September 20, 2019
“Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.”
A friend of mine told me that her Doctor was calling her back for some further tests. She was upbeat and said she never found it worthwhile to worry in advance, She reported it usually worked out and if it didn’t she could worry then. She and I are a lot alike in how we see our world.
Recently Angel Chernoff wrote a piece pinpointing some of the self-imposed burdens we carry. These are burdens that weigh us down but have no real value. Our lives can be greatly improved ie unload our excess burdens. Here are excerpts from Chernoff’s article.
The Weights We Shoulder
Things We Hold On To…
Relationships – Do you have a relationship in your life where every interaction leaves you feeling drained or diminished? It could be a co-worker, a boss, a friend, or a family member, but what marks this relationship as a weight on your chest is how you feel after each interaction.
Worry – How much mental and emotional energy have you wasted worrying about something that’s beyond your control? It’s amazing how our worries can come to feel like old friends. But wouldn’t it be ten times more powerful to ask ourselves if there’s anything we can do to improve the situation? And if there’s really nothing we can do—if the situation is 100 percent outside of our sphere of influence—what good does it do to hold on to worry?
Social Media – Do you follow any social media influencers who tend to leave you feeling like what you have—or who you are—isn’t enough? Or it could be an entire platform; maybe you’ve noticed that you feel down on yourself every time you open a certain app.
Habits – What’s one habit you long to kick but aren’t sure if you can? Maybe it’s the amount of sugar you eat after dinner or the never-enough hours of sleep you get at night. Maybe it’s the tone of voice you use when you’re tired or the amount of time you spend looking at a screen in your hand instead of the faces around you.
Thoughts – Do you have any thoughts that regularly cross your mind but are only holding you back? Are any of the following familiar?
- “No one appreciates me.”
- “I’m not cut out for this.”
- This is emotional clutter.
The Past – Our memories can bring us so much joy… but also so much pain. Especially if we’re refusing to let go of past wounds, whether inflicted by others or inflicted by ourselves. Forgiveness is power.
A Visualization Exercise to Help You Let Go
To help you let go, can you imagine—with as much detail as you can possibly summon—that each item you get rid of reduces the weight on your chest? Imagine that every piece you donate—every toxic relationship you navigate away from, every limiting thought you decide to stop believing—takes you closer to a lighter, freer, purer version of yourself.
“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
Leo F. Buscaglia
David can’t get to sleep and is tossing and turning in his bed all night, turning this way, turning that way and keeping his wife Elizabeth awake. Finally she has enough!
“David! What’s wrong? Why can’t you sleep?”
“Oh, Elizabeth,’ says David. It’s business.”
“What business?” asks Elizabeth. “I borrowed a million dollars from Samuel next door.”
“So?” asks Elizabeth. “Well, I’m due to pay it back tomorrow.” “So?” asks Elizabeth. “Well, I haven’t got the money.”
“Right,” says Elizabeth. And she gets up, goes to the window, throws it open and shouts: “Samuel, Samuel, wake up!” Samuel comes to his window.
“What’s wrong, Elizabeth? Why are you making all his noise?”
“My David tells me he owes you a million dollars.” “Yes, that’s right,” says Samuel. “And it’s due back tomorrow.” “Yes, that’s right,” says Samuel. “Well, he hasn’t got the money and can’t pay!” says Elizabeth and slams the window shut again.
David is beside himself. “O vey, o vey, why did you tell him that?” he asks.
Replies Elizabeth: “And you should be the only one to have a sleepless night?”
Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.
“Do you love me with all your heart and soul?” asked Becky.
“Mmm hmm.” replied Dave.
“Do you think I’m the most beautiful girl in the world?”
“Do you think my lips are like rose petals?”
“Oh Dave,” gushed Becky, “you say the most beautiful things!”
Junk is something you’ve kept for years and throw away three weeks before you need it.
Two blondes are walking along the beach when a seagull comes along and poops right on the head of one of them.
“Oh dear,” she says. “I have bird poop on my head.”
“Don’t worry,” says her friend. “I’ll get a tissue…be right back!”
“Don’t bother,” she says. “He’ll be miles away by then.”
“It takes a long time to become young.”
NOTICE: You may wish to delay reading this until you have more free time.
- I believe that if anything is worth doing, it would have been done already.
- I shall never move quickly, except to avoid more work or find excuses.
- I will never rush into a job without a lifetime of consideration.
- I shall meet all of my deadlines directly in proportion to the amount of bodily injury I could expect to receive from missing them.
- I firmly believe that tomorrow holds the possibility for new technologies, astounding discoveries, and a reprieve from my obligations.
- I truly believe that all deadlines are unreasonable regardless of the amount of time given.
- If at first I don’t succeed, there is always next year.
- I shall always decide not to decide, unless of course I decide to change my mind.
- I shall always begin, start, initiate, take the first step, and/or write the first word, when I get around to it.
- I will ver put off tomorrow, what I can forget about forever.
”People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.”
George Bernard Shaw
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