May 14, 2019
“One of the best lessons you can learn is to master how to remain calm.”
I have found that stopping before I react to what is going on allows me time to keep from saying or doing something foolish. In fact, I have been doing this for so long that I have learned most of what takes place in my life is not worth letting it bother me.
My aged body does not need any additional stress so I do benefit from my investment in calmness. I hope you are cool as well. It is embarrassing when I witness folks who are quick to anger even over trivial things that happen to them.
Recently Angel Chernoff wrote a piece on the value of staying calm, I would like to share it with you today.
Calmness can be your superpower today!
The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace.
And yes, YOU CAN get rid of all the stress inside you created by others, the past, and uncontrollable events…By being a conscious witness of your thoughts.
It’s about sitting quietly and witnessing the thoughts passing through you. Just witnessing at first, not interfering and not even judging, because by judging too rapidly you have lost the pure witness. The moment you rush to say, “this is good” or “this is bad,” you have already jumped head first into the stress.
Of course, it takes a little time to create a gap between the witnessing of thoughts and your reaction to them. Once the gap is there, though, you are in for a great surprise—that you are not the thoughts themselves, nor the stress influencing them. You are the witness, a watcher, who’s superpower is changing your mind and rising above the turmoil.
This process of thought-watching is the very alchemy of true mindfulness. Because as you become more and more deeply rooted in witnessing, the stressful thoughts start disappearing. You are thinking, but the mind is empty of senseless chatter. It’s a moment of enlightenment—a moment that you become, perhaps for the first time, an unconditioned, sane, truly free human being.
So today, let this be your reminder to let all the small annoyances go. Move through your day consciously. Notice at least one insignificant little frustration that you would normally get frustrated about, then do yourself a favor and simply let it go. Experience, in this little way, the freedom of being in control of the way you feel. And realize that you can extend this same level of control to every situation you encounter in life.
“Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.”
At one point during a game, the coach called one of his 9-year-old baseball players aside and asked, “Do you understand what cooperation is? And….What the word team means?”
The little boy nodded in the affirmative.
“Do you understand that what matters is whether we win or lose together as a team?”
The little boy nodded yes.
“So,” the coach continued, “I’m sure you know, when an out is called, you shouldn’t argue, curse, attack the umpire, or call him a pecker-head. Do you understand all that?”
Once again the little boy nodded.
He continued, “And when I take you out of the game so another boy gets a chance to play, it’s not good sportsmanship to call your coach a “dumb ass” is it?”
Again the little boy nodded.
“Good,” said the coach. “Now go over there and explain all that to your grandmother.”
Before resolving to jog five miles a day, visit a cardiologist to have your heart examined, a podiatrist to have your feet examined and a psychiatrist to have your head examined.
She said: Needing to shed a few pounds, my husband and I went on a diet that had specific recipes for each meal of the day. I followed the instructions closely, dividing the finished recipe in half for our individual plates. We felt terrific and thought the diet was wonderful. We never even felt hungry!
But when we realized we were gaining weight and not losing it, I checked the recipes again. There in fine print, it said, “Serves 6.”
Kids: they dance before they learn there is anything that isn’t music.
A man pacing back and forth glanced at his watch and yelled upstairs to his wife, “Honey, are you ready yet?”
Shouting back, the woman replies, “For crying out loud, I’ve been telling you for the last half hour that I’ll be ready in a minute!
There are two places where you’ll never see a clock… in Las Vegas casinos and in Doctors’ waiting rooms.
“Normal” is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work, driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to the job that you need so you can pay for the clothes, car and the house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it. Wanna be normal??
I’m addicted to placebos. I’d give them up, but it wouldn’ make any difference.
Jack hadn’t been to a class reunion in decades. When he walked into this latest one, he thought he recognized a woman over in the corner, so he approached her and extended his hand in greeting, saying,
“You look like Helen Brown.”
“Well,” the woman snapped back, “you don’t look so great in blue either!”
“Calmness is a huge gift. And once you master it, you will be able to respond in a useful way to every difficult situation that decides to walk into your heart.”
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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