October 28, 2019
There are two rules in life: Rule #1: Don’t sweat the small stuff. Rule #2: Everything is small stuff.
One of the things I have learned over the years is that the happiest people don’t waste much time on the trivial. The folks that let the unimportant fill their time and clutter their minds miss the opportunities to manage their life in order to maximize their happiness.
The trivial things we encounter in our lives are just that, trivial and not worth our time. Too many of us let minor inconveniences anger us and waste time better spent just moving on. If we are so busy reacting to little things we can’t control, we will have little time left over to improve those things we can control.
Here is an old favorite story I may have shared with you before, if I did it is worth reading again,
The important things in life
A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar. He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”
“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”
“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”
“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
Ask yourself this question, will this matter a year from now?
A difficult independent 75-year-old woman liked sitting by the park feeding the pigeons. One day she brought with her a whole loaf of fresh bread just to feed her daily company. Little by little, pinch by pinch, she fed each pigeon with joy. She sat there without being noticed by anyone in the rich suburban neighborhood.
Then suddenly a man in his early 40’s rained on her parade by telling her that she shouldn’t throw away good food on a bunch of pigeons that can find food anywhere when there are a lot of people starving in Africa.
She replied in crazed anger and without hesitation, “Well, hell, I can’t throw that far!”
People are forever calling me a hypochondriac, and, let me tell you, that makes me sick
“I don’t understand it, doctor. My weight is just out of control,” said Mrs. Pauly. “I’ve gained over 70 pounds in the last two months. Why, just yesterday, my husband called me a Fat Cow!”
“Well,” said the doctor, “I’m sure that we can find a cause for this. Let’s begin with an examination. Stick out your tongue and say ‘Mooo.’ ”
“Depend upon yourself. Make your judgement trustworthy by trusting it. You can develop good judgment as you do the muscles of your body – by judicious, daily exercise. To be known as a man of sound judgment will be much in your favor. ”
The physics professor, checking to see how many people had actually read the assignment, asked “What are the two types of light?”
The lab fell quiet until a small voice came from the back of the room, “Uhhh, Miller and Coors?”
A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
Q: My wife is going through menopause. What can I do?
A: Keep busy. If you’re handy with tools, you can finish the basement. When you are done you will have a place to live.
Q: How can you increase the heart rate of your 60+ year old husband?
A: Tell him you’re pregnant.
Q: How can you avoid spotting a wrinkle every time you walk by a mirror?
A: The next time you’re in front of a mirror, take off your glasses.
Q: Why should 60+ year old people use valet parking?
A: Valets don’t forget where they park your car.
Q: Is it common for 60+ year olds to have problems with short term memory storage?
A: Storing memory is not a problem, retrieving it is a problem.
Q: What is the most common remark made by 60+ year olds when they enter antique stores?
A: “I remember these!!”
Remember: Life is short, break the rules (they were made to be broken) Forgive quickly, kiss slowly Love truly, laugh uncontrollably And never regret anything that makes you smile. The clouds are lined with silver and the glass is half full (though the answers won’t be found at the bottom) Don’t sweat the small stuff, You are who you are meant to be, Dance as if no one’s watching, Love as if it’s all you know, Dream as if you’ll live forever, Live as if you’ll die today
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