April 18, 2019
The older you get, the more you should learn to love life and appreciate the beauty that comes with age.
Diane von Furstenberg
I have found that happy aging is as much about what we don’t do as it is about what we do do. When we realize that our lives do not need to be overly complicated we find we have more time to enjoy it.
Let’s face it, much of what we agonized over when we were younger just wasn’t worth it. The happiest old folks I know don’t sweat the small stuff they concentrate on enjoying each day.
The other day Marc Chernoff sent me an article entitled Things that Will Matter a Lot Less to You in 20 Years. I have extracted below some of his points that I find true for me. The good news is that you don’t have to wait twenty years to adopt them as you decide to enjoy your days.
The little failures you often feel self-conscious about. – When you set goals and take calculated risks in life, you eventually learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important in the long run.
How “perfect” everything could be, or should be. – Perfectionism not only causes you unnecessary stress and anxiety from the superficial need to always “get it right,” it actually prevents you from getting anything worthwhile done at all.
The intricacies of what’s in it for you. – Time teaches us that we keep nothing in this life until we first give it away. This is true of knowledge, forgiveness, service, love, tolerance, acceptance, and so forth. You have to give to receive.
The temptation of quick fixes. – The older your eyes grow, the more clearly they can see through the smoke and mirrors of every quick fix. Anything worth achieving takes dedicated daily effort
Having a calendar jam-packed with exciting, elaborate plans. – Don’t jam your life with plans. Leave space. Over time you will learn that many great things happen unplanned, and some big regrets happen by not reaching exactly what was planned. So keep your life ordered and your schedule under-booked.
Being in constant control of everything. – The older we get the more we realize how little we actually control. And there’s no good reason to hold yourself down with things you can’t control.
Blaming others. – Have you ever met a happy person who regularly evades responsibility, blames and points fingers and makes excuses for their unsatisfying life?. Happy people accept responsibility for how their lives unfold. They believe their own happiness is a byproduct of their own thinking, beliefs, attitudes, character and behavior.
The selfish and disparaging things others say and do. – If you take everything personally, you will inevitably be offended for the rest of your life. At some point it becomes crystal clear that the way people treat you is their problem, and how you react is yours.
Winning arguments. – Not much is worth fighting about for long. And if you can avoid it, don’t fight at all.
Distant future possibilities. – As time passes, you naturally have more of it behind you and less of it in front of you. The distant future, then, gradually has less value to you personally. But that doesn’t really matter, because the good life always begins right now, when you stop waiting for a better one.
It is not how old you are, but how you are old.
Co-workers sympathized as my mother complained that her back was really sore from moving furniture.
“Why don’t you wait until your husband gets home?” someone asked.
“I could,” my mother told the group. “But the couch is easier to move if he’s not on it.”
Disk Full – Press F1 to belch.
* Interviewer: “Do you think you can handle a variety of tasks?” Applicant: “I should say so. I’ve had nine totally different jobs in the past five months.”
* The stern faced Personnel Officer told an applicant that they needed an individual who is totally responsible. “I sure qualify then.” replied the applicant. “Everywhere I’ve worked, whenever something went wrong, I was responsible.”
* “I see under ‘Personal Traits’ you have “Self-Starter” listed,” said the Human Resources Officer. “Why is that important to you?” “It seems to me that if more employees were self-starters, then the bosses wouldn’t have to be cranks,” the almost selected candidate replied.
Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.
Howard W. Newton
In a small town, a man just opened a small store selling trumpets and guns. One day his neighbor pays him a visit and says: “So how is your strange business going?”
“What do you mean strange?”
“Because you sell only trumpets and guns!”
“Well, let me put it this way, what do you sell the most, trumpets or guns?”
“It evens itself out. Each time a customer buys a trumpet, one of his neighbors buys a gun.”
As for butter or margarine, I trust cows more than chemists.
Mrs. Johnson was shopping at a produce stand in her neighborhood. She approached the vendor and asked, “How much are these oranges?”
“Two for a quarter,” answered the vendor.
“How much is just one?” she asked.
“Fifteen cents,” answered the vendor.
“Then I’ll take the other one,” said Mrs. Johnson.
Don’t regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many.
One woman was talking to her friend. “You should listen to my neighbor,” she said. “She is always bad-mouthing her poor husband behind his back. I think that’s so rude. Look at me! My husband is fat, lazy and cheap, but have you ever heard me say a bad word about him?”
You can’t help getting older. But you don’t have to get old.
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