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Stay Calm

Ray’s Daily

October 1. 2021

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“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.”

Chinese Proverb

Here we go, another new month. I plan on making it a good one. I love autumn and all it brings. Warm weather, warm clothes and hopefully good feelings. I think there is too much anger these days. We have become so polarized that some of us have lost the ability to deal with our diversity.

I do know folks I don’t agree with but we overcome our differences and remain friends. I plan on doing what I can to avoid angry behavior and enjoying my days.

Here is a piece I got off the internet. I don’t know who wrote it but think it is worth sharing.

How to Stop Being Angry?

Realizing that no-one is perfect is a good start to avoiding getting angry.  Also, you need to accept that not everyone has the same standards as you, nor will they behave in the same way that you would in a given situation.  This applies to work, day-to-day life, and relationships.

Many people try to live by high standards, and as a result, are often disappointed and become angry.  The answer is to be a bit more flexible and loosen your hold on life.  High standards are praiseworthy, but so is pragmatism.

Secondly, don’t dismiss anger as a bad emotion.  There are occasions when anger can be directed in such a way as to achieve great things.  Martin Luther King was angry about the lack of civil rights in the USA.  Gandhi was angry about British domination in India.  They both used that anger to motivate themselves to fight against what they saw as injustice.

Anger of this type can be used to fuel action.  Taking action can help to reduce the feelings of anger as you see progress towards your ultimate goal.  Use anger to help you not hinder you.

Thirdly, it is beneficial to stop trying to manage your anger.  Anger management used to be promoted as a way of dealing with anger, but all that happens is that the anger is suppressed.  A much better way of facing up to anger is to identify the root cause.  A flash of anger is not what we are discussing here.  It is the long-term underlying anger that comes to the fore many times a day that is the problem.

When trying to get to the root cause of this type of anger, be prepared to be honest with yourself.  Is it worry or stress making you angry?  Are you fearful of failure?  Are you unhappy?  Once you know why you get mad, then it is possible to deal with the cause.  Taking positive steps towards solving the underlying problem will help you overcome feelings of anger.

Fourthly, reacting angrily is a hard habit to break.  But it is a habit, and habits can be broken.  The trick is to avoid reacting when faced with a situation that usually angers.  Anger is a negative reaction, but in this type of situation, there is no merit in reacting by forming positive thoughts.  You need to learn not to respond at all.  This way, your anger will not get the emotional food it needs to survive.

Fifthly, don’t take the easy way when you get angry.  We all get tempted to throw something, hit something (or even someone), or scream when we are angry.  You might say you feel better after an angry outburst, but that is just the after-effect of the adrenalin your body released while you were angry.

A reaction like that is the easy way.  It is much harder to stay calm, to walk away from conflict, or to take a deep breath and act normally.  That, however, is what you must do if you are to stop anger from becoming your master. By learning control, you can become a much calmer, less volatile person.  You will be better liked and better placed to influence others.  Anger will no longer side-track you and prevent you from achieving a prosperous, fulfilled life.

In conclusion, you must recognize that anger is something you can control.  That control will come once you identify what is at the root of your anger.  Make changes to your lifestyle and attitudes, and you will find that you will turn angry much less often, if at all.  Angry people are not nice people.  Angry people will fail to achieve more often than those people who are pleasant, calm, relaxed, and considerate.

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Speak the truth, do not become angered, and give when asked, even be it a little.

Buddha

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A very proper lady began planning a week’s camping vacation for her church group. She wrote to a campground for reservations. She wanted to make sure that the campground was fully equipped and modern, but couldn’t bring herself to write the word “toilet” in her letter. So, she decided on the old-fashioned term “Bathroom Commode.” Once written down she still wasn’t comfortable. Finally, she decided on the abbreviation “B.C.” and wrote, “Does your campground have its own “B.C.?”

When the campground owner received the letter, he couldn’t figure out what she meant by “B.C.” He showed it to several of the campers, one of whom suggested the lady was obviously referring to a Baptist Church. So he sent this reply:

 Dear Madam:

The B.C. is located nine miles from the campground in a beautiful grove of trees. I admit it is quite a distance if you are in the habit of going regularly. No doubt you will be pleased to know that it will seat 350 people at one time, and it is open on Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday of each week. Some folks like to take their lunch and make a day of it, especially on Thursday when there is organ accompaniment. The acoustics are very good, so everyone can hear even the quietest passages. It may interest you to know that my daughter met her husband there. We are also having a fund-raiser to purchase new seats, as the old ones have holes in them. Unfortunately, my wife is ill and has not been able to attend regularly. It’s been a good six months since she last went. It pains her very much not to be able to go more often. As we grow older, it seems to be more of an effort, especially in cold weather. Perhaps I could accompany you the first time you go, sit with you, and introduce you to all the other folks who will be there. I look forward to your visit. We offer a very friendly campground.

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The meek shall inherit the earth — they are too weak to refuse.

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Sue loved the golf game but was not very good at it. She was out on the links one day, playing with her husband Tim.  As usual, every time she swung at the ball, she made the earth beneath it fly every which way!  “My goodness, Tim,” she said, blushing at her ineptitude, “I bet the worms think there’s an earthquake going on.”

“Don’t be so sure, Sue.  The worms on this course are mighty smart.  My guess is that most of them are hiding beneath your golf ball for safety.”

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“After Mama gave birth to 12 of us kids, we put her up on a pedestal.  It was mostly to keep Daddy away from her.”

Dolly Parton

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A little boy was overheard talking to himself as he strutted through the backyard, wearing his baseball cap and toting a ball and bat. “I’m the greatest hitter in the world,” he announced.

He stopped, tossed the ball into the air, swung at it and missed.

“Strike one!” he yelled.

Undaunted, he picked up the ball and said again, “I’m the greatest hitter in the world!” He tossed the ball into the air. When it came down, he swung again and missed. “Strike two!” he cried.

The boy then paused a moment to examine his bat and ball carefully. He spit on his hands and rubbed them together. He straightened his cap and said once more, “I’m the greatest hitter in the world!”

Again, he tossed the ball up in the air, swung at it and missed.

“Strike three. Wow, I’m the greatest pitcher in the world!”

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“What a pity human beings can’t exchange problems. Everyone knows exactly how to solve the other fellow’s.”

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A guest at dinner noticed the small family dog looking hungrily at every bite she took. Finally, she took a small piece of meat from her plate and held it up for him.

“Speak!” she said to the dog.

The dog answered, “Under the circumstances, I hardly know what to say!”

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“My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.”

Jack Layton,

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Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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Comments on: "Stay Calm" (1)

  1. this is a great and very positive post, ray. fall is my favorite season fo many reasons

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