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There is still time

Ray’s Daily

January 24, 2020

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“The path you take is up to you. Make good choices, dream big, it is never too late.”

Chris Herren

 Never to olate

It seems like some of us believe that our lives are as good as they will ever be and quit trying to find more that we already have. It is almost as if they decide to stop searching for anything better than they already have. The result of their inaction is stagnation.

I have found that it never pays to give up the opportunity to find new and exciting things we can do. I know I have been pleasantly surprised by how rewarding these last few years have been for me.

Recently Angel Chernoff wrote an article on things we can do for ourselves. Here is an abridged copy of what she wrote.

9 Things it’s Not Too Late to Start Doing for Yourself

  1. It’s not too late to start doing the hard things you need to do to be happier. – Find the courage to do the hard things in life. The things no one else is doing. Because those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living—between knowing the path and walking the path… between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with happiness and success.
  2. It’s not too late to be a beginner. – We are products of what we know, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it. When you stop learning you stop living a meaningful life. Life’s richness does not come from always residing within familiar and comfortable territory. It’s when you venture out away from the familiar that you grow stronger and more capable.
  3. It’s not too late to stop comparing yourself to everyone else. – Let go of the foolish need to compare, and you’ll free yourself to accomplish what matters most to you. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that you don’t have to always be and do what everyone else is being and doing.
  4. It’s not too late to give yourself a loving stamp of approval. – I don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough in my own eyes. Repeat that to yourself and let it sink in. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you—it’s something inherent.
  5. It’s not too late to stop taking little daily annoyances personally. – Don’t pretend like everyone’s daily actions are about YOU. They aren’t. People’s actions are about THEM. So let it GO! How would your life be different if you walked away from drama, gossip and nonconstructive assumptions? Let today be the day you find out.
  6. It’s not too late to make yourself a daily priority.- Life gets a lot easier when you are your own best friend. So don’t forget about YOU out there, and don’t be too hard on yourself either. If you don’t take good care of yourself, then you can’t take good care of anyone else.
  7. It’s not too late to feel the warmth and joy of lifting others up. – Once your own self-care is in order, there is no exercise better for your heart and mind than reaching down and lifting people up.
  8. It’s not too late to stop thinking and thinking, and OVER-thinking EVERYTHING. – Sometimes your mind unnecessarily wrestles with events that aren’t even remotely likely.Stop over-thinking every dilemma. Answers come to a relaxed mind. Space allows things to fall into place. A calm attitude yields the best results.
  9. It’s not too late to sincerely embrace the life you’re presently living. – You have to accept that you can’t change a past experience, opinions of others at that moment in time, or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally accept this truth, then you will finally understand the true meaning of forgiving yourself and others. From this point you will finally be present and free.

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“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”

C.S. Lewis

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A blonde calls the round-the-clock tech support hotline to ask what hours the call center is open.

“The number you dialed is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week,” says the technician who answers the call.

“Is that Eastern or Pacific time?” asks the blonde.

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“Brevity is the soul of lingerie.”

Dorothy Parker

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She said: When our son was four months old, I caught my husband in another room, holding the baby on his lap, talking to him and pointing.

I was touched by this father-son bonding and went into the room to eavesdrop.

“Football,” he said slowly, pointing to the television. “This is football.”

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There are many wonderful things that will never be done if you do not do them.

Charles D. Gill

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The state trooper pulled Mr. Schwarz over and, after inspecting his license and registration, informed the motorist that he was going to have to spend the night in jail.

“What’s the charge? Mr. Schwarz demanded.

