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Be Independent

Ray’s Daily

September 7, 2021


As is our confidence, so is our capacity.

William Hazlitt

Yesterday was a national holiday in my country, it was our annual Labor Day celebration. In my lifetime it always seemed to mark the ending of summer and the beginning of a more active work life.

In my retirement it is up to me how I will live the months ahead. You may have heard me say that my children have become my parents. In some ways the assistance they provide my wife and myself have gone a long way in smothing the bumpy road that accompanies aging.

I find that it is up to me to avoid becoming so dependent on others that I become a burden. It is important that I retain as much independence as possible in my later years. Here is an edited article that I took from the Inspirational Stories blog that reminded me of the value of retaining our independence.

8 Benefits Of Having Independence

Outlined here are eight reasons why achieving independence is essential.

1.  Being independent is a boost to your confidence. – The more independent you are, the more confident you will become. Having confidence gives you a positive outlook on life.  You are going to be willing to do things on your own, without needing support or approval from others.

2.  You will not need to rely on others. – Self-reliance is a significant element in being an independent person.  A person who is self-reliant and makes decisions with confidence is going to find themselves being relied on.  This can make them feel more valuable and even indispensable.

3.  Emotional independence makes you happier. – Keeping our emotions from dominating our lives is essential if we are to be confident and able to make decisions from a position of inner strength.  Knowing that our emotions are under control brings a sense of contentment and calm. 

4.  Freedom through financial independence. – While the pursuit of money should not dominate your life, having an income that meets all your financial requirements means you will be a happy person. Having sufficient money means you can pursue other interests and pursue other goals, knowing your lifestyle is safe.

5.  Being independent makes you a better decision-maker. –  If you are dependent on other people, your ability to make clear, precise decisions is severely affected.  You will always have to consider the effect that your choices will have on those other people.

6.  Independence leads to personal improvement. – Personal growth, both emotional and professional, is worth pursuing.  Your independence will allow you to follow your instincts and indulge your curiosity without others holding you back.  You will be able to check out new opportunities and try your skills and talents on new projects.

7.  Independence leads to broader horizons. – Independence can give you a broader, more all-embracing view of the world, and prevent you from adopting a narrow mind-set.  You will welcome adventure and see more clearly the rewards of taking risks.

8.  Independence is a boost to your self-esteem. – If you see yourself in a positive light, then you will have greater belief in your abilities.  In turn, this will give you more confidence, and you will take a positive approach to working towards your goals. When you can act independently in each of these areas of your life, then you will have become a mature adult with a positive attitude towards everything you do.  This is why independence is important.


Confidence is when you believe in yourself and your abilities, arrogance is when you think you are better than others and act accordingly.

Stewart Stafford



You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.- Alan, age 10


You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids.- Derrick, age 8


Both don’t want any more kids.- Lori, age 8


Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you listen long enough.- Lynnette, age 8


When they’re rich.- Pam, age 7


It’s better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them.- Anita, age 9


There sure would be a lot of kids to explain, wouldn’t there?- Kevin, age 8


Tell your wife that she looks pretty even if she looks like a truck.- Ricky, age 10


A real computer expert is someone who can make a mistake and not get mad at the computer.


Two cowboy friends, Joe and Bob, each bought a horse one summer. They enjoyed riding around and doing the things that cowboys do.

When winter came, however, they did not want to pay to have their horses stabled for the winter. Instead, they decided to release them in a pasture and get them in the spring.

Joe noticed a problem however, and he asked Bob, “How will we know which horse is which when we pick them up?”

Bob answered, “Well, I’ve been thinking about that, and I have the answer! We’ll cut the mane off of my horse and we’ll cut the tail off of yours. That way, we’ll know which horse belongs to you and which belongs to me.”

That seemed like a great plan, and so after the trimmings, the horses were released into the pasture. When spring came around, Joe and Bob came to get their horses, only to discover that the mane and tail had grown back during the winter.

“Bob, since the mane and tail have grown back, how do we know which is yours and which is mine?” Joe asked.

Bob responded, “Well, I guess you’ll have to take the black one and I’ll take the white one.”


Paris Hilton is reportedly upset because her private diaries have been stolen. Police say the suspect must have had access to her bedroom; so, it could be anyone.

Conan O’Brien


She said: During my training as a medical-group receptionist, I was told never to recommend one of our doctors over another, but simply state who had available appointments.  

One day a woman came in and looked at me conspiratorially. “I’m a nurse,” she whispered, “and I know the staff always knows which doctors are good and which aren’t. Who do you think I should see?”  

Knowing my supervisor was listening close by, I tried to sound most professional. “Oh, I’m sorry,” I replied. “I can’t recommend any of our doctors.”  

“Well, you must know!” she said, heading for the door.  


“This is America. If you don’t like spaghetti and meatballs, then you can just get the hell out!”

Steve Buscemi



It can take some of the fun out of your vacation when you discover that neither last year’s budget nor last year’s bathing suit fits.

Wouldn’t it be nice if they paid you during your 50 weeks of work the way they charge your during your two weeks vacation?

It’s amazing after 50 weeks of work to realize how little we can afford our two weeks vacation.

Workers need a vacation to refresh their minds, renew their spirits, and remind them that they need a second job to pay for next year’s vacation.

Experts recommend that people do something totally different on their vacations. For a lot of us, that would be work.

When you do nothing for two weeks and get paid for it, that’s the perfect vacation. When you do nothing for 50 weeks and get paid for it, that’s the perfect job.

The question is do we need two weeks of vacation to recover from 50 weeks of work, or 50 weeks of work to recover from a two-week vacation?


Circular Definition: see Definition, Circular.


A Scotsman, carrying a huge suitcase, has been riding a London bus for five miles along its route, all the while attempting to avoid the ticket collector. Finally, the conductor manages to corner him and tells him to pay up.  

“You’ve been on for five miles–that’ll be 50p, please, and 10p for your suitcase.”  

The Scotsman responds, “I ha’not, I want a ha’penny fare, just got on this vera moment.”  

They begin to argue, and the ticket collector becomes more and more enraged, and finally, as the bus is passing over London bridge, he grabs the Scotsman’s suitcase and hurls it out of the bus. It lands in the river and sinks without a trace.  

The Scotsman stands shocked for a moment and says to the ticket collector, “Not only are ye tryin’ to overcharge me for the ticket–but now ye’ve gone an’ drowned me boy Angus!”


Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.



Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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