October 20, 2020
Here is another Daily from yesteryear
“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.”
Rays Daily first published on October 20, 2009
It seems like a lot of the Dailies lately have focused on slowing down, enjoying life and ignoring the unimportant. Of course we all have things we must do, things we probably should do and things that trap us into doing what we really don’t need to do. Lately it seems that far too many are so bogged down in just constant doing they never stop to spend time being. The wise know that you cannot keep the engine revved up at full speed all the time, it needs time to slow down and even stop for maintenance for if you don’t it will wear out. We are like that, we need our own maintenance, for if we don’t stop and recharge we take the risk of a real breakdown. Taking a break is not running from the things we must do, rather it is the rest stop that assures that we will be able to do what we do well. It is all a question of balance.
This morning I want to share with you some advice from professional life strategies coach and inspirational author Steve Brunkhorst. It is longer than my usual material from the wise but I think it is important enough to include it.
A Plan for Balance
In today’s fast-paced society, it is normal to fall out of balance from time to time. Our sense of control seems to vanish in a whirlwind of career schedules, appointments, family responsibilities, and a search for more personal time. Simplicity appears to be chance rather than voluntary, and we backslide into chaos. Today, I’m going to introduce you to a helpful seven-step plan for achieving a more integrated balance in daily living.
1. Identify your imbalance and recognize your current mind-set: If you felt as fulfilled as you would like, what would be different? What is the exact gap between where you are now and where you want to be? This identification may be the most difficult step to take; however, it is essential. Take the time to work through it, and name the gap. Then, notice the way you are looking at any particular issue (e.g., “My schedule won’t allow me any time for myself.”). The process begins with awareness of a trapped perspective.
2. Brainstorm new perspectives: Reexamine your viewpoint. Are you driving your choices, or does someone or something else have the wheel – habits, time-wasting activities, limiting beliefs, low energy, the need for additional skills? Stretch your boundaries to include new ideas – without attachment to any one option. Make a “What if” list (e.g., What if I began my dream job part time, hired an assistant, dropped out of a group or committee, etc.). Here is a great example: What could you do with the hour you normally spend watching TV each day – gaining you the equivalent of more than three 8-hour work days each month?
Ask yourself these questions: “What has been my most effective response to the greatest challenges in my lifetime?” “What is one thing I could alter in my environment today that may be having a negative impact on me spiritually, emotionally, or physically?”
3. Imagine living from your new perspectives: Here, your power of choice begins to expand. Imagine viewing your life through the window of your new choices. Visualize and mentally inhabit different perspectives. Live each of these viewpoints for a moment, as if you were trying on a new garment. What does each one feel like?
4. Choose one perspective: This is your gateway to life-changing action. Now that you’ve tried on a few new perspectives, choose your favorite. You can always go back to others; however, for now, choose one to live with for a month. You will be moving closer to balance.
5. Design a personal action plan: What additional skills and resources will you need? What will be the advantages or disadvantages in all the key areas of your life? What will be the first step of your plan, and when will you begin? What are you willing to take ownership of in order to achieve the balance and fulfillment you desire? Write out a plan that you can easily manage and carry out over the next month.
6. Make a commitment to your plan: Commitment enhances resolve, determination, and mental strength. Without commitment, our plans are external to us, and we remain trapped in uncertainty and fear. When we commit to a plan of action, we move beyond choice. We step into new territory, unwilling to turn back from keeping our desires, values, and actions in harmony with one another.
7. Take massive action: This process is about accepting responsibility for your well-being and taking control of your life. You have identified limiting viewpoints and mentally “tried on” new perspectives. You have become aware of new options, made a plan, and made a commitment. Now, work your plan intensely each day. Learn from mistakes, restructure your plan as needed, and gain from your efforts the most valuable asset you will ever own: experience. Your experience is life’s instant feedback manual. It uncovers options and contains the awareness of choice that will lead you toward greater balance and wholeness.
When you accept this responsibility, not ever delegating your power of choice to another, you place yourself in charge of your outcomes. Your actions will begin to lead you toward additional possibilities and options for creating a more balanced and fulfilling life. The process continues.
“We need to maintain a proper balance in our life by allocating the time we have. There are occasions where saying no is the best time management practice there is.”
The following reminds me of when, as an adult I was initiated into the Boy Scouts of America’s Order of the Arrow. I was left in the woods alone, with a blanket and two matches, I never got past step 7.
Sixteen Steps to Build a Campfire
1. Split dead limb into fragments and shave one fragment into slivers.
2. Bandage left thumb.
3. Chop other fragments into smaller fragments
4. Bandage left foot.
5. Make structure of slivers (include those embedded in hand)
6. Light Match
7. Light Match
8. Repeat “a Scout is cheerful” and light match.
9. Apply match to slivers, add wood fragments, and blow gently into base of fire.
10. Apply burn ointment to nose.
11. When fire is burning, collect more wood.
12. Upon discovering that fire has gone out while out searching for more wood, soak wood from can labeled “kerosene.”
13. Treat face and arms for second-degree burns.
14. Relabel can to read “gasoline.”
15. When fire is burning well, add all remaining firewood.
16. When thunder storm has passed, repeat steps.
“Every day is a good day to be alive, whether the sun’s shining or not.”
My wife is a shopping expert, here are some tips:
1. Get it now. Tomorrow it might be gone.
2. If it’s on sale, you need it.
3. Never ask your mother her opinion.
4. You can always take it back.
5. You’ll grow into it.
6. By the time you need it, you’ll lose ten pounds.
7. Never believe anyone who says, “It’s really you”.
8. If they’re working on commission, they’re lying.
9. Know when to yell, “Charge!”
10. So many malls, so little time.
11. If you put it on your credit card, it’s not really spending money.
12. Always try to spend someone else’s money first.
13. There’s no such thing as compulsive shopping, just enthusiastic shopping.
14. Shopping is patriotic. It’s good for the economy.
15. If you’ve still got checks, there must be money in the account.
16. You can always get more credit.
17. If you want it, you deserve it.
“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”
There was a blonde sitting on the side of the road because her 1968 Volkswagon beetle had broken down. She started waving her arms to get the attention of another blonde who was also driving a Volkswagen beetle. After she was waved down, the second blonde got out of the car and asked what was wrong.
The first blonde said that when she opened up the hood of her car she noticed that her engine was missing. After hearing this, the second blonde walked over to her car, opened up the trunk and said that she was in luck because there was a spare engine in her trunk.
Every soul is a melody which needs renewing.
The young lady walked over to the room where she knew her friend was. “May I see Irving, please?” she asked the woman blocking the door.
“We don’t allow anyone but relatives to see the patients,” replied the woman. “Are you a member of the family?”
“Why-er-why, yes. I’m his sister,” said the lady.
“Oh, I’m so glad to meet you,” said the woman. “I’m his mother!”
“You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself.”
Two women that are dog owners are arguing about which dog is smarter. First woman, “My dog is so smart, every morning he waits for the paper boy to come around and then he takes the newspaper and brings it to me.” Second woman, “I know.” First woman, “How?” Second woman, “My dog told me.”
“A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your step as you walk the tightrope of life.”
William Arthur Ward
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