“None,” replied the officer. “It’s all part of the service.”

~~~

Those who matter don’t judge me.

Those who judge me don’t matter.

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A guy was hitchhiking on a very dark and stormy night. The night was getting on and no cars went by. Suddenly he saw a car roll slowly toward him and stop.

Without thinking about it, the guy jumped into the back seat and closed the door when he suddenly realized there was nobody behind the wheel!  Just then the car started slowly rolling forward again. He was beginning to get really freaked out when he noticed a curve in the road ahead. He was just thinking about climbing into the front seat when a hand mysteriously appeared through the window and moved the wheel.

The guy, paralyzed in terror, watched how the hand appeared every time right before a curve.

Gathering his courage, the guy finally jumped out of the car and ran to the nearest town.  Wet and in shock, he went to a restaurant and started telling everybody about the horrible experience he just went through.

About half an hour later, two guys walked into the same restaurant. They were looking around for a table when one said to the other, “Hey, look, isn’t that the jerk who got in the car when we were pushing it?”

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Learn to pause … or nothing worthwhile will catch up to you.

Doug King

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My dad and I were talking the other night about love and marriage. He told me he knew as early as their wedding what marriage to my mom would be like. It seems the minister asked my mom, “Do you take this man to be your husband?” And she said, “I do.” Then the minister asked my dad, “Do you take this woman to be your wife?” and my mom said, “He does.”

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If you were agoraphobic, you’d be home by now.

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A knight and his men return to their castle after a long hard day of fighting.

“How are we faring?” asks the king.

“Sire,” replies the knight, “I have been robbing and pillaging on your behalf all day, burning the towns of your enemies in the west.”

“What?!” shrieks the king. “I don’t have any enemies to the west!”

“Oh,” says the knight. “Well, you do now.”

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Learn as if you were going to live forever. Live as if you were going to die tomorrow.

Mahatma Gandhi

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My face in the mirror isn’t wrinkled or drawn.

My house isn’t dirty. The cobwebs are gone.

My garden looks lovely and so does my lawn.

I think I might never put my glasses back on.

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“It’s never too late, for with a purpose, a worthy goal and a motivation to reach those upper layers on the pyramid, a person can travel further in a few years than he might otherwise travel in a lifetime.”

Earl Nightingale

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

There is still time

Ray’s Daily

January 23, 2020

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Well begun is half done.

Aristotle

do it now

I sometimes wonder why so many of us seem satisfied with just spending our days coasting and not experiencing what else we might do. Some of us probably have spent our whole life time waiting for someone or something to offer us happiness. In reality I don’t think the chances of finding a more interesting life often comes to those who wait.

It is really up to us to step out, take a few risks, and discover what can enrich our days. It is the folks who are open and interested in what is going on who are the most satisfied. Here is a story about a young man who want’s his future to be decided by something he may never find. The secret is that no matter our age it is up to us to find what we want out of our days.

Getting Started

Chris’s parents were proud of him when he graduated from college. But it’s been six months and he hasn’t gotten a job yet. In fact, he hasn’t looked seriously. He has no idea what he wants to do and he’s thinking of grad school. He’s living at home with his parents and things are getting tense, especially with his father, who accuses Chris of being lazy and afraid to enter the real world.

Chris thinks his dad is being totally unreasonable. After all, he’s only young once and he needs some ‘space.’ During a recent argument, Chris said, ‘I’m not you, Dad. I have my own way of doing things. I want a job I enjoy.’

His dad replied, ‘That’s a nice idea, but in the end they call it ‘work’ because it’s about making a productive living – not having fun.’

There are many youngsters like Chris who are having trouble getting started with a serious job and becoming self-reliant. Some, like Peter Pan, just don’t want to grow up. Some are afraid of making a wrong decision or of being rejected. Others are victims of what psychologist’s call ‘magical thinking.’ They believe that when the time is right, everything will fall into place. So they wait for opportunity to come knocking or until they feel inspired or excited about their next step.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. What’s crucial is to begin. Things happen and opportunities appear most often when we’re moving, not standing still.

Momentum is vital. Basic physics says it’s easier to alter the course of a moving object than to start movement initially. In the end, it’s not really about finding yourself. It’s about making yourself.

The first steps are the hardest, but the key to success in anything is getting started.

Written by Michael Josephson

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Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.

Thomas Jefferson

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Today at the drugstore, the clerk was a gent.

From my purchase this chap took off ten percent.

I asked for the cause of a lesser amount;

And he answered, “Because of the Seniors Discount.”

 

I went to McDonald’s for a burger and fries;

And there, once again, got quite a surprise.

The clerk poured some coffee which he handed to me.

He said, “For you, Seniors, the coffee is free.”

 

Understand—I’m not old—I’m merely mature;

But some things are changing, temporarily, I’m sure.

The newspaper print gets smaller each day,

And people speak softer–can’t hear what they say.

 

My teeth are my own (I have the receipt),

And my glasses identify people I meet.

Oh, I’ve slowed down a bit…not a lot, I am sure.

You see, I’m not old…I’m only mature.

 

The gold in my hair has been bleached by the sun.

You should see all the damage that chlorine has done.

