Ray's musings and humor

Don’t Blame

Ray’s Daily

March 1, 2022


“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”

Dr. Robert Anthony

I have an early Radiologist appointment to today sohere is another reprint.

Ray’s Daily first published on March 1, 2006

Wayne Dyer tells us: “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”

It is sad that so many of us put so much energy into finding someone or something to blame for whatever goes wrong in our lives. Sure we are sometimes hurt by the action of others but all the blame placing in the world will not change history. The world is often unfair, and its unfairness can drive us to agonizing over our plight, and this agony often results in our wallowing in self-pity. Far too often our need to blame results in our retaliating at worst or wasting time at best. We have a choice, we can let it get to us or we can put it behind us and move on. Let’s face it every moment we spend in anger over something that is already done is a moment that we could invest in something for ourselves.

Fate sucks sometimes, but it shows up challenging us to keep going. To tell the truth I feel sorry for our critics who don’t know just how good we are, fortunately that’s their problem and we don’t have to waste our time trying to change their minds.

Why all this you ask? It is because I have two close friends that have been kicked by others and I know they are strong enough to find their answers without being taken down by the agony of the moment. I know it is often easy for others to tell us we shouldn’t let ourselves get hurt, but I would rather be hurt once in awhile than live a life without any risk. The happiest people I know are those that know that things can be better tomorrow, but only if we let them.


“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”

Albert Ellis


BEST out of office messages:

1. I am currently out at a job interview and will reply to you if I fail to get the position. Be prepared for my mood. 

2. You are receiving this automatic notification because I am out of the office. If I was in, chances are you wouldn’t have received anything at all. 

3. I will be unable to delete all the unread, worthless emails you send me until I return from holiday on 4 April. Please be patient and your mail will be deleted in the order it was received. 

4. Thank you for your email. Your credit card has been charged $5.99 for the first ten words and $1.99 for each additional word in your message. 

5. The e-mail server is unable to verify your server connection and is unable to deliver this message. Please restart your computer and try sending again.’ 

6. Thank you for your message, which has been added to a queuing system. You are currently in 352nd place, and can expect to receive a reply in approximately 19 weeks. 

7. I’ve run away to join a different circus. 

8. I will be out of the office for the next 2 weeks for medical reasons. When I return, please refer to me as ‘Margaret’ instead of ‘Jay’. 


Hard work pays off in the future. Laziness pays off now.


Sarah: I’ve been asked to get married hundreds of times.

Miriam: (surprised)? Really?!? By whom?

Sarah: My parents.


Man says to God: “God, why did you make woman so beautiful?”

God says: “So you would love her.”

“But God,” the man says, “why did you make her so dumb?”

God says: “So she would love you.”


“One reason I don’t drink is that I want to know when I am having a good time.”

Nancy Astor


She said: When our son was four months old, I caught sight of my husband in another room, holding the baby on his lap, talking to him and pointing. I was touched by this father-son bonding and went into the room to eavesdrop.

“Football,” my husband said slowly, pointing to the television. “This is football.”


The real reason you can’t take it with you is that it goes before you are.


Today’s American English Lesson

Arbitrator \ar’-bi-tray-ter\: A cook that leaves Arby’s to work at McDonald’s.

Avoidable \uh-voy’-duh-buhl\: What a bullfighter tries to do.

Baloney \buh-lo’-nee\: Where some hemlines fall.

Bernadette \burn’-a-det\: The act of torching a mortgage.

Burglarize \bur’-gler-ize\: What a crook sees with.

Control \kon-trol’\: A short, ugly inmate.

Counterfeiters \kown-ter-fit-ers\: Workers who put together kitchen cabinets.

Eclipse \i-klips’\: what an English barber does for a living.

Eyedropper \i’-drop-ur\: a clumsy ophthalmologist.

Heroes \hee’-rhos\: what a guy in a boat does.

Left Bank \left’ bangk’\: what the robber did when his bag was full of loot.

Misty \mis’-tee\: How some golfers create divots.

Paradox \par’-uh-doks\: two physicians.

Parasites \par’-uh-sites\: what you see from the top of the Eiffel Tower.

Pharmacist \farm’-uh-sist\: a helper on the farm!

Polarize \po’-lur-ize\: what penguins see with.

Primate \pri’-mat\: removing your spouse from in front of the TV.

Relief \ree-leef’\: what trees do in the spring.

Rubberneck \rub’-er-nek\: what you do to relax your wife.

Seamstress \seem’-stres\: describes 250 pounds in a size six.

Selfish \sel’-fish\: what the owner of a seafood store does.

Subdued \sub-dood’\: like, a guy, like, works on one of those, like, submarines, man.

Sudafed \sood’-a-fed\: bringing litigation against a government.


Time is what keeps everything from happening at once.


At his 103rd birthday party, my grandfather was asked if he planned to be around for his 104th.

“I certainly do,” he replied. “Statistics show that very few people die between the ages of 103 and 104.”


Consciousness: That annoying time between naps.


A woman went into a bank to get a check cashed, but she didn’t have an account with them. When the teller asked for some identification, the woman showed her several charge cards, her social security card and a current library card. The teller told her they needed a driver’s license, but the woman said she didn’t have one.

“Don’t you have anything with your picture on it?” the teller asked, politely.

“Oh, sure,” she said, as she flipped to a family photo in her wallet. Pointing to the people in the picture she says proudly, “See right here….that’s me in the back row.”


If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.

Mary Pickford


Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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