October 15, 2021
There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.
I find one of the ways to avoid tarnishing the golden years is to avoid toxic folks. Of course in our day to day activities we do sometimes have to interact with unhappy people, when we do it is up to us how we react. I know I do all I can to not let negative folks turn me into being like them.
Here is a piece that offers thoughts in line with my own. I may have shared it before but if so it is worth reading again.
7 Mantras that Will Stop You from Taking Things Personally
WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF
- You can’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you. They do things because of them.
- You may not be able control all the things people say and do to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
- There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you detach from other people’s beliefs and behaviors. The way people treat you is their problem, how you react is yours.
- Take constructive criticism seriously, but not personally. Listen, and then operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.
- You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough. You don’t need other people to validate you – you’re already valuable.
- If you truly wish to improve your self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth, stop allowing other people to be responsible for them. Stop allowing other people to dominate your emotions.
- All the hardest, coldest people you meet were once as soft as a baby. And that’s the tragedy of living. So when people are rude, be kind, be mindful, be your best. Give those around you the “break” that you hope the world will give you on your own “bad day” and you will never, ever regret it.
You do not have to be so serious about everything and everyone. Trust yourself. Trust your own guidance and do not take everyone’s ‘interesting opinions’ so personally.
A meat counter clerk, who had had a particularly good day, proudly flipped his last chicken on a scale and weighed it.
“That will be $6.35,” he told the customer.
“That really is a little too small,” said the woman. “Don’t you have anything larger?”
Hesitating but thinking fast, the clerk returned the chicken to the refrigerator, paused a moment, then took it out again. “This one,” he said faintly, “will be $6.65.”
The woman paused for a moment, then made her decision.
“I know what,” she said, “I’ll take both of them!”
A Recently Spotted Bumper Sticker:
“The Ten Commandments Are Not Multiple Choice.”
A guy goes to the psychiatrist. “Doctor,” says the guy, “I feel as if I’m two different people! Two totally different personalities. Do you think I need help? Can you help me? Am I doing the right thing seeing a psychiatrist?”
“Whoah! Whoah! Whoah!” says the doc. “Please, one at a time.”
“Some people believe that holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength.
However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go – and then do it.”
Flying home after visiting her daughter in England, she arranged to have her husband meet her plane at the Vancouver, B.C. airport. This meant a stop at the border crossing between the United States and Canada, where her husband was asked: “What is your reason for entering the country?” and “How long are you planning to stay?”
He replied that he was picking his wife up at the airport after her trip to England.
Without missing a beat, the guard asked two more questions in the same businesslike tone: “Is the house clean?” And, “Are there fresh flowers on the table?”
“The word ‘aerobics’ came about when the gym instructors got together and said: If we’re going to charge $10 an hour, we can’t call it Jumping up and down.”
A bishop discovered a tribe of Indians in the Yukon who had never recorded a baptism, confirmation or marriage.
The bishop soon rectified the situation by baptizing everyone. He also married every beaming couple that walked by.
Later, the tribal chief told the Bishop the tribe had never had so much fun.
The bishop asked the chief which part they enjoyed the most.
“The marriage service,” the chief said, smiling, “We all got new wives!”
Take the mystery out of driving….use your turn signal.
Molly was worried that her three-year-old son was unusually precocious, and took him to a psychiatrist. “Right,” said the shrink, “We’ll just try a few simple tests.” To Morris the boy, he said “Say a few words – anything that comes into your mind.” The boy turned to his mother and asked, “Does he want logically constructed sentences or just a few random and purely isolated words without any split infinitives?”
We have to learn to love people even if they are not giving you what you want … and then not take it personally. If you feel hurt, you have to recognize that they are not hurting you because you are you, but because they are them. You have to try not to be so hard on yourself.
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