Washing my hair has turned it all white,

But don’t call it gray…saying “blond” is just right.

 

My car is all paid for…not a nickel is owed.

Yet a kid yells, “Old duffer…get off of the road!”

My car has no scratches…not even a dent.

Still I get all that guff from a punk who’s “Hell bent.”

 

My friends all get older…much faster than me.

They seem much more wrinkled, from what I can see.

I’ve got “character lines,” not wrinkles…for sure,

But don’t call me old…just call me mature.

 

The steps in the houses they’re building today

Are so high that they take…your breath all away;

And the streets are much steeper than ten years ago.

That should explain why my walking is slow.

 

But I’m keeping up on what’s hip and what’s new,

And I think I can still dance a mean boogaloo.

I’m still in the running…in this I’m secure,

 

I’m not really old … I’m only mature.

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“The thing that impresses me the most about America is the way parents obey their children.”

King Edward VIII

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After being laid off from five different jobs in four months, my Uncle Joe was hired by a warehouse.  But one day he lost control of a forklift and drove it off the loading dock. Surveying the damage, the owner shook his head and said he’d have to withhold 10 percent of Uncle Joe’s wages to pay for the repairs.

“How much will it cost?” asked my uncle.

“About $4,500,” said the owner.

“What a relief!” exclaimed Uncle Joe. “I’ve finally got job security!”

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Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

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When it comes to wine I’m very particular about what I buy. There are two things I look for before making my selection.

First, the word “Wine” must appear somewhere on the label. This is something I insist on.

Second, I look for a sign nearby that says “On Sale.”

Follow these two rules and you won’t go far wrong.

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For people who like peace and quiet – a phoneless cord.

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It was a May-December marriage, and as the old man climbed in to bed for the first time with his new bride, he asked, “Did your mother tell you what to do on your wedding night?”

“Yes,” she cooed, kissing him lightly, “She told me everything.”

“Good,” said the elderly gentleman as he turned out the light, “because I’ve forgotten.”

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A computer DOES save time at work. Now I can play solitaire without having to spend all that time shuffling real cards.

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“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”

Zig Ziglar

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

Choices

Ray’s Daily

January 22, 2020

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Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.

John C. Maxwell

choices

One of the responsibilities that comes with retirement is self-management. In our working lives much of what we do is dictated by our job responsibilities and the needs of our growing children.

When we retire for the first time in our lives we are totally responsible for managing everything we do. Few of us could forecast what our lives would be like as we dreamed of what the future would hold. In truth for some folks find themselves for the first time, these are folks who chose not to give up but rather to make the most of the years ahead. We don’t have to wait for retirement to make positive life choices, the earlier we do the better.

Recently Jon Gordon turned forty-nine and shared a list of things he has learned over the years. I have shortened the list somewhat but kept the ones that mean a lot to me, things that have helped me make my life choices.

49 YEARS

I turn 49 today, January 20th. I’ve learned a lot over the years and thought it would be fun and hopefully helpful to share lessons I’ve learned along the way.

  • You don’t choose the day you were born but you can make a lot of choices that determine how you live.
  • Grit is not something you develop. It’s something we are all born with. The key is to remember you’ve always had it.
  • Don’t worry about your greatness in the future. Just be great today.
  • Talkers talk and doers do. Be a doer.
  • Don’t listen to the naysayers. Listen to your heart that knows you were born to do this.
  • Keep dreaming even when your circumstances tell you it’s not going to happen.
  • When you serve others and help them grow, you grow.
  • Being positive doesn’t just make you better. It makes everyone around you better.
  • Happiness is an inside job. Don’t expect other people or things to make you happy.
  • Forgiveness is the ultimate weight loss.
  • Relationships are everything.
  • Don’t seek happiness. Decide to work with passion and purpose and happiness will find you.
  • If you stay humble and hungry great things will continue to happen.
  • When you appreciate, you elevate your mood and the people around you.
  • Abundance flows into your life when gratitude flows out of your heart.
  • There are a lot of great people in the world. Look for them and you’ll find them.
  • The more you give the more it comes back to you. It’s not why you do it but it’s what happens.
  • The best is yet to come.

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This is as true in everyday life as it is in battle: we are given one life and the decision is ours whether to wait for circumstances to make up our mind, or whether to act, and in acting, to live.

Omar Bradley

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Harold was an old man, he was sick, and he was in the hospital.  There was one young nurse that just drove him crazy.  Every time she came in, she would talk to him like he was a little child.  She would say in a patronizing tone of voice, “And how are we doing this morning, or are we ready for a bath, or are we hungry?”

Old Harold had had enough of this particular nurse.  One day, Old Harold had received breakfast, and pulled the juice off the tray, and put it on his bed side stand.  He had been given a Urine Bottle to fill for testing. The juice was apple juice.  So…..  you know where the juice went. The nurse came in a little later and picked up the urine bottle.  She looks at it.  “My, but it seems we are a little cloudy today…..”

At this, Old Harold snatched the bottle out of her hand, pops off the top, and drinks it down, saying, “Well, I’ll run it through again, and maybe I can filter it better this time.”

The nurse fainted……  Old Harold just smiled

