It’s Just MeRay’s Daily
February 27, 2020
“Be yourself, don’t take anything from anyone, and never let them take you alive.”
I think one of the big advantages of the retirement years is that we get to be who we want to be. When I was in the workforce I often found myself making an effort to project myself as capable of doing what ever needed to be done. I would sometimes role play being some one more confident that I really was.
I think many of us go through life trying to be someone others want us to be. While I did not find my efforts to be a problem as my life rolled on, but I now enjoy the freedom to just be me. This is as good as I am going to get, and you know what? That seems to be ok with my friends and family.
Here is an article from the Lifehack blog that makes sense to me:
10 Ways To Always Be Yourself And Live Happily
- Don’t Aim to Please Others – There is a problem if you are never doing what you want to do, yet always doing what everyone else wants to do.
- Pleasing others can be a nice thing to do, but know where your boundaries are. Instead of always aiming to please others, you should do things for yourself as well every now and then.
- Don’t Worry About How Others View You – Occasionally thinking about how others view you may make you change for the good, but you should not be constantly wondering about what others are thinking. You should change if you want to, and change into what or who you want to change into.
- Learn More About Yourself – Do you know who you really are? Ever since you were young, you have been conditioned to be one way or another. It may be weird just to spend a day being your spontaneous self, but sometimes it is the only way that you can learn how to be yourself.
- Appreciate Who You Are – No matter how weird you are, appreciate yourself! Each person is unique, and everyone has at least a little weirdness in themselves. Appreciate your weirdness and let it out.
- Be Confident with Who You Are – Do you ever doubt yourself? Doubting yourself can be very easy if you are constantly comparing yourself to others and wondering “What if?”
Instead of doubting yourself all the time, you should be confident with yourself and who you are. Showing confidence in yourself and your decisions will also show to others that you know what you are doing.
- Forgive Yourself – Forgive yourself for thinking negatively. Forgive yourself for talking, without thinking twice. Forgive yourself for being rude to your superiors, your friends, your parents, or your siblings. Don’t think negative thoughts about yourself for taking wrong steps or making wrong decisions. This kind of thinking puts your focus on the problem and not the solution. It’s better to say good things about yourself than to say negative things. Always saying positive things about yourself is a sign that you have forgiven yourself.
- Stop Being Negative About Yourself – Do you look at everything as a glass half full or a glass half empty? It can be easy to be negative about yourself. When it comes to being happy, it is vital that you learn how to be yourself and to be more positive.
- Find a Hobby That You Love – Everyone has something that they live for or that they love to do. Figure out what you love to do and make a hobby out of it. Doing what you love can make you much happier.
- Learn from Your Mistakes – You can really learn more about yourself when you make a mistake. Mistakes in your life do not always need to be seen negatively. Think about what went wrong, learn from it, and move on.
- Strive for What You Want to Accomplish – Being yourself does not have to mean that you have to be stuck in status quote. Aim for what you want to achieve and strive for that accomplishment. You can improve yourself while still remaining true to yourself.
“Learn to… be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not.”
Henri Frederic Amiel
On an airplane, I overheard a stewardess talking to an elderly couple in front of me. Learning that it was the couple’s 50th wedding anniversary, the flight attendant congratulated them and asked how they had done it.
“It all felt like five minutes…” the gentleman said slowly.
The stewardess had just begun to remark on what a sweet statement that was when he finished his sentence with a word that earned him a sharp smack on the head:
“Don’t worry about avoiding temptation… as you grow older, it will avoid you.”
“How long have you been driving without a tail light?” asked the policeman after pulling over a motorist. The driver jumped out, ran to the rear of his car and gave a long, painful groan.
He seemed so upset that the cop was moved to ease up on him a bit.
“Come on, now,” he said, “you don’t have to take it so hard. It isn’t that serious.”
“It isn’t?” cried the motorist. “Then you know what happened to my boat and trailer?”
Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there
An American history teacher, lecturing the class on the Puritans, asked: “What sort of people were punished in the stocks?”
To which a small voice from the back of the room responded: “The small investor.”
There’s so much pollution in the air now that if it weren’t for our lungs there’d be no place to put it all.
My wife called me as she was driving to an appointment. She arrived, and I could tell from her voice that she was getting frustrated. Finally she said, “I know I had my cell phone with me. And now I can’t find it!”
I replied, “Aren’t you talking on it!?”
There was a solid period of stunned silence as the reality of the situation sank in – followed by, “You are NOT going to tell anybody about this!”
I doubt, therefore I might be.
Finkelman just arrives in America and needs a job, and has no qualms about inventing the necessary qualifications. He reasons that once he finds work, he will impress the boss so much that everything will be forgiven.
After a successful initial interview with the Encyclopedia of American History, he is called back to meet the sales manager.
“You say you have experience selling books?”
“Lots of it,” replies Finkelman.
“And you have a Master’s in American history from the University of Michigan?”
“Correct,” replies Finkelman. “History is my field of study.”
“Well then,” says the sales manager, “As soon as I can complete this form, we can get you started in our firm.”
While the sales manager is making a few notations, Finkelman, obviously pleased with himself, begins to whistle. Looking around the room, he notices pictures of Washington and Lincoln on the walls. Pointing to the portraits, he turns to the sales manager and says, “Fine looking men. Your partners?”
“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”
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