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We Made the Right Decision

Ray’s Daily

January 28, 2020


“The longer I live the more beautiful life becomes.”

Frank Lloyd Wright

Graceful aging

Many folks ask me these days about how is my graceful aging effort going. In truth it is better than I thought it would be. Part of the secret has been our move to our new home. Our former residence was great but large and more than we needed. So with the help of our children we moved to an independent living facility, at the Forum at the Crossings here in Indianapolis.

Some of you asked why we chose the Forum. Here are some of the reasons

  • It was original built for luxury senior living, so the apartments are spacious with all we needed.
  • No buy in was required and the rents are reasonable.
  • Rent includes three meals a day, maid service, complimentary limo service, utilities and cable TV.
  • There is an onsite beauty/barber shop, convenience store, fitness room and more.
  • It is an active community with plenty of entertainment, exercise classes and other activities.
  • We have an onsite health and wellness well-staffed facility. Assisted living can also be provided.
  • Best of all is the warm and friendly staff and the amiable residents who have become friends.

So Instead of losing what we had we have a life that is better than it was and I am free to concentrate on helping my wife deal with her health problems.

If you or a loved one is considering retirement living, I think you might like where we live, plus I would enjoy your company

Here are excerpts from an article by Ruth Soukup that I find is on target, getting older for some ou allows us to get better.


REDUCE STRESS – The biggest way to age gracefully? Put a stop to all that stress! I know, it’s easier said than done. Unfortunately, stress and strain cause us to age. A furrowed brow may become a wrinkle. Smoking, drinking and other unhealthy ways to cope with stress also take a heavy toll.

GET PLENTY OF SLEEP – Sleep! Burning the candle at both ends leaves us feeling frazzled and exhausted. Good sleep hygiene is vital! Most of us need 7-8 hours per night to look and feel our best.

EAT A BALANCED DIET – A balanced diet helps us ward off many aging-related effects. A diet rich in fruits and vegetables means we’ll receive plenty of vitamins, minerals and antioxidants. It also means our weight will remain stable (fluctuations also cause us to appear older and take a toll on skin).

LEARN SOMETHING NEW – One of the true secrets for staying sharp and young is to never stop learning. Life is full of chances to learn new skills, foster new talents and grow our abilities.

MOVE OFTEN – Exercise keeps us young. In fact, moving more actually slows aging at the cellular level. Plus, you’ll experience an increase in energy, flexibility and overall sense of well-being.

EMBRACE SIMPLICITY – When it comes to aging gracefully, simplicity is key. You see, when our homes, closets, makeup bags and lives are full of clutter, it weighs us down. You don’t need to scale back completely, but simplifying and discovering what really makes you happiest is important.

DON’T FIGHT THE TIDE – The fact is, aging is inevitable. We either throw in the towel and give up, or we embrace it as a natural part of life.

LEARN MINDFULNESS – If we want to slow the turn of time (which, yes, seems to accelerate as we get older) we must learn to live in the moment. When we’re fully aware in the moment, we’re engaged, alive, connected to those around us and what’s happening in front of us. 13. BE JOYFUL – In truth, the best way to age gracefully is to simply focus on happiness. What brings you the most satisfaction and joy? Discover those activities and incorporate them into your day as often as possible.


“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.”

Sophia Loren


wo advertising executives were having lunch and talking. The young exec trainee said to the older, wiser man, “Where has Ben Harris been hanging out? I haven’t seen him for a while.”

The senior exec replied, “Haven’t you heard? Ben Harris went to that great ad agency in the sky.”

“Good Lord,” replied the junior man, “You’re kidding me, right?

What did he have?”

“Oh, nothing much,” replied the elder exec. “A small toothpaste account and a couple of discount stores, but nothing much worth going after.”


Save the whales. Collect the whole set.


A minister of a church loved peach brandy. One of his congregants would make him a bottle each Christmas. One year, when the minister went to visit his friend, hoping for his usual Christmas present, he was not disappointed as he unwrapped the homemade brandy. However, his friend told him that he had to thank him for the peach brandy from the pulpit the next Sunday.

So the next Sunday the minister suddenly remembered that he had to make a public announcement that he was being supplied alcohol from a member of the church. That morning, his friend sat in the church with a grin on his face, waiting to see the minister’s embarrassment.

The minister climbed into the pulpit and said, “Before we begin, I have an announcement. I would very much like to thank my friend, Joe, for his kind gift of peaches… and for the spirit in which they were given!”


“You know you’re getting old when you get that one candle on the cake. It’s like, ‘See if you can blow THIS out.'”

Jerry Seinfeld


When I need a suit, my wife and I go to the store. The salesman and my wife make selections from the rack. I try them on. My wife and the salesman discuss the fit, remarking on the fullness, thinness or any asymmetry of my body. The jacket and pants are pulled, tucked, pleated and bunched in assessing the need for tailoring.

Once a suit is chosen, my wife and the store’s tailor repeat the fitting procedure and then negotiate a date when the suit will be ready.

On leaving the store, I may talk if I wish.


To learn from your mistakes you have to admit you make them.


One Class of ’92 buddy of mine had filled out their classmates.com profile form with this information:

Marital Status:  Not Good

Wife’s Name:  Plaintiff


“My physical body may be less efficient and less beautiful in old age. But God has given me an enormous compensation: my mind is richer my Soul is broader and my wisdom is at a peak. I am so happy with the riches of my advanced peak age that, contrary to Faust, I would not wish to return to youth.”

Robert Muller


Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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