July 1, 2019
“Don’t brood. Get on with living and loving. You don’t have forever.”
– Leo Buscaglia
I get concerned when I am with friends who spend a lot of their energy fretting about things they can’t control. It is just not worth the mental anguish.
When we retire we owe it to ourselves to also free our minds so that we can enjoy what is left of our lives. We have left the workplace behind and we can also get rid of our workplace worries. It is also wise to accept that you are probably as good as you’re going to get and that is fine, in my case people can take me or leave me as this is as good as I will ever be. When we accept that who we are is OK we don’t have to try to be something else. If you are like I am you enjoy the opportunity to just be yourself.
The other day I read an article by Henrik Edberg offering tips on how we can quit overthinking, here in part is what he wrote.
Overthinking – My 5 Favorite Tips
- 1. Use a reminder to save yourself from winding up there in the first place. – Staying aware of your negative habit and catching yourself as soon as you start falling into that trap of overthinking as you go about your day can be a big help. So what’s needed for this to work a lot better is a reminder. Keep things extremely simple.
- Reframe the situation and see it from a wider view. – When you’re thinking and thinking about something then ask yourself: Will this matter in 5 years? Or even in 5 weeks? It will help you to not let medium-sized issues become something that causes more stress or concern than is necessary.
- Get out of your own head. – When you’re stuck in your own head and thoughts then it can be hard to break out of an overthinking loop about something. A simple solution that works well but can be a bit counter-intuitive is to then direct your focus fully outward instead of inward.
- Simply small step it. – If overthinking becomes a way to procrastinate or to not face the fear of getting out of the comfort zone you’re in then small step it. Find just one small or tiny step you can take to move forward. One small action that takes 1-5 minutes. Do that and focus only on that one step until you’re done.
- Just realize and accept that you can’t control everything. – Not even if you think a situation through 50 times or more. A better and healthier way forward is in my experience to understand that making mistakes, failing and sometimes looking like a fool is natural part of stretching your comfort zone.
“Thinking too much leads to paralysis by analysis. It’s important to think things through, but many use thinking as a means of avoiding action.”
Do you remember when you said to the kids?
Don’t ask me, ask your mother.
Were you raised in a barn?
This will hurt me a lot more than it hurts you.
You call that noise “music?”
We’re not lost. I’m just not sure where we are.
No, we’re not there yet.
As long as you live under my roof, you’ll live by my rules.
I’m not just talking to hear my own voice!
I don’t care what other people are doing! I’m not everybody else’s Father!
Act your age.
True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
Perhaps you’ve heard of the man who thought he was dead, when in reality he was very much alive. His delusion became such a problem that his family finally paid for him to see a psychiatrist.
The psychiatrist spent many laborious sessions trying to convince the man he was still alive. Nothing seemed to work. Finally the doctor tried one last approach. He took out his medical books and proceeded to show the patient that dead men don’t bleed. After hours of tedious study, the patient seemed convinced that dead men don’t bleed.
“Do you now agree that dead men don’t bleed?” the doctor asked.
“Yes, I do,” the patient replied.
“Very well, then,” the doctor said.
He took out a pin and pricked the patient’s finger. Out came a trickle of blood.
The doctor asked, “What does that tell you?”
“Oh my goodness!” the patient exclaimed as he stared incredulously at his finger……. “Dead men do bleed!!”
How come it takes so little time for a child who is afraid of the dark to become a teen-ager who wants to stay out all night?
Little Johnny was in pre-school and not doing very well. The teacher, Miss Crabtree, decided to work with him one on one. Miss Crabtree her tutoring for the day by saying, “If you put your hand in your left pocket and pull out a nickel and then put your other hand in your right pocket and pulled out another nickel, what would you have?”
Johnny thought for a minute and then said, “I would have someone elses pants on”.
My Dad claims he shoots golf in the low 70’s. “If it gets any colder,” he says, “He’ll quit.”
1 million microphones = 1 megaphone
2000 mockingbirds = two kilomockingbirds
10 cards = 1 decacards
1 millionth of a fish = 1 microfiche
453.6 graham crackers = 1 pound cake
1 trillion pins = 1 terrapin
10 rations = 1 decoration
100 rations = 1 C-ration
10 millipedes = 1 centipede
3 1/3 tridents = 1 decadent
2 monograms = 1 diagram
8 nickels = 2 paradigms
2 wharves = 1 paradox
“We can easily manage if we will only take, each day, the burden appointed to it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over again today, and then add the burden of the morrow before we are required to bear it.”
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