~~~

She said: Antiques have become very popular. Right now there are 15 million Americans who have things that are old, funny-looking, don’t work and are only kept for sentimental purposes. Some of these are called antiques – and the rest are called husbands.

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WHAT HE SAYS / WHAT HE MEANS

“I’m going fishing.” / Really means: “I’m going to stand by a stream with a stick in my hand all day, while the fish swim by in complete safety.”

“It’s a guy thing.” / Really means: “There is no rational thought pattern connected with it, and you have no chance at all of making it logical.”

“Can I help with dinner?” / Really means: “Why isn’t it already on the table?”

“Uh-huh.” “Sure, honey.” “Yes, dear.” / Really means: Absolutely nothing. It’s a conditioned response.

“It would take too long to explain.” / Really means: “I have no idea how it works.”

“We’re going to be late.” / Really means: “Now I have a legitimate excuse to drive like a maniac.”

“Take a break, honey, you’re working too hard.” / Really means: “I can’t hear the game over the vacuum cleaner.”

“That’s interesting, dear.” / Really means: “Are you still talking?”

“Hey, I’ve got my reasons for what I’m doing.” / Really means: “And I sure hope I think of some pretty soon.”

“I can’t find it.” / Really means: “It didn’t fall into my outstretched hands, so I’m completely clueless.”

“You know I could never love anyone else.” / Really means: “I am used to the way you yell at me and realize it could be worse.”

“You look terrific.” / Really means: “Please don’t try on one more outfit. I’m starving.”

“I’m not lost. I know exactly where we are.” / Really means: “No one will ever see us alive again.”

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All food is Fat-Free – if you don’t eat it.

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A feminist is getting on a bus when, just in front of her, a Hassidic elderly Jewish man gets up from his seat.

She thinks to herself, “Here’s another man trying to keep up the customs of a patriarchal society by offering a poor, defenseless woman his seat,” so she pushes him back onto the seat.

A few minutes later, the elderly man tries to get up again. She is still insulted so she refuses to let him up again.

Finally, the old Jewish man says, “Look, lady, trouble I don’t want, but you’ve got to let me get up….. I’m twelve blocks past my stop already!”

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We can’t undo a single thing we have ever done, but we can make decisions today that propel us to the life we want and towards the healing we need.

Steve Maraboli

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

Be a good role model

Ray’s Daily

January 21, 2020

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“Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person’s life.”

Jackie Chan

Be Kind

A friend and I were talking the other day about the difficulty he was having in getting his employees to be more caring to their fellow workers and others. I never found a magic answer to how to do that in my careers. What I did try to do was to behave in a positive and caring way to those around me and those who reported to me. I found that when I behaved in such a manner and expected others to do so as well good things happened.

You can’t dictate behavior change, but you can set standards that allow you to reward good behavior. But most importantly we must be good role models. It is not always easy to behave as we should but it is important that we do so. Recently Marc Chernoff wrote a piece on how could improve. I have excerpted some of his thoughts below.

 Challenges to Improve Your Mental Strength (and Happiness)

Think a little less about managing your problems and a little more about managing your mindset. It’s time to challenge yourself to change the way you respond to life…

  • When a new day begins, challenge yourself to smile genuinely and gratefully.
  • When you don’t get what you want, challenge yourself to appreciate that there are lots of people in this world who will never have what you have right now.
  • When you catch yourself thinking the grass is greener elsewhere, challenge yourself to water the grass you’re standing on.
  • When there seems to be little hope, challenge yourself to find some.
  • When you catch yourself overthinking things, challenge yourself to take a step forward instead.
  • When you are completely uncertain about what the future will bring, challenge yourself to make the best and most positive use of the present.
  • When others say your ideas are crazy, challenge yourself to do what feels right anyway, to not care if your goals seem crazy to others, and to remember that the crazy ideas are the ones that often have the greatest impact.
  • When mistakes are made, challenge yourself to learn from them, laugh about them, and waste not a minute on past outcomes you can’t control.
  • When you find yourself trying to control too much, and thus enjoying too little, challenge yourself to let go, relax, take a deep breath and appreciate “what is” for a while.
  • When doing the wrong things is easier, challenge yourself to do the right thing, even if no one else will ever know—because YOU will know.
  • When you meet someone new, challenge yourself to be patient with them, to pay attention to them, and to remember that everyone you meet has something important to teach you.
  • When someone treats you poorly, challenge yourself to treat them with kindness and respect anyway – not because they are nice, but because you are (and then walk the other way if you must).
  • When someone you meet is lost, challenge yourself to help them find their way.
  • When a friend falls down, challenge yourself to be the first to extend a hand.
  • When each day has ended, challenge yourself to appreciate that you have done your very best.

