July 28, 2022
Ego trip: a journey to nowhere.
Before I start what will be a busy day I thought I would share with you the value of setting our ego aside while we concentrate on enjoying our lives. I think too many of us let our desire to win keep us from appreciating all we have already won. Here is a piece from the internet that I have abridged that offers what may be the secret of achieving more happiness.
5 Ways For Getting Rid Of Ego
Before we can discuss how to get rid of ego, it is necessary to understand what is meant by ego. Put very simply, ego is the sum of all the beliefs and experiences that combine to define the way a person leads their life.
We can see our ego as a little internal voice that speaks to us of fear, anxiety, and judgment – both of ourselves and others. The nagging doubts that your ego presents to you can hold you back, making you fearful for the future, doubting your ability to do anything at all, and giving you a feeling of inadequacy.
Here are five ways that will show you how to get rid of ego.
1. Avoid being offended. – Do not allow your ego to whisper destructive thoughts to you as you go through life. Being constantly offended by the small things that we encounter every day takes your attention away from the bigger picture.
2. Lose the need to win and to be always right. – Being urged on by your ego to be right and to win in every situation is destructive. The need to be right every time leads to unpopularity and others having a negative view of you. This will hold you back when you need the help and co-operation of others to achieve your goals.
3. Stop feeling superior. – You will soon alienate others if you adopt an attitude of superiority. This will lead to you being resented and eventually ignored. Life is much less enjoyable when you are an outsider.
4. Lose the need for more. – Do not give in to your ego’s need for more. Lead a simpler life, and you will find it brings greater contentment and a feeling of achievement. The pressure will be off you, and you will progress far more easily towards your goal.
5. Stop coveting accomplishments. – Just as losing the need for more is a desirable aim, so is losing the need for accomplishments. It is the need that is destructive, as having an over-riding need for something puts unnecessary pressure on you. Taking away that pressure will make achieving a goal a pleasurable activity. You will be happier and more likely to make meaningful progress.
Getting rid of your ego, therefore, is something that you can achieve by altering your approach to life. Lead a simpler, calmer, less demanding life, with less pressure on yourself to perform, and you will find that you now face less of a struggle.
An egotist is not a man who thinks too much of himself; he is a man who thinks too little of other people.
Joseph Fort Newton
The top ten reasons men should join the church choir
10. Rehearsals are every Wednesday night. Which means that for those few hours, you will significantly reduce your risk of contracting tendonitis from non-stop operation of a television remote control or computer mouse.
9. Because you wear a choir robe every Sunday, you are liberated from a task many men find quite challenging: finding clothes that match properly.
8. From your special vantage point every Sunday, in which you look out at the entire congregation from the choir seats, you will develop interesting new hobbies. Among these is a little guessing game called “Who’s Praying, Who’s Sleeping?”
7. On the other hand, sitting in full view of 400 500 people on a weekly basis makes it much less likely that you yourself will give in to a chronic lack of sleep. Although it has been known to happen.
6. If you think your singing in the shower sounds good now, just wait till you’ve been singing with us for a few weeks.
5. Singing in a choir is one of the few activities for men that does not require electronics equipment or expensive power tools. This could be good for the family budget.
4. For the fitness buffs, singing in the Choir is not only heart healthy, it’s soul healthy. But there are no monthly membership fees, and it’s a lot easier on the knees than jogging.
3. If you think you’ve done everything there is to do, and there are no great challenges left in life, try singing with us guys and staying on pitch.
2. Choir rehearsal lasts half as long as a professional football game, but is at least twice as satisfying. This is especially true if you are a long-suffering fan of the Bengals or Colts.
And the number 1 reason men should join the choir:
1. When people ask you whether you’ve been behaving yourself, you can say with the utmost sincerity, “Hey, I’m a Choir Boy.”
Waiter: Would you like your coffee black?
Customer: What other colors do you have?
Hints From Helga
Dirt: Layers of dirty film on windows and screens provide a helpful filter against harmful and aging rays from the sun. Call it an SPF factor of 5 and leave it alone.
Cobwebs: Cobwebs artfully draped over lampshades reduce the glare from the bulb, thereby creating a romantic atmosphere. If your husband points out that the light fixtures need dusting, simply look confused and exclaim, “What? And spoil the mood?”
Pet Hair: Explain the mound of pet hair brushed up against the doorways by claiming you are collecting it there to use for stuffing hand-sewn play animals for underprivileged children.
Guests: If unexpected company is coming, pile everything unsightly into one room and close the door. As you show your guests through your tidy home, rattle the door knob vigorously, fake a growl, and say, “I’d love you to see our den, but Fluffy hates to be disturbed and the shots are SO expensive.”
Dusting: If dusting is REALLY out of control, simply place a showy urn on the coffee table and insist “This is where Grandma wanted us to scatter her ashes…”
Painting: Don’t bother repainting. Simply scribble lightly over a dirty wall with an assortment of crayons, and try to muster a glint of tears as you say, “Junior did this the week before that unspeakable accident…I haven’t had the heart to clean it…”
General Cleaning: Mix one-quart cup pine-scented household cleaner with four cup soft water in a spray bottle. Mist the air lightly. Leave dampened rags in conspicuous locations. Develop an exhausted look, throw yourself onto the couch, and sigh: “I clean and I clean and I still don’t get anywhere…”
Lord, grant that I might not so much seek to be loved as to love.
St. Francis of Assisi
There was a university in New England where the students operated a “bank” of term papers and other homework assignments.
There were papers to suit all needs and as it would look odd if an undistinguished student suddenly handed in a brilliant essay, there were papers for an A grade, B grade and C grade.
A student, who had spent the weekend on pursuits other than his assignment, went to the “bank” and as his course was a standard one he took out a paper for an inconspicuous C, retyped it and handed the work in.
In due course he received it back with the professor’s comments “I wrote this paper myself twenty years ago. I always thought it should have had an A, and now I am glad to give it one!”
No one has learned the meaning of life until he has surrendered his ego to the service of his fellow men.
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