February 18, 2019
No one really has a bad life. Not even a bad day. Just bad moments.
We all have bad days, even though most are not as bad as we imagine them to be. I have had enough in my lifetime to learn they are not worth agonizing over. Sometimes I just wait them out with others I do what I can to ignore them. In any case the feeling of concern does pass and life goes on.
If you have difficulty dealing with the down days you might try the following suggestions.
How to Handle Trying Days When They Happen
- Ask yourself: Is it the day that is a problem, or is it me? – This is a tough love type of question, but I think it’s essential to pause and ask yourself what’s really going on. When you have a day in which everything and anything annoys you, take time to reflect. Ask yourself if it’s just a rough day, or if your reaction is a sign that something in your life is out of whack.
It might just be a fluke of a day where things are going funky right and left. Or maybe you’ve been letting little things build up, and things are boiling over because there’s something big you need to address that you’re ignoring—dissatisfaction with your work, or a compatibility issue in your relationship, for example.
If there is something big that you’re avoiding, can you face it? Can you find someone who will help you find the courage to address what you need to do—to face what you are afraid of?
- Release your pent up emotions. – Modern living and working close with others means there are lots of times where we have to filter our words and our reactions to act like a responsible adult. All too often we stuff our feelings down until we’re ready to explode—and often on some innocent bystander who doesn’t deserve our rage.
A healthier approach is to feel and work through our feelings as they arise, and sometimes the best approach is to physically release them from our bodies.
The relief that a good primal scream or pillow punching episode can provide is so incredible (though these things are best done in solitude, so we don’t offload our emotions onto the people around us). Exercise can also help with this, since it gets our muscles moving, and our heart pumping—another good reason to get active!
- Take the pressure off. – On some of my worst bad days, I give myself permission to check out and chill out. I take time to watch funny videos on YouTube or do a calming visualization meditation. It can feel tempting to plow through our to-do list, especially since we often tie our worth to our busyness and productivity. But sometimes you just need a break to regroup.
For example, can you find a few moments when you can sit or lie down? Then you can either relax or fill yourself with something silly and lighthearted. Animal videos, anyone?
I get up every morning and it’s going to be a great day. You never know when it’s going to be over so I refuse to have a bad day.
A little old Jewish lady is flying out of New York City on her way to Miami Beach. She looks at the businessman sitting next to her and asks him, “Excuse me sir, but are you Jewish?”
The man responds politely, “No, ma’am, I’m not Jewish.”
After a little while she again queries him, “You’re really Jewish, aren’t you?”
Again he responds, “No ma’am, I am not Jewish.”
Barely 10 minutes later, the little old lady asks him once more, “Are you sure you’re not Jewish?”
To which in exasperation, and in a final effort to shut her up, he replies, “Okay. Yes, ma’am, I am Jewish.”
“Funny,” she says, looking puzzled, “you don’t look Jewish!”
Power is the ability to do good things for others.
Heather meets up with her [blonde] sister Karen as she is picking her car up from the mechanic. Heather asks,
“Everything ok with your car now, Karen?”
“Yeah, thank goodness! I was worried that my mechanic might try to rip me off, so I was relieved when he told me all I needed was blinker fluid.”
“The secret of longevity is to keep breathing.”
The boss was very exasperated with his new secretary. She ignored the telephone when it rang.
“You must answer the telephone,” he told her irritably.
“All right,” she replied, “but it seems so silly. It’s always for you.”
Children need models rather than critics.
A Norwegian took a trip to Fargo, North Dakota. While in a bar, an Indian on the next stool spoke to the Norwegian in a friendly manner. “Look,” he said, “let’s play a little game. I’ll ask you a riddle. If you can answer it, I’ll buy YOU a drink. If you can’t, then you buy ME one. Okay?”
“Ja, dat sounds purty good,” said the Norwegian.
The Indian said, “My father and mother had one child. It wasn’t my brother. It wasn’t my sister. Who was it?”
The Norwegian scratched his head and finally said, “I give up. Who vas it?”
“It was ME,” chortled the Indian. So the Norwegian paid for the drinks.
Back in Sioux Falls the Norwegian went into a bar and spotted one of his cronies, “Sven,” he said, “I got a game. If you can answer a qvestion, I buy you a drink. If you can’t, YOU have to buy ME vun. Fair enough?”
“Fair enough,” said Sven. Okay, my fadder and mudder had vun child. It vasn’t my brudder. It vasn’t my sister. Who vas it?”
“Search me,” said Sven. “I give up. Who vas it?”
“It vas some Indian up in Fargo, ND.”
You have to remember that the hard days are what make you stronger. The bad days make you realize what a good day is. If you never had any bad days, you would never have that sense of accomplishment!
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