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“Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.”

Barbara De Angelis

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The lawyer’s son wanted to follow in his father’s footsteps, so he went to law school and graduated with honors. Then he went home to join his father’s firm. At the end of his first day at work, he rushed into his father’s office and said, “Father, father! In one day I broke the Smith case that you’ve been working on for so long!”

His father yelled, “You idiot! We’ve been living on the funding of that case for ten years!”

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I have my standards. They may be low, but I have them.

Bette Midler

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As he lay on his deathbed he spoke, “Sara, I want you should know before I die that Ginsburg the tailor owes  me $200, and Morris the butcher owes me $50, and Klein next door owes me $300.”

His wife turned to the children and said, “What a wonderful man your father is. Even when he’s dying, he’s got the brains to realize who owes him money.”

The old man continued, “And Sara I want you to also know that I owe the landlord a hundred dollars.”

To which his wife cried, “Oh oh, now he’s getting delirious!”

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If ignorance is bliss, why aren’t more people happy?

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A very religious couple was touring the Holy Land during the Christmas season and decided it would be very meaningful to them to spend Christmas Eve in Bethlehem, the birth place of Jesus. Arriving there, they searched high and low for a room, but none was available at any price. Finally, they pulled up in front of the Sheraton-Bethlehem and the husband got out of the car, telling his wife: “Stay here, sweetie.

Let me see if I can do something  for us.” He approached the desk and the clerk told him there were no rooms. “Sorry, sir. It’s Christmas Eve, our busiest time.” No matter how much the man offered to pay, the clerk said he had nothing. Finally, the man told the clerk, “I bet if I told you my name was Joseph, that the woman waiting in the car was called Mary, and that she had a newborn infant, you’d find us a room.” “Well,” stammered the clerk, “I– I suppose so.” “Okay,” said the man. “I guarantee you, they’re not coming tonight, so we’ll take their room.”

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“My doctor said I was paranoid… well, he didn’t actually say it, but I could tell he was thinking it.”

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Bidding at a local auction was proceeding furiously when the auctioneer suddenly announced, “A gentleman in this room has lost a wallet containing $10,000. If it is returned, he will pay a reward of $2,000.”

There was a moment’s silence, and then from the back of the room came the cry, “Two thousand five hundred!”

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“You can say any foolish thing to a dog, and the dog will give you this look that says, “My God, you’re right! I never would’ve thought of that!”

Dave Barry.

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A chap who frequently left the office to play golf instructed his secretary to tell all callers that he was away from his desk.

After he left the office, a member of his foursome forgot which course they were playing that day, and called for information.

The loyal girl would only reply that her boss was away from his desk.

“Just tell me, “the golfer persisted, “Is he twenty miles away from his desk, or thirty miles.”

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“A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.”

Amelia Earhart

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

Do Care

Ray’s Daily

January 20, 2020

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To my mind, having a care and concern for others is the highest of the human qualities.

Fred Hollows

casing

Here we go again, another week. It is up to us to make it worthwhile.

Unfortunately, too many folks decide they don’t really need to make an effort to reinforce relationships with friends and acquaintances. I find that people who demonstrate an interest and concern for others are the most appreciated and well-liked individuals that I know.

Most prople are good people, it is just that some of us fail to let people know how much we appreciate them. I recently read an article written by Charles M. Marcus suggesting ways business people can forge positive relationships, I have abridged the article to focus on how we can use the techniques in our everyday lives.

