January 20, 2020
To my mind, having a care and concern for others is the highest of the human qualities.
Here we go again, another week. It is up to us to make it worthwhile.
Unfortunately, too many folks decide they don’t really need to make an effort to reinforce relationships with friends and acquaintances. I find that people who demonstrate an interest and concern for others are the most appreciated and well-liked individuals that I know.
Most prople are good people, it is just that some of us fail to let people know how much we appreciate them. I recently read an article written by Charles M. Marcus suggesting ways business people can forge positive relationships, I have abridged the article to focus on how we can use the techniques in our everyday lives.
Ways to Stand out From the Crowd
by Charles M. Marcus
- Make it a habit to follow-up with people promptly. It sounds simple, right? In my experience, and surveys regularly back this up, 67% (amazingly!) of people do not follow up in business. Whatever business you are in, if it involves making a sale, signing that contract, or building relationships, the best way to stand out from the crowd is to follow-up promptly, follow-through, and be persistent and determined.
- Equally as important as following-up is taking the time to respond to people who leave you messages. This is only common courtesy. How often do we not find the time to follow-up with someone who has emailed us or left a voice-mail unless we know specifically why they have contacted us, and even then we do not always take the time to respond.
- When you are speaking to people, give them 100% of your attention, and I mean 100%..
- Develop your listening skills, most people are not truly good listeners. I have found that you gain much more from being a great listener than being a great talker. Be interested in other people and what their point of view is. Ask lots of open-ended questions.
- Get in to the habit, and that is all it is, of sending a hand written note or card to someone who has been nice, courteous or helpful to you.
- If you belong to an association or a group either in your personal or professional life, and this includes a church, synagogue, mosque, etc., get involved. Do not get involved because you want something in return, but because you want to contribute. People will respect and acknowledge you for it, look at you and treat you differently.
- Invest one hour a day, at least, to your own individual personal and professional development. You can take the one hour all at once, or break it in to segments, whatever fits in to your lifestyle and schedule. During that time read a book, maybe an autobiography of someone you admire, listen to tapes and the words of wisdom from the experts in the fields and areas of your life that you want to improve.Never stop learning.
- Stretch your comfort zone; do one new thing every day. Take a chance on something you have always wanted to try. Don’t be afraid of being rejected, of people saying no to you, or of failing. The people who stand out from the crowd are the ones prepared to take that chance.
Success and all good things in life, start with a genuine concern for others.
Fanny and Myron get married and on their first night in bed, Myron puts his arm around Fanny and very sweetly whispers, “Fanny darling, please pull up your nightgown.”
Very sweetly Fanny answers, “Nooo.”
Myron asks again, a little sterner, “Fanny pull up your nightgown.”
Fanny again says, “No.”
Myron is now angry and says, “Fanny, pull up your nightgown or I’m going out the door and you’ll never see me again.”
“No.” says Fanny.
So Myron gets up and goes out the front door, slamming it behind him. Fanny immediately gets up and locks the door.
Not too long after, Myron is back. He tries the front door but finds it locked. So he taps on the door and says, “Fanny, my darling, open the door, it’s me.”
Fanny says, “Nooo.”
Myron knocks a little louder, “Fanny, sweetness, please open the door.”
“No.” says Fanny.
Myron starts kicking the door and shouts, “Fanny, open this door right now or I’ll break it down.”
Fanny says, “Really? A door you can break down, but a nightgown you can’t pull up?”
“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”
Laurence J. Peter
This is the transcript of the ACTUAL radio conversation of a US naval ship with Canadian authorities off the coast of Newfoundland in October 1995. Radio conversation released by the Chief of Naval Operations 10-10-95.
Canadians: Please divert your course 15 degrees the South to avoid a collision.
Americans: Recommend you divert your course 15 degrees the North to avoid a collision.
Canadians: Negative. You will have to divert your course 15 degrees to the South to avoid a collision.
Americans: This is the Captain of a US Navy ship. I say again, divert YOUR course.
Canadians: No. I say again, you divert YOUR course.
Americans: THIS IS THE AIRCRAFT CARRIER USS LINCOLN, THE SECOND LARGEST SHIP IN THE UNITED STATES’ ATLANTIC FLEET. WE ARE ACCOMPANIED BY THREE DESTROYERS, THREE CRUISERS AND NUMEROUS SUPPORT VESSELS. I DEMAND THAT YOU CHANGE YOUR COURSE 15 DEGREES NORTH, I SAY AGAIN, THAT’S ONE FIVE DEGREES NORTH, OR COUNTER-MEASURES WILL BE UNDERTAKEN TO ENSURE THE SAFETY OF THIS SHIP.
Canadians: This is a lighthouse. Your call!
“Beauty is silent eloquence.”
My first grade daughter and her friend both needed new boots as winter approached. The friend got in the car one morning and finally had gotten her boots.
“Tina,” I commented, “I see you got new boots! Where did you get them?”
“At the store,” she answered.
“Which one?” I asked.
She began looking at her new boots and after a pause said, “Both of them!”
A teen-aged boy with spiked hair, nose ring, and baggy clothes was overheard telling a friend, “I don’t really like to dress like this, but it keeps my parents from dragging me everywhere with them.”
My sister brought her daughter a really nice Spinet Piano for her birthday.
A few weeks later, I asked my sister how her daughter was doing.
“Oh,” she said, “I persuaded her to switch to a clarinet.”
“How come?” I asked.
“Well,” my sister answered, “because with a clarinet, she can’t sing….”
Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people, brings happiness.
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