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Be Independent

Ray’s Daily

December 6, 2021


A man can stand a lot as long as he can stand himself.

Axel Munthe

No matter our age our ability to manage ourselves can make a difference in our well being. I know I appreciate my friends and family helping through some of the things I can no longer do on my own. But that notwithstanding I still retain decision making as I enjoy my life.

Some of my friends do not have an external support system but thrive because of their ability to manage their lives. We never know when we might become alone and it is those who have retained their independence who make the best of their lives.

Here is a abridged piece I picked up from the internet. I do not know the author but appreciate the work.

8 Benefits Of Having Independence

Outlined here are eight reasons why achieving independence is essential.

1.  Being independent is a boost to your confidence. – The more independent you are, the more confident you will become. Having confidence gives you a positive outlook on life.  You are going to be willing to do things on your own, without needing support or approval from others.

2.  You will not need to rely on others. – Self-reliance is a significant element in being an independent person.  When you can make decisions for yourself without relying on others to approve or sanction your choice, so you are acting independently

3.  Emotional independence makes you happier. – One significant aspect of being mature is handling your emotions without recourse to help from others.  Many challenging situations will arise throughout the course of our lives.  How we handle these situations is a mark of how mature and independent we are.

4.  Freedom through financial independence. – Having financial independence is a fantastic feeling.  It means that you don’t have to depend on others to pay for you.  Knowing you are in control of your income and spending without referring to anyone else reduces stress and improves your feeling of contentedness.

5.  Being independent makes you a better decision-maker. – If you are dependent on other people, your ability to make clear, precise decisions is severely affected.  You will always have to consider the effect that your choices will have on those other people.

6.  Independence leads to personal improvement. – When you are independent, you can lead a more free social life, and undertake activities that appeal to you.  No-one else will be trying to limit your ambition.  You can meet new friends, try new things, and follow up on new opportunities.  All of this will lead to you growing as a person, becoming more experienced, have a better understanding of the ways of the world, and become more knowledgeable.

7.  Independence leads to broader horizons. – Once you can function as an independent person without constraints placed on you by others, you can broaden your horizons.  You will be able to take trips to exotic destinations, meet people with different social and moral beliefs, and gain more extensive knowledge.  In turn, this will lead you to think differently about many aspects of your life.  It might affect the way you approach decision-making, or, on a simpler level, change your attitude to food.

8.  Independence is a boost to your self-esteem. – Self-esteem is tied in very closely to achieving success.  How we see ourselves can affect our whole approach to life.  The more independent you are, the more likely it is that you will have positive self-esteem.  Self-belief is the inseparable partner of self-esteem.

If you see yourself in a positive light, then you will have greater belief in your abilities.  In turn, this will give you more confidence, and you will take a positive approach to working towards your goals. When you can act independently in each of these areas of your life, then you will have become a mature adult with a positive attitude towards everything you do.  This is why independence is important.


Independent people look at what’s worked, learn from what hasn’t, set new priorities, and then move on.

Jeanne Sharbuno


From his performance reviews:

* his men would follow him anywhere, but only out of morbid curiosity

* works well when under constant supervision and cornered like a rat in a trap

* he would be out of his depth in a parking lot puddle

* this employee should go far, and the sooner he starts the better

* he does not have ulcers, but he’s a carrier

* he would argue with a signpost

* he brings a lot of joy whenever he leaves the room

* if you see two people talking and one looks bored, he’s the other one

* gates are down, the lights are flashing, but the train isn’t coming

* if you stand close enough to him, you can hear the ocean

* some drink from the fountain of knowledge; he only gargled

* takes him 11/2 hours to watch ’60 minutes”


Money is the poor people’s credit card. –Marshall McLuhan


Finally, we’ve learned why Webster compiled the dictionary. Every morning at breakfast, he’d sit down and talk to the wife for a few minutes. As soon as he said something, she’d say, “Now what’s that supposed to mean?”


Two women are talking in a coffee shop when one says, “You know, there were very few things that upset my ex-husband.”

“Really?” asks the other woman.

“Yes, and it makes me feel rather special to have been one of them.”


“A keen sense of humor helps us to overlook the unbecoming, understand the unconventional, tolerate the unpleasant, overcome the unexpected, and outlast the unbearable.”

Billy Graham


Last year I got my wife a Christmas gift that left her speechless. In fact, she didn’t speak to me for three weeks.


An avid duck hunter was in the market for a new bird dog. His search ended when he found a dog that could actually walk on water to retrieve a duck. Shocked by his find, he was sure none of his friends would ever believe him. He decided to try to break the news to a friend of his, a pessimist by nature, and invited him to hunt with him and his new dog.

As they waited by the shore, a flock of ducks flew by. They fired, and a duck fell. The dog responded and jumped into the water. However, he did not sink but instead walked across the water to retrieve the bird, never getting more than his paws wet.

The friend saw everything but did not say a single word.

On the drive home the hunter asked his friend, “Did you notice anything unusual about my new dog?”

“I sure did,” responded his friend. “He can’t swim.”


Better by far that you should forget and smile than that you should remember and be sad.


Seven year old Susie went to her dad, who was working in the yard, and asked, “Daddy, what’s sex?”  He thought, well, is she interested in this already? Then he decided that if she was old enough to ask the question, then she was old enough to get a straight answer. He proceeded to tell her all about the birds and the bees, embellished with a simple but thorough discussion of what he thought she should know, including discreet references to body parts.  When he finished explaining, Susie stood there looking at him with her mouth hanging open.

Her father asked, “Why did you ask this question?”

“Oh,” Susie replied. “Mommy just told me to come outside and find you and tell you that dinner would be ready in a couple of secs.”


Death to all fanatics!


A business executive injured his leg skiing one weekend.

By the time he got home Sunday, the leg was very swollen and he was having difficulty walking, so he called his physician at his home.  The doctor told him to soak it in hot water.  He tried soaking it in hot water but the leg became more swollen and more painful.

His maid saw him limping and said, “I don’t know, I’m only a maid, but I always thought it was better to use cold water, not hot, for swelling.” He tried switching to cold water, and the swelling rapidly subsided.

On Monday morning he called his Dr.  again to complain.  “Say Doc, what kind of a doctor are you anyway?  You told me to soak my leg in hot water and it got worse.  My maid told me to use cold water and it got better.”

“Really?” answered the doctor, “I don’t understand it – my maid said hot water.”


You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go.

Dr. Seuss


Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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