Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
From a headstone in Ireland
Early this morning I received word from a member of our extended family that the young son of someone who had been close to our family for many years had passed away. While I had only met the young man once that I recall, I know from reports of his family members that he was someone special. He had suffered from brain cancer for a number of years and while I am sure he suffered much as he battled his disease I know he did it with dignity.
It has been difficult over this past year to lose many special people but it is especially sad when it is someone so young. My heart goes out to his father and the rest of his family, they are all exceptionally good people.
As we get older it seems like grief calls too often. But when you realize that the depth of our grief is a reflection of how much we care for people it can be bourn, for the alternative would be a lack of caring and a life of missed human experiences. I have included something Ralph Marston wrote some time ago that says it better.
In every life there is some sadness. The loss of a loved one, the disappointment of a shattered dream. Things don’t always go the way we want. Sadness hurts. It is difficult. And ultimately, it is good. Because sadness can come only when you care. As painful as it is, consider the alternative. What if you did not even care? Paradoxically, the absence of pain is the ultimate pain.
We must learn to experience and appreciate our sadness, without being overwhelmed by it. And the first step is to admit it and feel it for what it is. It is a powerful form of caring. About ourselves, about others, about truth, about love, about life. Sadness shows us how very much we care, and defines for us the truly important things in life.
Even in the pain of sadness, there is meaning and hope. Out of sadness, comes a deeper sense of appreciation. The sunshine is more precious after a week of rainy days. In sadness is the strength to go forward and the opportunity to triumph over every obstacle.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
I considered leaving out the humor today but decided that it would be inappropriate when those who have suffered have so often maintained their humor in the face of their pain.
Sol and Ben are opening a new fish store, and they are sitting down to sketch out the sign. Ben draws "FRESH FISH SOLD HERE TODAY". The guy in the sign shop tells them he charges $30 a letter, and the two entrepreneurs go home to talk it over.
Sol says, "We don’t need TODAY — of course they’re for sale today." Ben agrees and says, "HERE? Where else would we be selling fish?" and they agree to delete that word, too. Sol thinks a minute and says. "SOLD we don’t need. It’s a store, they come in they’ll see a cash register, they’ll know," and Ben strikes that word out, too.
The sign now says FRESH FISH. Ben shakes his head. "Of course FRESH. Would we be selling stale fish?" and they cross that word out. The sign now says FISH, and Sol crumples up the paper. "We’ll leave the door open, they’ll smell and they’ll know we have fish," he says as Ben nods. "Already, before we open, we’ve saved over $600."
A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.
POSITION: Mom, Mama, Mother, Mommy
JOB DESCRIPTION: Long term team players needed for challenging permanent work in an often chaotic environment. Candidates must possess excellent communication and organizational skills and be willing to work variable hours, which will include evenings and weekends and frequent 24 hour shifts on call. Some overnight travel required, including trips to primitive camping sites on rainy weekends and endless sports tournaments in far away cities. Travel expenses not reimbursed. Extensive courier duties also required.
RESPONSIBILITIES: For the rest of your life;
Must be willing to be hated, at least temporarily, until someone needs $5.
Must be willing to bite tongue repeatedly. Also, must possess the physical stamina of a pack mule and be able to go from zero to 60 mph in three seconds flat in case, this time, the screams from the backyard are not someone just crying wolf.
Must be willing to face stimulating technical challenges, such as small gadget repair, mysteriously sluggish toilets and stuck zippers.
Must screen phone calls, maintain calendars and coordinate production of multiple homework projects.
Must have ability to plan and organize social gatherings for clients of all ages and mental outlooks.
Must be willing to be indispensable one minute, an embarrassment the next.
Must handle assembly and product safety testing of a half million cheap, plastic toys and battery operated devices.
Must always hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
Must assume final, complete accountability for the quality of the end product.
Responsibilities also include floor maintenance and janitorial work throughout the facility.
POSSIBILITY FOR ADVANCEMENT AND PROMOTION: Virtually none. Your job is to remain in the same position for years, without complaining, constantly retraining and updating your skills, so that those in your charge can ultimately surpass you.
PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE: None required, unfortunately. On-the-job training offered on a continually exhausting basis.
WAGES AND COMPENSATION: You pay them! Offering frequent raises and bonuses. A balloon payment is due when they turn 18 because of the assumption that college will help them become financially independent. When you die, you give them whatever is left. The oddest thing about this reverse-salary scheme is that you actually enjoy it and wish you could only do more.
BENEFITS: While no health or dental insurance, no pension, no tuition reimbursement, no paid holidays and no stock options are offered; this job supplies limitless opportunities for personal growth and free hugs for life if you play your cards right.
"Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings."
He said: As an assistant professor, I taught during the day and did research at night. I would usually take a break around eight, however, to play the strategy game Warcraft online with a teammate.
One night, I was paired with a veteran of the game who was a master strategist. With him at the helm, our troops crushed one opponent after another and after six games, we were undefeated. Suddenly, my fearless leader informed me his mom wanted him to go to bed.
"How old are you"? I typed.
"Twelve," he replied. "How old are you"?
Feeling my face redden, I answered, "Ten."
As long as I can I will look at this world for both of us.
As long as I can I will laugh with the birds, I will sing with the flowers, I will pray to the stars, for both of us.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Indianapolis, Indiana, USA
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