October 9, 2019
“Self-acceptance is my refusal to be in an adversarial relationship with myself.”
Someone I hold in high regard returned to work after recovering from surgery today. She has a leadership position where I reside and often brightens my day. I do like my fellow residents and our helpful staff they make life here a pleasant experience.
What bothers me is that some of these good people don’t seem to like themselves as much as I like them. So many warm and kind folks don’t give themselves credit for their going through life making people like me glad to know them.
I have met some famous people, over the years as well as leaders of all types they have not impressed me as much as the people less known who are filled with a basic goodness. They are the ones who should get credit for making so many others happy by their kindness.
I hope you like yourself as much as I like you. If you do not then read the following excerpts from an article written by Thomas Oppong.
Self-acceptance is the antidote to self-judgment
Mark Twain once said, “The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” He couldn’t be more right. If you finally accept yourself and your vulnerabilities, your life will be much more liberating.
Self-acceptance is the ability to accept yourself as you are instead of how you wish you were, or how you wish others perceived you. It frees you from an overly high concern with what other people think about you.
Self-acceptance is the feeling of satisfaction with yourself despite your weaknesses and regardless of your past behaviors and choices. It’s necessary for good mental health.
When we’re self-accepting, we’re able to embrace all facets of ourselves — not just the positive parts. Self-acceptance could be the key to a happier life, yet it’s the happy habit many people practice the least.
For many people, self-acceptance is a daily struggle. They consistently doubt themselves. And with more doubt comes even more negative thoughts about themselves. And more negative thoughts can quickly become your reality.
Practicing self-acceptance requires that you develop more self-compassion. Self-loathing or poor self-acceptance doesn’t lead to a satisfying life. Life with self-acceptance is far better than a life of self-hatred. Fortunately, self-acceptance is something we can nurture. See it as a skill you can practice versus an innate trait you either have or don’t. Learning self-acceptance teaches you to focus your mind to provide self-pardon, rather than repeating fear-provoking habits self-judgment.
“What self-acceptance does is open up more possibilities of succeeding because you aren’t fighting yourself along the way.”
Radar: “Flight 1234, for noise abatement turn right 45 degrees.”
Pilot: “Roger, but we are at 35,000 feet, how much noise can we make up here?”
Radar: “Sir, have you ever heard the noise a 727 makes when it hits a 747?”
“I know that there are people who do not love their fellow man, and I hate people like that!”
She married him because he was such a “strong man” She divorced him because he was such a “dominating male.”
He married her because she was so “fragile and petite.” He divorced her because she was so “weak and helpless.”
She married him because “he knows how to provide a good living.” She divorced him because “all he thinks about is business.”
He married her because “she reminds me of my mother.” He divorced her because “she’s getting more like her mother every day.”
She married him because he was “happy and romantic.” She divorced him because he was “shiftless and fun-loving.”
He married her because she was “steady and sensible.” He divorced her because she was “boring and dull.”
She married him because he was “the life of the party.” She divorced him because “he never wants to come home from a party.”
My wife tends to leave well enough alone. Unfortunately, things are rarely well enough.
The wise old Mother Superior was dying. The nuns gathered around her bed trying to make her comfortable. They gave her some warm milk to drink, but she refused it.
Then one nun took the glass back to the kitchen. Remembering a bottle of Irish whiskey received as a gift the previous Christmas, she opened and poured a generous amount into the warm milk. Back at Mother Superior’s bed, she held the glass to her lips. Mother drank a little, then a little more. Before they knew it, she had drunk the whole glass down to the last drop.
“Mother,” the nuns asked with earnest, “Please give us some wisdom before you die.”
She raised herself up in bed with a pious look on her face and said, “Don’t sell that cow.”
It’s frustrating when you know all the answers, but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.
A young preacher was contacted by the local funeral director to hold a grave-side committal service at a small local cemetery for someone with no family or friends. The preacher started early but quickly got himself lost, making several wrong turns.
He arrived a half-hour late, the hearse was nowhere in sight, and the workmen were eating lunch.
The pastor went to the open grave and found the vault lid already in place. Taking out his book, he read the service.
As he was returning to his car, he overheard one of the workmen say: “Think we should tell him it’s a septic tank?”
“A child of five would understand this. Send somebody to fetch a child of five.”
On a trip to the zoo, I made a casual stroll by the cage of a laughing hyena. A young man was leaning over the bar at the edge of the cage, whispering something in the animal’s direction. As I stepped closer, I heard him say, “Did you hear the one about…”
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because once one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
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