compassion. Having spent ten years of my life training to be a psychiatrist, I knew how to define it, describe it, and think about it. I thought I got it.

A few years ago, my brother was diagnosed with a serious mental illness. Being the mental health professional of the family, I took a long break to be with him as he navigated the initial stages of treatment. This experience taught me that compassion is more than being nice to someone for a few minutes or hours. True compassion is hard work, but it’s worthwhile. As Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.” In trying to help him, I too was changed for the better.

Among the many things I tried as part of the process, some worked. Here are the top six that have stood the test of time.

Listen.

Often while listening to someone, we are formulating replies in our mind, waiting for a lull in the conversation so we can interject. Try instead to just listen. Suspend all judgment and give the person your undivided attention. There is powerful healing in sharing your darkest secrets and having another person truly hear it and still love you.

Respond to the emotion, not the actual words.

Angry words may conceal fear; guilt may hide behind blame. Whenever I tried to refute my brother’s literal words, he became more insistent. When I tried to understand and respond to the underlying emotion, he began to trust and open up.

Get your own support system.

I’m a firm believer that we can only give unconditional love when we can receive it too. Make sure to get out, do things with people you love, and continue to experience life. Replenish your soul.

Remember the whole person.

When someone is spiraling into a negative path, you could lose sight of all their positive qualities. Make it a point to remind yourself, at that moment, of a particular strength she/he has. May be it’s his loyalty, or humor, or patience. See the whole person.

Put yourself in that situation mentally.

Suffering is universal. Almost all of us have felt joy and pain. The particular details may be unique, but the themes are universal. So, remind yourself of a time when you went through something related.

Meditate on this and remind yourself of every single emotion and worry you had, and how much you longed for empathy and compassion from a fellow traveler. Do this often, so that it becomes second nature.

You will fail sometimes, so forgive yourself.

Have compassion for yourself too. No one is perfect. Give yourself a break if you come up short sometimes. Remember you are just as human as anyone else. As long as your intentions and efforts are in the right direction most times, it will work out in the end.

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“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”

Aesop

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Bernie and Esther were not the most religious Jews and in fact they really only went to Temple once a year. As they were leaving the Temple, the Rabbi said, “Bernie, it sure would be nice to see you and Esther here more than once a year!”

“I know,” replied Bernie, “but at least we keep the Ten Commandments.”

“That’s great,” the Rabbi said. “I’m glad to hear that you keep the Commandments.”

“Yep,” Bernie said proudly, “Esther keeps six of them and I keep the other four.”

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A child will not spill on a dirty floor.

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Bill, Jim & Scott were at a convention together & were sharing a large suite on the top of a 75-story skyscraper. After a long day of meetings, they were shocked to hear that the elevators in their hotel were broken & they would have to climb 75 flights of stairs to get to their room.

Bill said to Jim & Scott, “Let’s break the monotony of this unpleasant task by concentrating on something interesting. I’ll tell jokes for 25 flights, Jim can sing songs for the next 25 flights and Scott can tell sad stories for the rest of the way.”

At the 26th floor, Bill stopped telling jokes & Jim began to sing. At the 51st floor Jim stopped singing & Scott began to tell sad stories.

“I will tell my saddest story first,” he said. “I left the room key in the car!!!

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“Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.”

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“He never won immortal fame

Nor conquered earthly ills,

Yet men weep for him all the same

He always paid his bills.”

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Opportunity may only knock once, but temptation raps for years.

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She said: Rosemary, my sister, went to the department store to check out the bridal registry of our niece whose wedding was coming up soon.  When my sister returned from the store, she tossed the gift list on a table and declared, “I think she’s too young to get married.”

“Why do you say that?”  I asked.

“Because,” Lisa said, “they’ve registered for Nintendo games.

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Our human compassion binds us the one to the other – not in pity or patronizingly, but as human beings who have learnt how to turn our common suffering into hope for the future.

Nelson Mandela

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

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