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Ray’s Daily

November 15, 2022

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“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.”

Bryant H. McGill

Recently in a meeting I shared my belief that extended families help is through bad times. Especially those who not only listen to what we have said but also who verify that they have really understood what we said. I know that sometimes when I feedback to others what I think they said I have been mistaken. It is vital to good relations to to make sure we understand what others are are saying.

Please listen to me

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice, you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

All I ask is that you listen. Not talk or do, just hear me. Advice is cheap: 50 cents will get you both Dorothy Dix and Dr Spock in the same newspaper. And I can do for myself I’m not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself you contribute to my fear and weakness. But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I quit trying to convince you and can get about the business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling.

And when that’s clear, the answers are obvious and I don’t need advice. So, please listen and just hear me, and if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn; and I’ll listen to you.

Author Unknown

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When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”

Ernest Hemingway

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She said: My husband, Jim, was playing piano in an intimate and dimly lit club. He couldn’t help but notice a couple locked in a passionate embrace on a love seat right in front of the piano. They were rather distracting, but finally they came up for air long enough to make a breathless request. “Uh, could you play ‘After the Lovin’?'”

“Sure thing,” Jim agreed. “Just let me know when you’re through.”

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Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means.

Leo Buscaglia

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Finnegin: My wife has a terrible habit of staying up ’til two o’clock in the morning. I can’t break her of it.

Keenan:  What on earth is she doin’ at that time?

Finnegin: Waitin’ for me to come home.

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He told me: My mother wanted me to be a priest. Can you imagine giving up your sex life and then once a week people come in to tell you the details and highlights of theirs?

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Fifty-one years ago, Herman James, a North Carolina mountain man, was drafted By the Army. On his first day in basic training, the Army issued him a comb. That Afternoon the Army barber sheared off all his hair. On his second day, the Army issued Herman a toothbrush. That afternoon the Army Dentist yanked seven of his teeth. On the third day, the Army issued him a jock strap. The Army has been looking For Herman for 51 years.

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“Everybody is somebody because God has created us with unique skills and abilities.”

“Too many folks fall into the shameful pattern of ranking people and judging some as nobodies.”

Anonymous

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A judge was interviewing a woman regarding her pending divorce, and asked, “What are the grounds for your divorce?”

She replied, “About four acres and a nice little home in the middle of the property with a stream running by.”

“No,” he said, “I mean what is the foundation of this case?”

“It is made of concrete, brick and mortar,” she responded.

“I mean,” he continued, “What are your relations like?”

“I have an aunt and uncle living here in town, and so do my husband’s parents.”

“Please,” he tried again, “Is there any infidelity in your marriage?”

“Yes, both my son and daughter have stereo sets. We don’t necessarily like the music, but the answer to your questions is yes.”

“Ma’am, does your husband ever beat you up?”

“Yes,” she responded, “about twice a week he gets up earlier than I do.”

Finally, in frustration, the judge asked, “Lady, why do you want a divorce?”

“Oh, I don’t want a divorce,” she replied. “I’ve never wanted a divorce. My husband does. He said he can’t communicate with me.”

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What do people in China call their good plates?

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A guy noticed that his buddy was troubled and asked what was wrong.

“Ohhh, it’s my girlfriend.” he said.

“Oh yeah? What’s the problem?”

“When I asked her if she could learn to love me,” he said, “she asked me how much I was willing to spend on her education.”

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May the road rise up to meet you.

May the wind be always at your back.

The rain falls soft upon your fields.

And until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.

Irish blessing

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One of our neighbors is making interesting plans for the future. She says when her husband dies, she’s not going to have him buried.

I said, “What are you going to do?”

She said, “I’m going to have him stuffed and mounted and put on the living room couch. Then I’ll turn on the TV to a football game, talk to him and he won’t answer. It’ll be just like he never left.”

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When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.

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She said: My husband seems to feel one should get their money’s worth on vacation. I’m not sure if I’m supposed to frolic every minute or not.  But once when I was sitting in a beach chair on the sand, he came out of the surf and said, “This is costing us $300 a day – and you sit there reading a book!”

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Some people come into our lives and quickly go.

Some stay for a while and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same.

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She said: Working as a pediatric nurse, I had the difficult assignment of giving immunization shots to children. One day I entered the examining room to give four-year-old Lizzie her shot. “NO! NO! NO!” she screamed. “Lizzie,” her mother scolded, “That’s not polite behavior.” At that, the girl yelled even louder, “NO, THANK YOU! NO, THANK YOU!”

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“Friends are those rare people who ask how we are, and then wait to hear the answer.”

Ed Cunningham

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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