February 4, 2019
There is nothing like staying at home for real comfort.
Last week was memorable. The record cold stopped mail delivery, trash collection and caused schools and businesses to close. We, like most folks hibernated staying in our residence waiting for better weather. It also provided me an opportunity to thank all that sent me birthday greetings.
One of the things that made last week tolerable was the time we spent at meals with our fellow tenants. The friendships we have made have enriched our stay here. I recently read an article that reminded me of how the folks I have met had offered their friendship. Here are few excerpts from the article that make sense.
Tips for Making People Feel Comfortable Around You
By Carolyn Steber
Get Your Smile On – If you want to be incredibly approachable while also making people feel comfy in your presence, then pay attention to what your face looks like. “A smile is one of the clearest invitations you can send that you are receptive to interaction,” Barton says.
Give Off A Confident Vibe – Even if you’re secretly feeling nervous, projecting a confident vibe will help put others at ease. “A confident person is generally much easier to be around than someone who is uncomfortable in her own skin.”
Have Open Body Language – There’s a huge difference in how people feel around those who have closed off body language, versus those who are more open. People with open body language make good eye contact, turn towards whoever they’re talking to, and seem relaxed.
Show That You’re Actually Listening – Nothing feels worse than trying to chat with someone who is constantly glancing at their phone. If you do this — accidentally or otherwise — make it point to stop. “The person you are speaking to at any given time should feel as though he is the most important person in the room.” “Make eye contact, smile when appropriate, and nod to show that you are listening.”
Let The Honesty Fly – People can tell when you’re aren’t being truthful, or when you’re holding something back. And it doesn’t exactly make for the highest of comfort levels. That’s why dropping a little honesty is definitely a good idea.
Remember To Be Nice – OK, so above anything else, remember to always be a nice person. As Mayne said, “The first step in putting others at ease is to be gracious and kind to everyone.” Not that it needs explaining, but saying thank you, sending sweet notes, or doing little favors will go a long way in making people feel good.
And that’s really the cornerstone of helping them feel more comfortable around you. Be nice, be kind, throw in some compliments, and you’ll be winning people over in no time.
People crave comfort, people crave connection, people crave community.
Joe, the Governor’s most trusted assistant, died in his sleep one night. The Governor had depended on Joe for advice on every subject, from pending bills to wardrobe decisions. In addition, Joe had been his closest friend.
So, it was understandable that the Governor didn’t take kindly to the droves of ambitious office seekers who wanted Joe’s job. “They don’t even have the decency to wait until the man is buried,” the Governor muttered.
At the funeral, one eager beaver made his way to the Governor’s side. “Governor,” the man said, “is there a chance that I could take Joe’s place?”
“Certainly,” the governor replied. “But you’d better hurry. I think the undertaker is almost finished.”
“Daddy. do all fairy tales begin with the words, “Once upon a time…”? the little girl asked.
“No,” he replied. “A whole lot of them begin with, “If I’m elected, I promise…”
It’s every airplane passenger’s nightmare: Getting stuck near a crying baby.
I was manning the ticket counter at a busy airport when the sound of a sobbing infant filled the air. As the next passenger stepped up to the desk, he glanced up to the tot and rolled his eyes.
“Don’t worry,” I said to him cheerfully. “Chances are that baby won’t be on your flight.”
Head shaking, he grimly replied, “Oh, I bet he will. That’s my son.”
Before setting off on a business trip to Tulsa, I called the hotel to see if there was a gym. The hotel operator’s sigh had a tinge of exasperation in it. “We have over 300 guests at this facility. Does this ‘Gym’ have a last name?”
You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.
The Reverend Billy Graham tells of a time early in his career when he arrived in a small town to preach a sermon. Wanting to mail a letter, h e asked a young boy for directions to the post office. After being told the way by the lad, the Reverend Graham thanked him, adding:
“If you’ll come to the Central Baptist church this evening, you can hear me telling everyone how to get to Heaven.”
“No, I don’t think I’ll be there…” the boy said. “You don’t even know your way to the post office.”
Will you loan me $20.00 and only give me ten of it?
That way, you will owe me ten, and I’ll owe you ten, and we’ll be even!
Two Jewish ladies who were neighbors in New York met unexpectedly in Miami one winter.
“Why Shirley” one of them said, “I had no idea you were here”
“So listen Ruthie” said Shirley “now that we met I just must tell you, I am having an affair!”
“How wonderful” said Ruthie, “who is doing the catering?”
All lives have triumphs and tragedies, laughter and tears, and mine has been no different. What really matters is whether, after all of that, you remain strong and a comfort to your loved ones. I have tried to meet that test.
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