July 6, 2020
“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
Leo F. Buscaglia
It seems that not a day goes by that we that we don’t hear bad news. More and more folks are infected with the virus and thousands are dying. Favorite restaurants and stores have closed, with millions put out of work. These are truly difficult times.
I think what makes things even worse is that worry is running rampant in our society. We know things will never be the same and some of us wonder what our lives are going to be like in the future.
Years ago, I decided that I would avoid worrying about things that I could not control, if something bad did happen I would deal with it then. We need to not let worry prevent us from doing what we can to find some happiness these days. Here is an heavily edited article that may help those who are burdened with worry.
4 habits that will train your brain to stop worrying
How much worry is it really worth? At what point do we need to stop worrying and accept the situation as it is? What if there was a way to stop worrying (or at least stop worrying so much)?
- Find your stop-loss point — give worry a limitation – When you find yourself in a cycle of worry and anxiety, stop and ask where your stop-loss point is, i.e. at what point do you stop worrying and let it go?
By giving every worry a limitation, you’re not allowing it to control you but you become mindful about everything occupying your mind and choose to focus on other things instead of digging deeper. It’s one way to retrain your brain to worry less and worry smarter.
- Acknowledge your worries, and get them out of your head by writing them down – Worrying rarely leads to solutions. Instead of worrying about everything that can go wrong, write away your worries. By writing down your worries, you feel as though you’re emptying your brain, and you feel lighter and less tense.
“Get everything out and don’t hold back,” says lead author of the “Worry Less Report”, Hans Schroder (Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, Michigan State University). “You don’t have to share your thoughts with anyone, and don’t worry about spelling and grammar. Getting worries out of your head through expressive writing frees up cognitive resources for other things,” he adds.
- Shift your worry from the long-term problems to daily routines/actions that will solve the problems –
Be pragmatic, and proactive about things in your control.
Once you list your worries, identify actions you can take in the short-term to solve the problems and start executing daily, weekly or monthly.
Write down how you will deal with them even if they happen. Think of a solution for all your perceived problems. For example, if your financial situation makes you anxious, you need to create a plan to earn more or spend less or invest some of your savings in low-risk investment opportunities.
- Interrupt the worry cycle – If you worry excessively, find productive activities that can easily distract your thought process. Keep busy. Get up and get moving — exercise is a natural way to break the cycle because it releases endorphins which relieve tension and stress, boost energy, and enhance your sense of well-being.
You can also distract yourself by doing something completely unrelated and different that forces you to focus on something else. This is most effective if you choose an activity you deeply care about such as practicing your hobby or reading an exceptional book.
Learning to stop worrying will be the catalyst to change your life completely. It won’t happen overnight, and it is something you will need to work at, but once you notice changes, celebrate them and keep doing things that can help you get out of your head more.
“Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.”
Henry Ward Beecher
Mom and Dad went to a restaurant one evening. Dad was about halfway finishing his meal when took a hard look at the potato. He called the waitress and said, “This potato is bad.”
The waitress picked it up, smacked it, and put it back on the plate, then said, “If that potato causes any more trouble just let me know.”
Middle age is when you have a choice of two temptations and choose the one that will get you home earlier.
Rick, fresh out of accounting school, went to a interview for a good paying job. The company boss asked various questions about him and his education, but then asked him, “What is three times seven?”
“Twenty-two,” Rick replied. After he left, he double-checked it on his calculator (he *knew* he should have taken it to the interview!) and realized he wouldn’t get the job.
About two weeks later, Rick got a letter that said he was hired for the job! He was not one to look a gift horse in the mouth, but he was still very curious. The next day, he went in and asked why he got the job, even though he got such a simple question wrong. The boss shrugged and said, “Well, you were the closest.”
“Next time you’re feeling sorry for yourself, consider that your garbage disposal eats better than 30% of the world’s population.”
He said: Because my mother had a habit of losing her cordless phone, I bought her a phone with a clip on it, so she could attach it directly to her belt. A few days later, I walked into my mother’s home and found her standing in the middle of the living room, halfway dressed. That didn’t strike me as odd so much as the fact that she was holding her pants to the side of her head and speaking into them.
“Don’t look at me that way,” she yelled. “The phone started ringing and I couldn’t figure out how to undo this stupid clip!”
You can’t control the wind, but you can adjust your sails.
A cowboy rode into town and stopped at a saloon for a drink. Unfortunately, the locals had a habit of picking on strangers. So when he finished his drink, he found his horse had been stolen. He went back into the bar, handily flipped his gun into the air, caught it above his head and fired a shot into the ceiling. ”Which one of you sidewinders stole my hoss?” he yelled.
No one answered. ”all right, I’m gonna have anotha’ beer, and if my hoss ain’t back outside by the time I finish, I’m gonna do what I done in Texas! And I don’t like to have to do what I done in Texas!”
Some of the locals shifted restlessly. The cowboy had another beer, walked outside, and his horse was back! He saddled up and started to ride out of town.
The bartender wandered out of the bar and asked, ”Say partner, before you go. . . what happened in Texas?”
The cowboy turned back and said, ”I had to walk home.”
“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.”
One afternoon a man came home from work to find total mayhem in his house. His three children were outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard.
The door of his wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house. Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall. In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.
He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she may be ill, or that something serious had happened. He found her lounging in the bedroom, still curled in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went.
He looked at her bewildered and asked, ‘What happened here today?’ She again smiled and answered, ‘You know every day when you come home from work and ask me what in the world did I do today?’
‘Yes’ was his incredulous reply.
She answered, ‘Well, today I didn’t do it.’
“When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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