Ways to Stand out From the Crowd

by Charles M. Marcus

  • Make it a habit to follow-up with people promptly. It sounds simple, right? In my experience, and surveys regularly back this up, 67% (amazingly!) of people do not follow up in business.  Whatever business you are in, if it involves making a sale, signing that contract, or building relationships, the best way to stand out from the crowd is to follow-up promptly, follow-through, and be persistent and determined.
  • Equally as important as following-up is taking the time to respond to people who leave you messages. This is only common courtesy.  How often do we not find the time to follow-up with someone who has emailed us or left a voice-mail unless we know specifically why they have contacted us, and even then we do not always take the time to respond.
  • When you are speaking to people, give them 100% of your attention, and I mean 100%..
  • Develop your listening skills, most people are not truly good listeners. I have found that you gain much more from being a great listener than being a great talker. Be interested in other people and what their point of view is. Ask lots of open-ended questions.
  • Get in to the habit, and that is all it is, of sending a hand written note or card to someone who has been nice, courteous or helpful to you.
  • If you belong to an association or a group either in your personal or professional life, and this includes a church, synagogue, mosque, etc., get involved. Do not get involved because you want something in return, but because you want to contribute. People will respect and acknowledge you for it, look at you and treat you differently. 
  • Invest one hour a day, at least, to your own individual personal and professional development. You can take the one hour all at once, or break it in to segments, whatever fits in to your lifestyle and schedule. During that time read a book, maybe an autobiography of someone you admire, listen to tapes and the words of wisdom from the experts in the fields and areas of your life that you want to improve.Never stop learning.
  • Stretch your comfort zone; do one new thing every day. Take a chance on something you have always wanted to try. Don’t be afraid of being rejected, of people saying no to you, or of failing.  The people who stand out from the crowd are the ones prepared to take that chance.

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Success and all good things in life, start with a genuine concern for others.

Mike Vance

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Fanny and Myron get married and on their first night in bed, Myron puts his arm around Fanny and very sweetly whispers, “Fanny darling, please pull up your nightgown.”

Very sweetly Fanny answers, “Nooo.”

Myron asks again, a little sterner, “Fanny pull up your nightgown.”

Fanny again says, “No.”

Myron is now angry and says, “Fanny, pull up your nightgown or I’m going out the door and you’ll never see me again.”

“No.” says Fanny.

So Myron gets up and goes out the front door, slamming it behind him. Fanny immediately gets up and locks the door.

Not too long after, Myron is back. He tries the front door but finds it locked. So he taps on the door and says, “Fanny, my darling, open the door, it’s me.”

Fanny says, “Nooo.”

Myron knocks a little louder, “Fanny, sweetness, please open the door.”

“No.” says Fanny.

Myron starts kicking the door and shouts, “Fanny, open this door right now or I’ll break it down.”

Fanny says, “Really? A door you can break down, but a nightgown you can’t pull up?”

~~~

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”

Laurence J. Peter

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This is the transcript of the ACTUAL radio conversation of a US naval ship with Canadian authorities off the coast of Newfoundland in October 1995. Radio conversation released by the Chief of Naval Operations 10-10-95.

Canadians: Please divert your course 15 degrees the South to avoid a collision.

Americans: Recommend you divert your course 15 degrees the North to avoid a collision.

Canadians: Negative. You will have to divert your course 15 degrees to the South to avoid a collision.

Americans: This is the Captain of a US Navy ship. I say again, divert YOUR course.

Canadians: No. I say again, you divert YOUR course.

Americans: THIS IS THE AIRCRAFT CARRIER USS LINCOLN, THE SECOND LARGEST SHIP IN THE UNITED STATES’ ATLANTIC FLEET. WE ARE ACCOMPANIED BY THREE DESTROYERS, THREE CRUISERS AND NUMEROUS SUPPORT VESSELS. I DEMAND THAT YOU CHANGE YOUR COURSE 15 DEGREES NORTH, I SAY AGAIN, THAT’S ONE FIVE DEGREES NORTH, OR COUNTER-MEASURES WILL BE UNDERTAKEN TO ENSURE THE SAFETY OF THIS SHIP.

Canadians: This is a lighthouse. Your call!

~~~

“Beauty is silent eloquence.”

French Proverb

~~~

My first grade daughter and her friend both needed new boots as winter approached. The friend got in the car one morning and finally had gotten her boots.

“Tina,” I commented, “I see you got new boots! Where did you get them?”

“At the store,” she answered.

“Which one?” I asked.

She began looking at her new boots and after a pause said, “Both of them!”

