January 14, 2022
“Do not let your anger lead to hatred, as you will hurt yourself more than you would the other.”
I am really uncomfortable with folks who seem to always be angry. Their anger often spills over as they behave badly. While I avoid the chronically angry I also feel sorry for what appears to be their constant unhappiness.
The following offers suggestions on how folks can control their anger. I know you probably don’t need it but maybe someone you know does.
How To Stop Being Angry
Many people try to live by high standards, and as a result, are often disappointed and become angry. The answer is to be a bit more flexible and loosen your hold on life. High standards are praiseworthy, but so is pragmatism.
Secondly, don’t dismiss anger as a bad emotion. There are occasions when anger can be directed in such a way as to achieve great things. Martin Luther King was angry about the lack of civil rights in the USA. Gandhi was angry about British domination in India. They both used that anger to motivate themselves to fight against what they saw as injustice.
Thirdly, it is beneficial to stop trying to manage your anger. Anger management used to be promoted as a way of dealing with anger, but all that happens is that the anger is suppressed. A much better way of facing up to anger is to identify the root cause. A flash of anger is not what we are discussing here. It is the long-term underlying anger that comes to the fore many times a day that is the problem.
When trying to get to the root cause of this type of anger, be prepared to be honest with yourself. Is it worry or stress making you angry? Are you fearful of failure? Are you unhappy? Once you know why you get mad, then it is possible to deal with the cause. Taking positive steps towards solving the underlying problem will help you overcome feelings of anger.
Fourthly, reacting angrily is a hard habit to break. But it is a habit, and habits can be broken. The trick is to avoid reacting when faced with a situation that usually angers. Anger is a negative reaction, but in this type of situation, there is no merit in reacting by forming positive thoughts. You need to learn not to respond at all. This way, your anger will not get the emotional food it needs to survive.
Fifthly, don’t take the easy way when you get angry. We all get tempted to throw something, hit something (or even someone), or scream when we are angry. You might say you feel better after an angry outburst, but that is just the after-effect of the adrenalin your body released while you were angry.
A reaction like that is the easy way. It is much harder to stay calm, to walk away from conflict, or to take a deep breath and act normally. That, however, is what you must do if you are to stop anger from becoming your master. By learning control, you can become a much calmer, less volatile person. You will be better liked and better placed to influence others. Anger will no longer side-track you and prevent you from achieving a prosperous, fulfilled life.
In conclusion, you must recognize that anger is something you can control. That control will come once you identify what is at the root of your anger. Make changes to your lifestyle and attitudes, and you will find that you will turn angry much less often, if at all. Angry people are not nice people. Angry people will fail to achieve more often than those people who are pleasant, calm, relaxed, and considerate.
“Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it… Don’t allow his anger to become your anger.”
Some more of life’s lessons:
• Heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
• Money is a lousy way of keeping score.
• You and your best friends can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
• Sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down, will be the ones to help you get back up.
• Sometimes when your angry, You have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give you the right to be cruel.
Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.
He said I’d rather be a guy because:
If someone forgets to invite me to something, he or she can still be my friend.
My underwear is $10 for a three-pack.
I don’t have to shave below my neck.
None of my coworkers has the power to make me cry.
I don’t have to curl up next to a hairy butt every night.
I can write my name in the snow.
I’m not afraid of heights. I’m afraid of widths.
A pastor walked into a neighborhood bar to use the restroom. The place was hopping with music and dancing, until people saw the pastor. As the room quieted down he walked up to the bartender, and asked, “May I please use the restroom?”
The bartender replied, “I really don’t think you should.”
“Why not?” the pastor asked. “I really need to use a restroom!”
“Well, I don’t think you should. There is a statue of a naked woman in there — and she’s only covered by a fig leaf!”
“Nonsense,” said the pastor, “I’ll look the other way!”
So, the bartender showed the clergyman the door at the top of the stairs, and he proceeded to the restroom.
After a few minutes, he came back out, and the whole place was hopping with music and dancing again! He went to the bartender and said, “Sir, I don’t understand. When I came in here, the place was hopping with music and dancing. Then the room became absolutely quiet. I went to the restroom, and now the place is hopping again.”
“Well, now you’re one of us!” said the bartender. “Would you like a drink too?”
“But, I still don’t understand,” said the puzzled pastor.
“You see,” laughed the bartender, “every time the fig leaf is lifted on the statue, the lights go out in the whole place.
Now, how about that drink?”
“I know they say, ‘Good things come to those who wait,’ but I have problems with that. First of all, if this were true, we’d all be sitting around waiting and waiting, expecting that good things would happen. Then some guy would stand up and yell, ‘Dear God, have we not waited long enough?’ No, you have to wait longer.”
Late one Friday night the policeman spotted a man driving very erratically through the streets of Dublin. They pulled the man over and asked him if he had been drinking that evening.
‘Aye, so I have. ‘Tis Friday, you know, so me and the lads stopped by the pub where I had six or seven pints. And then there was something called ‘Happy Hour’ and they served these mar-gar-itos which are quite good. I had four or five o’those. Then I had to drive me friend Mike home and O’ course I had to go in for a couple of Guiness – couldn’t be rude, ye know. Then I stopped on the way home to get another bottle for later ..’ And the man fumbled around in his coat until he located his bottle of whiskey, which he held up for inspection.
The officer sighed, and said, ‘Sir, I’m afraid I’ll need you to step out of the car and take a breathalyzer test.’
Indignantly, the man said, ‘Why? Don’t ye believe me?!?’
Skill is successfully walking a tightrope over Niagara Falls. Intelligence is not trying.
TEN REASONS ADAM WAS THE LUCKIEST MAN
1. He is the only man who has never been compared to the man she could have married.
2. He had no in-laws to drop in.
3. There were no Jones for him to keep up with.
4. There were no credit cards OR shopping centers.
5. He never had his dinner interrupted by window salesmen.
6. He got away with wearing a simple wardrobe.
7. He never had to shovel snow!
8. If he had gone bald, who would have known that wasn’t normal.
9. There was no “standard weight and height” tables – and the word FAT meant good.
10. When God asked “Adam, where are you?” He replied, “The woman you gave me was reading the map.”
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At the Henry Street Hebrew School, Goldblatt, the new teacher, finished the day’s lesson. It was now time for the usual question period.
“Mr. Goldblatt,” announced little Joey, “there’s somethin’ I can’t figger out.”
“What’s that Joey?” asked Goldblatt.
“Well accordin’ to the Bible, the Children of Israel crossed the Red Sea, right?”
“An’ the Children of Israel beat up the Philistines, right?”
“An’ the Children of Israel built the Temple, right?”
“Again you’re right.”
“An’ the Children of Israel fought the ‘gyptians, an’ the Children of Israel fought the Romans, an’ the Children of Israel wuz always doin’ somethin’ important, right?”
“All that is right, too,” agreed Goldblatt. “So what’s your question?”
“What I wanna know is this,” demanded Joey. “What wuz all the grown-ups doin”?
“Don’t waste your time in anger, regrets, worries, and grudges. Life is too short to be unhappy.”
Roy T. Bennett.
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