August 26, 2019
Aging can be fun if you lay back and enjoy it.
What I regret the most in my past life was not spending more time with friends and family. I would have liked ro know them better and let them know how important they were. I really like people and have found that the human connection is vital to my happiness.
I am now of the age where I am no longer running all the time, no more business meetings, no more external requirements, no car to drive, no house to maintain and less volunteer requirements. I no longer smoke, gave it up years ago, I can’t drink anymore and there is someone else cooking for my wife and me. So I am now free at last to learn more about my new neighbors while developing new friendships.
I have been chastised on occasion for being too open and candid about myself, I keep few secrets as I want folks to know who I really am and not by only my job titles and awards. When we share our hopes and dreams as well as our fears and shortcomings, we eliminate the facade that so often hides who we really are. That openness allows friendships to become special.
Here are excerpts from a Web MD article that I think are worth reading.
The Old Are Survivors
It’s true that aging brings hardships, but remember that the old are survivors — a select group.
Wisdom, resilience and a mature perspective are often cited as the hard-won prizes of aging. But growing old itself is an accomplishment.
“But if you get to be older, you have survived a lot of the threats to your physical and psychological integrity that have affected other people who are no longer around,” psychologist Whitbourne says.
Through good luck or good genes or both, the old have dodged fatal accidents, premature disease, and other things that kill the young. “You are stronger, and you get to live longer,” she says. “Most people think that’s a benefit.”
A dose of healthy denial can improve outlook in one’s later years, she adds. “The people who do the best with aging aren’t thinking that much about getting older. They’re not really focusing on what’s not working anymore. If you sit around mulling over the meaning of existence and how time is running out, you’re building in a scenario where you’re not going to age as successfully.”
Accept the inevitable changes of aging, rather than seeing them as aberrant crises.
During the course of his career, Illinois psychologist Mark Frazier, PsyD, has worked with thousands of older people “ages 65 to 105,” he says.
Again and again, he’s seen an important key to psychological health: accepting that your life won’t stay the same. Aging changes everyone.
“If you live until you’re 95 years old, you’re probably not going to be living alone in a beautiful apartment and driving your car to the grocery store and picking up your dry cleaning and walking a mile to the park. But if you know that ahead of time, it’s much easier to manage it,” he says.
“To age gracefully, one needs to anticipate the changes that are inevitable,” Frazier says. “People who think rigidly do not do that. As they encounter the natural changes and health status that are part of aging, these things are experienced as negative and adding a lot of stress and strain to their life. Rigid thinkers tend to get overwhelmed. They can’t manage it, and they get depressed.”
“Other people anticipate what’s going to happen,” he says. “It’s more of a ‘Yes, I knew this was coming and I know that I’ll negotiate my way through it.'”
Grow old with me! The best is yet to be.
Resumes can have misleading information. This guide should help clear any confusion…
* Bright: Wears a lot of yellow and red – usually together.
* Intelligent: Got 3 gold stars for spelling in first grade.
* Computer Literate: Knows the difference between a mouse and a keyboard.
* Excellent Communication Skills: Knows everybody’s personal business.
* Detailed Oriented: Will spend eight hours perfecting a two-minute job.
* Prompt: First one out the door at quitting time.
* Friendly: Watch out for attractive members of your staff.
* Honest: King of Gossip!
* Dependable: Can depend on them to be the last one there in the morning.
I’m getting along nicely with my wife. Things are getting better. Every once in a while I say those three magic words: “You’ve lost weight.”
Tom was so excited about his promotion to Vice President of the company and he kept bragging about it to his wife for weeks on end. Finally she couldn’t take it any longer, and told him, “Listen, it means nothing, they even have a vice president of peas at the grocery store!”.
“Really?” he said. Not sure if this was true or not, Tom decided to call the grocery store.
A clerk answers and Tom says “Can I please talk to the Vice President of peas?”
The clerk replies “Fresh, canned or frozen?”
I am returning this otherwise good paper to you because someone has printed gibberish all over it and put your name at the top.
English Professor, Ohio University
A flight attendant for a major airline, watched one day as a passenger overloaded with bags tried to stuff his belongings in the overhead bin of the plane. Finally, she informed him that he would have to check the oversized luggage.
“When I fly other airlines,” he said irritably, “I don’t have this problem.”
She smiled and replied, “When you fly other airlines, I don’t have this problem either.”
The cost of living hasn’t affected its popularity.
Every morning for years, at about 11:30, the telephone operator in a small Sierra-Nevada town received a call from a man asking the exact time. One day the operator summed up nerve enough to ask him why the regularity.
“I’m foreman of the local sawmill,” he explained. “Every day I have to blow the whistle at noon so I call you to get the exact time.”
The operator giggled, “That’s really funny,” she said. “All this time we’ve been setting our clock by your whistle.
There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.
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