~~~

A teen-aged boy with spiked hair, nose ring, and baggy clothes was overheard telling a friend, “I don’t really like to dress like this, but it keeps my parents from dragging me everywhere with them.”

~~~

My sister brought her daughter a really nice Spinet Piano for her birthday.

A few weeks later, I asked my sister how her daughter was doing.

“Oh,” she said, “I persuaded her to switch to a clarinet.”

“How come?” I asked.

“Well,” my sister answered, “because with a clarinet, she can’t sing….”

~~~

Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people, brings happiness.

Harold Kushner

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

Keep Your Balance

Ray’s Daily

January 17, 2020

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It’s all about quality of life and finding a happy balance between work and friends and family.

Philip Green

juggiling

Wow, another week is ending, it seems that the older I get the faster time goes by. It is not just my naps that fill my day, most of it is caregiving and staying involved in our community. I also especially enjoy visiting with old friends who are kind enough to stop by.

I truly feel fortunate that I am provided a wide variety of alternatives to choose from each day. I do like the fact that my time is my own and what I do is up to me. I even spend time learning and enjoying the many cultural offerings available to us all.

The big thing is that what we do is up to us and the choices we make. The freedom most of us have allows is to do what we have decided is important to us. Here is a piece I saved that talks about how we need to balance our activities.

Juggle Balls

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them – work, family, health, friends and spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life. How?

Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.

Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL the days of your life.

Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.

Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us each together.

Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.

Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.

Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you are going.

Don’t forget that a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.

Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.

Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

By Brian Dyson

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Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.

Dolly Parton

~~~

She said: I was having trouble with the idea of turning 30 and was oversensitive to any signs of advancing age.  When I found a prominent gray hair in my bangs, I pointed to my forehead.

“Have you seen this?” I indignantly asked my husband.

“What?” he asked. “The wrinkles?”

~~~

It’s time to start living the life you’ve imagined.

Henry James

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A wife, one evening, drew her husband’s attention to the couple next door and said, “Do you see that couple? How devoted they are? He kisses her every time they meet.

Why don’t you do that?”

“I would love to,” replied the husband, “but I don’t know her well enough.”

~~~

Mom, I’ll always love you, but I’ll never forgive you for cleaning my face with spit on a hanky.

~~~

So true in the 21st Century …

Our communication – Wireless

Our telephone – Cordless

Our cooking – Fireless

Our youth – Jobless

Our food – Fatless

Our labour – Effortless

Our conduct – Worthless

Our relationship – Loveless

Our attitude – Careless

Our feelings – Heartless

Our politics – Shameless

Our education – Valueless

Our follies – Countless

Our arguments – Baseless

Our boss – Brainless

Our Job – Thankless

Our Salary – Much Less

~~~

“When I die, I want to die like my grandmother who died peacefully in her sleep.

Not screaming like all the passengers in her car.”

~~~

The holiday bowl games were in full swing and we had invited some other football fans over.

One couple brought their active two-year-old son, who began playing with a dish that was filled with antique buttons. After a few near disasters, my husband quietly removed the temptation.

The next morning, I realized the bowl was gone and went upstairs. “Don, where is the button bowl”? I asked my just-awakening husband.

“Gee, I don’t know for sure,” replied my spouse, who prides himself on knowing the answer to any sports trivia question.

“I think it’s in Florida.”

~~~

It is impossible to gain a toehold when acting like a heel.

~~~

She said: Stopping to pick up my daughter from Kindergarten, I found out that the topic of “Show and Tell” that day had been parents’ occupations.

The teacher pulled me aside. Whispering, she advised, “You might want to explain a little bit more to your daughter what you do for a living.”

I work as a training consultant and often conduct my seminars in motel conference rooms.

