April 5, 2021
“A good half of the art of living is resilience.”
Alain de Botton
The last few days have been a disappointment. A resident in my wife’s Memory Care unit was found to be infected with the virus. This meant the facility was locked down and I could not visit my wife..
She has taken the setback pretty well and I am glad about that. I have found this past year that we have to roll with what ever happens. The key is not to let adversity keep us down. Here is an article that I abridged that reminds us of the value of resiliency. I wish I kept the authors name but I did not.
Happiness is…Being Resilient
Resilience is measured by how well you can bounce back from what life has dealt you. I’d like to offer you the following tips for becoming resilient.
Bend but don’t break. Flexibility is an essential part of resilience. By learning how to be more adaptable, you’ll be better equipped to respond when faced with a life crisis.
Learn to follow the formula E + R = O. You can’t control the Event dealt to you, but how you respond to it, can determine the outcome. Be pro-active. Whenever you encounter a new challenge, make a quick list of some potential ways you could solve the problem.
Stay Connected. Nothing gives you strength like a strong social network. Have 2 or 3 people among your network that you can confide in.
Find a way to let off steam. I found exercise to be the outlet I needed. It worked when medication didn’t. Other suggestions are writing, either in a journal, or write your first book or learn to draw or paint. For some people, meditation and yoga works.
Find purpose in your life. Write a mission statement. Make it about others, not you. It might be you becoming active in your community, civic organizations or your church.
Throw negative thoughts out with the trash. Hijack negative thoughts. Head them off at the pass. Immediately replace them with positive thoughts. A major part of resilience is becoming more confident in your own abilities, including your ability to respond to and deal with a crisis.
Keep on the Sunny side: Stay optimistic, even through the darkest storms. Keeping a hopeful outlook is an important part of being resilient. Learn to take care of yourself. I don’t mean in a selfish, narcistic way. Get plenty of sleep. Eat the proper foods. Get sufficient exercise.
Don’t worry, be happy: Most of the negative thoughts in our life are not based upon actual events, but our perception of those events.
“Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems.”
A very drunk gent checked into a hotel late one Saturday night. He awoke very ill, and summoned a bellboy to fetch him a bottle of whiskey and a Sunday newspaper. The bellhop was gone a long time.
When he returned, the lush remarked, “It must be hard to buy a bottle in this town on Sunday.”
“There was no trouble with the liquor,” replied the bellboy, “but it’s tough finding a Sunday paper on Tuesday.”
Women are hard to figure out. They love lingerie and they love garage sales, but they don’t seem to like getting garage-sale lingerie as a gift.
An old-timer in Maine was approached by a surveying group for the state and informed him though he thought he’d been living in Maine for 70 years, he was actually living in New Hampshire.
“Thank God!!” he exclaimed. “I don’t think I could take another of those Maine winters!”
Any time you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there’s a 90 per cent probability you’ll get it wrong.
Airport Security alerted an airline crew to keep an eye a blonde passenger who appeared excessively nervous and shifty-eyed. Soon after takeoff, the blonde man called a stewardess to his seat and said, “I have a live grenade in my pocket. I’ll blow up the plane if you do not divert to Cairo.”
The stewardess said, “But, ma’am. This is TWA flight 1219 to Cairo.”
“Oh, no!” replied the blonde passenger, “I got on the wrong plane.”
A FEW HINTS
Work like you don’t need the money.
Love like you’ve never been hurt.
Dance like nobody’s watching.
Sing like nobody’s listening.
Live like it’s Heaven on Earth.
A screenwriter comes home to a burned down house. His sobbing and slightly-singed wife is standing outside. “What happened, honey?” the man asks.
“Oh, John, it was terrible,” she weeps. “I was cooking, the phone rang. It was your agent. Because I was on the phone, I didn’t notice the stove was on fire. It went up in second. Everything is gone. I nearly didn’t make it out of the house. Poor Fluffy is…”
“Wait! Back up a minute,” The man says. “My agent called?”
Many men don’t understand the true value of a woman’s love…….until they start paying alimony.
A woman goes to the police station to report that her husband was missing.
“Can you give me a description of him?” asked the officer.
“He’s short and bald and skinny and wrinkled and wears dentures,” answered the woman. “Come to think of it, most of him was missing before he was.”
THE WONDERFUL THING ABOUT THE GAME OF LIFE IS THAT WINNING AND LOSING ARE ONLY TEMPORARY. UNLESS YOU QUIT.
Margaret: “That was nice of you to set up a blind date for your ex-boyfriend.”
Jill: “I know, but I don’t hold any grudges.”
Margaret: “I’m surprised he trusted you enough to agree to go out with her.”
Jill: “Well, I had to swear to him she’s Jennifer Lopez’s double.”
Margaret: “Wow! Is that true?”
Jill: “I wouldn’t lie. She’s twice her weight and twice her age.”
“Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good.”
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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