August 18, 2020
There are only two options regarding commitment. You’re either in or out. There’s no such thing as a life in-between.”
Ray’s Daily first published on August 18, 2009
I was mentioning to a friend yesterday how disappointing it is to have people I know decide that they need to make a change in their life and then decide it is too much effort to do what is needed to get to where they want to go. I don’t know if it is lack of courage, lack of will or just laziness. What I find distressing is when they share their dream and their plan to achieve it, exciting me in the process and then watching them quit making any real effort to fulfill their dream. It is especially worrisome when they need to find a new future because of job loss or economic problems only to give up without trying to dig their way out of their situation. I am beginning to believe that we now have too many folks who lack the patience needed to successfully invest in their future, people who give up if they don’t achieve instant success. It seems like these individuals have become so conditioned to an instant-gratification world that if things don’t happen right now they are not worth pursuing.
I agree with what author Cookie Tuminello wrote recently about commitment and follow-through. Here is what she said:
I’m on a rant today about one of my pet peeves and success saboteurs. I rate it right up there with shooting yourself in the foot. How many times a day do you hear yourself or others use the phrase, “I’ll try… to get this project done” or “I’ll try… to come to the meeting”? I cringe every time I hear it. Here are three thoughts that come up for me when someone says, “I’ll try…” Are you afraid to commit, afraid to say NO, or afraid you won’t succeed so you want to leave a back door open just in case?
Well, in my world, “I’ll try” is like saying you’re a ‘little bit’ of a couch potato. Either you are or you aren’t. There is no grey area in that particular case, and no such area exists in real life as well. Saying “I’ll try to get that done for you” is akin to admitting defeat ahead of time. You come off sounding pretty wishy-washy, and your lack of commitment to following through on the request is iffy at best. Maybe you will get that job finished… or maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll change your eating habits and not chow down a quart of ice cream every night… or maybe you won’t. See where I’m going with this?
Committing to positive change in your life requires decisive action on your part. You can’t dance around your decision and hope that by some divine intervention things are going to miraculously change, because believe me, that’s not going to happen. That would be like looking at a flat tire on your car and hoping that AAA shows up BEFORE you place a call.
By copping out and using the “I’ll try” response, you’re admitting that you aren’t committed to doing the necessary work to be the person you want to be in your life. When you live your life mired in mediocrity, you get mediocre results. Well, duh! If that isn’t a recipe for self-sabotage, I don’t know what is!
We’re all familiar with the expression, “You don’t get to whine if you don’t do the time,” and I can’t think of any better way to put it than that. Either you want to change or you don’t. There’s no grey area here. Which is it?
So, the next time you even think about saying “I’ll try,” I want you to ask yourself these three questions:
* How long am I going to keep settling for less in my life?
* How long am I going to keep giving away my power?
* When am I going to tell the truth about what I want in my life?
Your power, identity, success, and happiness depend on your answers. Choose carefully!
“I keep a simple view of living. It is, keep your eyes open and get on with it.”
Sir Laurence Olivier
Moses and his flock arrive at the sea, with the Egyptians in hot pursuit.
Moses calls a staff meeting.
Moses: Well, how are we going to get across the sea? We need a fast solution. The Egyptians are close behind us.
The General of the Armies: Normally, I’d recommend that we build a pontoon bridge to carry us across. But there’s not enough time – the Egyptians are too close.
The Admiral of the Navy: Normally, I’d recommend that we build barges to carry us across. But time is too short.
Moses: Does anyone have a solution?
Just then, his Public Relations man raises his hand.
Moses: You! You have a solution?
The PR Man: No, but I can promise you this: If you can find a way out of this one, I can get you two or three pages in the Old Testament.
If you have trouble getting your children’s attention, just sit down and look comfortable.
The students in her third grade class were bombarding her with questions about her newly pierced ears.
“Does the hole go all the way through?”
“Did it hurt?”
“Just a little.”
“Did they stick a needle through your ears?”
“No, they used a special gun.”
Silence followed, and then one solemn voice called out,
“How far away did they stand?”
I look forward to being older, when what you look like becomes less and less an issue and what you are is the point.
She said: When I arrived for my daughter’s parent-teacher conference, the teacher seemed a bit flustered, especially when she started telling me that my little girl didn’t always pay attention in class and was sometimes a little flighty.
“For example, she’ll do the wrong page in the workbook,” the teacher explained, “and I’ve even found her sitting in the wrong desk.”
“I don’t understand that,” I replied defensively. “Where could she have gotten that?”
The teacher went on to reassure me that my daughter was still doing fine in school and was sweet and likeable. Finally, after a pause, she added, “By the way, our appointment was for tomorrow.”
I panicked and hung up! What kind of sick company has an actual PERSON answer their phone?!
Mrs. Taylor, asked her 5th grade history class, “When was Rome built?” and called on Timothy to answer first.
“Rome was built at night.” was his answer.
“At night?” asked Mrs. Taylor, holding her ruler firmly in her hands. “How ever did you get such an idea?”
“Well,” gulped the student, hoping his answer would satisfy her, “everyone knows Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
I took a course in speed waiting. Now I can wait an hour in only ten minutes.
Start by doing what’s necessary, then do what’s possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.
Saint Francis of Assisi
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