When I asked why, the teacher explained, “Your daughter told the class she wasn’t sure what you did, but said you got dressed real pretty and went to work at motels.”

~~~

Too much of one thing can end up creating stress; this is something that no one needs in their life. But living a life in balance can provide harmony and peace.

Catherine Pulsifer

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Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

 

What do you look for?

Ray’s Daily

January 16, 2020

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“Your mind creates your reality. If you expect nothing, you open up the universe to give you options. If you expect the worst, you usually get it.”

James Patterson

Find

I worry about the folks who seem to always be down. They are the ones who spend much of their time fretting about things we can’t control. In my experience the downers are like the weather, it may storm but the storm will be replaced by fair weather.

I sometimes think that those who always seem to suffer the blues do so because they look to find the bad in their lives and since they devote their time to finding it, they do. I have found over the years that my belief that things will turn out well almost always turns out to be true.

I don’t know about you but I don’t want to spend my time avoiding others in case they might be unpleasant, that is the sure path to lonesomeness. I much rather see everyone as having a good heart and almost always they do.

The following story reminds that we find what we look for.

What you ask for

The world around you is whatever you sincerely ask of it. Your life is precisely what you ask of it, with your thoughts, your actions, and your attitude. All things and events may come and go. Yet, reality is what you choose to do with it all.

The value you look for, and the value you expect, is the value you will find. What you decide to make of anything will ultimately define for you what it is. What you truly expect to see, you will most certainly see. The way you genuinely expect to live is the way your life will surely proceed.

When you know without the slightest doubt that it will happen, it will happen. Expect the very best, in every moment, with every thought, every action, and it will be.

Author Unknown

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“For, he that expects nothing shall not be disappointed, but he that expects much – if he lives and uses that in hand day by day – shall be full to running over.”

Edgar Cayce

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The Top Signs You’re Out of Shape

  1. You’ve ever torn something just trying to turn off the alarm clock.
  2. People at work only refer to you by saying “Hey fatso!”
  3. You’ve thrown your back out by carrying a bag of groceries.
  4. Random strangers come up, poke you in the stomach and expect you to giggle.
  5. Your record is 34 Pushups and you could have done more if the Ice Cream Man would have taken plastic.
  6. You get the Christmas gift of Jigglin’ To The Oldies.
  7. You cramp up while watching the New York City Marathon.
  8. Watching Rocky 5 is your idea of a workout video.
  9. The sales clerk nicely but firmly pulls you away from the jeans rack and whispers “Its Sansabelt Time, Tubby”

~~~

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery even on a detour.

~~~

This guy couldn’t decide whether to go to Salt Lake City or Denver for vacation, so he called the airlines to get prices. “Airfare to Denver is $300,” said a cheery salesperson.

“And what about Salt Lake City?”

“We have a really great rate to Salt Lake–$99.00, but there is a stopover.”

“Where?”

“Denver.”

~~~

Someday is not a day of the week.

~~~

You Know You’re Having a Bad Day When…

  1. Your horn sticks on the freeway behind 32 Hell’s Angels motorcyclists.
  2. You’ve been at work 3 hours before you notice that your fly is open or your blouse unbuttoned.
  3. Your twin sister forgets your birthday.
  4. Your birthday cake collapses from weight of the candles.

5  When the doctor tells you are in fine health for someone twice your age.

  1. It costs more to fill up your car than it did to buy it.
  2. Everyone avoids you the morning after the company office party.
  3. Your income tax refund check bounces.
  4. The bird singing outside your window is a vulture.
  5. People think that you’re 40 and you’re only 25.
  6. Your blind date turns out to be your ex-wife/husband.
  7. You put both contacts into the same eye.
  8. Your mother approves of the person you’re dating.
  9. Your doctor tells you that you’re allergic to chocolate.
  10. You have to borrow from your Visa card to pay your Mastercard.

~~~

“Imagination will often carry us to worlds that never were. But without it we go nowhere.”

Carl Sagan

~~~

An old man and a young boy were traveling through their village with their donkey. The boy rode on the donkey and the old man walked. As they went along they passed some people who remarked it was a shame the old man was walking and the boy was riding.  The man and boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed positions.

Later, they passed some people that remarked, “What a shame, he makes that little boy walk.” They then decided they both would walk.

Soon they passed some more people who thought they were stupid to walk when they had a decent donkey to ride. So, they both rode the donkey.

Now they passed some people that shamed them by saying “how awful to put such a load on the poor donkey.” The boy and man said they were probably right, so they decided to carry the donkey.”

As they crossed the bridge, they lost their grip on the animal and he fell into the river and drowned. The moral of the story: If you try to please everyone, you might as well kiss your ass good-bye.

~~~

One half of all the troubles in the world can be traced to saying, “YES” too quickly and not saying, “NO” soon enough.

~~~

In a country home that seldom had guests, the young son was eager to help his mother after his father appeared with two dinner guests from the office. When the dinner was nearly over, the boy went to the kitchen and proudly carried in the first piece of apple pie, giving it to his father, who passed it to a guest. The boy came in with a second piece of pie and again watched his father give it to a guest. This was too much for the boy, who said, “It’s no use, Dad. The pieces are all the same size.”

~~~

“Don’t just show kindness in passing or to be courteous. Show it in depth, show it with passion, and expect nothing in return. Kindness is not just about being nice; it’s about recognizing another human being who deserves care and respect.”

Colin Powell

~~~

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

 

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