January 29, 2020
The most unrealistic person in the world is the cynic, not the dreamer.
It seems that these days more and more people have given up on their ability to be happy. It appears that we have become so polarized that many of us don’t even talk to others having closed our minds to the good around us.
The sad thing is what the cynics only see storm clouds. I think cynicism is a great barrier to building warm interpersonal relationships. I know I much prefer making friends with folks who appreciate the positive and don’t focus on the negative.
Here is a piece I picked up at he BITTERSWEET blog that I like.
Cynicism is sneaky and subtle. It creeps upon one’s hopes frame by frame, snatching hatchling hope with suspicions of corruption and incompetence, permitting our hearts to remain unaffected and unengaged—wholly ours and not each other’s. The needs, too big, and my little, not enough. This cynical worldview centers on issues, polarities, and the magnitude of it all to the degree that action seems futile and fatigue inevitable.
But it’s false and dissatisfying, precisely because cynicism is a way of not seeing. It requires no commitment, spreading and thickening without our conscious choice. It’s easy to settle in the defaults presented to us, accept the sweeping narratives of despair and confusion.
So how to turn toward that which is lovely and just, right and beautiful? What is the practice, the posture? This takes extraordinary commitment and intention. But unlike cynicism, it is not exhausting. This practice draws us in a deep way toward meaning, humility, gratitude, and respect. Toward fullness. Of heart and soul, of belief and hope. With this choice to reject cynicism and see beyond it, we are reacquainted with awe and wonder and the joy of mystery and life. We are freed to see people as infinitely dimensional and unconditionally worthy of respect and listening—not condemned and small, but expansive and perfectly made. Each of us given to each other. This way of seeing turns bleakest terrain treasure-filled, every plain rock a marvel gem.
Cynicism masquerades as wisdom, but it is the farthest thing from it. Because cynics don’t learn anything. Because cynicism is a self-imposed blindness, a rejection of the world because we are afraid it will hurt us or disappoint us.
PATIENCE (pa*shens)n. The most important ingredient for dating, marriage and children.
WATERPROOF MASCARA (wah*tr*pruf mas*kar*ah)n. Comes off if you cry, shower, or swim, but will not come off if you try to remove it.
VALENTINE’S DAY (val*en*tinez dae)n. A day when you have dreams of a candlelight dinner, diamonds, and romance, but consider yourself lucky to get a card.
Little Johnny and his family lived in the country, and as a result seldom had guests. He was eager to help his mother after his father appeared with two dinner guests from the office.
When the dinner was nearly over, Little Johnny went to the kitchen and proudly carried in the first piece of apple pie, giving it to his father who passed it to a guest. Little Johnny came in with a second piece of pie and gave it to his father, who again gave it to a guest.
This was too much for Little Johnny, who said, “It’s no use, Dad. The pieces are all the same size.”
The child comes home from his first day at school.
His mother asks, “Well, what did you learn today?”
The kid replies, “Not enough. They want me to come back tomorrow.”
Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you don’t have a leg to stand on.
A DC-10 had an exceedingly long roll out after landing when his approach speed was just a little too fast.
San Jose Tower: “American 751 heavy, turn right at the end, if able. If not able, take the Guadeloupe exit off of Highway 101 and make a right at the light to return to the airport.
- What’s the difference between a nine-month pregnant woman and a Playboy centerfold?
- Nothing, if the pregnant woman’s husband knows what’s good for him.
The early worm gets eaten by the bird, so sleep late.
I remember when Grandmas tended to their knitting, and their cookies were just swell. They were always at the ready, when you needed some advice. And their sewing (I can tell you) was available–and nice. Well, Grandma’s not deserted you, she dearly loves you still..
She prints pictures by the pound. She’s right there when you need her, you really aren’t alone, She’s out now with her “‘puter pals,” but she took her new cell phone. You can also leave a message on her answering machine; or page her at the fun meet;
She’s been there since eight fifteen. Yes, the world’s a very different place, there is no doubt of that. So “E” her from her web page, or join her in a chat. She’s joined the electronic age,
and it really seems to suit her.
So don’t expect the same old gal, cause Grandma’s gone “Computer”
There are very few personal problems that cannot be solved through a suitable application of high explosives.
He went to United Airlines and asked for a reservation from Los Angeles to New York. The clerk knew that the plane was very full with baggage and passengers.
“How much do you weigh, Sir?” asked the clerk.
“With or without clothes?” the passenger asked.
“Well,” said the clerk, “how do you intend to travel?”
Grandchildren are God’s reward for not killing your children.
A young man decided to join the police force. As a recruit he was asked during the exam, “What would you do if you had to arrest your own mother?”
He answered, “Call for backup.”
The cynic thinks that he is being practical and that the hopeful person is not. It is actually the other way around. Cynicism is paralyzing, while the naive person tries what the cynic says is impossible and sometimes succeeds.
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