February 12, 2020
He who does not trust enough, Will not be trusted.
I am lucky enough to live among some really good people. They are the kind of folks who are open and honest. These days when some of us wonder who we can trust because of so much misinformation and animosity.
I gravitate to people who say what they mean so you can trust what they say. In my estimation trust is the glue that holds lifelong friendships together. Here is a short piece written by Jon Gordon that offers his thoughts on how we can can build trust.
11 WAYS TO BUILD TRUST
I want to share some thoughts about how we can build the trust that is essential for great relationships. Many of the suggestions you are already know. Many ideas I share are common sense. However, I’ve found that so often amidst the chaos of life and work we forget the simple and powerful truths that matter most. So here are 11 thoughts about trust. Feel free to share these simple reminders with your leaders, colleagues and team.
- Say what you are going to do and then do what you say!
- Communicate, communicate, communicate. Frequent, honest communication builds trust. Poor communication is one of the key reasons marriages and work relationships fall apart.
- Trust is built one day, one interaction at a time, and yet it can be lost in a moment because of one poor decision. Make the right decision.
- Value long term relationships more than short term success.
- Sell without selling out. Focus more on your core principles and customer loyalty than short term commissions and profits.
- Trust generates commitment; commitment fosters teamwork; and teamwork delivers results. When people trust their team members they not only work harder, but they work harder for the good of the team.
- Be honest! My mother always told me to tell the truth. She would say, “If you lie to me then we can’t be a strong family. So don’t ever lie to me even if the news isn’t good.”
- Become a coach. Guide people, help them be better and you will earn their trust.
- Show people you care about them. When people know you care about their interests as much as your own they will trust you. If they know you are out for yourself, their internal alarm sounds and they will say to themselves “watch out for that person.”
- Always do the right thing. We trust those who live, walk and work with integrity.
- When you don’t do the right thing, admit it. Be transparent, authentic and willing to share your mistakes and faults. When you are vulnerable and have nothing to hide you radiate trust.
Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.
When I’m a little old lady, it’ll be so great,
I have so many plans, that I just can not wait.
I’ll live with my children and bring them great joy.
To repay all I’ve had from each girl and boy.
I shall draw on the walls and scuff up the floor;
run in and out without closing the door.
I’ll hide frogs in the pantry, socks under my bed.
And whenever they scold me, I’ll hang my head.
I’ll run and I’ll romp, always fritter away…..
the time to be spent doing chores every day.
I’ll pester my children when they are on the phone.
As long as they’re busy I won’t leave them alone.
Hide candy in closets, rocks in a drawer …
and never pick up what I drop on the floor.
Dash off to the movies and not wash a dish.
I’ll plead for allowance whenever I wish.
I’ll stuff up the plumbing and deluge the floor.
As soon as they’ve mopped it, I’ll flood it some more.
When they correct me, I’ll lie down and cry,
kicking and screaming, not a tear in my eye.
I’ll take all their pencils and flashlights, and then ..
when they buy new ones, I’ll take them again.
I’ll spill glasses of milk to complete every meal..
Eat my banana and just drop the peel.
Put toys on the table, spill jam on the floor.
I’ll break lots of dishes as though I were four.
What fun I shall have, what joy it will be
to Live with my children, the way they lived with me!
A successful marriage isn’t finding the right person – it’s being the right person.
Irving took Harry to a celebratory dinner at a really posh restaurant.
They walked in, were ushered to a table by a formally dressed maitre d’, and sat down at a table on which were displayed the finest china and crystal. Taking the damask napkin from the solid silver napkin ring, Harry unfolded it, put it around his neck and proceeded to tie a knot in the back.
Staring at him, the maitre d’ said, between gritted teeth, “Sir, will you be having a shave or a haircut?”
It rarely occurs to teenagers that the day will come when they’ll know as little as their parents.
A woman was chatting with her next-door neighbor. “I feel really good today. I started out this morning with an act of unselfish generosity. I gave a five dollar bill to a bum.”
“You gave a bum five whole dollars? That’s a lot of money to just give away. What did you husband say about it?”
“Oh, he thought it was the proper thing to do. He said, ‘Thanks.’ ”
“I Used to Have a Handle on Life, but It Broke”
Two cab drivers were waiting for fares in front of a downtown hotel.
“Hey,” asked one, “why did you paint one side of your cab red and the other side blue?”
“Well,” the other responded, “when I get into an accident, you should see how all the witnesses contradict each other.”
The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.
The pilot was sitting in his seat and pulled out a .38 revolver. He placed it on top of the instrument panel, then asked the navigator, “Do you know what I use this for?”
The nav replied timidly, “No, what’s it for?”
The pilot responded, “I use this on navigators who get me lost!”
The navigator proceeded to pull out a .45 and place it on his chart table.
The pilot asked, “What’s that for?”
“To be honest sir,” the nav replied, “I’ll know we’re lost before you will.”
I think someone should invent Beerguard, because how often do you actually spill Scotch on the carpet?
After many years, a young Jewish Talmud student who had left the old country for America returns to visit the family.
“But–where is your beard?” asks his mother upon seeing him.
“Mama,” he replies, “In America, nobody wears a beard.”
“But at least you keep the Sabbath?”
“Mama, business is business. In America, everybody works on the Sabbath.”
“But kosher food you still eat?”
“Mama, in America, it is very difficult to keep kosher.”
The old lady ponders this information and then leans over and whispers in his ear, “Isaac, tell me you’re still circumcised?”
“When your dad is mad and asks you, ‘Do I look stupid?’ don’t answer him.”
Heather, age 16
“Dana,” asked Kim thoughtfully one day, “what would you do if you caught another woman in bed with your husband?”
“With Jack?” Dana thought it over. “Let’s see; I’d break her cane, shoot her guide dog, and call a cab to take her back to the institution she escaped from.”
Although the life of a person is in a land full of thorns and weeds, there is always a space in which the good seed can grow.
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