September 13, 2021
There is no possession more valuable than a good and faithful friend.
As we have discussed in the past I feel that the older we get the more we need our friends. Will Rogers said he never met a man he didn’t like. In my case there have been some that I could not relate to but I never met a man or women that I did not want to like.
I am lucky to have many friends and potential friends in my community.
As I have said before it is up to us to earn the friendship of others. The following list outlines what attributes to look for in others but more importantly thay are things for us to develop within our selves.
Great Qualities We Should Appreciate In Each Other More
James M Sama
Thoughtfulness. – In relationships and in life, I believe many of us overlook the importance of thoughtfulness. Being thoughtful helps us live, connect, and love more deeply with others.
Integrity. – C.S. Lewis once said “Integrity is doing the right thing even when nobody is looking.” While this holds true in all aspects of life, having this as a quality is of paramount importance in an intimate relationship.
Intellectual curiosity. – A person who is intellectually curious about the world around them will never become boring or run out of things to talk about.
Being non-judgmental. – Happiness in relationships stems from the ability to be honest with each other, which in turn stems from the comfort of knowing you can open up without being judged.
The ability to civilly disagree. – It is natural to disagree, and maybe even to argue – but it is profoundly important to be able to approach these situations with maturity and civility.
Social versatility. – I believe it is important to develop a versatility in ourselves that allows us to be comfortable in a variety of environments.
Optimism. – Optimism is not being blind to reality, it is choosing to see the positive side of a situation regardless of how hard you have to look for it. Someone who ignores the silver lining because of the dark center will become emotionally exhausting – particularly if you always have to convince them the bright side exists.
Willingness to communicate. – Communication is the backbone to a relationship. Without the ability and willingness to be honest with each other, there will be conflicts due to secrets that should not be secrets.
Passion. – Passion for us, yes. But also passion for life. When someone lives with passion, they bring that excitement and curiosity with them to all areas, including their relationship with you.
Patience. – Being patient allows us the ability to make those around us more comfortable with us by not rushing them or making them feel pressured to do, be, or act a certain way.
Sincerity. – When someone is sincere, they are naturally truthful and don’t just tell you things [ie., compliments], they make you feel what they mean.
Open-mindedness. – Raise your hand if you want to try to build a relationship with someone who is so stuck in their ways that they refuse to do, learn, or try anything new…
Appreciativeness. – This is not a real word but I’m making it one right now. No matter how kindhearted or giving someone is, lack of appreciation for their efforts will, eventually, cause them to walk away
meone want to commit to you.
Friendship is an art, and very few persons are born with a natural gift for it.
I’M GOING FISHING” Means: “I’m going to drink myself dangerously stupid, and stand by a stream with a stick in my hand, while the fish swim by in complete safety.”
“IT’S A GUY THING” Means: “There is no rational thought pattern connected with it and you have no chance at all of making it logical.”
“CAN I HELP WITH DINNER?” Means: “Why isn’t it already on the table?”
“UH HUH,” “SURE, HONEY,” OR “YES, DEAR…” Means: Absolutely nothing. It’s a conditioned response.
“IT WOULD TAKE TOO LONG TO EXPLAIN” Means: “I have no idea how it works.”
“I WAS LISTENING TO YOU. IT’S JUST THAT I HAVE THINGS ON MY MIND.” Means: “I was wondering if that redhead over there is wearing a bra.”
“TAKE A BREAK HONEY, YOU’RE WORKING TOO HARD.” Means: “I can’t hear the game over the vacuum cleaner.”
“THAT’S INTERESTING, DEAR.” Means: “Are you still talking?”
“YOU KNOW HOW BAD MY MEMORY IS.” Means: “I remember the theme song to ‘F Troop’, the address of the first girl I ever kissed, and the vehicle identification numbers of every car I’ve ever owned, but I forgot your birthday.”
“OH, DON’T FUSS, I JUST CUT MYSELF, IT’S NO BIG DEAL.” Means: “I have actually severed a limb, but will bleed to death before I admit that I’m hurt.”
“HEY, I’VE GOT MY REASONS FOR WHAT I’M DOING.” Means: “And I sure hope I think of some pretty soon.”
“I CAN’T FIND IT.” Means: “It didn’t fall into my outstretched hands, so I’m completely clueless.”
“WHAT DID I DO THIS TIME?” Means: “What did you catch me at?”
“I HEARD YOU.” Means: “I haven’t the foggiest clue what you just said, and am hoping desperately that I can fake it well enough so that you won’t spend the next 3 days yelling at me.”
“YOU KNOW I COULD NEVER LOVE ANYONE ELSE.” Means: “I am used to the way you yell at me, and realize it could be worse.”
“YOU LOOK TERRIFIC.” Means: “Please don’t try on one more outfit, I’m starving.”
“I’M NOT LOST. I KNOW EXACTLY WHERE WE ARE.” Means: “No one will ever see us alive again.”
Don’t argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the difference.
A reporter from New York was visiting an old colleague who now edited a newspaper in a tiny Vermont town.
“I don’t see how you do it,” the NY reporter said. “How can you drum up interest in the news when everybody in town knows what everybody else is doing?”
“Sure they know,” the editor said, “but they read the paper to see who got caught at it.”
Men who don’t understand women fall into two categories: bachelors and husbands.
A pretty young lass had just joined the club, and Greg offered to give her some instruction. He stood close behind her and showed her how grip the club and how to swing back and forward.
Their moving bodies caused the zipper on his fly to get caught in the zipper of her skirt. They were stuck fast together. Slowly they were moving towards the club house to get assistance, when suddenly a big brown dog jumped out from behind a bush and threw a bucket water over them.
We must have the courage to allow a little disorder in our lives.
Two horses were walking back to the paddock after a day’s training. One says to the other, “I can’t understand why we are so slow, we come from good stock, we have the best of food, great trainers, and yet we come last in every race.”
There was a dog running along side them who overheard and said, “I know what your problem is. I’ve seen you race and it looks to me like you begin the race really fast and use up all your energy too soon. Then towards the end, you have nothing left. What you should do is pace yourselves, and when all the other horses are exhausted, put in a spurt and you’re sure to win. What do you think of that?”
The horses looked at one another and said, “WOW, a talking dog!”
Without geometry, life is pointless.
A man walks into a dentist’s surgery and says, “Excuse me, can you help me. I think I’m a moth.”
Dentist: “You don’t need a dentist. You need a psychiatrist.”
Man: “Yes, I know.”
Dentist: “So why did you come in here?”
Man: “The light was on.”
“What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.”
Engineering classes at the University of Maryland are tough, and struggling students sometimes go to extremes in order to pass. Grading exams one semester, I got to this question: “What is the relationship between kinetic and potential energy?”
One student, obviously stumped, decided to get clever and wrote, “As far as I know, they’re just friends, but there could be something else going on there.”
No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the friendship of those who are thoroughly persuaded of each other’s worth.
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