“If I keep a green bough in my heart, the singing bird will come.”
As you know I have been undergoing a few late in life changes. Because of aging and its occasionally resulting infirmities I sometimes have to temporally make some life style adjustments; other changes are the result of my looking for and finding life enhancement opportunities.
What I have discovered recently is that one often leads into the other. My most recent example was a few months of heart problems that required my participation in a cardiac rehab program. I have enjoyed a lot of things in life but exercise was never one of them until now. I felt so much better participating in a structured cardiac program that I enrolled in my local YMCA’s wellness program.
No one is more surprised than I am that I look forward to showing up at 5 AM each weekday morning to spend a half hour or more doing cardiac and/or strength exercises. But as often happens I also made a new friend and we try to take a little time each day talking about the good and bad things going on in our lives. A conversation the other day reminded me how some people are so busy being unhappy that they leave little time to be happy. Since I know it does not have to be that way I looked for some tips to offer those who want to be happy a process that can add joy into their lives. Here is one of the things I found on the net that I liked and feel is worth sharing you my special friends.
How to find happiness in life
The key to happiness is not difficult although it does seem to elude so many people. Here are my thoughts on happiness. “If you want to be happy then the recipe is simple…”
Step One – Plan For It
Too many people expect to win happiness in the lottery of life. Happiness is not a prize, it is a goal. Happiness does not just happen, it must be welcomed. If you do not expect and look for happiness then you most likely are missing opportunities to be happy every day. Make a life plan for your own happiness. What do you want? What will make you happy? Make a list, check it twice, and then move on to the next step.
Step Two – Let It Happen
Many people are afraid to be happy. They are unwilling to take risks or even make choices because all they can think about is the potential for loss. That is a perfect recipe for unhappiness. If you are unable to put yourself in the way of happiness then you will miss it every time. Take a chance or make a choice. What is the worst that can happen? If you don’t risk then you lose by default. If you risk then at least you have a chance at success.
Step Three – Open Yourself To It
The unhappy people that I know are usually unhappy for two reasons. One group believes they do not deserve happiness and the other group actually undermines their happiness by closing themselves off.
Everyone deserves to be happy and it makes me so sad when I see people settle for anything less.
It is bad enough to think you do not deserve happiness, but to actually refuse to allow yourself to be happy is definitely worse in my book. It is horribly destructive and obviously self-perpetuating, but some of these unhappy people, I believe, are to blame for the unhappiness of others – or at least contribute to it.
Step Four – Wave Good-bye To Your Troubles
One of the most frustrating things for me is when someone is unhappy about something specific – and yet they refuse to make a change to do away with the problem. Your job makes you unhappy? Get a new one! Your husband makes you unhappy? Work on your relationship? Your child makes you unhappy? Correct their behavior.
I know it is not always that simple but even in the most desperate situations there is some element that is subject to change. Focus on that one area and you might find the whole picture changes. If you surrender to your unhappiness then it will take over, but fighting it gives you the potential to win your own happiness and change your life. I know which path I’ll choose every day. In the end you and you alone have the power over your own happiness. You choose to be happy or to be unhappy. Which will you choose?
“Happiness is not a matter of good fortune or worldly possessions. It’s a mental attitude. It comes from appreciating what we have, instead of being miserable about what we don’t have. It’s so simple yet so hard for the human mind to comprehend.”
Bits and Pieces
She said, you know it’s a bad date when:
You order a Double Whopper and he says, “Hey, my name ain’t Rockefeller, honey!”
You’ve never heard someone speak with such passion about an ant farm.
He seems to know an awful lot about your shower routine.
Your dinner reservations are under, “Loser, party of 2.”
He’s especially proud of how long he can sustain a burp.
He’s been on Geraldo once and Jerry Springer, twice.
She also said, “My husband and I divorced over religious differences. He thought he was God, and I didn’t.”
He said, you know you’re on a bad date when:
You catch her giving her phone number to the guy cleaning your windshield.
She lunges at you several times with a steak knife.
She keeps calling you “Bachelor Number Two.”
“Whoa! Is it 8:15 already?”
She transitions the conversation by saying, “I’ve said enough about me. What do you think about me?”
“Few things are harder to put up with than a good example.”
A woman went to a doctor’s office. She was seen by one of the new doctors, but after about 4 minutes in the examination room, she burst out, screaming as she ran down the hall. An older doctor stopped and asked her what the problem was, and she explained.
The older doctor marched back to the first and demanded, “What’s the matter with you? Mrs. Terry is 63 years old, she has four grown children and seven grandchildren, and you told her she was *pregnant*?”
The new doctor smiled smugly as he continued to write on his clipboard. “Cured her hiccups though, didn’t I?
“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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