January 18, 2019
“Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power.”
In my communality there are a few folks who always seem to be unhappy. They find fault with almost everything and seldom stop complaining. I know if people go through life always looking for what’s wrong, they will find something not to like. They wonder why people seem to avoid them when it is their negativism that drives others away.
I feel sorry for the nay-sayers as theirs can be a lonely life. I don’t avoid them but I do try to point out the bright side. Here a few excerpts from an article I saved years ago that I wish these unhappy folks would follow.
5 Steps to a Happy Life with Positive Attitude
Step 1: Believe Happiness is a Choice – For me, this was a hard one at first. I thought that people were either unhappy or happy (and I was one of the unhappy ones). I used to blame this on all kinds of outside forces –- fate, experiences, parents, relationships –- but never really stopped to think that I could choose to be happy.
Sure, this isn’t always easy, but it is always, always an option. Teaching myself to see that happiness is a choice has been one of the greatest things I’ve ever done for myself.
Step 2: Rid Your Life of Negativity – If you want to live a positive, joyful and happy life, you cannot –- absolutely CANNOT -– be surrounded by negative people who are not encouraging your happiness.
Step 3: Look For the Positive in Life – There is the positive aspect in everything. In every person, in every situation, there is something good. Most of the time it’s not all that obvious. We have to look. And sometimes we have to look hard.
Everything –- good and bad -– is a learning experience. So, at the very least, you can learn from bad experiences. However, there’s usually even more to it than that. If you really take the time to look, you will usually find something good, something really positive, about every person or situation.
Step 4: Reinforce Positivity in Yourself – Once I started thinking more positively and adapted to a more positive attitude, I realized I had to reinforce these thoughts and behaviors in myself so they would stick. As with any sort of training, practice makes perfect, and, yes, you can practice being positive.
Be honest with yourself, but do your best to look for the good. And, whatever you do, don’t focus on the negative. Nothing good can come of telling yourself that your butt’s too big or your latest career goal wasn’t met.
Step 5: Share Happiness with Others – Not only do you need to be positive with yourself for this new positive attitude to really take effect, you also need to be positive with others. You have to share your wealth of positivity with the world.
The best way I’ve found to do this is quite simple and basic: be nice. Be nice to other people, no matter what. Tell someone he or she looks nice today. Tell someone they did a great job on that presentation. Tell your parents or children (or both!) how much you love them and how great they are.
People appreciate positivity and the more you are sharing it with others, the more you are practicing it and reinforcing it in your own life.
“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.”
“What happened to you?” asked the bystander to the man lying on the sidewalk outside of the beauty parlor.
The man shook his head groggily and rubbed his bruised chin. “Last thing I remember was my wife came out of the beauty salon. I took a look at her and said, ‘Well, honey, at least you tried,’ and I don’t remember anything after that.”
You know what happens when you play country music backwards? You quit drinking, you get your wife back, you’re rehired and your lost dog comes home.
Years ago I worked on the UNIVAC I & II which were the follow-on to the Eniac based on the same technology. Here is what Popular Mechanics reported in March 1949 “Where a calculator on the ENIAC is equipped with 18,000 vacuum tubes and weighs 30 tons, computers in the future may have only 1,000 vacuums tubes and perhaps weigh 1.5 tons.” Today there is much more power in my cell phone.
“Dogs have owners — Cats have staff.”
A teacher asked one of the boys in her class, “Can people predict the future with cards?”
His response was, “My mother can.”
The teacher replied, “Really?”
The young boy was quick to explain, “Yes, she takes one look at my report card and tells me what will happen when my father gets home.”
Proofread carefully to see if you any words out.
One day a guy on a vacation heard of an Indian with an amazing memory, so he decided to visit the Indian and see what the big deal was.
He went to the Indian and asked him, “What did you eat for breakfast on July 2, 1961?”
The Indian replied, “Eggs.”
The same man came back 10 years later to see the Indian again. He greeted him by saying, “How.”
The Indian said, “Fried.”
Those who say they “sleep like a baby” haven’t got one.
Two inmates break out of their prison cells and are running across the yard when a guard in one of the towers spots them. Immediately, he sounds an alarm and all the searchlights in all the towers shine on the would-be escapees.
Caught in the light, one hisses to the other, “Don’t just stand there! Smile and start tap dancing!”
She’s the kind of girl who climbed the ladder of success wrong by wrong.
She said: I was going away for a few days and left my husband a list of chores. For fun, I put down as Item 5: Think about your wife a lot.
After I returned, my husband proudly reported that he had completed every job. When I saw the list, however, each item except No. 5 had been crossed off.
“What’s this!” I exclaimed. “Didn’t you think about me at all while I was gone?”
My chagrin vanished when he replied cheerfully. . .”Hon… I started to, but just never finished.”
“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so let us all be thankful.”
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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