March 27, 2019
“There’s not a word yet for old friends who’ve just met.”
I really enjoy many of my new friends. Some have seemed to be needing more social interaction, just like we all do.
It is not always easy for folks to open up to others but doing so is well worth it. If you are like I am your memories are filled with good times shared with friends. As our life moves on many friends are no longer with us and it is important that we don’t let their loss isolate us.
It is the people in our lifes that make the difference between happiness and the sadness that often comes as the result of lonesomeness. The good news is that there lots of folks just like us who welcome new friends.
Here are a few tips I got from the Best Life Blog that we can use as we expand our friendships.
Lead with a smile. – One of the easiest ways to make yourself seem kinder and more approachable is to simply put a smile on your face.
Reach out to friends you’ve lost touch with. – On top of trying to build new friendships from scratch, do your best to reconnect with members of your social circle with whom you’ve fallen out of touch—with people you were once close with, you can more or less pick up where you left off.
Conquer your fears. – One of the biggest reasons people have a hard time making friends after 40 is the stigma attached to putting yourself out there, especially when you’re over a certain age. However, instead of indulging those thoughts telling you that trying to meet new people makes you seem lonely or sad, remind yourself that millions, if not billions of people are looking for the same thing.
Invite your neighbors over. – The nice thing about neighbors is that it’s almost like having built-in friends right next door. If Make friends with people who you see in non-social contexts.
Say hi to strangers. – Want a quick and easy way to make friends after 40? Start by saying hi to people when you pass them by. Once you’ve gotten comfortable making those initial introductions, you’ll have an easier time meeting new people you’re eager to socialize with, too.
Say yes to friends when they invite you out. – For shy people, saying no to a casual invitation is often a reflexive response. When your friends, acquaintances, or family members suggest that you get together on a whim, make it a habit of saying yes as much as possible
Be consistent – Like any relationship, friendships take work to maintain. If you want to both make and keep new friends, it’s essential that you do your best to make an effort. Schedule regular game nights, invite people over for drinks once a week, or just check in via text with some frequency—the more you nurture your new relationships, the more they’ll flourish.
“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.”
The Rosenthals had an outstandingly happy and successful marriage, and Mr. Rosenthal was once asked to what he attributed this remarkable situation. “It’s simple,” he said. “Division of labor. My wife makes all the small, routine decisions. She decides what house we buy, where we go on vacation, whether the kids go to private schools, if I should change my job, and so on.”
“I make the big, fundamental decisions. I decide if the United States should declare war on China, if Congress should appropriate money for a manned expedition to Mars, and so on.”
Boss: Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are early.
My next-door neighbor and I frequently borrow things from each other. Not long ago, when I requested his ladder, he told me he had lent it to his son. Recalling a saying my grandmother used to repeat, I recited, “You should never lend anything to your kids, because you will never get it back.”
With that, my neighbor said, “Well, it’s not even my ladder. It’s my dad’s.”
If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
A hospital posted a notice in the nurses’ lounge saying:
“Remember, the first five minutes of a human being’s life are the most dangerous.”
Underneath, a nurse had written:
“The last five are pretty risky, too.”
Do not make an obscene gesture at anyone driving a pickup truck with a gun rack.
The judge was instructing the jury that a witness was not necessarily to be regarded as untruthful because he changed his statement from one which he had previously made to the police. For example, he said, when I entered my chambers today, I was sure I had my gold watch in my pocket. But then I remembered that I left in on my nightstand in my bedroom.
When the judge returned home, his wife asked him, Why so much urgency for your watch? Isnt sending three men to get it a bit extreme?
What? said the judge, I didn’t send anyone for my watch, let alone three people; what did you do?
I gave it to the first one, said the wife. He knew exactly where it was.
Monotony is the awful reward of the careful.
- G. Buckham
While recently riding on the bus standing up, a friend of mine grabbed onto the pole nearest her to keep herself steady while the bus traveled down the road. She soon noticed a young man, who was also hanging on to the same pole, staring at her. Although this was somewhat annoying, she decided to just look the other way. Soon the bus came to a stop. Clearing his throat, the young man said, “Excuse me. This is my stop.”
Since she wasn’t blocking his way, my friend was slightly confused. “Well,” she said, “go ahead.”
“And this is my pole,” the young man said.
My friend was completely perplexed until the young man added, “I just bought it at the hardware store to hold up my shower curtain.”
“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”
– Albert Schweitzer
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