September 4, 2019
“If you want peace of mind, stop fighting with your thoughts.”
As we age we all encounter issues that concern us. Unfortunately, some of us let our problems fester to the point the proverbial mole hill turns into a mountain, often resulting in our discomfort being worse than the original problem.
The good news is that as time goes by we learn that most of our issues are not that bad and can be managed. I think a combination of persistence and patience coupled with some realism allows us to cope with most everything we face. I know that when I step back and ask myself just how important my minor problems are, I get s realistic perspective and find solutions.
Some time ago Angel Chernoff offered her thoughts on how we can deal with our troubles. Here is an abridged copy of what she wrote.
9 Ways to Find Peace of Mind in Tough Times
Learn to trust yourself. -“It isn’t as bad as you sometimes think it is. As you heal and grow, it will all work out. Relax and trust yourself.”
Focus on what you’re learning. – Mistakes and setbacks are simply a form of practice.
The bumps in the road teach you what you need to know to progress down a path that is all your own.
Ease your expectations. – Life is under no obligation to give you exactly what you expect. Whatever it is you’re seeking will rarely ever come in the form you’re expecting. Don’t miss the silver lining because you were expecting gold.
Open up to someone you trust. – You aren’t alone; let someone special in when you’re in a dark place. You know who this person is. Don’t expect them to solve your problems; just allow them to face your problems with you.
Use hope to drive positive action. – Only in the dark can you see the stars. The stars are hope. Look for them. Hope empowers you to strive and grow even when your circumstances are in shambles
Move TOWARDS something instead of AWAY. – When you concentrate on not thinking about something, you end up thinking about it. Instead of concentrating on eliminating the negative, concentrate on creating something positive (that just happens to replace the negative
Take a few steps back. – Everything seems simpler from a distance. Sometimes you simply need to distance yourself to see things more clearly. Don’t allow your current troubles to cloud your thinking. Take a few steps back and give yourself the benefit of this distance, and then give yourself some great advice.
Give yourself time. – Take all the time you need. Emotional healing is a process; don’t rush yourself through it. Don’t let others force you through it either. Give yourself the needed time and permission to explore and heal.
Look for the beginning in every ending. – A wise man once said, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” Today is a new beginning; treat it that way. Stop thinking about what might have been and starting looking at what can be.
“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.”
Wayne W. Dyer
A drummer, tired of being ridiculed by his peers, decides to learn how to play some “real” musical instruments. He goes to a music store, walks in, approaches the store clerk, and says “I’ll take that red trumpet over there and that accordion.”
The store clerk looks at him a bit funny, and replies “Well, okay, I guess you can have the fire extinguisher. But the radiator’s got to stay.
Flo Capp’s Observation: The next best thing to doing something smart is not doing something stupid.
I think I’ve found inner peace. My therapist told me a way to achieve inner peace was to finish things I had started.
Today I finished 2 bags of potato chips, a lemon pie, a fifth of Jack Daniels and a small box of chocolate candy.
I feel better already!
Is it possible to feel gruntled.
“Men are very confident people. My husband is so confident that when he watches sports on television, he thinks that if he concentrates he can help his team. If the team is in trouble, he coaches the players from our living room, and if they’re really in trouble, I have to get off the phone in case they call him.”
A new missionary recruit went to Venezuela for the first time. He was struggling with the language and didn’t understand a whole lot of what was going on. Intending to visit one of the local churches, he got lost, but eventually got back on track and found the place. Having arrived late, the church was already packed. The only pew left was the one on the front row.
So as not to make a fool of himself, he decided to pick someone out of the crowd to imitate. He chose to follow the man sitting next to him on the front pew. As they sang, the man clapped his hands, so the missionary recruit clapped too. When the man stood up to pray, the missionary recruit stood up too. When the man sat down, he sat down. When the man held the cup and bread for the Lord’s Supper, he held the cup and bread. During the preaching, the recruit didn’t understand a thing. He just sat there and tried to look just like that man in the front pew.
Then he perceived that the preacher was giving announcements. People clapped, so he looked to see if the man was clapping. He was, and so the recruit clapped too. Then the preacher said some words that he didn’t understand and he saw the man next to him stand up. So he stood up too. Suddenly a hush fell over the entire congregation. A few people gasped. He looked around and saw that nobody else was standing. So he sat down.
After the service ended, the preacher stood at the door shaking the hands of those who were leaving. When the missionary recruit stretched out his hand to greet the preacher, the preacher said, in English: “I take it you don’t speak Spanish.”
The missionary recruit replied: “No I don’t. It’s that obvious?”
“Well yes,” said the preacher, “I announced that the Acosta family had a newborn baby boy and would the proud father please stand up.”
“You get peace of mind not by thinking about it or imagining it, but by quietening and relaxing the restless mind. Your nature is absolute peace. You are not the mind. Silence your mind through concentration and meditation, and you will discover the peace of the spirit you are and have always been.”
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