August 17, 2021
“There is no education like adversity.”
If you are like I am you sometimes do something you wished you haddent done. Some are mistakes, some embarrassing happenings, and even worse an insensitive comment. You know what I mean, something that makes you feel like hiding in bed forever. Of course we cannot do that. I have found that things are seldom as bad as they seem. If you find that you have to deal with some adversity you may find the following helpful.
How to Find Power and Confidence in a Crisis
In times of crisis, don’t look to the past or the future for answers. That’s according to social psychologist and behavioral science expert Amy Cuddy. The Harvard University lecturer and author of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges explained in a virtual keynote to Inc. 5000 honorees this week that productivity-sapping emotions such as anxiety, dread, and distraction come from thinking too much about the past and future. Staying present, Cuddy explains, can help you approach difficult situations with composure and find solutions with confidence.
Here are three of Cuddy’s tips for how to make the most of a bad situation.
View challenges as opportunities. – When presented with a challenge, Cuddy advises reframing the situation. If you feel nervous to approach someone, for example, think of them as a collaborator or an ally, rather than as a competitor. Changing viewpoints can make you feel more in control of coming up with a solution to your problems.
Don’t fake it until you make it. – Faking it until you make it works in some situations, but not when it comes to relationships. The best relationships are built on trust and authenticity–not on overstating your abilities.
Avoid panicking at all costs. – When presented with something that makes you panic, Cuddy advises business owners to think of a time when you felt your best, whether it was finishing your first successful fundraising meeting, landing your biggest client, or even at a personal event such as a wedding. By contrasting the panic with a good feeling, it can help you reset your approach to the situation and feel more present.
“When we feel present, we’re not doubting who we are [and] we believe in ourselves,” Cuddy says. “And when we believe in ourselves, we believe in what we’re selling.”
. “Hard times don’t create heroes. It is during the hard times when the “hero” within us is revealed.”
When I was working as a clerk at a sporting-goods store, a woman came up to my register with a package of white athletic socks. “Will you open this up so I can see how the socks feel?” she asked. Reluctantly I tore open the package, and she scrutinized the merchandise. She handed me the package, saying, “I’ll take them.” Relieved, I started to to ring her up, until she interrupted me. “Can I have another pack? This one’s been opened.”
Love is the doorway through which the human soul passes from selfishness to service and from solitude to kinship with all mankind.
Bob meets Doug at the bar after his day at divorce court.
“Did the judge split everything fairly when he granted your wife a divorce?” asked Doug.
Bob replies, “Sort of. She got to keep the house, the car, the boat, the furniture and MY dog. I got to keep everything I was wearing.”
The value of a dog is its constant reminder of how much fun it is to act idiotic.
Now These Really Do Ring True!!
- Law of Mechanical Repair – After your hands become coated with grease, your nose will begin to itch.
- Law of the Workshop – Any tool, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible corner.
- Law of the Telephone – When you dial a wrong number, you never get a busy Signal.
- Law of the Alibi – If you tell the boss you were late for work because you Had a flat tire, the next morning you will have a flat Tire.
- Variation Law – If you change lines (or traffic lanes), the one you were In will start to move faster than the one you are in now. (works every time)
- Bath Theorem – When the body is immersed in water, the telephone rings.
- Law of Close Encounters – The probability of meeting someone you know increases When you are with someone you don’t want to be seen with.
- Law of the Result – When you try to prove to someone that a machine won’t work, it will.
- Law of Bio-mechanics – The severity of the itch is inversely proportional to the reach.
- Theatre Rule – At any event, the people whose seats are furthest from the aisle arrive last
- Law of Coffee – As soon as you sit down to a cup of hot coffee, your boss will ask you to do something which will last until the coffee is cold.
- Murphy’s Law of Lockers – If there are only two people in a locker room, they will have adjacent lockers.
- Law of Dirty Rugs/Carpets – The chances of an open-faced jelly sandwich of landing Face down on a floor covering are directly correlated to the newness and cost of the carpet/rug.
If you can’t read this, you’re illiterate.
She said: My three year old son and I were passing by a McDonald’s one day and he started begging me to get some “fench fies, pweeeez”. I didn’t have any money on me and I told him “No, Mommy is broke” He didn’t complain he just accepted my answer.
A few days later we were driving past a McDonald’s once again. He was not having a happy day because we were stuck running errands all day. So I offered, “Ryan do you want to get some french fries?” And he perked up and smiled and said, “Why Mommy, are you fixed?”
Don’t hurry, don’t worry. You’re only here for a short visit, so be sure to stop and smell the flowers.
At the end of the college year, a star football player celebrated the relaxation of team curfew by attending a late night campus party. Soon after arriving, he became captivated by a beautiful young thing and eased into a conversation with her by asking if she met many dates at parties.
“Oh, I have a 3.9, so I’m much more attracted to the strong academic types than to dumb party animals,” she said. “What’s your G.P.A.?”
Grinning from ear to ear, the jock boasted, “I get about 27 in the city and 38 on the highway.
“We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”
Barbara De Angelis
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