December 6, 2019
For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
I don’t know about you but I sometimes get angry and usually it is just not worth it. In fact I often get criticizes for got getting mad about something or event. But I am OK with that for in my case getting angry only distresses me and has no good purpose.
In the heavily edited article below we are offered tips on how we can understand our anger and then hopefully deal with it. I guess I am lucky for I feel I know what is behind mine.
How To Handle Anger
by Dr. Annette Colby, RD
Anger is an emotion that can be difficult to deal with. Sometimes it’s experienced as a fleeting annoyance while other times it consumes our bodies with a burning rage. Anger is a natural human emotion, and it happens to everybody, whether we openly express it or not. The problem is not that we have anger. How we process anger determines whether it becomes a tool for self-healing or a weapon of destruction. The following is a guideline for working with anger. The steps work best if done out loud because this brings out the internal dialogue of the mind so you can become conscious of what is really going on for you beneath the anger.
- Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t allow connection with your feeling, and won’t allow movement to occur. Acknowledge that you have anger and take some time to feel it within your body. Decide not to run away from it. Thank the anger for being present. Allow for the ideas that even if you don’t understand your anger completely. Your anger is attempting to fight for you. Gratitude will melt resistance you have towards your own anger.
- Give anger your unconditional acceptance. Commit to yourself that you will not judge, ignore, shame, reject, criticize, or punish yourself for having anger. It is allowable for you to have anger. Your experience is meaningful.
- Share your desire to get to know your anger, why it is here, and what it wants for you. Anger is not your enemy. Anger indicates you are in pain, hurt, or fear. It’s very presence allows an opportunity to heal or open the doorway to greater love. Express your desire to know what experiences might be connected with this anger. Communicate with your anger in a way that you allow yourself to be its friend, and that your desire is to have it express itself to you.
- Allow your anger, words, or memories to have a safe space to come out. As you listen to your anger, go beyond the surface and ask what you are feeling threatened by. Ask what you would need from yourself to feel even a little better. Continue to remember anger is an experience, not who you are.
- Recognize that beneath your anger, you felt threatened in some manner. Listen and be willing to understand what lives inside of you. Offer love to your anger and the tender place beneath your anger. This is the process of transformation. You don’t need to solve anything, rather you need to bring a loving presence to the hurt that lives beneath anger. Your job is to realize exactly what caused you to feel threatened, and now allow for new assertive, loving, and adult ways of dealing with that threat.
There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.
Speaking of kids….
- Dear God, Please send me a pony. I never asked for anything before. You can look it up. Bruce
· Dear God, If we come back as something, please don’t let me be Jennifer Horton, because I hate her. Denise
· Dear God, I want to be just like my daddy when I get big, but not with so much hair all over. Sam
· Dear God, I think the stapler is one of your greatest inventions. Ruth
· Dear God, I think about you sometimes, even when I’m not praying. Elliott
· Dear God, I bet it is very hard for you to love all the people in the world. There are only four people in our family and I can never do it. Nan
A good way to get your name in the newspaper is to cross the street reading one.
A southern minister was completing a temperance sermon. With great expression he said, “If I had all the beer in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.”
With even greater emphasis he said, “And if I had all the wine in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.”
And then finally, he said, “And if I had all the whiskey in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.” Sermon complete, he then sat down.
The song leader stood very cautiously and announced with a smile, “For our closing song, let us sing Hymn #365: ‘Shall We Gather at the River’.”
“Never judge a man by the opinion his wife has of him.”
– Bob Edwards
Blackjack and Beeman’s gum
Powerhouse candy bars
Wax teeth, lips and mustaches
Wax Coke-shaped bottles with colored sugar water
Soda pop machines that dispense bottles
Tableside jukeboxes in coffee shops
Home milk delivery in glass bottles with cardboard stoppers
Movies preceded by cartoons and newsreels
If you do too, I hope your arthritis is not as severe as mine.
The worst thing about accidents in the kitchen is that you usually have to eat them.
Don’t you just hate it when:
You have to try on a pair of sunglasses with that stupid little plastic thing in the middle of them.
The person behind you in the supermarket runs his cart into the back of your ankle.
The elevator stops on every floor and nobody gets on or off.
There’s always a car riding your tail when you’re slowing down to find an address.
You open a can of soup and the lid falls in.
The tiny red string on the Band-Aid wrapper never works for you.
You can never put anything back in a box the way it came.
Your tire gauge lets out half the air while you’re trying to get a reading.
A station comes in brilliantly when you’re standing near the radio but buzzes, drifts and has fits every time you move away.You wash a garment with a tissue in the pocket and your entire laundry comes out covered with lint.
The car behind you blasts its horn because you let a pedestrian finish crossing.
You set the alarm on your digital clock for 7pm instead of 7am.
The radio station doesn’t tell you who sang that song.
People behind you on a supermarket line dash ahead of you to a counter just opening up.
You can’t look up the correct spelling of a word in the dictionary because you don’t know how to spell it.
You have to inform five different sales people in the same store that you’re just browsing.
You reach under the table to pick something off the floor and smash your head on the way up.
Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.
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